Themes: Freedom of Speech, Censorship, Social Media, Cancel Culture, Mental HealthSummary: Join me for an insightful conversation with Greg Lukianoff: attorney, New York Times best-selling author, and President and CEO of the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression (FIRE). Greg co-authored one of my all-time favourite books, The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure, with Jonathan Haidt. This New York Times best-seller expands on their September 2015 Atlantic cover story of the same name and is an absolute MUST read. In this episode, we discuss some main themes from the book, including free speech, why it matters, the dangers of censorship, and more.Discover: The importance of free speech and why diverse viewpoints are essential for growth, peace and a thriving democracy The dangers of censorship and why diverse thought, even when offensive, is necessary to develop critical thinking Why society tends to put someone in a box based on an opinion or belief (and why it’s lazy) 00:00 Intro 01:09 Why Greg is passionate about free speech05:10 When is censorship okay?08:15 Handling pushback to free speech13:08 Being placed in a box for your beliefs17:39 Moral certitude19:54 Free speech and private companies24:59 The noble lie27:21 Lack of viewpoint diversity on campuses29:52 The benefits of free speech37:40 Disagreement and diverse thought42:45 Biases in mainstream media47:31 Conservative = evil?53:38 Group polarization56:39 Talking back to the voices in your head1:00:34 Interpersonal trust1:02:56 Conflicts and disagreements in relationships1:08:01 How to be advocates of free speechLinks: Website | thefire.org Book | The Coddling of the American Mind Instagram | @thefireorg Sponsors: Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Childhood Wounds, Family Systems, People-Pleasing, Relationships, Self-WorthSummary: I think it’s safe to say that none of us had a perfect childhood, and we all carry around behaviours and unhealed pain that doesn’t serve us. But it doesn’t have to be that way: our past may have created our patterns, but we can change them with some self-awareness and the right tools. Join my bestie Vienna Pharaon and me as we dive into understanding and overcoming wounds from our Family of Origin, so you can move beyond your frustrating patterns in life and love and into a more liberated way of being.Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Her first book, The Origins of You, hits shelves on February 21st, 2023.Discover: How unhealed pain or “wounds” from our Family of Origin manifest in our adult behaviours Why it’s so difficult to hold the paradox of being both disappointed with and grateful for our upbringing Five common “origin wounds” and how they show up in our adult lives How to identify and start to heal the origin wounds that hold you back 00:00 Intro 02:10 How childhood wounds impact us today13:57 You don’t need to have a traumatic childhood to have wounds18:19 Being both disappointed with and grateful for aspects of your upbringing29:23 Examples of origin wounds 32:35 The belonging wound36:53 The prioritization wound45:15 Safety and trust wounds55:42 How to begin healing Links: Website | viennapharaon.com Instagram | @mindfulmft Book | The Origins of You 6 Week LIVE Coaching Experience with Vienna Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Career, Purpose, Media, Divorce, Breakups, ParentingSummary: This week I’m honoured to welcome the master mechanic himself, Ant Anstead, to the show. Ant and I met serendipitously a few years back when he took my Breakup Recovery Course, and I’ve been blessed to call him a friend ever since.Ant is the CEO and co-founder of Radford Motors and is responsible for overseeing the build process of every single bespoke, hand-made vehicle to meet exacting customer specifications. For many years, Ant built bespoke cars for elite clients and collectors all over the world and is best known for hosting car-centric television shows such as Celebrity IOU: Joyride, Radford Returns, For the Love of Cars and Wheeler Dealers, the number one most distributed show on The Discovery Channel. Join us as we chat about Ant’s career journey, life (and divorce) in the public eye, parenthood, and more.Discover: How Ant transitioned from being a police officer to playing football to building cars How he turned his passion for cars into a career His journey into television How he deals with the media, clickbait and life in the public eye Ant’s perspective on parenting in the social media generation and his top advice for fathers 00:00 Intro 02:31 Ant’s police career11:13 Flipping and building cars16:05 Turning your passion into a career21:19 Starring on a television show27:27 Being in the public eye31:34 Clickbait & the media35:02 Getting hate for hosting Wheeler Dealers43:01 Social media trolls47:30 Divorce54:50 Fatherhood1:03:55 Upcoming works1:06:48 Radford Racing School1:12:29 Mark as a father-to-beLinks: Website | ant-anstead.com + radford.co Instagram | @ant_anstead + @radfordmotors Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Boundaries, Regret, Awareness, Appreciation, Self-Love, Victim Mentality, CommunitySummary: Today I’m comin’ at ya with a short but sweet solo episode and sharing some things I’ve read lately that have blown my mind and brought some newfound awareness to my behaviour. I hope sharing these reflections offers insight into your own circumstances, behaviours and ways of being in the world so we can all move together towards creating a more loving, open, boundaried and secure space!Discover: Boundaries: how they’re medicine for both you and those around you Having reverence and appreciation for new awarenesses instead of feeling shame and regret for past decisions Saying no (and sitting in the discomfort of a no) in order to make space for your yes Appreciation for our parents and their struggles The grief of not having the village Creating what you crave 00:00 Intro 00:57 Boundaries03:17 Awareness and regret05:50 The tension of our no08:42 Appreciating our parents11:05 Medicalization of birth13:29 Presence16:49 Removing martyr energyLinks: Join me on Mine’d! Sign up for my newsletter here Follow me on Substack here Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove ReBloom: Archetypal Trauma Resolution For Personal & Collective Healing by Rachael Maddox The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Francis Weller Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Grief, Loss, Transformation, Resilience, AngerSummary: Today I’m chatting with Dr. Neeta Bhushan, a world-renowned emotional health advocate and expert in the areas of grit and resilience. In this episode, we talk about her new book That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess, embracing the suck, and how to get back up after life inevitably knocks us down.Neeta has shared her thought leadership on international stages, is the host of her popular podcast The Brave Table, and has authored best-selling books such as Emotional GRIT: 8 Steps to Master Your Emotions, Transform Your Thoughts, and Change Your World. She’s also been featured on Forbes, Entrepreneur, NBC, Verve, Tatler Magazine and more. Talk about a powerhouse!Discover: The stoic practice of Amor Fati and how it changed Neeta’s perspective on the hardships she experienced as a young woman Using the pain of a rock bottom as fuel for transformation Actionable tools for building resilience 00:00 Intro 01:09 Neeta’s story of loss and grief13:30 Finding magic in the mess18:00 Amor Fati26:00 Moving beyond the suck37:20 The pain of a breakup39:18 Taking action44:01 Validation 46:11 Integrating all parts of yourself 54:03 Big ignite vs. small ignite moments56:25 Spend time with a child1:02:25 Healthy angerLinks: Website | neetabhushan.com Instagram | @neetabhushan Book | That Sucked, Now What? Podcast | The Brave Table Sponsors: Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up. Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Masculinity, Emotions, Vulnerability, Relationships, Men’s Work, Self-Worth, Purpose, PornographySummary: Today I’m chatting with one of my good friends, Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization dedicated to men's wellness, success, and fulfillment. Connor is a coach, facilitator, teacher, podcast host, and speaker who helps men from all over the world find purpose, healthy love, a joy-filled life, and fulfilling sexual connection. His teachings draw from an in-depth apprenticeship in Jungian psychology, Gestalt, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, and both Buddhist and Taoist traditions. Known for his no-nonsense approach and compassionate understanding of human limitations, Connor has coached thousands of men through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats, and masterminds. He has also shared the stage with renowned speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, and Danielle LaPorte.Tune in for a free-flowing conversation where we jam on the challenges men face today, masculinity, turning towards our pain, and his new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom.Discover: Our thoughts on why toxic masculinity manifests Why emotional suppression is so common for men in our culture today The healing that is being asked of men right now The value of an initiatory process as young men Why turning towards your pain is necessary in order to find freedom and be the man you want to be Why porn has become an addiction for many and its effect on relationships 00:00 Intro 04:12 The men’s movement06:10 Emotionality in men12:00 Toxic masculinity16:28 Hurt people hurt people25:41 Men and vulnerability33:44 Healing the divide between men and women49:09 Men’s work54:42 A relationship with something bigger than yourself59:20 “I don’t trust men…”1:05:19 You don’t need to hit rock bottom to change1:13:53 There’s more to it than vulnerability1:22:51 What fulfilling relationships require1:28:00 Being present1:31:27 Pornography1:42:49 Impact of pornography on relationships1:46:18 Healing a porn addictionLinks: Website | mantalks.com Instagram | @mantalks Book | Men's Work, A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom Podcast | ManTalks Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Pain, Mental HealthSummary: Join me for a thoughtful conversation with Megan Devine: best-selling author, psychotherapist, and grief advocate. With over 20 years in the field - and deep personal experience of grief - she is the go-to authority for grievers, supporters, and industry professionals. Her pioneering work provides a professional, inclusive, and realistic approach to grief, one that goes beyond pathology-based, reductive models. If you’re currently feeling the deep pain of loss or are looking for ways to support someone who is, this episode is for you.Megan’s book It’s OK that You’re Not OK has sold over 250K copies and is available in 16 languages. New York magazine’s The Strategist named the book in their “Top 16 Grief Books Recommended by Psychologists in 2021.” Her animated short, “How to Help a Grieving Friend,” has been viewed over 70 million times and is used in training programs worldwide. She’s been published in Psychology Today, The New York Times, and The Washington Post and has served as a grief expert for major media outlets, including NPR, iHeartRadio, and the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief.Discover: Megan’s personal experience with grief What not to say to someone who is grieving and how to be truly supportive instead The problematic way society responds to pain and grief and how this contributes to rising loneliness, substance abuse and suicide rates Why looking for the silver lining in a painful experience, while well-intentioned, isn’t helpful 00:00 Intro 01:20 Megan’s story07:09 How society responds to grief 09:11 You don’t need to find the silver lining13:03 Movies modeling the happy ending15:17 The fallacy of suffering as punishment20:25 The “nobility” of suffering24:33 The history of dealing with pain31:21 How medicine handles grief36:43 Timeline of grief38:16 Why do we avoid sadness?43:54 How to actually support someone who’s grieving47:46 Expanding your idea of what grief isLinks: Website | refugeingrief.com & megandevine.co Instagram | @refugeingrief Facebook | @refugeingrief Book | It’s OK That You’re Not OK Podcast | Here After with Megan Devine  Sponsors: LMNT | Get a FREE LMNT sample pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Attachment Theory, Child Development, Trauma, the Mind-Body Connection, Authenticity, Boundaries, Illness, HealthSummary: It is such an honour to welcome renowned speaker and bestselling author Dr. Gabor Maté to the podcast this week. Dr. Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on various topics, including addiction, stress, and childhood development. He has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and has coauthored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in nearly thirty languages.In this illuminating episode, we discuss his incredible new book, The Myth of Normal, and how much of what we deem the norm in today’s culture is neither healthy nor natural. Join us as we explore a range of topics, including trauma and its effects, attachment theory, the mind-body connection, the cost of repressing emotions, and more.Discover: How much of what we deem ‘normal’ in today’s culture is neither healthy nor natural and is actually responsible for a lot of illness in both mind and body.  How to differentiate trauma from a stressful experience The impacts of trauma on mental and physical health and how normalized trauma is in our culture Why the medical system ignores the mind-body connection The cost of repressing your emotions and people-pleasing How to heal in the toxicity of modern culture 00:00 Intro 00:47 The Myth of Normal03:26 The idea of normal05:28 The toxicity of modern culture09:38 How our childhood wounds show up in the present day12:43 Trauma17:16 Why medicine ignores the mind-body connection23:46 When does an experience become trauma?26:16 Importance of attuned caregivers34:15 The cost of suppressing your emotions39:00 The cost of people pleasing & no boundaries43:42 Choosing your pain - authenticity vs. belonging50:00 Exercises for self-understanding55:00 Healing a toxic cultureLinks: Website | drgabormate.com & wholehearted.org Book | The Myth of Normal - Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture Instagram | @gabormatemd Facebook | @drgabormate Twitter | @drgabormate Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality by Dr. Darcia Narvaez The Evolved Nest: Natures Way of Raising Children and Creating Connected Communities by Dr. Darcia Narvaez Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Parenting, Safetyism, Fragility, Resilience, Childhood Independence, Autonomy, TechnologySummary: After her newspaper column “Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone” created a media firestorm, Lenore Skenazy got the nickname “America’s Worst Mom.” Nice. She went on to write Free-Range Kids, the book-turned-movement. (Second Edition just out!) She has been profiled in The New Yorker and lectured everywhere, from DreamWorks to Microsoft HQ to schools across America. On TV, you may have seen her on The Today Show, The Daily Show or her own reality show, World’s Worst Mom. Now Lenore is co-founder and president of Let Grow, the national nonprofit promoting childhood independence.I was struck by Lenore’s story, and as I step into fatherhood this year, I knew I had to have her on the podcast. Tune in to learn how parenting has changed over the past few decades, why safety has become a top priority for parents nowadays, and how unsupervised play and letting go a little are key in raising resilient, confident and independent children.Discover: Why Lenore let her nine-year-old son ride the subway alone in NYC Why the degree of independence and autonomy parents give their kids has changed drastically over the past couple of decades Safetyism: what it is and how it contributes to fragility in our kids The massive benefits of unsupervised play & tech-free play Why tracking your kids erodes trust and can actually cause more harm than good How to overcome parental anxiety 00:00 Intro00:31 Parenting then vs. now03:00 Letting her son ride the subway alone06:43 Why are we so afraid for our kids?10:52 The problem with prioritizing safety24:09 Tech-free play37:23 Why keeping kids safe has become a top priority44:00 Is tracking your kids worth it?51:21 How to overcome parental anxietyLinks: Website | letgrow.org Book | Free-Range Kids: How Parents and Teachers Can Let Go and Let Grow Twitter | @freerangekids Facebook | Raising Independent Kids The Coddling of the American Mind Sponsors: Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Virtuosity, Self-Love, Self-Awareness, Virtue Signaling, Cancel Culture, Transformation, Boundaries, Forgiveness, NarcissismSummary: Back for the second time is my good friend, Danielle Laporte. Danielle is an author, speaker, podcaster and a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” In this episode, Danielle and I chat about allll the things, including true, embodied virtuosity, virtue signaling, cancel culture, boundaries, narcissism and how to be loving in a world that’s waking up.Danielle is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Map, White Hot Truth, and producer of dozens of meditation kits and online programs for spiritual support. Her most recent book, How To Be Loving…when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up, is also an Audiobook + ebook, with a companion deck and journal. Danielle is the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and the Heart Centered Leadership Program with 400+ leaders in 30 countries hosting conversation circles, retreats, and workshops in all kinds of communities and businesses.Her podcast, With Love, Danielle, often ranks in iTunes’ top 10 for wellness. Most of her offerings—from the Heart Centered Membership to her online classes—are on a pay what you choose basis. Named one of the Top 100 Websites for Women by Forbes, millions of people a month visit DanielleLaPorte.com.Discover: Having reverence for your shadow and the parts of yourself you dislike Our thoughts on virtue signaling and what it truly means to be virtuous The absurdity of cancel culture A theory on why there’s tyranny and evil in the world Setting boundaries from a loving and healed place Forgiving yourself and others (even if you feel like they’re unforgivable) Things to reflect on if you’ve been with a narcissist 00:00 Intro  03:45 The turning point in Danielle’s work 07:51 Loving what you hate about yourself11:52 Psychological virtue15:04 Virtue signaling22:08 Cancel culture27:07 Theory about tyranny31:57 How To Be Loving37:59 Boundaries43:18 Forgiving the unforgivable46:27 Narcissism48:28 Overidentification51:22 Becoming radiantLinks: Website | daniellelaporte.com Instagram | @daniellelaporte Book | How To Be Loving... when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up Podcast | With Love, Danielle Sponsors: LMNT | LMNT is a tasty electrolyte drink mix that replaces vital electrolytes without sugars and dodgy ingredients found in conventional sports drinks. Get a FREE LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices