Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

I'm back with a brand new solo show, channeling wisdom and empowerment. Today I am reflecting on a workplace training experience and will emphasize the importance of nurturing relationships with teenagers amidst their complexities and challenges. I share insights on fostering understanding, transparency, and connection with teens, urging you all to navigate the wonkiness of adolescence with curiosity and presence.See more show notes and info about sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-472-The-wobble-of-centering-relationship-and-curiosity-with-our-teens/Share your takeaways in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group - click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Michael Jacobus, and we’re talking about unhealthy screen time, social media overuse, gaming addiction, and his Reset Summer Camp program.  Michael shares how his own son becoming addicted to video games and the lack of help & programs available inspired him to create Reset Summer Camp. We, as parents, did not know the Pandora’s Box we were opening when we first brought technology and social media into our homes. We end up feeling guilty and don’t know what to do. How and why would we? None of this was available when we were teens! Michael posits that over half of the teens in the US have an issue with screen time, and he shares some recommendations for screen time at home (including when you get big, emotional reactions to new limits). I ask Michael how to first open up this conversation with your teen, how to best roll out social media to younger teens, and we wrap up agreeing that screen time usage is an issue that is truly universal and in every home.  Takeaways from the show Gaming disorder is a real, diagnosable condition Parents typically don’t know what to do about gaming disorder and other screen time addictions  Technology addiction or screen time addiction is a family problem  How do you differentiate between typical teen behavior and serious overuse of technology?  Checking your own screen time usage  Recommendations for screen time at home  The importance of good sleep How to roll out social media to a young teen  Screen time is an issue in every household For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am taking us back to the core concepts of PD. For some of you, it will be a review, for others, it will be no - no matter, this show is sure to take EVERYONE deeper in their thinking about how we be in relationships with our kids as they move through the season of adolescence.For more show notes and sponsor info click here.To jump into the FB Group and share your takeaways, click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This is the last episode of this limited series, and we’re excited to talk about leaning into perseverance. Parenting is messy! We’ve got to keep our growth mindset and get into the thick of it to build grit, resilience, and to evolve as parents.  Get in the ring with these kiddos. Engage! We’re not going to get it exactly right; it’s going to be messy, and that’s part of the work. So often, we just want to get back to comfort, and we use our easiest tools without a pause to see what the situation really called for. Kids need for us to be in discomfort with them, not fix it for them! Alanna explains what mirror neurons are, where our empathy comes from, and why it’s so hard for us when our child(ren) are losing it. Casey digs into how our own history and inner-child affects our parenting, and Julietta shares what signals we need to keep our eyes open for.  We often talk about fostering a growth mindset in our children, but how do we lean into a grown mindset when it comes to our parenting style? This is real neuroscience, and everyone can grow and change. What do you do when something doesn’t work? What can you learn in those tough moments and the parenting mistakes? You are capable of this!  We wrap the Founders Series with a metaphor that we started with - how do we set our kids up for adulthood with a U-Haul full of tools instead of a U-Haul full of trauma? Kids don’t have to learn from painful experiences. We can teach life skills in a way that sets our child(ren) up with a loving, encouraging inner voice. We can be grateful for what we learned from our parents and still choose to parent differently.  Takeaways from the show: Leaning into perseverance  Fine tuning our inner listening  What does this moment actually need?   Being uncomfortable with your child  Truly accepting your kids starts with acceptance of yourself  Mirror neurons & empathy  Growth mindset  Staying hopeful  “We choose the challenge.”  Assuming positive intent, explaining intention, and collaborating with your child  “You get to choose what’s hard.”  