Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Join me this week on a journey to discovering our teens strengths. This is the glue that will keep your teen's team together. What they need most from us is to be seen and celebrated for who they are. They need their adults to recognize and mirror their strengths. Listen in for more!Find more show notes and info from our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-462-Being-explicit-with-finding-and-naming-our-teens-strengths/Join the FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about guilt, shame, and self-doubt. All parents feel guilt, shame, and self-doubt about aspects of their parenting, even us as ‘experts’ - especially us! Today, all three of us are sharing stories of times we’ve felt (or still feel) guilt, shame, and self-doubt around our parenting.  Parenting is a place where those hard feelings often pop up. There are a lot of layers to this, and the power of hindsight can leave us feeling regretful about things we did or didn’t do. What do we do with these crappy feelings? What can we do in the moment when we feel shame creeping up on us?Takeaways from the show All parents feel guilt, shame, and self-doubt sometimes  The power of hindsight  Digging deeper to examine your values  Society’s “supposed to’s”  “It’s much easier for me to see my child be different and make waves, but it’s much harder for me to be different and make waves.”  Parenting is a journey with lots of opportunities to keep practicing  The way our kid’s behavior reflects on us  Accepting and advocating for our children for who they are  Why we like getting calls from school  Leaving room for kids to have their own perspective  “Tell me more”  Why we avoid labeling our kids  Doubting your parenting intuition  Finding the answers for your self-doubt  Moving from stopping behaviors to building missing skills  Worthiness & value are innate For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So I am fired up this week and I have our boys on the brain. So many of my clients and people in the community are struggling with their boys. Not only struggling with their boys, but struggling to soften to the idea that their boys are having a hard time and really need a deeper relationship with their parents most. Listen in to hear more - and don't worry, if you have a daughter you will still find value in this conversation!For complete show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-460-Get-past-your-resistance-and-focus-on-relationship-with-your-teen/To share your thoughts in the FB Group, click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. Why do we show up, even when it’s hard & stressful? We dig deeper into the meaning behind the connected parenting movement (aka conscious parenting, positive discipline, gentle parenting, positive parenting). When we are intentional about our parenting, it’s an opportunity for personal evolution as well as a cultural revolution.In this first episode of the series, we share stores from our own childhood experiences. We all have residual effects of the ways we were parented. How can we show up differently as parents? We’re not going for picture perfect Instagram parenting here - we’re getting real and digging into the messy moments. The second half of this episode is all about reparenting. What is reparenting? Is it just another buzzword? We find that all 3 of us have different definitions but end up at the same place: healing your inner child & showing up differently for your own kids. We’re all growing and evolving.  We’re here to help people! We change the lives of children & families for the better, and that’s what drives us. Join us next week when we’re back to talk about guilt, shame, & self-doubt.Takeaways from the show Introducing the founders of Sproutable Exploring positive parenting, gentle parenting, conscious parenting, positive discipline The ways your childhood could affect how you show-up in relationships as an adult  Being the parent you want to be  Acknowledging our privilege & blindspots   We all make mistakes & lose it sometimes - it’s how you repair that matters  What “reparenting” means to each of us  Healing your inner child  There’s always room & time to change your trajectory  Trusting your inner wisdom For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's solo show celebrates Brene Brown's invitation to have a strong back, a soft front and a wild heart as we move through the season of parenting adolescents. It is so important that we send the message of care, concern and acceptance to our teens, even as we don't love their behavior. It supports our teens to kow that we see them, and we value them, even as they are stumbling through this time of their life.Find full shownotes and info on our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-458-Distinguishing-between-our-teens-and-their-behavior Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Luke Entrup is here today to talk about healthy rites-of-passage for our teen boys.  Luke explains what rites-of-passage are, why they’re important for our teens, and what adolescents get out of these rites-of-passage: a healthy connection to themselves and to their community. We dig into how gender affects these rites-of-passage and how we can create spaces where all genders are celebrated. We touch on toxic masculinity and how we can redefine what masculinity is and means today. I ask Luke if he thinks teenage boys are as hesitant to open up as we think, and he shares what they do at his Father-Son Connection Experiences. We finish today talking about accepting and trusting the kid that you have.Takeaways from the show What are rites-of-passage?  Rites-of-passage can be uncomfortable What do we get from these rites-of-passage?  Does gender play into this? How can we expand those boxes?  What is male identity today? In the future?  Is masculinity toxic? How do we define what masculinity is today?  “One eye in, one eye out”  What to do if you’re feeling disconnected from your teen son  Who can teens open up to, besides their parents?  Accepting and trusting the kid that you have For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When does positivity and optimism get in the way of what our teens need? How can we be with what they are moving through in a way that is helpful and builds connection and trust in our relationship with them? Listen in to this weeks solo show and hear all about this topic!Find show notes and more info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-456-being-with-our-teens-experiences Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Talking with Kristen Duke, mentor to parents of teens, and full of enthusiasm for what we can create when we work on building a relationship founded on trust. Kristen guides us through some blind spots parents have that get int the way of a connection, and how to be the person our adolescents need.Find more show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-455-kristen-duke-helps-us-build-more-trust-with-our-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me this week as we get ever more focused on the interpersonal nature of raising teens. Where are we focusing our attention? What are we centering in our relationships? What might happen if we keep in mind our kids strengths even when things are going sideways?See all the show notes and more about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-454-Expanding-how-we-are-relating-to-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Alexandra Ford, and we’re tackling a scary subject today. January is human trafficking prevention month, so I want to grow everyone’s awareness with Alexandra, and we’ll share ways to keep your kids safe. Alexandra kicks us off by explaining what human trafficking looks like in 2024 and how her own story inspires her to do this work. We try to articulate the difference between being sexually empowered and sexually exploited and the reality of the commercial sex industry. I ask Alexandra what she needed from her parents during her trafficking experience which spurs us to touch on teaching autonomy, consent, accessing help, & listening to your gut. We get into online safety and what to share and not share online (and what if you’ve already shared it?!) and how to safely introduce a device to your teen. Alexandra generously stays on a bit longer to share her wisdom on how we can make sure our teens really know they can come to us when they have a problem.Takeaways from the show What does domestic human trafficking look like in 2024?  How do I make sure this never happens to my child(ren)?  What’s the difference between being sexually empowered versus sexually exploited?   Commercial sex industry  Tangible online safety tips  Creating an environment in which your kids know they can truly come to you & share anything  “If your child has any online presence . . . it is not a matter of if a predator sees them, it’s a matter of when.”  How to safely introduce a new device to an older child or adolescent - engage, engage, engage!  Conversations in the car  “When you make a mistake, which you will, I will walk with you through it and love you through it. We will find a way to the other side, whatever it is . . . I am here.”  For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices