The Anxious Love Coach

In this episode, I talk about the trap of "more is better" embedded in the honeymoon/vacation expectation and how that played out in our own honeymoon. It is my hope you can avoid this trap on your vacations! If you want to attend my retreats in June or September, email me "RETREAT" at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com Pick my brain on Wisio here: www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Apply to work 1:1 with me here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie 4:33 - Looking for the extraordinary during vacations/honeymoons 8:28 - The more we sit in our wanting, the more there wanting we develop 9:30 - A quote on the desire for a more "conscious partner" 12:00 - The trap of having 15:10 - My honeymoon experience 20:00 - The importance of having separate lives in your partnership 25:40 - Seeking extraordinary experiences and how it affects your nervous system 27:40 - The note that I wrote to myself (and also all of you) during my honeymoon 32:20 - My Austria retreats on June 12-18 and September 4-10 35:07 - Ask me a question on Wisio 39:00 - Work with me one on one

This a fun episode for you – full of metaphors and nuanced relationship advice. Enjoy! SALE on Programs through 2/22 - 3/25: 30% off with code HONEY30 https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days

The host opens up about their journey with relationship anxiety, emphasizing that healing is a continuous process. They share meaningful personal insights and a Chinese proverb that encourages patience through life's challenges. The discussion highlights the evolving nature of relationships and the importance of personal growth. Celebration of love takes center stage, alongside opportunities for online courses and retreats. The power of community in emotional healing is also explored, inviting listeners to engage and find support.

In this episode, Luci Lampe, a sex and relationship coach (who I've worked with personally) hops on the ALC podcast to share the 5 stages of relationship evolution. As you listen, get curious in which stage you and your partner might be in. Relationship anxiety falls into one of these categories, but overcoming relationship anxiety isn't the end of the journey! It's just the beginning. I hope this episode will give you insights into the long haul of the relationship journey. You can enroll in Luci's programs through my affiliate link here: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej

Our obsession with authenticity is putting the responsibility of discerning "reality" vs. "not-reality" on creators – when this is not where our focus should be, as consumers. In this episode, I talk about how I think consumers' obsession with authenticity has gone too far – and if we could change the conversation around authenticity, we would have less FOMO and "shoulds" and be a heck of a lot happier. BOTH FEET IN Course https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Register for Quit Comparing Your Relationship in 7 days: A Telegram Challenge: February 8-14, 2023 https://anxiouslovecoachschool.teachable.com/p/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days

One of many reasons we may feel anxious in relationship: we're actually feeling resentful and not communicating our needs and boundaries at all, or effectively! In this episode, I break down what boundaries are as well as what they aren't, some perspective shifts for recovering people-pleasers, and ways to communicate your boundaries in ways that will feel like sacred gifts. BOTH FEET IN Course https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Register for Quit Comparing Your Relationship in 7 days: A Telegram Challenge: February 8-14, 2023 https://anxiouslovecoachschool.teachable.com/p/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days

In this episode, I talk about 'Fear of Missing Out' (FOMO) in partnership. In a society of (seeming) unlimited choices + constant comparison, it's no wonder there are so many wandering eyes and anxious minds, wondering if we got the short end of the stick. I talk about a few strategies you can use to feel more confident in your decision, break the fantasy spell, and be able to more easily focus on the gift of your relationship right in front of your face. Both Feet in Self Study Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Register for Quit Comparing Your Relationship in 7 days: http://anxiouslovecoachschool.teachable.com/p/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days

"Emotions" like anxiety and depression are often cover emotions for deeper emotions like grief and anger – and working through our resistance to these emotions so we can arrive at our "core" emotions can help us access our calm, compassionate self. In this episode, I bring on emotions educator Hilary Jacobs Hendel, author of "It's Not Always Depression," to give you tangible tools for working through anxiety and depression to have a richer emotional experience. Some extra resources: Why Can't I Shut Off My Mind? https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/post/2018/03/03/why-can-t-i-shut-off-my-mind It's Not Always Depression, Sometimes It's Shame (NYT OpEd): https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/its-not-always-depression-sometimes-its- It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect With Your Authentic Self (Random House & Penguin UK): https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Always-Depression-Authentic/dp/0399588140/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3UXPWILNH27FU&keywords=its+not+always+depression+by+hilary+jacobs+hendel&qid=1673190622&sprefix=%2Caps%2C151&sr=8-1 Print out the Change Triangle: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/print-the-change-triangle Facilitate Emotions Education 101 Classes with the Emotions Education 101 Turnkey Curriculum: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/ee101-train-the-trainer-course

Although we may be entering a new year, this season is still about death and endings, and if we're resistant to that, we may experience more anxiety than usual. In this episode, I speak to how death and endings are an important piece to the conversation when we are moving out of anxiety and into a rich inner experience. Find me on Youtube

You guys– I'm absolutely HONORED to be having Somatic Sex Educator and author, Dr. Betty Martin, on the podcast today, to be dissecting giving and receiving today. Her book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, has completely shifted how I look at my own patterns of giving and receiving in partnership, as well as expanded my intimacy skills with myself and other. A big component of self-trust in partnership is being able to articulate our desires, fears, boundaries, and to confront our belief systems on worthiness. All of which will be covered in this episode. Enjoy! BOTH FEET IN: You can purchase Betty's book here