Setting our kids up with a U-Haul of tools, not a U-Haul of trauma  Gratitude for the lessons your parents taught you (and choosing to parent differently)  There’s never been a better time for a parenting revolution, and we’re gaining momentum & resources  Dignity & respect for all  Sproutable’s mission statement For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I am attempting to have a conversation with listeners about the messiness being in relationship with our adolescents relationship with their screens. I know. It's so much - so annoying and not going anywhere and impossible and all the things. Or maybe you have it handled, if so shoot me a message and teach me your wisdom.If you have a tween or a teen, my guess is that you have some opinions on this whole thing - listen in to today's show to hear my take.For more shownotes and info about sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-468-Teens-tweens-and-screensTo check out the Teens and Screens mini summit, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/teens/positive-discipline-course-online/teens-screens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about when we’re doing all “the right” parenting moves, but we’re STILL having challenges. Spoiler alert: the challenges will change, but there will always be challenges. What we can change is how we handle, experience, & grow through those challenges.  ALL families and ALL children bring challenges - it’s typical, it’s normal, it’s developmental. Julietta explains what the Continuum of Change is and why conscious parenting takes so much time, effort, & intention. It’s not easy! Julietta shares a detailed recounting of helping one of her children through a serious phobia and why she always has a dog treat in her pocket! We get into the importance of family meetings, helping children through anxiety, and how and when to hand the reins over to children to solve their problems. Casey shares a story about her son, and how we get to keep practicing these skills with our older children.  We wrap today with a lovely quote from Maya Angelou and an invitation to envision showing up in a different way. The only thing you can control is how you show up. Join us next week for the last episode in the Founder Series and a deep dive into perseverance for the long term. Takeaways from the show Challenges change, but they will always be there  “Magic 8”  What is useful? What is helpful?  Understanding where your child is developmentally Being firm without being harmful  The Continuum of Change  Family Meetings  When and how to know when to let your child lead  Slice it thinner: What do you want? What’s your plan?  Trusting your child(ren)’s gifts & skills  Intrinsic motivation & practicing skills in the safety of home  They’ve got it! And if they don’t, they will figure it out!  “Fiercely committed, lovingly detached”  “This is a wonderful day, I have never seen this one before.” - Maya Angelou For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Back again on the ride of the messiness of humaning. This week I am all of the place and talk about all the things that are showing up with parents who are just stepping into this work of parenting teens differently, about the ever evolving relationships we have with ourselves and the people in our life, and even a little bit of Buddhism woven in... Check it out!You can find all the show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-466-Consciously-practicing-connection-curiosity-and-presence-with-ourselves-and-others/Join the FB Group conversation by clicking here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about goals & intentionality. Now that we’ve had a chance in the series to talk about our own parenting stories, touched on what’s going on with the fear, shame, & guilt that we all feel, and shared some tips for being okay with the messiness of parenting, now we can dig into being intentional and defining our parenting goals. There’s lots we can do to control kids - yes, punishment can work short term. But we want to do better than that - we want to be intentional, conscious parents. We have to step back and ask, “Why are we doing this? What’s my goal here? What’s my long-term intention? What do I want to bring to life in this interaction?” It all comes back to teaching and skill-building.Takeaways from the show Clarifying what your goal is  Discipline means to teach  We can’t control outcomes, but we can be intentional in our actions & what we bring to the dynamic  “What does this moment need?”  Sometimes we’re the ones in the way of what needs to be taught  Willingness lives inside of intentionality  Creating a family charter  This is a long-term game - no quick fixes in parenting  What about when our parenting partner or village have different goals than we do?  You’re not the only person who will teach your child  Experiences are how kids grow For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Back again with another solo show inspired by a member of the Living Joyful Courage membership group and her request for something about adolescents and dating. 😳 It's one of the many exciting and terrifying age appropriate areas of exploration and discovery for our kiddos - and we get to show up in a way that encourages their critical thinking and growth. This show gets into that.Mentioned during the show was the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens mini summit. Click here for info.Share your thoughts in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group.Find more show notes and info about our sponsors here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about shifting our perspective & embracing imperfection so we can learn and grow as parents and humans. Embracing the challenges is hard! When we have our compass of understanding development & trusting connection, we can move away from the shame & guilt we talked about last week. Find all the show notes and links mentioned, as well as info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-463-perspective-and-imperfection-the-art-of-connected-parenting-part-3/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices