The Anxious Love Coach

In this episode, I bring on one of my best friends and also colleagues sharing the relationship anxiety space to discuss the #1 question we both get asked in this field of work: Is it “just” relationship anxiety or are there legitimate problems in my relationship?  We share why this is the wrong question to be asking yourself – and what you should be asking instead. We hope to bring you a lot of clarity and nuanced ways to look at this! With all our love… we may trigger you a bit!   Follow Chelsea on Instagram HERE: @healing.embodied   Links: Register for TRIGGERED TO TRUTH (5 week group program for unpacking triggers in relationship): https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/triggeredtotruth Enroll in BOTH FEET IN (signature self-study course for overcoming relationship anxiety): https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Register for ALIVENESS FROM WITHIN (5-day women’s retreat in California): https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within

A question we’ve had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empowers you, and discard what doesn’t. This conversation has lots of context and nuance I can’t possibly cover in one episode! Links: Register for TRIGGERED TO TRUTH (5 week group program for unpacking triggers in relationship): https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/triggeredtotruth Enroll in BOTH FEET IN (signature self-study course for overcoming relationship anxiety): https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Register for ALIVENESS FROM WITHIN (5-day women’s retreat in California): https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within

Do you find that no matter how much you learn about your relationship anxiety, listen to podcasts, read books or try to 'do the work you still feel triggered by your partner? In this episode, my amazing co-coach Sheridan and I discuss how your nervous system affects your thoughts, emotions and actions in a relationship and how to use your triggers to help you find more peace and connection in your partnership. We also discuss our new program: Triggered To Truth - a 5-week container to unpack your triggers in relationships, feel safe loving and being loved, and drop your unconscious relational patterns. Led by Sheridan, it's our first program open for men, women and gender non-binary. We are SO excited. Learn more at www.anxiouslovecoach.com/triggeredtotruth And, if you’re ready to join me this November 8-13th in California for Aliveness from Within… ENROLL HERE: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within

In this podcast, Sheridan (ALC's wonderful co-coach) discusses the following: - Why reality TV (such as Love Is Blind, Married At First Sight, The Ultimatum, 90 day Fiance) based around relationships trigger you - The truth about the contestant's emotional experience that we aren't often told. - A 3 step process for moving through your triggers. We'll be sharing more information on how to work through these triggers over the next few months - make sure you're subscribed to the podcast and follow us on IG @anxiouslovecoach

In this episode, I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety.   Links mentioned: Enroll in Aliveness from Within HERE: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within Enroll in Luci Lampe’s programs HERE: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej Foria Wellness 20% off: http://aspireiq.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=7178&aff_id=17813

Have you ever picked a fight with your partner after a Netflix binge? Has a show ever sent you down a spiral of doubts about your own relationship? In this podcast, Sheridan (our amazing co-coach here at ALC) reviews the show How I Met Your Mother and how it might be triggering to you. What has been helpful/triggering for you about How I Met Your Mother or other shows? Sheridan will be doing at least one or two more of these so podcast DM us over on Instagram @anxiouslovecoach your suggestions/comments.

In this dark, hysterical episode, my BFF/fellow relationship anxiety alchemist (and dance/movement therapist) Chelsea Joy Horton and I share the shadow side of nitpicking and the pleasure we might derive out of it if we were to become more conscious about it. Get ready to (maybe) get triggered and laugh your ass off as we discuss our outrageous fantasies that we get off to in real life.   Definitely DON'T go follow Chelsea over at @healing.embodied on Instagram or www.healingembodied.com. It's terrible and full of wisdom you definitely don't want. And definitely DON'T go subscribe to her new podcast either.   Also if you loved this episode you will definitely hate my upcoming womens' retreat in California that is open for enrollment here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within...

I’M BACK! I’ve gone through some huge transitions: got married, packed up and headed back abroad, and had a giant polarizing flip of dynamics in my relationship. In this episode, I catch you up AND share how important polarity is in your relationship in order to feel attraction. We’re just getting started. To join me in California Nov 8-13th for my women's retreat, Aliveness from Within, register here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within

A new season of the Anxious Love Coach!

I am thrilled to welcome a dear friend, mentor, and previous guest of mine — Luci Lampe. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually.   I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure practice through diligently taking Luci's course "Come As You Are" and have seen incredible results. I've decided to be an ambassador and highly endorse Luci's gifts in this arena ;) To enroll, use this link: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej