Strong Men Strong Marriages

Paul is the co-founder of Maniphesto and the podcast As Iron Sharpens Iron, a men's leadership training movement.In his words:I am on a mission to restore manhood. I call men to adventure and support them in finding a deeper sense of direction and purpose.I enjoyed this interview with him very much, and you can learn more about him at Maniphesto.com and Iron Sharpens Iron. P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

If your wife is asking for space, turning away from your kisses, avoiding your hugs, and saying “no” to sex…It can be VERY frustrating.Especially if you feel like you’re doing “all the right things.” Helping with cooking, cleaning, paying the bills, leading in prayer or scriptures. Can’t she do this ONE thing for you, after all you do for her?It’s easy to get sad in this situation. And resentful. To pull away from her completely. To become passive aggressive.It’s even common to turn to pornography. Some men even turn to other women for a physical connection.Then, they feel guilty. And maybe they try to “make it up” to her. But it still doesn’t result in a good physical connection.In today’s episode, we’ll discover:-Why your wife doesn’t want physical touch (It might not be you. It might be past trauma or “touch overload” from the kids)-If it IS you, why she isn’t interested in physical touchYou haven’t built the 3 Pillars Of A Passionate Marriage. Trust, communication and intimacy.Trust. She needs to feel like you’re a man of your word in all things. That you can manage your own thoughts and emotions. That you won’t lose your temper or act mopey if she says “no” to touch. That you’re not using her physically or emotionally through sex and physical touch. This lets her say “I feel completely safe with my husband.”Communication. She needs to say “I feel so heard and understood by my husband.” You need to be able to get to win-win agreements on money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion and time. You now feel like best friends and teammates in life. You have mental and emotional intimacy.Intimacy. Once you have safety and mental and emotional intimacy, you can add in the fun, flirting and passion that bring physical intimacy. The type you BOTH enjoy and look forward to.Learn more in today’s episode.Dr. MikeP.S.  Ready to become a Strong Man who is ATTRACTIVE to his wife...And has the skills to create a Strong, Passionate Marriage?Apply to join Strong Men Strong Marriages today!You'll learn how to build the spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength that help you feel GREAT and become extremely ATTRACTIVE to your wife.And, build the skills to bring communication and intimacy to your marriage, so you have a marriage full of fun, smiles, and mental, emotional and physical intimacy.And set a great example for generations to follow.We'll help you:1. Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting2. Replace them with positive, attractive patterns3. Repeat those new patterns until you can't get them wrong. Until your brain is rewired and you are strong and attractive on default. This helps eliminate the "2 steps forward, 3 steps back" problem that some programs create.The best time to build these strengths and learn these skills was years ago. The second best time is today.In the next few months, your marriage can be full of fun, passion and intimacy.Or, it can be the same as it is now. Or worse.CLICK HERE to join Strong Men Strong Marriages. P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Right now, you’re struggling to find love and respect at home.And it’s frustrating, because people at work and church do seem to give you respect. Maybe even love.They value your opinions. They appreciate what you do. They listen to you.But at home, your wife doesn’t do the same.You try to make her happy. You cook. You clean. You make the money for the family.But, it never seems to be enough. She doesn’t like how you do things. Or, she wants you do to more.And it doesn’t lead to the mental, emotional or physical intimacy that you want.This can be VERY frustrating.And, it can lead to you getting upset and “laying down the law.”You hope that will get you respect. And maybe it does. For a little while. While she’s afraid of your emotional outburst.But then, it’s back to the same old problems. And you’re not enjoying mental, emotional or physical intimacy with your wife.Learn what to do in today’s episode to become a truly loved and respected leader in your home.You’ll learn:-The 3 different types of leader… and why two of them will never get you love and respect-How to break out of the negative leadership patterns-How to become the type of leader who is loved and respected… while living true to Christian valuesWatch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  Ready to become a strong man who creates a strong marriage? If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE join The Strong Men Strong Marriages System.There are 3 ways that we can work together. Let’s get to work! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Imagine your wife writing down a list of what she wants in a husband. Would she write:I really want a man who:-Is afraid to tell me what he’s thinking and feeling-Bottles up his emotions until they explode-Is passive aggressive-Won’t ask for what he wants from me because he’s worried I might say no-Tries to make me happy while secretly becoming resentful-Won’t do what he believes is right because he thinks I won’t agree-Won’t have important discussions because he’s afraid of my emotional responseOf course not. These are all extremely unattractive qualities. They are cowardly. They are based in fear.And yet, many men do these exact things and hope their wives will be attracted to them.At the end of the day, your wife is attracted to a man who is strong and courageous. Being courageous requires that you do things that you are afraid to do.The definition of courage is: The state or quality of mind or spirit that enables one to face danger, fear, or vicissitudes with self-possession, confidence, and resolution; bravery.Sharing what you actually think and feel with your wife is scary. Do it anyway.Asking for what you want it scary. Your wife might say no. It exposes you mentally and emotionally. Do it anyway.*Caveat. Don’t go straight to asking for more sex. You need to build trust and mental and emotional intimacy first for her to actually WANT to have sex with you.Doing what you believe is right, even when your wife disagrees, is scary. Do it anyway.Choosing courage over cowardice is hard. Do it anyway. You’ll feel stronger for it. And, you’ll be far more attractive to your wife.Learn more in today’s episode.Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

In today's interview I discuss with John what it means to be a leader in your home.Visit John here:Instagram:  @last_in_line_leadershipYouTubePodcastWebsite Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

When your marriage is suffering, every day seems difficult.You look at your wife and wish things were different.Or, maybe you can’t even look at your wife because she’s not around.You wish that you could laugh and have fun together. That you would enjoy spending time together. And that you could have a great sexual connection.But right now, every day reminds you that you don’t have that.So, you start making some changes. And you start feeling better.But, your wife doesn’t notice. And you dip back into frustration, anger, and hopelessness.Instead of following this cycle, adopt the 1 year mindset.Decide that for the next year, you will focus on making yourself a better, more Christ-like man.That you will build your self-confidence and self-esteem. That you will manage your thoughts and emotions expertly (without losing your temper or indulging in self-pity).That you will reconnect with what brings you joy. That you will increase the strength of your relationship with God.That you will learn to communicate by listening well and asking for what you want.That you will learn how to bring fun, flirting and passion back to your relationship. Or bring it for the first time.When you make this commitment… NO MATTER WHAT your wife’s response…And commit to doing it for 1 year…You focus on what you CAN control. You become stronger and more attractive. And you guarantee that you WILL have an outstanding marriage full of mental, emotional and sexual intimacy.Either with your current wife, or your future wife.Learn more in today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Interview with Dana Che from Real Relationship Talk (also available here).We'll get a female perspective on what is and is NOT attractive when it comes to showing love to your wife.Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Sometimes marriage just seems too hard. At least to your wife.You feel like whatever you do, it just doesn’t make a difference. Your wife won’t change.You start to think life would be better with someone else.But, you also don’t want to hurt your kids or go against your faith and get divorced.This leads to you feeling trapped. You want to leave the marriage, but feel like you can’t.That feeling is terrible, and it is also very unattractive. So basically, you’re staying in the marriage but feeling awful and repelling your wife.Here’s what to do instead:Give yourself the option to leave, but count the costRealize that you are part of the problem and that you will create the same issues in your next relationship if you don’t fix themGive yourself a time frame to build up your spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength and your trust, communication and intimacy skills while still in the marriage. I recommend a year.At the end of the year, determined if you will continue the marriage or notYou attract people to you who are at your same level of spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength. If you are a low level, you will attract someone at a low level.You create a great relationship through trust, communication and intimacy. You will need trust and communication as a co-parent to your kids if you get divorced. And hopefully, as you built trust and mental and emotional intimacy through communication, you can also build sexual intimacy.But if not, you will be able to get to win-win agreements with your wife and be a great example for your kids.So, commit to building your strength and skill in the new year. There’s no downside to becoming a better, stronger, more Christ-like man.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Your wife is saying “I just need some space.”This is a hard thing to hear. You’re feeling hurt and scared. Angry too. Especially around Christmas and the holidays.So, you try to tell her why space is a bad idea. That you can’t grow if you have space apart.Which makes her tell you even more than she needs space.Or, you decide to have no contact with her at all. This is better then trying to talk her out of space. But it also doesn’t plant any seeds for a good relationship to grow.Instead, focus on giving her space effectively.The best ways to do this are:Create a “safe space” in the house or somewhere else. This is a place where she knows you will not intrude on her physically or mentally. This allows her to have the time to process her own emotions, relax, and feel safe.Encourage her to have time with her friends, family and therapy if she wantsTake care of yourself and build up your strength mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physicallyFocus on what you CAN control (your own thoughts, feelings and actions) instead of what you CAN NOT control (her thoughts, feelings and actions)Be patient. She wants space because you’ve planted “bad seeds” for years. In your mind, you need to have at least a year of planting consistent “good seeds” to get a good harvest.In today’s episode, you’ll also learn the main reasons she asks for space, and how to plant the “good seeds” that will result in a “good harvest” of connection and her WANTING to spend time with you down the road.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Unconditional love is a popular topic these days. And it sounds great. Especially on the receiving end.Be loved no matter what I do? Sign me up!But, as Christians, it can also seem like a commandment. To love others no matter what they do to us.And it’s true. Jesus does ask us to be kind to those who are not kind to us. To bless them that curse us.And it’s important to do that in marriage. To not return evil for evil. If your wife has an affair, to not have one back. If your wife yells at you, to not yell back.But, we also can misunderstand this teaching. We can think that it also means we should be losing every day in our marriage so our wife can win. That we should just listen when she’s yelling at us. That we should just let her spend whatever she wants. That we should just deal with a marriage with no sex for years.Fortunately, this is NOT what Jesus taught. He taught us to love our neighbors AS ourselves. Equally to ourselves.We want to find things that work for BOTH of us with money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework and time.We want to respect our wives, AND respect ourselves.This is what creates a marriage that works long term. One where you BOTH feel like you’re winning every day.Learn more about how to create that in today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here.Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful, Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Able to invest 5 figures and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157