The Mark Groves Podcast

Anger is one of the most powerful emotions, it can change lives and change the world. But it can also become incredibly destructive. Alistair Moes (Angerman) is an expert on all things anger. In this episode we delve into what anger means, what it looks like and feels like and how we can use it in healthy ways to deepen our connections with self and others. 1 min - Intro from Mark - the difficulty in engaging with our anger. 3 mins - The breakup recovery course. 4 mins - Intro to Alistair Moes - what happens when we don’t express anger? 6 mins - The link between our gut health and our anger. 11 mins - Alistair’s own experience with boundaries in childhood. 20 mins - Identifying where you are repressing emotions. 28 mins - The power of listening and witnessing your partner. 41 mins - The power in choosing to have hard conversations. 49 mins - The connection between rage and grief. 56 mins - How to engage with your anger, using resources to learn about anger. Alistair Moes (Angerman) is an International Anger Management Expert and Author, who has been working professionally as a counsellor/educator since 1989 and as an anger management specialist in private practice since 1995. Alistair has worked with those who have enormous challenges in the world: from high performance business leaders, gold medal winning Olympic and professional athletes and coaches people that are close to homeless. Anger is an equal opportunity emotion. Alistair has developed a manner of working, which is respectful, solution-focussed and based on both academic theory and extensive experience. This experience includes working with trauma, and historic abuse in a manner that honours each person and allows for deep healing.  Find Angerman on Instagram here and more resources here Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Do you know what traumas happened to your grandparents, or great-grandparents? Do you know how those traumas might be impacting on your patterns or triggers today? My guest this week is one of the world’s leading experts in the field of intergenerational trauma. Mark Wolynn not only shares his research and understandings of the field, but also his own story and the stories of some of his clients in understanding their inherited traumas. I was completely mindblown by this episode, whether you know your family history or not, you absolutely must not miss this conversation. Episode Highlights: 3 mins - Intro to Mark Wolynn and family trauma. 5 mins - How major life events or triggers can relate to experiences of previous generations. 11 mins - Are we ‘wired this way’ or have we inherited our patterns? 13 mins - How we can understand the nature of epigenetics through research on mice. 20 mins - Why do we repeat our traumas? 24 mins - The story of Sarah and her grandparents trauma. 32 mins - The ‘family tree’ and who the family system includes beyond biological family members. 37 mins - Opening up the possibility of our ‘work’ being beyond just our individual experiences, how our ‘remembrances’ live in our body. 40 mins - Mark Wolynn’s story of his own inherited traumas. 43 mins - Recoding or rewiring our stress responses. 48 mins - Mark Wolynn’s workshops and resources. Episode Notes: Mark Wolynn (accent on second syllable) is the director of the Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco. He is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. His book It Didn't Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology, and has been translated into 17 languages. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com, Elephant Journal and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in The New Yorker.  Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

These personal special episodes have been truly cathartic for me in uncovering the vulnerable, raw emotions that I would have once repressed. In this episode I explore attachment styles, our needs and boundaries. For those of us with anxious attachment patterns, we often give up parts of ourselves in order to stay in relationship. But this doesn’t have to be our destiny, by connecting with our truth we have the power to rewrite our story completely. 1 min - The power of sharing and not repressing emotion. 5 mins - Having compassion for ourselves. 7 mins - Attachment styles and the research behind them. 14 mins - 10 seconds of courage to make a change in your life. 18 mins - If you have resentment, you have bad boundaries. 22 mins - What we do when we’re afraid of love. 27 mins - What is a breakup here to teach us? 29 mins - The breakup recovery course. Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Many of us assume that we automatically feel our feelings, but unfortunately it’s not that simple. There are so many ways society encourages us to deny, avoid and repress emotions. Megan Jane Soutar is a self healing guide who I have had the honor of knowing as a friend and client for many years. As Megan describes in our interview, her transformation has taken her from someone who numbed emotion, to someone who intellectualized emotion, then finally to someone who could FEEL their emotions, fully. And in this transformation Megan has come to working with others in truly feeling their feelings too.  Episode Highlights: 1 min - Marks introduction, dealing with hard emotions. 6 mins - Introduction to Megan Souter and her role as a self healing guide. 