The Anxious Love Coach

Whether you never got to be single because you met your partner young, you’ve been in a string of back-to-back relationships, or you’re longing for the freedom that supposedly comes with the single life, this episode is for you. Yes, you can absolutely feel freedom in a relationship, but it’s going to take radical responsibility on your part for your joy and aliveness. Tune in to discover how.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   Time Stamps:  4:15 Feeling like your partner is the cause of your numbness 11:05  Triggers are caused by pain that is already there 12:12  Reasons why you might be feeling numbness 22:30 Being overwhelmed by stimulation and how that creates numbness 23:40 “What get’s loud when you get quiet?” 25:40 Self-care tips to deal with numbness 36:10 Prioritizing self care when dealing with anxiety 38:15 Resensitization exercise

Whether you never got to be single because you met your partner young, you’ve been in a string of back-to-back relationships, or you’re longing for the freedom that supposedly comes with the single life, this episode is for you. Yes, you can absolutely feel freedom in a relationship, but it’s going to take radical responsibility on your part for your joy and aliveness. Tune in to discover how.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   Time Stamps:  2:10  Never having the opportunity to be single 4:10  Leaving your relationship to discover yourself 7:25 Self-care after a breakup 11:00 Ways to feel single in your relationship 14:48 Not being able to hook up with other people while in a relationship 19:10 Taking responsibility for your aliveness in a relationship

It's easy to focus on our partners and neglect our own “inner relationship.” In this episode, my friend Luci Lampe and I discuss the balance between our masculine and feminine sides - yin and yang - for a better partnership. We also talk about aspects of the feminine archetypes that live within all of us that are often shamed and exiled – like the “slut” and the “crazy bitch”-- and how to love and utilize these parts in ways that serve us, so we can be more authentic, free, and full of aliveness. Links:  Enroll in Wild Eros here:  https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Apply to work with me 1:1:  https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   Time Stamps: 5:33 What is masculine/feminine union, and why is it important? 18:30 Collaborating in our masculine and feminine strengths 22:25 Toxic contexts for polarity 27:30 Getting sideswept by other potential partners when you are in crisis 29:00 The difference between dumping your emotions on someone and revealing your heart 31:00 The three exiled parts of the feminine: the slut, the witch and the crazy bitch 38:30  Properly integrating the exiled parts of the feminine 44:34  Being attuned to your body: a key to self trust 48:50  Coming into union with the masculine

In this episode, I share the costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you’re addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for things you can do instead to re-ignite the spark in your relationship and not dampen it through reassurance-seeking.   Links:  Both Feet In: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Patreon - next call May 15: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Apply to work with me 1:1: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   2:28  Why do we seek assurance when we have relationship anxiety? 7:50  The hidden costs of assurance seeking 12:35  How assurance-seeking can make your partner seem less attractive to you 16:50  The importance of standing on your own two feet in terms of self-trust 20:00 The danger of becoming addicted to certainty 28:30  Healthier alternatives to assurance seeking 33:27 - Your partner is in their own process, they cannot come to your rescue  

In this episode, I unpack one of the biggest hidden myths I see in society: that commitment = lack of freedom. If you struggle with commitment, I will share with you some reasons why you might be struggling, as well as some shifts that have helped me become more confident in committing with my whole heart and building a life I love and deserve. If you want to attend my retreats in June or September, email me “RETREAT” to natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com and I will send you information. PATREON: http://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach Join Both Feet In here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Pick my brain on Wisio here: http://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach I’m taking new clients! Apply to work 1:1 with me here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie     3:28 Why my partner found it hard to commit at first 7:00 I did pick a partner who was serious about me 8:45 Wanting to move forward for societal reasons 10:35 Moving forward will not change your relationship issues 11:45 Common fears about commitment 13:25 How judging others can lead to fears of certain outcomes in your relationship 16:19 The stakes of never committing 19:00 The importance of having a vision for your own life 20:00 The benefits of wanting what you have while still desiring what you don’t have 22:50 My desire to create a legacy for myself 25:55 Cleanin up your side of the street 28:20 Regardless of how we feel, we know we have a life to build together 30:50 None of us are missing out 32:24 How making a commitment can grant you more freedom 35:15 You don’t need to have the certainty to proceed

In this episode, I chat with a dear friend of mine and coach, Sarah Yudkin, who has been inhabiting the relationship anxiety space with me for years! In this episode, we address the following: What is “the right” relationship and is that even the question we should be asking ourselves? What it means to make an aligned decision How does one discern whether or not a relationship is worth investing more time into? Find Sarah over at www.instagram.com/youloveandyoulearn   Other links: If you want to attend my retreats in June or September, email me “RETREAT” at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com Pick my brain on Wisio here: www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Apply to work 1:1 with me here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie

If you experience relationship anxiety, you might be familiar with the urge to try to change your partner so that you can feel better about your decision to be with them, and stop doubting the relationship so much! You’re not alone. It can be so hard to change this pattern, but I believe it can be done with some determination, patience, and humility. This episode can help you trust your partner (and your decisions) more, restore intimacy and closeness, and start moving you in the direction of the relationship you desire.   SUPER exciting: join me on Patreon! We will meet monthly for a hangout and Q/A where I (and our ALC family) can support and hold you through the experience of navigating love through uncertainty. First 50 patrons get permanent $5/month for all benefits of our top tier. Become a patron here: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach   Email me at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com to inquire about my retreats in Austria with my meditation teacher, Stefi Preiss, this summer.     5:42- Keeping your eyes on your paper and cleaning up your side of the street 6:30 -Feeling like you picked the wrong partner 10:00 - The three things I thought I could do to change my partner 16:30 - My desire for my partner to change 19:05 - Moving into the future and making empowering changes for yourself 20:25 - Your partner will not change if you try to change them 21:43 - Developing self-trust by overcoming adversity 23:00 - Imagine your inner controller who wants to control everything 24:00 - What are you afraid would happen if you stopped trying to control your partner? 26:00 - Some of the different methods of control that we use to control our partners 36:19 - The power of letting your partner make clean up their own messes 43:04 - “I will criticize my partner when I have stopped doing XYZ” 45:50 - The difference between wanting to delight you and not disappointing you 50:35 - Starting the Anxious Love Coach Patreon Fam 57:30 - Email me for more info on my Austria retreats in June and September

In this episode, I talk about the trap of “more is better” embedded in the honeymoon/vacation expectation and how that played out in our own honeymoon. It is my hope you can avoid this trap on your vacations! If you want to attend my retreats in June or September, email me “RETREAT” at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com Pick my brain on Wisio here: www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Apply to work 1:1 with me here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   4:33 - Looking for the extraordinary during vacations/honeymoons 8:28 - The more we sit in our wanting, the more there wanting we develop 9:30 - A quote on the desire for a more “conscious partner” 12:00 - The trap of having 15:10 - My honeymoon experience 20:00 - The importance of having separate lives in your partnership 25:40 - Seeking extraordinary experiences and how it affects your nervous system 27:40 - The note that I wrote to myself (and also all of you) during my honeymoon 32:20 - My Austria retreats on June 12-18 and September 4-10 35:07 - Ask me a question on Wisio 39:00 - Work with me one on one

This a fun episode for you – full of metaphors and nuanced relationship advice. Enjoy!   SALE on Programs through 2/22 - 3/25: 30% off with code HONEY30   https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days

The host opens up about their journey with relationship anxiety, emphasizing that healing is a continuous process. They share meaningful personal insights and a Chinese proverb that encourages patience through life's challenges. The discussion highlights the evolving nature of relationships and the importance of personal growth. Celebration of love takes center stage, alongside opportunities for online courses and retreats. The power of community in emotional healing is also explored, inviting listeners to engage and find support.