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The truth about confidence is that it REQUIRES courage. If you take a good look back at your life, I bet you’ll see a clear connection between the times that you took courageous action and the defining moments when you became more confident. You’ll likely notice that these moments all involved: getting uncomfortable doing it scared pushing yourself further than you’ve ever gone facing fears head-on Some examples of this might include: Applying for a new, higher-level job Signing up for a 5K, 10K, marathon Speaking up in the face of injustice Reporting an abuser Asking for a raise Setting a firm boundary with a family member or long-time friend Moving across the country Leaving an abusive relationship Showing up to an event where you don’t know anyone Traveling alone Skydiving or bungee jumping Climbing a mountain Having a baby Advocating for your child’s needs Starting a business Leaving your marriage Fixing your marriage Starting a blog Asking for help Finding a therapist or coach Getting healthy Courage is contagious. When you do one courageous thing and subsequently build a little confidence, you automatically start looking for more opportunities to be courageous. Over time, you build momentum around being an action taker and dream chaser who enjoys the discomfort that comes with courageous action because you know the outcome will be a more confident sense of self, a more joy-filled life, and a world with bigger dreams realized.When you don’t take courage action on a regular basis, you become complacent. You don’t see yourself as someone who can grow or meet new goals. You feel stuck, unmotivated, uninspired. This is painful. So, choose your pain. The pain of complacency or the pain of courageous action. One has a much more positive and powerful outcome. Tune in to hear 7 ways to build courage that will train your brain to take courageous, confident, life-changing action on a regular basis.Links Mentioned:Enroll in MOMENTUM Mamas and get a complimentary ticket to Shameless Mom Con 2020: Momentum Thank you to our sponsors: BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to BruMate and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Laura Cathcart Robbins is a Shameless Mom, a writer, and a recovery thriver and survivor. In September 2018 she found herself in an all too familiar situation. She was the only one in the room. She was the only black woman in the room at Brave Magic, a famed writer’s retreat. After it was over, she wrote about her ‘only one’ experience in The Huffington Post and comments started flooding into her DM from people from all races, ethnicities, creeds, and nationalities who had felt ‘othered.’Laura now hosts the podcast, The Only One In The Room, where she interviews a person about their ‘only one’ story each episode. On her show, you’ll hear raw, vulnerable, accounts from people who are like most of us. Laura’s hope is that The Only One In The Room will inspire a change of perspective in how we all see and hear each other’s stories. She hopes to make you think twice before judging the person standing next to you at a party, in the pick-up line at school or in a crowded subway car. Laura’s show and her work is for anyone who has ever felt alone in a room full of people – which is to say, her show and her work are for everyone.Listen in to hear Laura share: What it’s like to be the only black person in the room in 2018 The difference between visible only-ness vs invisible only-ness - like addiction, divorce, infertility, having a child with special needs What it feels like to be the only one in the room and how we’ve all been the only one in the room at some point The isolation of onlyness - and the antidote How to create opportunities and cultivate your biggest gifts from your onlyness Links Mentioned: The Only One In The Room Podcast Laura’s article in the Huffington Post Laura on Instagram Laura on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Get access to MOMENTUM Mamas and Shameless Mom Con 2020 during our wild & crazy Christmas in July event (starting July 20!) Get on our newsletter email list for full details: News Letter Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout. Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you grow and evolve in different areas of your life it is imperative that you build support systems that serve you. This doesn’t typically happen by chance. It happens by design. While this takes effort and often vulnerability, the value of safe and sacred support systems is immeasurable.It is common to make the mistake of leaning on one person or one group for all your needs. If you want to be really well supported it’s important to have multiple networks and support systems to lean into. Here are some of my networks/support systems (in random order): Mom friends Female entrepreneur friends Podcaster friends Running/workout/training friends Forever Friends (high school/college) My marriage The purpose of these different support systems is that you need different networks to connect with people who are in the same place at the same time with the same needs, dreams, and interests. As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn why it’s not reasonable or wise to lean on one person or one group for all your needs.It’s so important to build these support systems because: You must have a place to shine You must have a safe place to be seen as you grow You must have sacred places to connect with like-minded people All of this preserves your mental health, improves your sense of worth, and helps you build a more dynamic identity. AND all of this helps you minimize and mitigate loneliness, isolation, depression, and anxiety.Listen in to learn: How to build support systems that serve you How to release relationships that don’t allow you to shine Why some people are no longer your people and how to be ok with that Where to find your squad and how to connect with them Thank you to our sponsors: Get access to MOMENTUM Mamas and Shameless Mom Con 2020 during our wild & crazy Christmas in July event (starting July 20!) Get on our newsletter email list for full details: News Letter Scary Mommy Speaks podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kim Strobel is a teacher, a consultant, a speaker, a happiness coach, and an aspiring author. But her personal life is just as full. When she’s not firing up educators with her signature mix of excitement and experience, she’s a die-hard runner, an advocate for her community’s abandoned animals, and a family-oriented gal who loves spending time with her husband Scott, their four children, two grandkids, and three pups.It’s tempting to believe that the Chief Happiness Officer herself has never known a down day. But the truth is, sometimes you have to live through darkness before you can thrive in the light.Kim spent her childhood and teen and young adult years dealing with panic attacks and crippling fear. Diagnosis of a seizure disorder and full panic disorder followed and with them a burgeoning fear that she would never be able to achieve her dreams. Listen in to hear how Kim overcame her crippling panic disorder and what her life looks like today - as a Happiness Coach, who is not immune to panic attack relapses.Listen in to hear Kim share: How she endured 8 years living with panic disorder, having 25 panic attacks a day at times How medical intervention and CBD therapy saved her life How to retrain your brain toward happiness 50% of your long term happiness is genetic, 10% is external circumstances, 40% is self-controlled/self-managed Top 5 happiness habits What your kids are really see when you show up imperfectly Links Mentioned: Connect with Kim Free Facebook Group Instagram Deepak Chopra Ananda meditation app Thank you to our sponsors: Scary Mommy Speaks podcast Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is a huge difference between dreaming and doing. Yet, sometimes we confuse the two. Dreaming lives in your head and your heart.Dreaming doesn’t have a plan.Dreaming is passive.Dreaming doesn’t have a start date.Dreaming doesn’t keep you accountable.Dreaming is not an accomplishment.Dreaming is picture perfect and linear, a series of perfect steps that take you to a perfect destination.Dreaming is future-oriented. It’s about later… when you have time when the kids are older when the circumstances are juuuuust so.Dreaming is outcome focused.Dreaming feels indulgent and delightful, like something you might not even be worthy of.In contrast…Doing is your dream in action.Doing is a plan.Doing has a start date, as well as an end date.Doing keeps you accountable.Doing is an accomplishment.Doing is not linear, its a series of highs and lows and lefts and rights and a few wrong turns that take you to a beautifully imperfect place that you’re ridiculously proud of.Doing is action oriented.Doing is present-oriented, not future-oriented.Doing is step focused - not outcome focused - where you’re always considering, “what is my next right step?”Doing feels scary, exciting, nerve-wracking, determined, and disciplined.Dreaming definitely serves a purpose. It provides: Hope Vision Clarity Joy Escape Doing serves a transformative experience: Sense of pride Sense of momentum Sense of accomplishment Increased self-worth New/evolved sense of identity At the crux of dreaming vs doing is a lot of decision making. I would argue that decisiveness is the biggest struggle of doing. Making decisions toward your dreams (the doing) can be crippling. But for the doing to take place, the decisions must be made. You must become a DECISION MAKER AND AN ACTION TAKER. It is the only path to your dreams. Listen in to hear how to learn how to become a better decision maker and action taker - in order to be a DOER who realizes all her dreams. Links mentioned:Shameless Mom Con WaitListThank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love BarkBox: Get a FREE EXTRA MONTH of Barkbox with any 6 or 12-month subscription by visiting BarkBox Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Katie Goodman is an award-winning musical comedian, author, speaker, and life-coach. She is a nationally touring keynote speaker on the topic of using the tools of improv comedy in everyday life.Her musical comedy show, “Broad Comedy,” runs Off-Broadway and tours across the country. She has been seen on Showtime, on Current TV, and on TruTV. Her comedy videos, having amassed 3 million views, can be viewed online. She received a Time Out New York Critic’s Pick for Best Cabaret and is signed with Comedy Dynamics, North America’s largest independent record label. Her album “Halfway Closer To Dead” is available on iTunes. As a keynote speaker, workshop leader and trainer, Katie has taught over 10,000 people the art of improvisational comedy. She writes for O Magazine and is the author of Improvisation For The Spirit: Living A More Creative, Spontaneous and Courageous Life Using The Tools of Improv Comedy. And you’ll definitely want to check out her podcast, The Improvised Life with Katie Goodman. Listen in to hear Katie share: How you’re already using improvisation in your life - and how to use it more to your advantage Why learning improvisation is a valuable life skill How to practice getting lost and living in unpredictability - especially if you’re a control freak How to live more authentically by refusing to compete How to use improv to change your parenting game The magic of creating space in moments where you feel you have no control Links mentioned: Connect with Katie Tune into Katie’s podcast: The Improvised Life YouTube video: Half Way Closer To Dead Free Resource: Gag Your Inner Critic Worksheet Katie’s Website Katie’s Facebook Katie’s Instagram Katie’s Twitter Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Simple Health: Simple Health provides a more convenient and affordable way to get birth control. Go to Simple Health and enter the code shameless at checkout to have your $20 prescription fee waived. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have recently had multiple mamas reach out to me to ask me to do an episode on self-worth.AND I’ve been repeatedly noticing that questioning one’s worthiness is a common stumbling block for a number of my coaching clients. In fact, perhaps the most common stumbling block.When it comes to self-worth, we need to look at a few things: Why do you feel a lack of worth? What is at the root of your struggles with self-worth? How is lack of worth showing up in your life? How is lack of worth holding you back in life? What are the dangerous risk factors of not cultivating a strong sense of self-worth? What simple action steps can you take to improve your self-worth? Cultivating a strong sense of self-worth can take time - as many of us have been sitting in self-doubt and grappling with negative self-talk for years, maybe decades. But when you start to identify the root of your struggles and see some of the patterns around poor self-worth in your life, it can quickly become clear how you can change course. Changing course doesn’t have to be big and overwhelming. It can be small, simple steps you take to integrate a more positive and powerful sense of self into your identity. And this can be SO FREEING. In this episode, I walk you through 9 such steps. So, let’s get to it, shall we?Let’s all step up and step into our badassery. Links mentioned: SMA Episode 341: How to Create Authentic Affirmations That Become Tangible TruthsThank you to our sponsors: Care: To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership— visit Care when you subscribe. care of: For 30% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS30 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After a successful fifteen-year career in the tech industry and noticing the amount of exposure her two young boys were giving to their tech devices Priyanka Raha took her passion for technology and her children’s future and launched her startup, PopSmartKids in February 2018. With PopSmartKids, she is driving the Mentoring-Over-Monitoring revolution and is committed to promoting digital citizenship and responsible online behavior. In June 2019, the company will officially launch PopSmartWrite, an interactive learning tool for children to create stories through writing.Priyanka holds a Bachelor's degree in Engineering (Electronics and Telecommunication) and an MBA in Strategy and Systems from Purdue University. She has worked and lived in nine cities across India, US, and Europe, before settling in Seattle, which she calls home now. A core member of the Female Founders Alliance and other female founder communities, she is a zealous supporter of women founders and women in tech. This year she spoke about mindful and meaningful tech at the Women in Tech Regatta Seattle.Listen in to Priyanka share: How to shift our mindset around technology to be about mindful integration instead of a sense of constant invasion How to use technology as a magic wand to support your child’s emotional development and create good global citizens How to use technology to open up communication rather than shut it down Playing the role of a mentor of technology use vs constant monitor and manager of technology use Links Mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom Con 2020 Connect with Priyanka and Pop Smart Kids Pop Smart Kids on Facebook Priyanka on Facebook Priyanka on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my/our listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to BruMate and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m going to challenge you on something today. Are you ready?I want to know how you get caught up in distraction from action?Do you get stuck in vicious loops of email → social media → checking work data and never actually dig into the projects that will take your business or career to the next level?Or maybe your vicious loop looks more like pick up toys → clean up kitchen → change laundry → check phone, over and over all day long?Or what about the constant loop of researching → planning → list making?Or maybe you make rules for yourself that distract you from the action - like, “I must wash all our baseboards and organize my closet before I start my [book/blog/podcast/apply for a job/write the email asking for a raise].”Sound familiar???All of this is a distraction from the action - busyness that serves as a facade for productivity. We mistake tasks and to do’s for goals and action steps. There is a huge difference though.  Tasks and to do’s don’t take a closer to realizing our dreams. In fact, they are often hiding places and safe spaces that hold us back from our dreams. Conversely, goals and action steps are critical steps toward accomplishments that reap great benefits - much greater than clean baseboards. Listen in to learn 5 steps to engage in MORE ACTION and LESS DISTRACTION. Links mentioned:Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Paint Your Life: Get thirty percent off your painting. And FREE shipping. To get this special offer, text the word Shameless to 47-47-47. That’s Shameless to 47-47-47. Text S-H-A-M-E-L-E-S-S to 47-47-47. Message and data rates may apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Leanne Kabat is the CEO of MamaCon, an award-winning conference for moms, and host of The 5 Seasons of Connection™ podcast.She is also an author, speaker, parent coach, and former teacher who helps women live more intentionally, more confidently and more deeply connected to those they love using the transformational power of The 5 Seasons Strategy. Leanne developed this framework because in 2006 she received a medical diagnosis that gave her five years to live and every second with her three children mattered. Over a decade later, she is healthy, happy, and only two countries from reaching her life goal of visiting 50 countries before she turns 50.This is Leanne’s second time on the show and she always brings all the goosebumps and truthbombs, so I couldn’t be more excited to have her back to share her brilliance once again!Listen in to hear Leanne share: How a massive brain crash and being told she had 5 years to live uprooted and improved her life How to live like it matters The unexpected magic she discovered in her mission to help 50 mamas in 50 days The 5 seasons of parenting and how to navigate them How to weather parenting storms and know when it’s time to plant new seeds Links mentioned: Connect with Leanne Join Leanne’s free Facebook group SMA Episode 108 Leanne Kabat: When You Only Have 5 Years To Live Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Paint Your Life: Get thirty percent off your painting. And FREE shipping. To get this special offer, text the word Shameless to 47-47-47. That’s Shameless to 47-47-47. Text S-H-A-M-E-L-E-S-S to 47-47-47. Message and data rates may apply. ButcherBox: To receive $20 off your first box and a package of Free Bacon in every box for the Life of your subscription, go to ButcherBox/SHAMELESS or enter SHAMELESS at checkout. Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices