

Not For Everyone
Not For Everyone
Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you.
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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May 9, 2024 • 1h 4min
72. Not for Unspoken Expectations + How to Hack Your Mood Swings
Jess and Caroline discuss tracking energy levels, navigating communication styles in relationships, and the importance of not letting labels define actions. They also touch on public bathroom etiquette and networking without flirting. The episode includes lighthearted banter and gratitude exchanges among hosts.

May 2, 2024 • 1h 23min
71. Hater Hour: Interrogating My Boyfriend + Career Fulfillment and Dating Crimes
In this special edition of Caroline's alleged "solo" episode, she is joined by her boyfriend, Justin. Justin chimes in to share a male perspective on all your questions - including what it’s like to date our resident hater, his perspective on dating apps, when it might make a little sense to “sell out” in your career, and so much more. They also debate various “dating crimes and misdemeanors” and can’t help but end it on…forearm strengthening tips? Don’t miss all the nasty boi phrases Caroline made Justin say in this special edition episode!
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This episode was produced by your hater, Caroline Winkler.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Apr 25, 2024 • 57min
70. Jess Thots: Defining Creativity + Living Up to Family Expectations
Sound the alarms: we’ve got a solo ep from Jess this week! She talks all about creative bursts, and how the past two weeks specifically have been glorious for her. But when the burst fades away...Jess reflects on what should happen next. She turns to Instagram DMs to learn how listeners conceptualize the idea of “being a creative” and how that looks in different career paths.
Later, she goes into some therapeutic practices for understanding yourself and your place in your family. As a child of immigrants, Jess grew up with “survival parenting,” and she tells us a few ways she’s started to untangle herself from parental expectations. Get inspired bbs—whether you need a creative push or some time spent healing that sweet inner child.
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This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Share with a friend!
Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!
And SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video.
Plus FOLLOW US on Instagram for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Apr 18, 2024 • 1h 30min
69. IYKYK: All Your Sex Fantasies Revealed + Making Dating Apps Work for You
It’s the one we’ve all been waiting for…the milestone of the century…the 69th EPISODE. Join Jess and Caroline (and a special guest??) to talk all your kookiest sex fantasies, including respected older gentlemen, tears as foreplay, marketplace porn, pod sex, and…Catwoman?
And then one person’s fantasy gets Jess and Caroline in rumination mode: is your sex better if your relationship is better? Plus, they discuss how to work through sex insecurities, asking someone out in real life, and the many dynamics of dating apps. Warning: ghosts may be involved.
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Thanks to Alex-Productions for the music!
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This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Share with a friend!
Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!
And SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video.
Plus FOLLOW US on Instagram for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Apr 11, 2024 • 1h 16min
68. Not for Perfectionism + When to Start Your Passion Project
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone/ to get 10% off your first month.
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Jess and Caroline are ready to jump right in, and they start with some important thoughts on starting a business that might be in direct competition with somebody else. Learn from these certified experts on what makes a business thrive or die and dive deep into the pros of winging it versus planning everything to a T.
But that’s not all: they discuss the nuances of dirty talk—and why it’s not as difficult, nor as ~weird, as you might think. Also, anyone else seem to be in trouble for what they wear…in any context?! You’re not alone, and you’re right to be angry. Let’s freak out together.
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This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Share with a friend!
Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!
And SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video.
Plus FOLLOW US on Instagram for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Apr 4, 2024 • 1h 6min
67. Not for Breakup Texts + The Part of Female Friendships We Don’t Talk About
Topics include platonic physical affection among friends, crazy dating and breakup stories, encountering misogyny in the wild, and updates on hauntings. The hosts discuss navigating friendships, relationships, and scary experiences, all with humor and relatability.

Mar 28, 2024 • 1h 7min
66. For You: How to Start Showing Up for Yourself
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone/ to get 10% off your first month.
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This episode is for you, dawgs! Jess and Caroline set the stage with an Uber debacle and a few linguistic complaints and then move straight into this week’s theme: showing up for yourself. They dive deep into codependence, how we abandon ourselves, and how to generate real connection.
Plus, it wouldn’t be an episode about *self* without some inner child work! Learn how to quit feeling so bad all the time by simply getting to know yourself and how you function in different scenarios. Your baby self will thank you for listening to these magic bullet ideas.
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This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Share with a friend!
Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!
And SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video.
Plus FOLLOW US on Instagram for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Mar 21, 2024 • 60min
65. Not for Being a Prisoner to Your Job + We’re All Baby Sometimes
Anyone else feeling strangely… “baby” this week? Jess and Caroline coddle each other’s thoughts as they discuss imaginary friends, creepy children, and celebrities they can see themselves being friends with.
They grow up a little (sigh) to talk through how to quit a job where you genuinely love your coworkers, answer a haunting would-you-rather, and cry loving tears over the sweetest review known to man. Curl up in a blanket for this one and let Caroline’s imaginary nanny take care of you as you listen. __
This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Share with a friend!
Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!
And SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video.
Plus FOLLOW US on Instagram for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Mar 14, 2024 • 1h 19min
64. Hot Takes Only: Staying Friends with Your Ex, Period Sex, and Shrek
Get ready for a sizzling conversation on staying friends with your ex and the juicy details of period sex! The hosts hilariously debate the mispronunciation of 'espresso' and dive into the emotional weight of Instagram likes. Nostalgia hits as they reflect on the charm of 'Shrek' while balancing it with amusing foot care discussions. From astrology to hygiene habits, this lively exchange mixes humor with relatable insights. Plus, get tips on handling internet feedback like a pro!

Mar 7, 2024 • 1h 4min
63. Not For People Pleasing + Other Obvious Realizations That Changed Our Lives
This podcast delves into adult friendships, people pleasing breakthroughs, and the struggle of putting on a show in social situations. Are you really an introvert or just draining your social battery? Plus, giggles about bell pepper dilemmas, corporate lingo, and a life-changing weekend hack. Let's hang, dawgs!