Shameless Leadership

Someone is going to be the leader of your life. Will it be you?Being the leader of your life is a tremendous responsibility and a huge opportunity for all great things. How much are you capitalizing on that opportunity?As we enter a new season - a season where many moms find comfort in commiserating over lack of childcare and the countdown to the first day of school, I invite you to consider how you can be the leader of your life to make this summer full of adventure, full of magic, full of fire - all on your own damn terms. Yes, that is all truly in your power. Tune into this SMA episode for 4 powerful ways to be the leader of your life this summer - and #everydamnday. Links mentioned:Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. KiwiCo: Visit KiwiCo and get your first crate free! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Born and raised in the Chicago suburbs, Nicole DeBoom was a standout swimmer, qualifying for the 1988 Olympic Trials and later graduating from Yale University. She decided to pursue the sport of triathlon, and a lucky seat assignment introduced her to her future husband, Tim DeBoom (who would later become a 2-time Hawaii Ironman World Champion), on a flight to the 1995 Triathlon World Championships. Nicole started racing professionally in 1999, racking up countless podium finishes. During the final stage of her racing career in 2004, Nicole created and introduced something that had never been done before – the very first running skirt.Shortly afterward, Nicole went on to launch Skirt Sports with the mission of helping women find inspiration, confidence, and courage through the transformative power of running and fitness. Today, Skirt Sports is a national women’s apparel brand offering a full line of products that fit real women’s bodies and support their busy running lives. Currently, you can find Nicole chatting with customers at the Skirt Sports Boulder flagship store, helping women change their lives through her non-profit organization Running Start, interviewing visionaries for her popular podcast Run This World and chasing around her 7-year-old girl, Wilder.Nicole’s energy is as big and dynamic as her racing career. I think you’re going to love this conversation as much as I did!Listen in to hear Nicole share: How she went from being a professional athlete who didn’t want kids to have a daughter that completely changed her sense of identity How she adapted to NOT doing it all Her evolution from a professional athlete into a working mom with a mission (and the shift in identity when you no longer workout 3 times a day) Her mission in building a company that makes athletics and working out more feminine and more accessible to women of all abilities and body types What inspired her to start a nonprofit and the impact it’s had on other women Links mentioned: Connect with Nicole Shop Skirt SportsUse the code SHAMELESS20 for a discount Check out Running Start Nicole’s Podcast: Run This World Facebook: @nicoledeboom Instagram: @nicoledeboom Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 40% off all subscriptions, go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Wanna know the very best way to stay stuck and lost in your life?Keep telling yourself, “I’m stuck, I’m lost, I’m confused, I don’t know my passion…Your words matter and your thoughts matter. Your words create your thoughts. Your thoughts create your beliefs. Your beliefs create your actions. Your actions create your dreams – or your disasters.If you’re telling yourself you’re stuck, you will stay stuck. If you’re telling yourself you’re lost, you’ll stay lost.Soooo…What if you started telling yourself, “ I’m curious, I’m looking, I’m learning, I’m exploring, I’m gaining clarity”???If you tell yourself you’re learning and exploring and gaining clarity, you’ll start noticing new things around you. You’ll start seeing things in a new light. You’ll feel your perspective shift – because you’ve given yourself permission to be open to the process of growth, rather than staying shut off and unable to bring in a new energy. You must stop blocking the very energy you need to get unstuck, the very energy you need to start finding yourself. Here are 6 action steps you can take today to stop staying stuck in your stories and lost in your life: Listen to SMA Ep 247 How to Pursue Your Passions Upgrade your language Get curious Create space and grace for exploration, learning, dreaming Write down your dreams and desires – the dreams you write down are the dreams that will most likely to happen Don’t need all the answers now - recognize you’re in a phase and embrace the phase for what it is Listen in for a deep dive into these 6 action steps!Links mentioned:SMA Episode 247: 7 Steps To Find Your Passion Thank you to our sponsors: Bioclarity: So go to BioClarity.com and get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their Bioclarity when you use my code SHAMELESS at checkout. ThirdLove: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christine Hassler is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What You Really Want. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent to pursue a life she could be passionate about. For over a decade, as a keynote speaker, retreat facilitator, spiritual psychologist and life coach, and host of the top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It”, she has been teaching and inspiring people around the world. Christine believes once we get out of our own way, we can show up to make the meaningful impact we are here to make.Listen in to hear Christine share: Her rock bottom phase: finding herself in serious debt, constantly sick, suffering from depression, estranged from family, in a broken relationship with her fiance How to reframe “fixing” your life vs learning from your life lessons How to navigate expectation hangovers Why you shouldn’t prevent your child from feeling negative feelings How we use spiritual bypassing to forgive too quickly Why your inner critic must exist and to turn up inner wisdom to turn down your inner critic Links Mentioned:Connect with ChristinePodcast: Over It and On With ItThank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Free Fly: You can get 20% off when you visit Free Fly and use promo code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If I’m telling the truth, I used to think affirmations were kinda ridiculous. In fact, a few years ago I tried doing affirmations every morning, as prescribed by someone else, and I just felt like a total fool.About a year ago, I decided to give them another go – on my own terms. After some thoughtful consideration, I declared 13 affirmations that felt authentic to who I am. They felt a little uncomfortable, yes, but they felt concrete and actionable and in alignment with my core values – which actually felt powerful and exciting instead of ridiculous.I have been writing affirmations pretty much daily for almost a year and I’ve seen my desire and ability to take confident and courageous action SKYROCKET. Since my technique has been feeling good and getting me actual tangible results, I thought it would be worth sharing with you.Listen in to hear 9 steps to creating meaningful affirmations that become actual TRUTHS in your life. These are the actual steps I have taken to create the affirmations that I write #everydamnday – the affirmations that are actually deeply, positively impacting my daily life and my ability to reach my biggest goals ever.Links mentioned:Grab your ticket for my Bubbles & Blueprints Virtual Workshop on June 8th or June 13thThank you to our sponsors: Care of: For 30% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS30 at checkout. Open-fit: Join the Open-fit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Open-fit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and professional certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life.She is the proud author of How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness which has been translated into 16 languages, as well as her inaugural book, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve.When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 11-year-old son and 9-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.Andrea is a returning guest. I specifically asked her to come back to the show to talk my in-depth on a topic we didn’t have time to dive into in her first interview here - her alcohol use, abuse, and recovery. Alcohol misuse among women is at an all-time high - because the billion dollar alcohol industry (run by men) is marketing wine to women as a daily coping mechanism. This is problematic is so many ways.Regardless of your relationship with alcohol, I think you’ll learn something from this episode. Andrea is sober and I have 1-2 drinks on a regular basis - so you’re going to get two perspectives in this conversation.Listen in to hear Andrea share: The danger of stigmatizing alcoholism How wine culture - targeted at women, especially moms - makes it ok to use alcohol as a coping skill The danger of normalizing alcohol use in everyday scenarios The truth about the mental gymnastics & negotiation around alcohol use How she navigated her son’s autism diagnosis and her father’s death sober How sobriety brought her courage and self-confidence to take on anything in life Links mentioned: Connect with Andrea: Andrea Owen SMA Ep 194 with Andrea Owen: Your Kick-Ass Life Resource: She Recovers Resource: Hip Sobriety Resource: The Temper Book: This Naked Mind by Annie Grace Andrea on Facebook Andrea on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Ava: Ladies, it’s finally time to understand your body. Visit avawomen.com to learn more. You can receive $20 off your order by going to Ava and using my code SHAMELESS. Swanky Badger: You can go create your own personalized Father’s Day gift today by going to swanky badger dot com, forward slash SHAMELESS and you’ll get 10% off your first purchase. That’s Swanky Badger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether you are facing a day full of awesome or a day full of crap, you get to choose how you manage your head and your heart #everydamnday.You can choose to let the universe get the best of you or you can choose to use your best self to get exactly what you need out of the day.You can choose to see limitations or opportunities every single day.You can choose to be sucked in and pulled down by circumstances or you can RISE UP and touch what feels positive, productive and purposeful.You can shrink in fear and trepidation or you can remind yourself that you have already proven yourself to be strong, powerful, capable, resourceful, and resilient over and over and over in this lifetime – and today will be no different.Every day you get to choose to tap into growth mindset – or not.I’m not saying this is an easy choice – some days it’s hard, even grueling. But the more your practice the more your trust yourself – to stretch into possibility and potential and find what you want and what you need even in situations where it seems there is no way to win.Listen in to learn 4 powerful ways to readily tap into growth mindset #everydamnday.Links Mentioned:Grab your ticket for my Bubbles & Blueprints Virtual Workshop on June 8th or June 13th.Resources Mentioned:Book: Mindset by Carol Dweck Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Bioclarity: So go to Bioclarity and get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is an author, speaker, and board-certified physician. She has an active medical practice in Alabama (near the Birmingham area). Dr. Dalton-Smith is a national and international media resource on the mind, body, spirit connection and has been featured in Women's Day, Redbook, and First For Women magazine. She is the author of Set Free to Live and Come Empty (winner 2016 Golden Scroll Nonfiction Book of the Year and 2016 Illumination Award Gold medalist). She is a member of the Christian Medical and Dental Association and a repeat keynote speaker at their annual gathering. She has shared her tips on merging faith and medicine with over 16,000 health care professionals to encourage the current and next generation of doctors to treat the whole person.I wanted to Dr. Saundra to come on the show to talk about her new book Sacred Rest. This is a really eye-opening conversation that provides a ton of insight into 7 different types of rest and why each is important. Dr. Saundra’s work goes much deeper than just the need for sleep. I think this conversation will be just the permission you might need to incorporate more types of rest (and joy!) into your daily life.Listen in to hear Saundra share: How ⅔ of the population is sleep deprived The truth behind highly functional, high producing women (hint: low joy, low quality of life) The difference between sleep and rest and why you need both The 7 types of rest - sleep is only 50% one of the types! How to use flow break cycles to have the work rest ratio to recover the energy you need to have energy during all waking hours How to have rest periods even in the midst of family/kid chaos, as well as model rest to your kids Links mentioned:Quiz: Rest QuizWebsite: I Choose My Best LifeBook: I Choose My Best LifeTwitter Handle: @DrDaltonSmithFacebook Page: Dr. Saundra Dalton – SmithInstagram: @DrDaltonSmithPinterest: @DrDaltonSmithThank you to our sponsors:Swanky Badger: You can go create your own personalized Father’s Day gift today by going to swanky badger dot com, forward slash SHAMELESS and you’ll get 10% off your first purchase. That’s Swanky Badger.KiwiCo.: Visit KiwiCo and get your first crate free!My Intent: Go to My Intent and use code SHAMELESSMOM for 30% off until May 31. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lack of true connection in our lives is a verified epidemic - meaning there are actual studies that show that we (women especially) are feeling more isolated, lonely, and depressed than ever before. The most beautiful I have witnessed since starting the Shameless Mom Academy is the connection between so many of you. It started in our free private Facebook group. It carried over into our MOMENTUM Mamas membership community, and it was the most magical part of Shameless Mom Con.Connection with other women is what saves us from ourselves. Yet, we often really struggle to find connections that are true and deep and meaningful.In this episode, I share 6 symptoms of lack of connection - everything from jealousy to low worth, to holding on to secrets. Then I walk you through 6 ways you can implement and integrate more conscientious connections in your life. Lastly, I give you 5 ways to take the first step toward more meaningful connections starting today.If you feel like you need to find “your people”, this episode is for you. Links Mentioned:Save $50 on my Bubbles & Blueprints WorkshopGet on the Shameless Mom Con 2020 Wait ListThank you to our sponsors:Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout.Free fly apparel: You can get 20% off when you visit Free Fly Apparel and use promo code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bonnie Mae is a Shameless Mom to two sons ages 10 and 12, as well as a survivor and warrior of an abusive relationship that spanned 10 years. She has a passion for advocating for the needs and safety of her children as well as herself. She has an associates degree in human services. She used to think she wasn’t using putting her degree to good use - until recently. She recently took the bold, brave steps to become an educator and speaker to youth and young adults - teaching around all issues related to domestic violence. She teaches the warning signs of abusive behavior, offers advice on how to safely get out of abusive relationships, and coaches around the impact of abuse on one’s life.  She speaks at various organizations, as well as middle and high schools.Bonnie reached out to me a few months ago when I said I wanted to broach the subject of domestic violence on the show. I’m deeply honored that she took the brave step to share her story and her lessons with us all. Her story will have ripple effects that she will never see - that may well save lives of other Shameless Moms.Listen in to hear Bonnie share: How she internalized emotional abuse and believed she as worthless as her husband told her she was Why she stayed with an abusive partner for 7 years - and how abusers manipulate their victims Her rock bottom moment and how she finally got her kids and herself safely out of her husband’s grip The steps leading up to her terminating her ex-husband’s parental rights How she talks to her kids about their family’s abusive past The impactful new direction her past is giving to her current life Her top recommendation to women currently in abusive relationships Resources mentioned: Connect with Bonnie on Instagram Connect with Bonnie on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Open Fit: Join the Open-fit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Open-fit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Cheers: Visit Cheers Health and Enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift. Swanky Badger: You can go create your own personalized Father’s Day gift today by going to swanky badger dot com, forward slash SHAMELESS and you’ll get 10% off your first purchase. That’s Swanky Badger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices