The Mark Groves Podcast

We have all been treated badly to some extent—by our parents, our partners, our exes, our old friends, by the narcissists of the world. But once we’ve identified where we’ve been victimized, our job is to step beyond being a victim of the world and reclaim our power. Our work is to look within and enquire into what it is within us that allows painful dynamics to continue in our lives. What is it that stops us from setting boundaries, from saying ‘no’ to things that make us feel unloved, from claiming our right to be fully worthy? This week we explore all aspects of waking up to our worth and importantly how healed people heal people. ~ Discover: The disease of unworthiness Looking for worthiness is a moving target Why we need to turn towards our pain Truthful answers require us to become someone else The connection between boundaries and worth Resentment is a sign you need to choose yourself Why are we a match to poor behavior? Why do we make excuses? Are you the match for what you want? What you attract is what you need need to learn What are you afraid to find in the space of silence? What unrealized potential are you not stepping into? Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Sylvester McNutt III is an 8x best selling author and his passion for living a life of freedom and truth is contagious. Join us as we roll through the experiences that shaped his work as a writer, from his childhood to teen life, to today where he is now expecting a child of his own. Sylvester tells all about where his fire for self-expression comes from and how he lives that today. After listening to this podcast you’ll understand why his work has been so popular, he drops some gems on authenticity and shows us how to truly walk the talk. ~  Discover: Why do we do the things we know we don't want to do? Understanding the family tree of trauma Don't wait for people to be ready We are all students and no one has it all figured out Parenting, childhood, pain, fear and the mirror it gives us Find Sylvester on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/sylvestermcnutt/?hl=en and his Website https://www.sylvestermcnutt.net/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In the new "All About You" series, I am reading your letters and diving deep into tough questions from you about your relationships, love, and what you really want from life. To begin I touch on my current journey—how I am learning to let go of the future I thought I would have and give space to the new and unknown in my life. I then cover some challenging and common situations that you have written to me about: the ex that promises to change, the new partner that is still seeing their ex, the partner that works too much, and not feeling the same about marriage and kids as our partner. I so appreciate the opportunity to know what is on your heart and I thank you for sharing this with me and everyone who will benefit from hearing your story. I'm really excited about this new format, so please share with me your thoughts and feelings on how this resonated for you. If you have a letter for a podcast you can share it via the 'Ask Mark' tab at the link in my Instagram bio. Big love to you! ~ Discover: What do you want most out of this life? What are you not willing to give up? We cannot experience true love until we model it What to do when someone wants to change after we leave The real reason for resentment Repairing after workaholism and affairs Perfectionism, high achievers, and worthiness How to work with a "recovering defender" How to know if your needs didn't get met as a child Repair and atonement after betrayal Our core beliefs are always mirrored by the lowest choice we make Alone vs. lonely Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This moment isn’t an obstacle—however hard it is, this moment is always the path and the opportunity to come home to yourself. We are all spiritual beings in human being bodies. So who are you when the masks are dropped? Who are you underneath the roles, jobs, stories and busyness of life? Who are you when you really sit in the truth of your existence? If we just sit in this moment we can finally rejoin our inner stillness—the silence that contains all the answers, the truth, the essence of who we are. I recorded this as an invitation for you to stop running, to be still and rejoin your soul on this journey home. ~ Discover: Why we shrink around our friends and family What does your life stand for? Who do you want to be? Why do we do the thing we don't want to do? When it's hysterical it's historical Why does rejection trigger us? Why you should get curious every time you get triggered When you become more connected to who you are, you experience deep reverence for yourself and other people Why we need to get sober from distractions Stillness is where you find yourself, silence is where you hear yourself Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Okay, “girlfriend” might be a strong term…but either way, I am so grateful that Michelle Dow, the first woman I “dated”, agreed to come on my podcast and share her story. Michelle and I go way back to childhood and I’d like to say we were both each other's first love and heartbreak, but I think I that story lives a little more on my side than hers. Last year, I shared some of my feelings about our breakup, and today Michelle calls me out for not contacting her first to discuss it. So this episode is as real as they come. This is about Michelle’s story, how she experienced me and our breakup and how she feels about it all today. I super appreciate her being open to having this conversation, it was a lot of fun and I think you’ll enjoy it too. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

The Amazing Terri Cole is back talking all things codependency. Think you’re not codependent? Perhaps you're an empath? Terri introduces the concept of the ‘High Functioning Codependent’ to break down what exactly codependency is and what factors are underlying it. We get very clear on the signs and symptoms of codependency, and the consequences of codependency throughout childhood, single life and long term relationships. I cannot speak highly enough of Terri's expertise in this space and I could not wait to have her back on the show to dive deeper into this incredibly important topic. If you have ever wondered whether you are empathic or perhaps have some traits of codependency, you cannot miss this show! ~ Discover: The signs and symptoms of codependency Why this behavioural pattern manifests The consequences of codependency throughout childhood, single life and long term relationships Plus as a bonus Terri is offering listeners the More Love Meditation Challenge for a limited time - head to https://terricole.com/LOVEMG Find out all about Terri's wonderful work here https://www.terricole.com/   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

