Shameless Leadership

One of the themes I’ve been seeing repeatedly in our community recently is around feeling stuck in roles that feel out of alignment with our core values. This shows up in our jobs when we see that companies we work for don’t truly stand behind their mission statements.This happens in our families when we see our siblings, parents or in-laws not acting in high integrity. This happens in our friendships when we see the women around us judging and gossiping and putting other women down.This is hard to watch and even harder to be a part of when we feel we are right in the middle of it all.  It often feels like a massive breach of our own integrity - which feels confusing and really conflicting. I want to challenge you to step back from these situations for a moment to get a better view of what’s going on and consider the ways you can RISE UP when you’re in the middle of situations which feel our of integrity and out of alignment with your personal and professional core values. Here are 7 ways to start to RISE UP in work and life: Position yourself as a leader Unapologetically own your strengths, gifts, and ZOG Unapologetically own what you suck at Know what you stand for Know what you don’t stand for Know the difference between tattling and documenting/reporting Be humble and gracious, while still standing in your power (rather than shrinking in gratitude) Listen in to this full episode to hear the deep dive on these 7 techniques. Links Mentioned:Get on the WaitList for Shameless Mom Con 2020Thank you to our sponsors: Katie the Cookie Bee: Katie the Cookie Bee Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Bioclarity: So go to Bioclarity and get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I had the honor of talking to two powerful leaders who love to talk politics - even though they are on opposite sides of many issues. If you struggle to have compassionate conversations around politics with friends & family who have differing beliefs and belief systems, this conversation will be really eye-opening and helpful. Sarah Stewart Holland (from the left) has always loved politics, although her political opinionshave changed drastically over the years. She worked in politics and on Capitol Hill beforemoving back to her hometown of Paducah, KY, where she served on the PaducahCity Commission. She is happily married and the mother of three sons. Sarah likes her bourbonon ice, her romantic dramas with a British accent and her iPhone fully charged.Beth Silvers (from the right) owns and operates Checking In with Beth Silvers, a life andbusiness coaching practice. She has been recognized as one of Ohio’s Most Powerful andInfluential Women by the Ohio Diversity Council, a Human Resources GameChanger byWorkforce Magazine, and one of Cincinnati’s Forty Under 40 business leaders. Beth lives inUnion with her husband, Chad; daughters Jane (8) and Ellen (3), and miniature schnauzer, Lucy. She loves people, politics, poetry, and watermelon.Listen in to hear Beth and Sarah share: The typically strongest values on the right vs the left How your family of origin impacts your politics The power of observing vs judging The value of getting curious instead of confrontational The power of acknowledging and addressing shared concerns and shared values Why people of privilege need to have the uncomfortable conversations How to navigate difficult conversations with grace Why it’s important for moms to be politically engaged Links mentioned: Podcast: Pantsuit Politics Get Sarah and Beth’s Book: I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening): A Guide To Grace Filled Political Conversations Book: The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt Instagram - Pantsuit Politics Pantsuit Politics Twitter Pantsuit Politics Facebook Twitter - Pantsuit Politics Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Rothy's: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shameless Mom Con was last weekend and the power, momentum, and magic that came out of 3 days of Shameless Mom togetherness is enough to light my life - like forever. I had no idea how overwhelmingly powerful this event would be until it started. And from the moment it started - when 30 MOMENTUM Mamas descended on my hotel suite, shortly followed by another 20+ Shameless Moms - it was very clear that this was going to be a life-changing few days. Within our first 10 minutes together I felt like we were all long lost friends - and maybe we were??? Maybe we had all been looking for each other for a very long time. I know many of you could not attend the event, so I wanted to bring some of Shameless Mom Con to you. In this episode, I’m going to share some highlights from the event, as well as share 6 major Shameless Mom Con takeaways with you. These 6 takeaways have the potential to shift your life in big ways. Take notes!Links mentioned:Get on the Shameless Mom Con 2020 Waitlist shameless Mom Con.Thank you to our sponsors: AVA: Ladies, it’s finally time to understand your body. Visit avawomen.com to learn more. You can receive $20 off your order by going to AVA and using my code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Susie Pettit has been helping women live lives they love for over 10 years. She is the host of the podcast Love Your Life Show and owner of the Wellness Company Strength: Mind & Body, LLC. She is a certified Life + Wellness Coach and a mom of 3 teenage sons.Susie is passionate about helping women live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside. She spent more than half her life living a life she did not love; as a people pleaser, codependent perfectionist, trying desperately to win an award for ‘Martyr of the Year’.Luckily she hit rock bottom and now has the breadth of experience to teach first hand about setting healthy boundaries, beating your inner critic, conscious parenting, and how to use mindfulness-based tools to beat overwhelm and anxiety. She uses two foundational frameworks: Her 5 Pillars of Wellness and the Thought Model.Listen in to hear Susie share: Being raised by my controlling and manipulative parents and building a life based on their standards, not her own identity How she stopped looking for external validation All her worst fears came true, she hit rock bottom, and she rose from the ashes How people pleasers are actually people deceivers The thought-model around the think-feel-act loop that gives you control in the most challenging moments in your life and how to use the “power pause” Why having no contact with her parents and siblings is the most loving relationship she can have with them How to increase your emotional intelligence and emotional literacy How to get out of your own way during challenging communication with others When you should treat your parents like toddlers - yes, really... Links Mentioned: Connect with Susie Susie’s Podcast: Love Your Life Show Sara’s interview on Susie’s show: Love Your Life Show com: 10 Day Consciousness Cleanse use the code SHAMELESS to get 50% off Check out Susie’s Thought Model Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace. Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I talk a *lot* about perfectionism and how it shows up for me. The more I talk about it the more I hear you all saying, “ME TOO!!!” If you tend to be a perfectionist and or high achiever and/or Type A kinda gal, this episode will speak to you. It might even scream at you…There are three BIG mistakes that I see perfectionist/high achiever/Type A women make over and over. These are mistakes that we make even when we think we’ve overcome our perfectionism. I mean, let’s be honest, we’re all works in progress and old habits DIE HARD. Here are the 3 BIG mistakes I see a lot of us (yep, including me) make over and over: We’re constantly waiting for the “right time” to take action in our life We listen to fear instead of embracing resistance We don’t give ourselves space & grace we truly need to evolve If any of this speaks to you - this episode is a must listen. Make sure to let me know how this conversation landed for you. I always love hearing from you!Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Join the Openfit 30 day challenge and get a special extended 30 day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, my listeners get a 3-piece cleaning set from Mrs. Meyer’s spring scents, a free 60-day VIP membership, and a surprise bonus gift just for you when you sign up and place an order of $20 or more. Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and Shameless Mom, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire with her husband, Mike Watts, that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. They are committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress.Kate recently birthed her second book into the world, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms.  I’m telling you, you need this book in your life. Kate’s name has been on my 2019 Dream Guest List - and as luck would have it, her team reached out to me before we got around to reaching out to her. When I told her about this, she said, “Oh yeah! That’s called egg wisdom.” To which I replied, “Huh?!?” She told me all about egg wisdom later in the interview and it was simply fascinating. Kate is going to open your mind up in a few new directions today and I can’t wait to hear how this resonates with you. Definitely let me know!Listen in to hear Kate share: Why it pays to pay more attention to your period and how to tap into the ways it gives you renewed energy and productivity How to tap into your “egg wisdom” to attract more of what you want without working harder How mother’s brains are rewired and how to use this to your advantage The power of doing less to accomplish more Links mentioned: Kate's Instagram Facebook Youtube Kate's new book, Do Less Kate’s Podcast: The Kate & Mike Show Thank you to our sponsors: Hylands: For more information about Hylands, visit Hylands. Cheers Health: Visit Cheers Health and Enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dear Perfectionist Friend,I SEE you.I see you stuck in your mess. I see you holding all those dreams, but crippled by analysis paralysis every time you think about taking the next step. I see you waiting until just the right time to take the next right step - yet never actually finding just the right time. I see you wanting more and feeling nervous, sometimes even terrified, about going after more. I see you worrying about what others might think if you flop. I see you anxiously stuffing your dreams into deep hiding places because you think you might fail. If you want to know how I can see you so clearly, it’s because I AM you. I know what it’s like to desire perfection so deeply you cannot make a decision or take any action - because... FEAR. I know what it’s like to spend inordinate amounts of mental energy on a decision because you think making the wrong decision could ruin everything.I know what it’s like to stay stuck in your head full of worry and doubt, while parading through the world with a big cheesy grin that screams, “I’m fine. I’m even better than fine. I’m GREAT. #EVERYDAMNDAY. SO GREAT!” - but actually, feel not great at all. Probably the most valuable lesson I’ve learned in motherhood and entrepreneurship is that perfect sucks. In fact, perfect is paralyzing. And imperfect action is ridiculously liberating. If you fancy yourself a perfectionistic kinda gal, this episode will open your eyes in all the best ways. Listen in - maybe more than once. And take notes on the beautiful, life-changing gifts of imperfect action.Thank you to our sponsors: BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to www.brumate.com and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dave Hollis is husband to Rachel Hollis, father to Jackson, Sawyer, Ford and Noah Hollis and the CEO of the Hollis Company after a 17 year run at Disney left his role as President, Theatrical Distribution for The Walt Disney Studios. Dave looks to take the experiences as global theatrical sales head for Disney, Pixar, Marvel, and Lucas film to the expansion plans in the next, exciting phase of Hollis Company — focusing on media (books/podcasts/radio/tv), live events and merchandise. Dave drives a 1969 Ford Bronco and intermittently likes the family dog, Jeffrey.I invited Dave to come on the show to talk about what it’s like to have a massive shift in identity as he flipped his profession upside down to leave a successful career in order to support his wife’s career. I also wanted to learn more about his journey into personal development, as so many of you have asked me how we can get our partners more involved and invested in areas of growth and evolution. I so appreciate Dave showing up to this conversation so OPEN & READY. Listen in to hear Dave share: The challenges that present themselves in the face of massive success The power and gift of discipline when life is moving at 100 MPH How his identity has evolved as he walked away from his successful career to support Rachel’s career and dreams His fears and vulnerability around building a new identity How women can get their partners involved and invested in personal development (without nagging & preaching!) Why he stopped using alcohol as a coping skill What his “ally” tattoo means to him as a straight white man who is fully aware of his white privilege A sneak peek into his upcoming book! Links Mentioned: Connect with Dave and Rachel at The Hollis Co. Tune into Rachel and Dave’s morning show on Instagram Dave on Instagram Dave on Facebook Rise Podcast with Rachel Hollis Rise Together Podcast with Rachel and Dave Hollis Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 40% off all subscriptions, go to My Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Hylands: Hylands: For more information about Hylands, visit Hylands. FabFitFun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to FabFitFun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is going to sound pretty controversial, but I’m saying it anyway. Because of #truth...Mom guilt is a lie.That’s not to say your feelings of guilt aren’t real. THEY ARE.But, as you sit in those feelings, please know this:Mom guilt is a social construct in which women are indoctrinated to think they should feel bad for ever prioritizing themselves, their identity, their careers, or their happiness over their kids.You know how I know this is true?? Because I know the following:Men are not asked, “How do you do it all? How do you juggle your career with your family?Men are not asked, “Don’t you feel bad when you have to travel for work and you don’t get to see your kids for 3 days?”Men don’t have to internalize messages like, “I don’t know how you work so much. I would feel so bad not being at my kid’s games/practices/plays/recitals.”When men consider taking up new hobbies/activities they don’t automatically think, “That would be awesome, but I would feel so bad taking that time away from my family.”Women are indoctrinated to feel like shitty moms if they prioritize their careers, their self-care, their sanity over their families needs. Men are encouraged to prioritize their careers and hobbies over their families needs - “Climb that corporate ladder!” “You gotta start golfing with us, man!” “Meet us every Saturday for pick up basketball!”I share this all because I want you to take a hard look at your relationship with mom guilt. Guilt of any kind is not productive. It keeps us stuck. It holds us back. It does not serve any positive purpose. So, it you’re spending time stuck in mom guilt, you’re wasting time and energy that could be used for so many other positive things in your life. Let’s flip this social construct on its head so we can all be more intentional about how we use our energy, our gifts, and our rights to rest (yes, you get to rest more when you stop feeling so damn guilty!)Listen in to this episode to go on a deep dive into how you’ve been indoctrinated - and how to GET OUT. Links mentioned:Book: Drop The Ball by Tiffany Dufu Thank you to our sponsors: Bioclarity: Go to BioClarity to get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code LOVELY at checkout. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Debi Silber, is a Shameless Mom to 4 kids ages 16-23 years old, as well as the founder of The PBT Institute, is a Transformational Psychologist and health, mindset, and personal development, expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis. Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, amongst others. Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal. Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she's created a proven approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.In addition to Debi’s education and professional experience in the field of betrayal and forgiveness - she has lived it all, multiple times. Her passion comes from her journey, from finding herself in places she didn’t plan, mending and rebuilding relationships that nearly broke her.Listen in to hear Debi share: Why it’s only the people who are closest to us can actually betray us Why you must unpack all the components of a betrayal The three things that do NOT work when trying to heal from betrayal The 5 Stages from betrayal to post-betrayal breakthrough The necessary path of a betrayer: apology/remorse/restitution How to heal your shame after betrayal The layers & stages of forgiveness and building trust Links mentioned: Connect with Debi: The PBT Institute Debi Silber’s Twitter Debi Silber’s Facebook Page Debi Silber’s YouTube channel Book: Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping Thank you to our sponsors: Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Rothy's: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices