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When your marriage is suffering, every day seems difficult.You look at your wife and wish things were different.Or, maybe you can’t even look at your wife because she’s not around.You wish that you could laugh and have fun together. That you would enjoy spending time together. And that you could have a great sexual connection.But right now, every day reminds you that you don’t have that.So, you start making some changes. And you start feeling better.But, your wife doesn’t notice. And you dip back into frustration, anger, and hopelessness.Instead of following this cycle, adopt the 1 year mindset.Decide that for the next year, you will focus on making yourself a better, more Christ-like man.That you will build your self-confidence and self-esteem. That you will manage your thoughts and emotions expertly (without losing your temper or indulging in self-pity).That you will reconnect with what brings you joy. That you will increase the strength of your relationship with God.That you will learn to communicate by listening well and asking for what you want.That you will learn how to bring fun, flirting and passion back to your relationship. Or bring it for the first time.When you make this commitment… NO MATTER WHAT your wife’s response…And commit to doing it for 1 year…You focus on what you CAN control. You become stronger and more attractive. And you guarantee that you WILL have an outstanding marriage full of mental, emotional and sexual intimacy.Either with your current wife, or your future wife.Learn more in today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Interview with Dana Che from Real Relationship Talk (also available here).We'll get a female perspective on what is and is NOT attractive when it comes to showing love to your wife.Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Sometimes marriage just seems too hard. At least to your wife.You feel like whatever you do, it just doesn’t make a difference. Your wife won’t change.You start to think life would be better with someone else.But, you also don’t want to hurt your kids or go against your faith and get divorced.This leads to you feeling trapped. You want to leave the marriage, but feel like you can’t.That feeling is terrible, and it is also very unattractive. So basically, you’re staying in the marriage but feeling awful and repelling your wife.Here’s what to do instead:Give yourself the option to leave, but count the costRealize that you are part of the problem and that you will create the same issues in your next relationship if you don’t fix themGive yourself a time frame to build up your spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength and your trust, communication and intimacy skills while still in the marriage. I recommend a year.At the end of the year, determined if you will continue the marriage or notYou attract people to you who are at your same level of spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength. If you are a low level, you will attract someone at a low level.You create a great relationship through trust, communication and intimacy. You will need trust and communication as a co-parent to your kids if you get divorced. And hopefully, as you built trust and mental and emotional intimacy through communication, you can also build sexual intimacy.But if not, you will be able to get to win-win agreements with your wife and be a great example for your kids.So, commit to building your strength and skill in the new year. There’s no downside to becoming a better, stronger, more Christ-like man.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Your wife is saying “I just need some space.”This is a hard thing to hear. You’re feeling hurt and scared. Angry too. Especially around Christmas and the holidays.So, you try to tell her why space is a bad idea. That you can’t grow if you have space apart.Which makes her tell you even more than she needs space.Or, you decide to have no contact with her at all. This is better then trying to talk her out of space. But it also doesn’t plant any seeds for a good relationship to grow.Instead, focus on giving her space effectively.The best ways to do this are:Create a “safe space” in the house or somewhere else. This is a place where she knows you will not intrude on her physically or mentally. This allows her to have the time to process her own emotions, relax, and feel safe.Encourage her to have time with her friends, family and therapy if she wantsTake care of yourself and build up your strength mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physicallyFocus on what you CAN control (your own thoughts, feelings and actions) instead of what you CAN NOT control (her thoughts, feelings and actions)Be patient. She wants space because you’ve planted “bad seeds” for years. In your mind, you need to have at least a year of planting consistent “good seeds” to get a good harvest.In today’s episode, you’ll also learn the main reasons she asks for space, and how to plant the “good seeds” that will result in a “good harvest” of connection and her WANTING to spend time with you down the road.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Unconditional love is a popular topic these days. And it sounds great. Especially on the receiving end.Be loved no matter what I do? Sign me up!But, as Christians, it can also seem like a commandment. To love others no matter what they do to us.And it’s true. Jesus does ask us to be kind to those who are not kind to us. To bless them that curse us.And it’s important to do that in marriage. To not return evil for evil. If your wife has an affair, to not have one back. If your wife yells at you, to not yell back.But, we also can misunderstand this teaching. We can think that it also means we should be losing every day in our marriage so our wife can win. That we should just listen when she’s yelling at us. That we should just let her spend whatever she wants. That we should just deal with a marriage with no sex for years.Fortunately, this is NOT what Jesus taught. He taught us to love our neighbors AS ourselves. Equally to ourselves.We want to find things that work for BOTH of us with money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework and time.We want to respect our wives, AND respect ourselves.This is what creates a marriage that works long term. One where you BOTH feel like you’re winning every day.Learn more about how to create that in today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here.Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful, Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

What does it mean to be codependent in marriage?For most of the guys I work with, they identify with a few things.They put aside their own wants and needs in favor of what their wife wants and needs.They avoid doing anything that might upset their wife (like going out with friends, disagreeing with her, confronting her about problematic behavior, etc).They are constantly focused on meeting their wife’s wants and needs.They lose themselves in this process, finding it hard to identify what they enjoy doing anymore. Or if they can identify it, they don’t do it (like sports, hobbies, etc).Eventually, they start becoming resentful because they realize they are doing a lot for their wife, but their wife isn’t doing much for them.And, this can build up to an explosion that surprises their wife. Their wife didn’t even know they were frustrated, because they haven’t been able to express the small things they’ve wanted and needed for many years. And they’ve said all along that “things are fine,” when really they weren’t.Fortunately, we can fix this.Codependency comes from not having a strong sense of self worth. It’s also often formed from feeling the need to manage a parents’ emotions (or drug or alcohol problems or emotional distance or abuse). To fix it, we reconnect with a sense of self worth that’s based in God. We let our wife manage her own emotions and needs while we manage our own emotions and needs. We let go of that responsibility. We treat our wife kindly because that’s who we want to be. We ask for what we want effectively. And we create a marriage that feels like we’re winning every day for both you and your wife.Learn more about how to do this in today’s episode:Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Do you wish that your wife would appreciate you more?Are you making the money for the family, taking a large amount of child care duties, cooking and cleaning…But your wife doesn’t appreciate all you’re doing? Or does she even become critical of the things you’re doing? Does she ask you do to even more, or give you negative feedback for the way you’re washing the dishes (or whatever the task might be)?This can be very frustrating. Why can’t she just see the good things you’re doing? Everyone else seems to be able to. You might even say things like “Why can’t you once in a while tell me the good things I’m doing!?”Unfortunately, this mindset will not help you get the appreciation you’re looking for.It’s part of the mosquito cycle. You’re doing nice things, but hoping for appreciation from her. When you don’t get it, you get upset. Then, you feel bad about getting upset and start doing nice things again.Instead of following this cycle, find the spiritual, mental and emotional strength to:-Appreciate and value yourself-Share appreciation-Ask for appreciation in a productive way by saying something like “I’m wanting to be a better husband. What am I doing now that you like?” And, if you’re emotionally strong enough, then ask for some positive feedback.Learn more about how to do this on today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

If you’ve done something you know is wrong in your marriage, you might be thinking “I shouldn’t tell her because it might hurt her.”And it’s true. Telling her the truth will hurt her.But, continuing a lie will 100% keep you from having a great marriage.Great marriages are built on trust, communication and intimacy.Keeping a big, hurtful secret keeps trust out of the equation.It also limits communication, because you’re constantly on the lookout to make sure that your secret doesn’t come up. That limits mental and emotional intimacy.And when there’s low trust and superficial communication, sexual intimacy suffers.Telling the truth is hard. But there are some effective ways to do it.Give your wife a “warning shot.” Let her know something hard is coming.Tell her the whole truth.Let her have her emotional response.And manage your own thoughts and emotions well as she goes through her initial response and the grieving process as the weight of your mistakes “sinks in.”Learn more in today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S.  If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Where are you failing right now in your marriage?Are you breaking promises? Looking at porn or recovering from infidelity?Are you losing your temper?Are you having a hard time listening to your wife (or does she think you don’t listen)?Do you have a hard time expressing yourself, feeling like you’re walking on eggshells?Do you lack the sexual connection that you want in your marriage?Failure is part of every hero’s journey. It’s the failure that makes success even sweeter.The mental, emotional and sexual connection that you want with your wife CAN be yours.But, like Rocky and Apollo Creed, Luke Skywalker and Yoda, and Maverick and Ice Man… A guide can help you stop failing and start succeeding much faster.Learn more about how and when to use a guide in your journey to a better marriage in today’s episode.Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

You’re focused on becoming a better husband and father. You’re serving your wife, trying to listen, trying to do the five love languages… all of it.But, your wife still says things like “You’re making it about you.”This can be very frustrating, because you feel like your soul focus is on her!But, here’s the thing.If your goal is to be a better husband… that still is about you.What you want to try instead is to spend time each day getting into your wife’s shoes at a deep level.In particular, you want to try to understand her suffering. You want to have compassion. That’s what compassion is. To “suffer with.”As you do this, you will completely stop making it about you.Because if you are genuinely trying to experience the world as she experiences it…You have removed yourself from the equation. It’s not about you at all.I realized I hadn’t been doing this very well. My wife, however, does it often. And she has great relationships with the kids and her friends because of it.As I’ve implemented a daily practice of getting into her shoes and the kids shoes, and in particular trying to understand and feel their suffering…I’ve felt much closer to them and had inspiration on how to serve them better.It’s been very powerful and I wanted to share that practice with you today.It can’t be “about you” if you are really in your wife’s shoes (or your kids’ shoes).Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.ioP.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike.  Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157