When I was asked to speak on grief, I knew immediately Emma Tait would be the ideal guest for this show. Emma Tait is the driving force behind much of Create The Love, she not only keeps our team together but so much of my life too. Emma walks us through the essentially undefinable path of grief. In her gentle but clear way, she shows us how the answer is found in accepting there is no answer, that sometimes the only way to make sense of life is to see there is no making sense. Emma shares her personal story of loss and how much she has learned to surrender to grief and pain, and in doing so, letting it move through - allowing it to come and go - rather than becoming stuck in the storyline. If you are trying to make sense of any kind of grief this episode is full of lessons for you. Find Emma on Instagram here! Read Emma's article on grief here. Emma Tait is a writer, soul guide, woodsman, dog mom, and soon to be human mom - to name a few. Emma’s life’s work is to empower others to meet, know, love, and walk with their whole selves through all of life’s ebbs and flows. She believes the way forward is for each of us to come back to ourselves through mastering our emotional, physical, and spiritual wisdom. She guides others through her writing, 1:1 coaching, and speaking as they begin the inward journey of embodying the courage to show up and be seen, a journey which always begins within. Connect with her on Instagram. ~ Discover: The parts that we want to reject are the wisest, teach us the most and expand us the most The heaviness of grief and how to navigate through it Why grief wakes us up to feeling alive and deep pain creates gratitude Why we've been socialized to think grief is bad The beauty of loss, time and gentleness Sometimes it just doesn't make sense, and that's ok Give yourself permission to find joy again A different way to see death Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This week I welcome hiitide founder and CEO Evan Shy. hiitide is the amazing personal growth platform that hosts my bookclub. Evan and I recognize how life and work are not separate but deeply intertwined and for that reason we are not just colleagues but also friends. Join us as we delve into relationships, authenticity and fulfilment through the lens of business. We bring light to the synergy of having integrity and alignment in your relationships both inside and outside of work. Evan reflects on the epic concept of Extreme Ownership and we trade stories of how we’ve each used this approach to empower ourselves and learn from past decisions. If you’re starting down the path of creating alignment between your values and your work, THIS is the episode for you! ~  Discover: The truth about "Someday" We know why but won't do anything about it. Why is that? Data around working from home and shorter work weeks Why can't we just talk about it? Alignment in the workplace, your heart and your bottom line When people feel safe to be themselves, they perform the best Don't quit your job to pursue your dream, do this instead We were taught how to do long division, but never taught how to love ourselves Why we must learn, be aware, and apply, not just educate Find Hiitide here Connect with Evan here! Evan Shy leverages a decade of human physiology research and entrepreneurship to make personal growth more accessible. Beyond business, he’s published work in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, author of “Fitness that Fits”, and contributing author to collegiate text “Food for an Aging Population”, Evan’s background has created a diverse formula of science-based methods with a bias for practical application for a new generation of leaders. The hiitide crew of scientists, coaches, and engineers are on a mission to make learning and growth a daily practice for a million people by 2025. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Sex and relationship therapist Shadeen Francis joins me this week for perhaps the most intelligent and fascinating conversation about humping you’re likely to ever hear! What does a sex therapist do? Who needs a sex therapist? What feelings are behind sex? How do you negotiate better sex? What does better sex even mean? Shadeen goes deep on all of these questions, while also shedding light on common misconceptions about arousal, desire and our sexual needs. Shadeen's background in neuroscience and academia inform her beautiful personal philosophy of freedom, liberation and human connection. She serves up some truly delicious insights about sex and connection that make this episode worthy of a replay or three!  Follow Shadeen on Instagram @shadeenfrancislmft And find her work on her website here! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Not only is Connor Beaton the creator of ManTalks, he is also one of my closest friends! This week Connor joins me to discuss all the things men don’t usually talk about. Connor shares his journey of living with lies, how he hid so many parts of himself, lied about his failing career, and cheated on previous partners to find external validation. We dive deep into the shadow, that is -- the aspects of ourself that we are ashamed of and/or reject, and we look at how hitting rock bottom is often the starting point to finally telling the truth. Once we begin to see and speak the truth, there is no going back. From perpetual liar, to avid truth-teller, Connor proves that ‘once a cheater always a cheater’ is a shame-based myth. Find Connor on his website here and on Instagram here! Check out my Boundaries course now ineedboundaries.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands