The Brian Keane Podcast

This episode first aired on 3rd May 2021  Are you enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating and a review.   Paul Scanlon has trained and mentored people for over 30 years as a keynote speaker all over  the world. After three decades in the not-for-profit sector, Paul has successfully transitioned and  reinvented himself as an educator through both his LIVE and online Masterclass events in  Communication, Leadership, and Personal Development.  Paul’s three strands of focus are: Communication, Leadership, and Human Flourishing. His  hallmark is making complex things simple. Paul passionately believes it’s more important to  grow people than things.  He believes that there’s greatness in everyone and knows that most need the help of a well- chosen coach or mentor to discover it.  He is also the host of the podcast Growing Big People with Paul Scanlon. This was a fantastic  conversation and one I am very grateful for having. Although Paul’s microphone quality isn’t as              high as other podcast guests, the value he speaks more than makes up for it. This was a mini  therapy session for me so I hope you get as much from it as I did.  Key Points  ∙One of the big traps people fall into, especially with the political and cultural climate  nowadays, is boxing themselves into a certain identity, or what Paul calls “labels”. By  labeling yourself solely by your sex, race, political affiliation, or religion, you adopt the  “ghetto mentality” and limit your potential to grow and connect with people around  you. Avoid imprisoning yourself in an echo chamber and open your mind to all that the  world offers.  ∙Social media has normalized our natural human tendencies to focus on the “highlight  reels” of those we admire. This has created a generation of people who lack “getting- back-up” skills. Paul encourages us to read stories of great people and pay attention  more to how they recover from setbacks than to the glitz and glamour of success that  only comes after endless trials and hardships.  ∙It’s so hard to let go of beliefs, habits, and behaviours that are no longer serving us  because 1) we don’t know what to replace it with, and 2) we often learn these things via  people we respect like our parents, and we fear upsetting that person by changing. It’s  okay to outgrow people. In fact, almost every new version of you that emerges involves  leaving someone behind.

Harriet is an eating disorder therapist.  She is BACP Accredited Counsellor and her goal is to support people with eating disorder therapy, to find peace with food and their body image.  After experiencing her own journey in overcoming Bulimia Nervosa, she is passionate about helping others, using therapy to empower them with the hope, tools and psychology for change. She is also the host of The Eating Disorder Podcast. Trigger warning: if you have a history of disordered eating, body image issues or an eating disorder, this episode may contain topics that upset you.  Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s show:    The disordered eating to eating disorder spectrum Breaking the shame and guilt cycles What triggers disordered eating The role self-esteem plays Binge eating and purging behaviors  How to become more food neutral and not letting it control your life And much more.      (Links) (Instagram) HARRIET FREW (@theeatingdisordertherapist_) on Instagram (Twitter) HARRIET FREW (@HARRIETFREW1) / Twitter (Facebook) Facebook (LinkedIn) HARRIET FREW - Community Eating Disorder Therapist - Cambridgeshire and Peterborough NHS Foundation Trust (CPFT) | LinkedIn   (Website) Online course - Learn Intuitive Eating with Harriet Frew - THE EATING DISORDER THERAPIST THE EATING DISORDER THERAPIST - The Eating Disorder Therapist Harriet Frew

This episode first aired on 26th April 2021 Are you enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating and a review. Logan is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google’s behavioral science team—the Irrational Lab. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME. The Washington Post, GQ, Glamour, Vice, and on HBO and the BBC. Today’s podcast goes deep on all things dating and relationships. It’s a full-circle podcast from meeting someone to breakups and finding the one—we cover it all today. Also, I touch on some of my personal attachment styles and previous dating tendencies; so, today’s episode goes through some new topics not previously explored on the podcast. Key Points · Each of the three dating tendencies have to do with unrealistic expectations. The romanticizer has unrealistic expectations of relationships. The maximizer has unrealistic expectations of their partner. The hesitator has unrealistic expectations of themselves. Unrealistic expectations of any kind create huge problems because, even if things are going great, the person is never satisfied with what they have at present. · Our society has become obsessed with “the spark”: the idea of instant chemistry, that pang of connection; that feeling when you walk into a room and everything else fades and you can only focus on that person. Now, the spark is a wonderful thing; but you should not be selecting your long-term life partner based on it as it’s nothing more than a first impression. Instead, go for the slow burn and get to know the person beyond first impressions. · Becoming ready for marriage is a matter of the level of your intentionality. You have to exercise the same muscles that you do to strengthen your growth mindset and goal-orientedness and know how you want your future to look. With regard to marriage itself, ask yourself a series of questions, such as whether you see yourself with your partner in the long run and how you’ve both weathered conflict. Then, ask your partner questions such as how many kids you want to have, the religion you want to raise them on, and how you want to manage your finances.

Michelle is a licensed therapist, integrated life coach, author and speaker.  She is also the host of the Podcast The Adult Chair Podcast where she helps people to become emotionally healthy adults.  The Adult Chair model is an integrated approach that will help you recognize how all of your life experiences have shaped you — and then use that awareness to regain control, discover your most authentic self and transform your life!    By looking at all of the parts that make up who we are today, we are able to gain greater awareness of why we do what we do, identify conscious and unconscious wounds that hold us back and transform the way these wounds Enjoyed this episode? Please rate, review and subscribe.  Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s show:    The importance of inner child work  Why we numb out with food, exercise, shopping, porn etc.  Not letting your ‘adolescent self’ run your relationships or career choices Why our triggers are a gift Making friends with that negative or mean inner voice  The false self-overlay and how it stops you connecting to your true self The barriers to developing self-love and how you need to learn the lessons about how to actually do it  And much more   (LINKS) (WEBSITE) https://theadultchair.com/ (FACEBOOK) https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant (LINKEDIN) https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-chalfant-103a9b27/?original_referer= (PINTEREST) https://www.pinterest.co.uk/themichellechalfant/ (INSTAGRAM) https://www.instagram.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ (YOUTUBE) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ2buoRyaYIjuBugJqwKzDw (PODCAST) https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/ (COURSES) https://courses.theadultchair.com/ https://michellechalfant.com/coaching-certification-program/ https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/367/ (TWITTER) https://twitter.com/michchalfant

This episode first aired on 12th April 2021 Are you enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating and a review. Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality and the host of the longest-running sexual wellness podcast Sex with Emily. She is also the best-selling author of the book Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Warning: This podcast is content of an adult nature. This is a very wide-ranging conversation around all things sex (for single people and those in relationships) but here are some of thing things we talked about in today’s podcast: Key Points · Pleasure is our birthright, and it goes beyond sex. We should be deliberately setting aside time everyday to go toward those things that give us pleasure. For one reason or another, there are times when we feel the need to stifle or numb pleasurable feelings. In the context of sex, this is one of the big reasons many topics have become taboo, and why many men and women find having these conversations with their partners very uncomfortable. · A lot of people believe that scheduling sex is the least sexy thing you can do because it just seems like another task instead of being spontaneous. But the whole point of scheduling sex is that everyone is so busy nowadays that everything is prioritized before sex. Before we know it, days, or even weeks, go by and nothing happens. By having sex scheduled, you incentivize yourself to prepare for it and make it worthwhile for both partners. · “When we heal ourselves sexually, we heal so many other parts of our life.” Many people look at sex as an “outlier”. Physical, mental, and spiritual health are all the rage now, and sexual health is like the “bastard child” of the wellness industry. On the extreme end, some people have experienced sexual assault. For most others, there is low self-esteem around one’s sex life. Once we come to terms with these “underlying roadblocks” to a healthy sex life—perhaps via therapy, other times by simply having open conversations with our partner about sex—other areas of our life improve, such as having boosts in our immune system, serotonin, and other feel-good hormones.

Vicki is a motivational speaker, adventurer, entrepreneur and world record holder.  After 20 years in a relationship that limited and stifled her, former advertising professional, turned fitness pioneer and award-winning entrepreneur, Vicki became one of the first ever women to participate in Channel 4’s ‘SAS Who Dares Wins’, reaching the final stages after 11 days in extreme conditions at an altitude of 3,000ft in Chile. In 2021, she and 2 other women, the Girls Who Dare, set a new World Record for rowing unaided across the Pacific Ocean, confronting her fear of deep, open water to do so. It took 60 days, 17 hours and 6 minutes. This year, she plans to participate in the World’s Toughest Bike Race, the Race Across America (RAAM), covering 3,000 miles across 17 states in just 7 days. Enjoyed this episode? Please rate, review and subscribe.  Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s show:    How leaving a 20 year marriage gave her the permission to live her best life The reason becoming physically fit gave her emotional empowerment The resilience misconceptions she had Why fear is really just opportunity in disguise and learning to manage it Navigating difficult relationships and how you can’t live as a lone wolf and expect to achieve great things  The importance of momentum and breaking things down into manageable chunks   (Links) (Website) Vicki Anstey – Female Motivational Speaker Personal Growth | Intrepid (weareintrepid.co.uk) Personal Growth | Intrepid (weareintrepid.co.uk) (Instagram) Vicki Anstey (@vickianstey) on Instagram (Facebook) Facebook (Twitter) vickianstey (@vickianstey) / Twitter (Linkedin) Vicki Anstey - Motivational Speaker - Vicki Anstey | LinkedIn (Youtube) Why fear is a choice | Vicki Anstey | TEDxKingstonUponThames - YouTube

This episode first aired on 29th March 2021 Are you enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating and a review. Today’s episode is a fly-on-the-wall conversation with one of my closest friends, Paul Dermody. We focused initially on nutrition and diet and then went in a different direction about halfway through the episode. If you enjoyed any of our previous conversations with a similar show structure, then this is not to be missed. Key Points · Many of us have a tendency to overestimate our nutritional knowledge. Paul encourages us to reflect on why we think about food the way we do, especially if we’re stuck in our health and fitness goals. Cultivate self-awareness around where you’re taking in your information and humble yourself to embrace the possibility that there may be gaps in your knowledge—and that some of that “knowledge” may be outright wrong. · Suffering comes from our belief that we can predict the behavior or thoughts of other people. It’s unproductive to rely only on the little voice inside your head, because more often than not, we tend to be our own worst critic and overrationalize situations when relying on our own assumptions. Don’t try to predict the intentions of other people. It’s almost always a fruitless endeavor. · It’s easy to get wrapped up in the idea that this one achievement or one event or one purchase will make you happy. What usually happens is, once those goals are reached, whatever high you experience always turns out to be temporary, and you’re off chasing the next goal. True happiness is found in the moment and counting all the small blessings that we tend to take for granted, and not in simply pining for targets that we may or may never hit.

Becca is a hormone balance health coach who specializes in helping women permanently lose weight through different hormone balancing and nutritional strategies.  Her 12 week REBALANCE is a program for women who want to use hormone balancing strategies for permanent weight loss.  Enjoyed this episode? Please rate, review and subscribe.  Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s show:    The dieting and cortisol paradox What to do if you are eating clean, feeling good and still not losing weight  How to include more protein in your diet and why you shouldn’t be afraid of fat Under rated tools for reducing cortisol  Gut health, hormones and the link to weight loss  Managing cravings, balancing hormones and not falling off track during your time of the month  And much more    (Links) (Website) https://healthwithholland.com (Facebook) https://www.facebook.com/groups/1191145721489354 (TikTok) https://www.tiktok.com/@healthwithholland (Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/healthwithholland/   (Online Program) https://healthwithholland.com/online-program/ (Free ebook) https://healthwithholland.com/free-ebook/

This episode first aired on 15th March 2021 Are you enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating and a review. Orla O’ Flaherty is a herbalist, naturopath, and nutritionist who specialises in female health. She’s also one of my closest friends, and we go deep on hormones (for women and men) in today’s podcast. This one is worth saving for a couple of relistens as there are knowledge bombs left, right, and center in today’s episode. Brought to you in partnership with Lets Get Checked. To get 30% OFF your first time order, enter the code KEANE30 at checkout. Key Points · Most people know that what we put into our system has a direct effect on our health. That said, the general public has accepted as healthy certain foods that actually have negative effects on your body. Oats are a great source of carbohydrates, reduce anxiety, and promote sleep; but at the same time oats are proinflammatory because they contain what are known as phytates. Then there is soy, which contains phytoestrogens that may adversely affect hormones. Unless your soy is organic, non-GMO, and fermented, Orla advises keeping it out of your diet. · Before looking at how to boost your sex drive, the first thing to ask yourself is why your sex drive is low in the first place. For women, predominantly, there is an issue with their estrogen and testosterone—their estrogen levels may not be rising optimally, and their testosterone isn’t being activated. Women on the pill will automatically have a lower sex drive. For men, especially those over 45, low sex drive is usually due to low testosterone levels. Men under 45 with low sex drive, on the other hand, may be experiencing psychological issues. · Stress is not only one of the biggest culprits when it comes to fertility issues, but it makes the sex act itself robotic. “My first thing is to get women to stop trying,” says Orla. In addition, beware “The Two-Week Wait” following ovulation when a woman waits to see whether they are pregnant. Those two weeks may turn into two months or two years, which only serves to compound their stress levels.

Here’s another one of my few ‘press record and talk’ solo episodes. I hope it helps loads.    Habit 1: Pursue a passion 03:03 Habit 2: Back yourself more 10:02 Habit 3: Think about your past, current and future self 17:18 Habit 4: Digital detoxes – vertical expansion of our reference group 25:48 Habit 5: Learning to let go 31:41 Habit 6: Manage your fear and commit to goals  40:51 Habit 7: Surround yourself with the right people 48:30 Habit 8: How to actually live without regrets 54:06   Quick links to all my programs, courses and books  https://briankeanefitness.com/quick-links/   Gofundme page for Cancer Research:  https://www.gofundme.com/f/ec77aw-irish-cancer-society