15 mins - Numbing emotions instead of feeling them. 17 mins - Megan’s experience of depression in childhood and living with mental illness within the family. 21 mins - Living within a disruptive household. 27 mins - Intellectualizing emotions to avoid feeling them. 31 mins - The safety to have your own experience and emotions. 39 mins - Megan’s experience of bullying throughout school. 46 mins - Living at your highest level of integrity.  50 mins - Dealing with major life changes and coming off of medications. 59 mins - How Megan is using her story in her life and work today. 1hr 7 mins - Shaming our feelings. 1hr 18 mins - Stepping out of the story we have been assigned. Episode Links: Megan Jane Souter Megan's Instagram   Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Technology has completely changed our world, but have we adapted? The online revolution has opened new avenues for addiction, social connection, disconnection and distress. There are millions of ways that we are marketed to become addicted to technology: the colours, sounds, styles, ‘likes’, games and more. We can change our relationship to technology, but it means going so much deeper than just setting rules or limits. This weeks episode is so important, I will admit I have struggled with my relationship to technology and have learned so much from Miles on how to change this. Episode highlights: 1 min - Intro to episode by Mark Groves. 4 mins - Intro to Miles, how our bodies react to the online world in relation to our biological evolution. 9 mins - How social cues impact our wellbeing, both online and offline. 15 mins - How our relationship to the world can lose its sense of reality when we are so often online. 18 mins - The mentality of “just do it”. 22 mins - Mark’s anxiety around his phone. 27 mins - Changing our subconscious relationship to technology. 32 mins - How much time are we spending with screens per day? 34 mins - Digital detoxing. 41 mins - Taking control of technology instead of letting it control you. 47 mins - New avenues for connection online, a new world of choices. 52 mins - Being conscious of our online behavior, what is behind it? Episode links: Miles Rote’s Online Course: How to use social media to improve your wellbeing Miles Rote - Self Mastery Teacher & Digital Wellness Coach, Miles illuminates the effects of modern technology on humanity & helps bridge the growing gap between our online world & our inner one through his platform, How To Become Yourself.  Miles Rote's Website Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this special episode I dive into my personal story of awakening and rejoining my heart. We all suffer betrayals, usually beginning in our childhood. And often in these betrayals, we learn to hide away parts of ourselves to survive and remain connected to those around us. This is my story of undoing those learnings and making the choice to claim my personal truth. 1:00 - Introduction to the Create The Love Bookclub. 3:00 - Mark's story of his engagement ending. 6:00 - How and why we end up hiding parts of ourselves. 9:00 - Making the choice to rejoin my heart. 12:00 - When I decided I was done with relationships. 15:00 - Give yourself the space to make mistakes, life is your playground. How to use your triggers. 20:00- Leaving too soon or staying too long? 22:00 - Relationships are the greatest determinant of health. 28:00 - The power of connection to self. Episode Notes: Join our Create The Love Bookclub! Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Anahata Ananda is a wonderful friend of mine, she is also a healer, coach and guide and in this episode she walks us through the connection between spirituality and relationship. We go deep into understanding how a spiritual journey can lead us home to ourselves, and how the depth of our spiritual connection to ourself relates so much to our depth of connection with our partner. Anahata supports us in seeing how our life experiences can lift us toward faith and consciousness and out of the victim mentality.  Episode Highlights: 1 mins - Mark’s introduction - the narratives we live and how we can break them. 8 mins - Book Club Introduction! Join the Create The Love Community. 11 mins - Anahata Ananda introduction.  13 mins - Finding humour in the journey. 15 mins - The spiritual crisis, what is it? What tangents do we have to follow in order to find the path back to wholeness? 23 mins - How our journey relates to our chakras. 34 mins - Are you living out of fear or faith? What clues or messages are you not listening to?  38 mins - When we put the burden of alignment on our partner.  46 mins - How much baggage we all carry and how we can start to move through it. 50 mins - How we can step out of victim mentality and into consciousness. 55 mins - Unconditional love, the journey of coming home to unconditional love. 60 mins - Where are you still holding onto pain? 1hr 5mins - Finding the way to our truth is a process not an outcome, reclaiming your truth. Episode Notes: Free Chakra Balancing Audio Guide And Discount Codes! Anahata Ananda blends the compassion and tenderness of an Angel and the wisdom and strength of a Shaman to guide profound journeys of core healing and spiritual awakening. As a Certified High-Performance Coach, Shamanic Healer and Soul Guide, Anahata has guided thousands of individuals through core life shifts, helping them to turn their life around and manifest the life of their dreams. Anahata is the host of the internationally acclaimed Shamangelic Healing Podcast. She is the founder of Shamangelic Healing, based in Sedona Arizona, where she offers high-performance coaching, inspirational workshops, group retreats, private healing sessions, and online courses. For more about Anahata's services, visit: Shamangelichealing.com Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Mike Campbell is a men’s coach who specialises in helping men connect to their hearts in every aspect of life. In this episode we go deep in unpacking the messages men receive throughout their lives about love and commitment. Why do so many men seem to swim in the emotional shallow end of relationships? How do we deal with avoidance in relationship? AND, how can we change the narrative? Mike is as real as they come and a true friend, I am honored that he has shared this important and necessary conversation with us all. Episode Highlights: 1 min - Introduction from Mark. 3 mins - The Breakup Recovery Course is now live. 5 mins - Mike Campbell introduction, what does coaching men involve?  9 mins - Masculinity and the societal messages about being male and committing to relationships. 13 mins - The avoidance of relationship and commitment, the power of fear, what is below this fear? 20 mins - The invalidation of our emotional expression that so often occurs. 22 mins - What is stopping men from opening up? The impact of suffering in silence. 28 mins - Staying in the ‘safety’ of the superficial world. 32 mins - Mike’s engagement breakup story, how he went straight into business and how he started to open up. 39 mins - The necessity of hard conversation, are you willing to walk away if your partner can’t step forward? 43 mins - Dealing with a partner who ‘dances in the grey area’. 49 mins - Becoming ‘grounded’ with yourself and dealing with becoming grounded in relationship. 55 mins - How boundaries can help to create trust and truth in relationship. Episode Notes: Breakup Recovery Course Mike Campbell Instagram Mike Campbell is a men’s coach, author, and tragic wannabe professional stone fruit eater, Mike is the founder of The School of Personal Mastery – a group coaching program for men wanting to get their shit together and achieve greater success and happiness in their career, relationships, and life - without the guilt and hang-ups.  Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This is a very personal episode for me, this is my own journey with codependency. Throughout our lives we all become part of widely accepted social contracts through our childhood, religion, community and family. This is my story of breaking some of the social contracts that did not align to my own truth or integrity. It took a lot of vulnerability to break those social contract and also to open up on this topic, so I truly hope it resonates. Episode Highlights: 1min - My own personal story and learning about codependency in my own life. 2 mins - My relationship to alcohol. 4 mins - How I’d kept one foot in and out foot out with my commitments to change. 5 mins - What unspoken agreements do you hold onto that you don’t truly believe? 10 mins - If i loved myself what would i do? 16 mins - The addiction to trying to save others. 19 mins - I don’t “have it all together”, the power of compassion for self. 22 mins - Where have you been taught to hide your truth? If this episode resonated for you please remember to subscribe, leave a review, let me know what you'd like to hear more of, and share with your loved ones! Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode, Kate Horsman shares her personal story with an eating disorder. Kate shares her ‘fall into grace’ as she left the harsh, competitive world of ballet and made her way through hospitalisation and the life long task of healing. In a world where disordered eating and negative body image are so normalized, Kate’s voice cuts through the pain experienced by so many to offer compassion and hope that we can finally come home to feel safe in our own bodies. As Kate so warmly describes, the way out is to nourish ourselves. Whether you believe you have a healthy relationship with food and your body, there are so many gems offered by Kate in this episode. Episode Highlights: 2 mins - Intro, the teacher arrives when the student is ready. 8 mins - Breakup Recovery Course. 10 mins - Please leave a written review if you enjoy this episode! 11 mins - Kate Horsman introduction, background in ballet and childhood. 19 mins - How Kate’s body communicated her needs. 25 mins - What caused Kate to drop it all and leave. 30 mins - Male eating disorders and the pathway into eating disorders for boys and girls. 34 mins - How do you become safe in your body? 38 mins - The normalization of unhealthy eating. 46 mins - Committing to healing and nourishing yourself. 53 mins - Finding your voice in your healing. 57 mins - Movement as healing. 1hr 2mins - Surviving the present moment. 1hr 4mins - Kate’s current work supporting others in healing, the power of compassion. 1hr 17mins - Kate's new course coming soon. Episode Notes: Kate Horsman Instagram Kate Horsman.com Kate Horsman is a Nutritionist, Counsellor and Mindfulness Leader in Vancouver BC. Her training through both professional counselling and nutrition, provide the bridge between the mind-body connection which lends greatly to her specialization in Eating Disorders and Mental Illness. Allowing food and the brain as a medium for embodied change. Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands