

Not For Everyone
Not For Everyone
Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you.
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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Feb 29, 2024 • 1h 12min
62. Not for Botox + A Snail Story You’ll Never Forget
Not For Everyone is basically a beauty podcast now. Jess and Caroline discuss venturing into the Botox world, witnessing the aging process, and parents' chaotic relationship to their children’s acne-ridden faces. They also consider life’s deepest questions, like how did we learn to do makeup without YouTube?
Caroline is weirdly obsessed with smell this episode, so get ready for some sweaty takes that might involve snails. Plus, the kooks were correct: Caroline admits she may, in fact, look a bit like Tom Hiddleston. Help Jess and Caroline figure out who Jess’ doppelganger is — and also how Jess can bring a boombox successfully to a party. It’s not easy work being DJs, but sighhhhh…..someone has to do it.__
This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Feb 22, 2024 • 1h 6min
61. Hater Hour: How to Survive Your Anxiety + WHATADO One-Sided Friendships
In a solo recording, Caroline opens up about the big thing she has been avoiding talking about on the podcast - including the tips and tools for surviving the worst of your anxiety.
She also responds to a listener WHATADO about what to do when you find yourself stuck in a one-sided friendship, with major boundary violations and messy complications.
Various Trader Joes reflections included.
Kisses!
RESOURCES
[Book] The Emotionally Exhausted Woman
[Book] The Power of Off: The Mindful Way to Stay Sane in a Virtual World
[Event] ]Workshop at the Integral Yoga Institute
[Article] Being in A Relationship Without Abandoning Yourself
[Book] Radical Acceptance
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This episode was produced by your one and only hater, Caroline Winkler.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Feb 15, 2024 • 1h 16min
60. WHATADO: Friends with Benefits, Boundaries with Your Boss, and Wedding Season
In this podcast, the hosts give non-expert advice on friends with benefits, workplace boundaries, and wedding invitations. They also discuss topics like the softness of butts, going to therapy, and why we wash our towels. The podcast offers entertaining insights and relatable stories on various life situations.

Feb 8, 2024 • 1h 1min
59. Not for the Luteal Phase + Feeling Stuck After Years of Therapy
Another episode full of lukewarm takes, cyclical insights, and "that's so funny" reactions, this week Jess and Caroline show up with nothing to give but complaints and bad jokes.
First, Jess is no impressionist - and also apparently no standup - as she *corporate gulps* her way through a series of failed jokes that forced her to quit her comedy class. Meanwhile, Caroline be lutin' (scientific term for in the luteal phase of her menstrual cycle), leaving little room for laughter but a lot of room for spiraling about therapy.
This deadly combo concludes with the reveal of an upcoming surprise, an analysis of gifts as a love language, and a referral to a new form of therapy that both of our hosts desperately need.
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This episode was produced by your lover, Jess DeBakey.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Feb 1, 2024 • 1h 9min
58. Not for Codependent Patterns + The Problem with Imposter Syndrome
Jess and Caroline are just two sporty girls who are too busy collecting baby teeth and committing to unnecessary extracurriculars to keep a busy schedule. But here they gather on a Sunday morning ready to repeat to you exactly what their therapists said this week.
First, Jess is thinking about quitting a hobby that no one told her to pick up. Who know that was even possible?! Caroline talks her through it and then offers deeper context and examples on a hard hitting truth shared in last episode: Peace is letting people be wrong about you. The two go back and forth on when and how this can apply, even diving into one of the hardest areas to put this advice into practice: with family.
A hot take on imposter syndrome, affirming tarot card reading, and idiotic musings on time zones, middle age, and more round out the episode. Pee break!
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This episode was produced by NFE's #1 hater, Caroline Winkler.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Jan 25, 2024 • 1h 7min
57. Not for Self Doubt Spirals + Our First Fight
The podcast hosts discuss navigating conflict in their relationships, share their first fight as podcast partners, and ponder the question of whether size matters. They also explore the revitalizing effect of anger, the frustration of ear pimples, and the importance of support in overcoming struggles. Additionally, they delve into self-doubt in creativity, building trust in relationships, and finding the right business or creative partner.

Jan 18, 2024 • 1h 5min
56. Not for Instagram + Choosing Between Ambition and Self Care
The hater and lover are reunited after a month of doing absolutely nothing besides sending each other bedtime texts. Caroline does have one more thing to show for her break, though: a new sport she’s invented. Or at least a concept that will improve the sporting experience for her? The details aren’t important.
The two move onto bigger topics as Caroline shares a Tony Robbins quote that stirred her into action recently: “the path of least resistance will never make you happy.” She’s happily taking on new challenges in her work, while Jess shares a story of turning down a new opportunity in favor of balance and long-term goals. She even references a book (*gasp!*), Radical Candor by Kim Scott, to elucidate her point. They settle on the hard truth that periods of ambition can only exist thanks to periods of rest, and discipline is in the eye of the beholder.
Finally, a couple of dating red flags that SEEM fine, until you get a good morning text from a Hinge dude who thinks he should run for president.
Also referenced in the episode: this podcast episode featuring NFE Producer, Abi Newhouse!
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This episode was produced by NFE's #1 hater, Caroline Winkler.
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Share with a friend!
Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!
And SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video.
Plus FOLLOW US on Instagram for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Jan 11, 2024 • 53min
55. Jess Thots: Ins and Outs for 2024 + Less Mothering More Mommying
In this podcast, Jess shares her ins and outs for 2024, discusses challenges in romantic relationships, and talks about hot takes and trends for the year. She also addresses her preference for tea over coffee and the decline in popularity of plants as home decor.

Jan 4, 2024 • 1h 11min
54. WHATADO: Breakups, Hookups, and Burning It All Down
Hosts discuss dating dilemmas, including how to let someone down easy and navigating the dilemma of dating someone you're not interested in. They also talk about the importance of ending a date respectfully and taking safety precautions. In addition, they delve into the allure of disappearing from social media and the fascination with other people's slow narratives.

Dec 21, 2023 • 1h 5min
53. Not for Wearing a Mask + What We Get Wrong About Burnout
In this episode, Jess and Caroline talk about jobs, money, burnout, and applying for jobs you feel underqualified for. Jess shares her thoughts on a new museum experience and complains about couples. They also discuss the annoyance of targeted ads, the gender disparity in job applications, and the lack of positive news in the media.