The Anxious Love Coach

In this episode, I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so. Patreon next call December 9 @ 11am PST: patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach Get a personalized video response: wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Both Feet In - Abridged: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged use the code BLACKFRIDAY20 for 20% off until 12/10/23 11:59 pm PST Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach Time Stamps: 4:15 Relationship anxiety as a spiritual calling 7:25 If you want to be comfortable with anxiety, you must be comfortable with loss and feeling "naked" 16:00 The myth of "when you know, you'll know" 29:00 Being free of anxiety means you just say "yes'" to what is 30:25 How to be with disappointment 38:15 Both Feet In - Abridged

Are you feeling an intense urge to break up right before Thanksgiving or winter break? You're not alone. It's actually very common! In this episode, I outline some common reasons behind holiday break-up urges and what you can do instead. Patreon: patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach Get a personalized video response: wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Email me to get on the waiting list for early bird BFI rate at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach Time Stamps: 3:00 Breaking up and coming back to my partner during the holidays 7:40 How the holidays can bring up difficult feelings about your relationship 13:00 Wanting control over your life 19:40 What to do when you have breakup urges during the holidays 28:04 Earlybird discount for the upcoming Both Feet In coaching program

If you: -are with someone struggling with relationship anxiety/ROCD and want to do your part... -were broken up with because of someone's RA... -are struggling with RA, but want to see what your partner's "work" is... -want to look at your RA from an outsider's perspective... ... then this episode is for you! Links: Submit a Wisio here Next Irvine, CA donations class - movement, breath, discussion, lunch Irvine Oct 29 10am PST NEXT PATREON CALL: Nov 5 @ 11am PST Exclusive content + monthly coaching (my husband is jumping on at 150 patrons and we are SO CLOSE.) Time Stamps: 4:26 Being the most attracted to my partner when he was more selfish 7:51 Your partner's relationship anxiety is not your fault/this person is wounded and trying to resolve their issues through you 12:40 Tools for a person whose partner has relationship anxiety 15:14 Keep focusing on yourself 20:00 Become ok with them leaving 24:10 Let control and let your partner be without trying to fix them 28:15 There is always the option to leave 31:12 You can still stay out of their inner process while still staying in the relationship 36:50 Don't try to control your ex-partner if they break up with you by telling them they have relationship anxiety 39:23 My upcoming Both Feet In program in January

In this episode, my friend and other relationship anxiety practitioner, Chelsea Horton over at Healing Embodied, and I share our counter-cultural relationship beliefs that have served us well and brought us deep peace in our long-term partnerships. This episode was recorded as a joint effort - meaning it showed up on both our podcasts, and there is no formal host. Enjoy 🙂 Links: Ask me anything and receive a 10 min video response: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Join my Patreon! We host monthly meetings on Zoom https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Time Stamps: 7:00 Taking a non-entitled perspective on relationships 12:00 Creating a culture of gratitude in your relationship 14:30 #1 saying thank you to your partner even if you deserve what he/she gives 16:00 #2 I receive what I am given (say yes to what is 25:05 #3 I don't need my partner to have similar interests to me in order to be happy 40:15 #4 I "settled" and I am deeply fulfilled (redefine what settling means to you) 46:55 #5 Trying to make my partner what I think they should be is not love, it is control 50:55 #6 I am 100% responsible for my own aliveness and pleasure 1:01:00 #7 I am okay with my partner not being perfect and fully evolved

I really should have titled this, "10 ways Natalie is controlling." Ha! I hope you enjoy this episode. If you want to practice trusting your partner more, I give you 10 examples of ways to do this based on mistakes I've made. Listen to this episode, save your energy and breath and grant yourself relational/marital peace. Links: Wisio is hosting a sale! Ask me anything for 10% off: Code: FALL23 https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Next Patreon group coaching call at Oct 8th, 11am PST/2pm EST https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Time Stamps: 2:45 Thinking of my unsolicited feedback as helpful 5:00 The difference between letting go of control and tolerating disrespect 7:56 Trying to control my partner's bedtime and waking time 16:06 Policing my partner's food choices 18:01 Coaching my partner when we are out having fun 20:01 Undoing what my partner does and redoing it 21:40 Sending my partner relationship advice 24:00 Making sure that my partner did what his mother asked of him 25:20 Telling my partner how to act towards his friends 26:45 Controlling how my partner cooks 29:00 Trying to have my partner open up and have a deep conversation against his will 31:55 Trying to get my partner to be more present with me 39:30 Hosting a mindful movement class in Orange County

In this episode, I share how the lack of sisterhood/brotherhood/community can contribute to relationship anxiety and dissatisfaction, and how to cultivate it. Links: Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Next Patreon group coaching call at Oct 8th, 11am PST/2pm EST https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Time Stamps: 5:00 Losing the passion in your relationship 8:10 The importance of a brotherhood and sisterhood 11:00 Attempts to fill the relationship void with outside sources 15:59 Unworthiness wounds and how they prevent us from accepting love 17:30 Your man will never understand what it's like to be a woman and you will never understand what it's like to be a man 20:30 How a lack of sisterhood can lead to nitpicking 24:30 The Anxious Love Coach Patreon

In this episode, I share a simple question that will help you ground yourself in reality, and actually move forward with life, if you're stuck on the fence over your relationship. Links: Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Next Patreon group coaching call - September 20th @ 9am: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Time Stamps: 2:48 Wanting to control or change my partner in order to continue in the relationship 3:58 Disclaimers about abusive relationships 7:56 Dealing with resentment in your relationship by "being on the fence" 9:45 Reasons we feel like we need to be in control of our partners 10:25 What to do when you're on the fence 13:05 A question you can ask yourself if you're on the fence

In this episode, I talk about the curvature of expectations held in marriage/partnership over the centuries, and how in this day and age, it is beneficial, in some ways, to lower your expectations. I also address the "alpha male" and "high value man" conversation, and why we ought to be cautious and discerning about it. If you wish your partner was more spiritual or brought home more money, this episode will bring you some perspective, and how lowering your expectations will paradoxically open you up to receive MORE than you ever dreamed of in your partnership. Links: Also, it's my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31 until August 31: Conscious Communication Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Both Feet In Relationship Anxiety Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Quit Comparing Your Relationship Challenge: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Join my Patreon here for more content and live monthly calls: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Time Stamps: 3:00 Being happy with a loving, nonabusive, stable partner 5:25 Having both masculine and feminine sides to yourself 7:23 Ways I would "test" my partner in the past 16:00 Wanting your partner to "be more masculine" 18:12 The dangers of seeing your relationship as a competition 25:25 My thoughts on the new Barbie film 32:00 Social messages telling us to be extraordinary 33:23 Holding a desire for the life that you want vs. having expectations of your partner 36:50 The feminine will always want more 39:45 Don't compare your nuanced relationship to a polarizing fantasy

What makes a partner "good enough" to settle down with? It's common knowledge (especially if you listen to my podcast often) that "perfect" isn't a realistic standard to search for when choosing a long-term partner. While your choice of partner is one of the most important choices you'll ever make, it doesn't mean you're settling if you chose "good enough." The question is, where is the line between "good enough" and "settling?" In this episode, I didn't necessarily draw that line for you, but gave you some different things to think about. I am hopeful that it will bring you some clarity and material for discussing with your partner when deciding whether or not to move forward. [I recorded this on a hot delirium of a day with no AC. I went on a tangent a couple of times. Forgive me!... or maybe you'll love them. Lol.] Links: Also, it's my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31 until August 31: Conscious Communication Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Both Feet In Relationship Anxiety Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Quit Comparing Your Relationship Challenge: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Join my Patreon here for more content and live monthly calls: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Time Stamps: 1:45 Good enough versus perfect 4:00 Wanting contradictory things out of our partner 9:00 Having a "boring"/socially awkward partner 12:03 Going through different seasons of your life with your partner 16:12 Dating in your 20s vs your 30s+ 19:34 Looks are important but the men who want to build a life with you will look for substance 21:00 Not knowing what you want in your 20s 24:18 Questions to ask yourself if you're trying to figure out if your partner is "good enough" to settle down with 32:45 Women often mature more quickly than men 37:19 Dealing with incompatibilities 43:40 Being lead in your relationship in a nonabusive context

In this episode, I share how polarizing, black-and-white content on social media is pinning people against each other. I will also admit that I fell prey to this and started a fight with my husband before recording this episode. I also share what I learned from it and how I plan to do better. Links: Also, it's my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31: Conscious Communication Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication Both Feet In Relationship Anxiety Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Quit Comparing Your Relationship Challenge: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days Ask me a question: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program Join my Patreon here for more content and live monthly calls: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Time Stamps: 6:50 The fights that my husband and I have had 10:25 Some of the messages I've received about men from social media 15:59 The fight that we had today 22:45 How your pain can activate your partner's pain 24:00 The importance of taking space when needed during arguments 31:50 The overwhelming fear of getting the short end of the stick in relationships 34:00 Nuanced content does not get attention on social media 36:55 Keeping the assumption that your partner loves you more than anything 41:00 Learning how to better have arguments