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A lot of men worry that it’s too late to change their marriage.Maybe they’ve tried couples counseling and it hasn’t worked.Maybe they’ve been married 20, 30, or even 40 years and it just seems like the old patterns are too set to change.Maybe they think that “it takes two to tango” and if their wife isn’t willing to change, then it’s hopeless.I can understand all of these thoughts.But, none of them will get you a better marriage.There are a lot of reasons that couples therapy doesn’t work. Up to 80% of couples are the same or worse off after couples counseling.Mainly, it doesn’t address the primary problem. Taking responsibility for changing your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting and changing them.As far as being married 20, 30 or 40 years, the truth is that as long as you can think you can change your marriage. And couples married 30+ years are seeing major changes in a few short weeks by applying the right principles.And finally, if you’re waiting for your wife to change, you are paralyzing yourself and guaranteeing that you will not change anything.You need to take the LEAD to create a new marriage. Your wife will likely follow.Learn more in today’s episode.Listen to the full episode on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.Watch on YouTube here.Dr. MikeP.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

I used to think that it didn’t.  At least not for me. A guy who had an overall good upbringing.But, I recently did a hypnotherapy session with AJ Yager that changed my mind about this.And now, I’m implementing that learning with my clients with powerful results.Most high achieving me learned a certain lesson at some point:I need to take care of myself emotionally. No one else is going to. And, I have to take care of the emotions of people around me.And, I should stuff my emotions and get to work.Sometimes that lesson is learned through neglect as a child, sometimes through abuse, or drug or alcohol abuse by parents.Sometimes, that lesson is learned just by high expectations by parents or church or community, where you learn the lesson that to be loved and valued, you needed to achieve and be happy (or at least look happy).So, you learned to suck it up and get stuff done. And you have excelled at work because of this.But, at home, you are subconsciously reliant on your wife for the attention, appreciation and affection you wanted as a kid. The unconditional love that you wanted.So you’re needy with her. And you’re hard on your kids, because you are trying to enforce the same lesson of “just deal with it.”Fortunately, there’s a better way. You can mentally travel back in time and take care of that younger you. You can thank him for his service, and then let him be a kid and take care of him.You can access God’s power and Jesus’s power to let him know he’s OK and loved as he is.You can create a team that cares for that younger you. So now, you feel strong and solid at a very deep level. And you’re not as needy with your wife. And you’re a better father.Learn more in today’s episode, including details of my journey through this experience with AJ.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.Watch on YouTube here.Dr. MikeP.S. To check out AJ’s work click here. Let him know you heard about him from me!P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

It’s easy to get discouraged when you’re trying to change your marriage.You put in a lot of effort. You feel the changes. But, your wife just doesn’t seem to see them.How long is it going to take? How long do you have to keep this up?Today we’ll talk about the #1 internal shift that you need to make.It’s about committing to change for “the long haul” instead of putting a timeframe on it.As soon as you put a timeframe, even if it’s subconscious, you start becoming impatient.You also can become hopeless if it doesn’t happen on your timeframe.Impatient and hopeless are not attractive emotional states.Instead, commit to change and improvement “for the long haul.”And not for her, but for you, for God, for your kids.Learn more about how to do this and why it works so well in today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

What do you do when your wife says she would be fine if she never had sex again?You are certainly not fine with that idea. Why would she say such a thing?Today I’m joined by Amanda Louder at Amanda Louder Coaching and host of the Sex for Saints podcast.Her mission is to help Christian women embrace their sexuality and love their sex life.We discuss what your wife might be thinking when she says “I wouldn’t mind if we never had sex again…”How you can respond…And why it’s not as hopeless as it sounds.We also talk about how you might bring up working with Amanda to your wife if you think your wife might benefit from working with Amanda.Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeIf you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

My wife and I are experiencing some disconnection right now.This happens at times in any marriage.But, what do you do to overcome it?Step 1 - Express your feelings, even when it might upset the other person. This isn’t just losing your temper, but explaining what you’re frustrated about. This requires spiritual, mental,  and emotional strength.Step 2 - Figure out what you actually want from the other person. This requires thought and effort.Step 3 - Ask for what you want. This requires courage and communication skills. Step 4 - Listen to what your wife wants. This requires mental and emotional strength and communication skills.Step 5 - Follow through on what you commit to do for your wife. This requires integrity.Finally, have faith that as you do good, good will come. This is the strategy my wife and I have used many times to overcome times of disconnection, and it’s what will work again this time.Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S. These are the skills that I teach high achieving Christian men in my program, Love, Intimacy And Legacy. You’ll learn how to get through times of minor and major disconnection to create love and connection and leave a great legacy for your children to follow.  CLICK HERE to apply to join Love, Intimacy And Legacy.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

This is one of the most common problems I see in the men I work with.It can be VERY frustrating to feel like you’re changing, but have your wife keep bringing up your past mistakes.What you have to understand about this is that your wife is HURT.And YOU are the one who hurt her.And over time, the wound you have caused her has become infected.And so, when you tell her to “get over it” or “move forward” or “trust you,” you’re basically trying to put a band aid on an infection.Instead, you need to:Deeply understand her pain. This is like letting the wound drain.Make permanent changes. This is what helps the wound heal.Learn about these principles in today’s episode:Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages.Watch on YouTube here.Dr. MikeP.S. To make permanent changes, you need to:Identify and eliminate negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and actingReplace those with positive, attractive patternsRepeat those new patterns over and over until you can’t get them wrongThese are the three steps we follow in my program, Love, Intimacy and Legacy.If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!P.P.S. Weekly wins from men in the program (anonymized for privacy):-Mental, emotional and sexual infidelity… even after infidelity-Fun at in-laws, where before it was always a pain-Turning old conflicts about parenting into more connection-Turning a bad mood from work into a good mood and enjoying a great evening with family P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

This is LONG overdue, but today you get to meet my wonderful wife Elizabeth!We had the chance to be interviewed by Chris and Suzanne Vester from the Faith. Family. Fulfillment podcast.Today you’ll hear from both of us about:-The negative patterns we had in our marriage-What it took to finally recognize them-What we did to overcome them-Her experience of me as a husband-How my owning my negatives changed our marriage for the betterYou’ll get a sense of just how amazing she is, and you will definitely be hearing more from her in the future on the podcast.Hear the full interview on today’s podcast on Strong Men Strong Marriages.Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

After reading hundreds of books on marriage, dating and relationships, here are the books that have most shaped my thinking on how to help men with their marriages:-The Bible (In particular: Love your neighbor as yourself)-The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey-Leadership And Self-Deception by The Arbinger Institute-Passionate Marriage by David SchnarchAs an honorable mention:-How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale CarnegieEach of these books give powerful tools and ideas that can help you be a better man and have a better marriage.Learn more about this in today’s podcast on Strong Men Strong Marriages.Watch on YouTube here. But, books and podcasts are not enough to really transform your marriage.You have patterns of thoughts, feelings and actions that are deep in your brain.Learning something new from a book feels good, and maybe you make a few changes… but they don’t last. Because your brain hasn’t been rewired from unattractive to attractive.To really transform your life… so that you consistently act in Christlike ways towards your wife… even in difficult situations (turning you down for sex, spending too much money, criticizing you, etc)...You need to:-Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting-Replace them with positive, attractive patterns-Repeat those new patterns until you can’t get them wrongNow you “win” every interaction with your wife. Because you’re prepared for it. You win by acting in a Christlike way.That’s what I do as a coach. Help men prepare to “win” in their interactions with their wives by being Christlike men.When you do that, you feel amazing. You are far more attractive. And you set an example for your children and a legacy to follow.CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy and Legacy program.Rewire your brain so that you become the man that God, you, your wife and your kids want you to be.Dr. MikeP.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to:-Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting-Create new, attractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting-Repeat those new patterns until you can’t get them wrong So you can build yourself in to the man that God wants you to be, create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…Starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Anger is a God-given emotion.But, it can also be used for evil.The purpose of anger is to injure and destroy something.It can be used to instill fear in others so that they’ll do what we want. While it can work in the short term (like scaring our kids into doing their chores)...That is an evil use of anger, and one that will not create positive long term relationships.But, Jesus got angry sometimes. Like driving out the money changers or facing down the scribes and pharisees.So what was Jesus trying to destroy with his anger?Evil. His anger was paired with love for the people. He wanted evil destroyed so that people could rise to their full potential as sons and daughters of God.And we can use anger in the same way. Direct it towards evil. But start with yourself. Get your intentions in the right place. Then, move on to others. Help them recognize and defeat the evil that is lying to them and keeping them from feeling God’s love and reaching their potential.Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to build yourself into the man that God wants you to be… So you can have incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife…And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…And get the coaching and accountability to help you get there much FASTER…Starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Whether you’re trying to improve your sex life, recover from infidelity, or stop a separation or divorce…It can be easy to get discouraged. You understand that you need to make some changes.And, maybe you’ve already made some and you’re feeling good about them.But, your wife isn’t responding how you would like. Or at least not as quickly as you would like.Today you’ll learn how to approach this common problem.It has to do with the Law Of The Harvest.What you sow is what you reap.How long it takes to change your marriage depends on 3 things:-How bad your negative “seeds” have been-How many of those seeds you have placed-Your wife’s disposition and temperamentThe thing is, you have no control over the third thing, although most men will focus there.Instead, focus on the one thing you can control: Getting rid of the bad seeds and placing only good seeds from now on.When you place good seeds… The type of thoughts, feelings and actions that are Christlike…And commit to doing that NO MATTER WHAT your wife does…A good harvest WILL come. It’s inevitable.And the sooner you take that approach, the faster your marriage will change.It’s a paradox, but the less you focus on speeding up the process…And the more you commit to making the changes no matter how long it takes…The faster the process will happen.Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/8OzotJI4we8Dr. MikeP.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to build yourself into the man that God wants you to be… So you can have incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife…And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…And get the coaching and accountability to help you get there much FASTER…Starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157