Becoming A Better Man

In this episode we talk about how the pain we know is preferred over the risk of potential pain that we don't know, because we haven't experienced it yet. Our minds and our bodies crave what is familiar and what is predictable.⁣ It doesn't matter if that's a positive habit or relationship in our lives or a negative one.⁣ Just think about it...why is it SO hard to get out of a toxic relationship or friendship or workplace? Why is it so hard to exercise 3-5 days per week and put a little more thought into how we fuel our bodies?⁣ One of the big factors is that it's predictable. It's painful and frustrating, but we can predict that and it's familiar. To support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

Sh!t happens, men. You’re going to get the short end of the stick, screwed over, underestimated, and taken advantage of. You can’t escape it, but how do you cope with it? Whatever the circumstances are, you can either become bitter or use them to become better. To support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

Look, breakups suck. Let's get that out of the way. But hear me out...what if that breakup was the BEST thing to ever happen to you? What if it sparked your revitalization onto the path you were called to go forward on? In this episode we talk about how that's possible.  To support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

Where we often go wrong in relationships…"Real men are big and strong and never show their emotions!" This leads to emotionally unavailable men and shallow connections for fear of being judged. I’ll go even further and say it’s due to a fear of being hurt...yet this ultimately hurts us and our partners as the relationship deteriorates. When we try to avoid our emotions and hide behind walls, we lack a deep sense of who we really are at our core. So we have to assign ourselves to the role of the tough guy and think it's "hurt or be hurt." In this episode, we go into how that couldn't be more wrong and the importance of being emotionally available for our partners and ourselves. To support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

Guys, we are really good at starting things we're passionate about. Almost too good. Actually, so good sometimes that we start off going all-out in things that don't really have a finite end point. So what happens? We burn up all our energy and burn out. We'll say it didn't work, or it was a stupid goal. But what if it wasn't a stupid goal? What if it was not the goal at all, but was the system we employed to try and get there that was to blame? Change is hard, especially when we're trying to set out for something that isn't easy to achieve, like optimal physical health. Not perfect...optimal. It all starts with a system that weaves new habits into the fabric of your days. Without the right system, we're sprinting another marathon only to quit and fail again. If you want to support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

Guys, I want to challenge you this episode to stop pandering and seeking mass appeal. Instead, look into why you can't seem to make a decision without running it "up the flagpole" for approval from other's first. Do you trust your gut? Do you hop on the bandwagon? Do you stand firm in your principles and values or do you waver to avoid conflict? Real leaders lead in situations where no one else wants to because it may not be the popular thing to do. It's not for the faint of heart, especially when you don't know what's in your heart intuitively. If you want to support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

How many times have you messed up and had to apologize to someone? If you know that number, you're doing something wrong because the answer is "a lot"! In this episode we'll talk about how our way of apologizing is all wrong and how these 3 things we can do in the moment can go a long way in starting to apologize like a real man. If you want to support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

I've wrestled with when to share the story about how I struggled to create this new movement, but it's time you all knew how a physical therapist went from being wrapped up in ego and image to an admittedly work-in-progress online fitness and men's coach. If you want to support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

Guys, this episode is all about how we are so good at knowing where we want to end up, or what we want to achieve, that we usually have little to no idea where we are right now. As in, how well do we know ourselves? What drives our actions and reactions? What holds us back from reaching the destination? To get where we want to get, we have to know our starting point with great precision. Setting the waypoint is great in your GPS, but without the ability to detect your current location, you're just dropping a pin on a map and hoping you find it. If you want to support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support

Men, I wish this was a deeply inspiring episode about how your personal growth and your business will grow exponentially by how you prioritize your time...because it can. The truth is, we can be a little too focused on business and other problems that may arise, while paying very little attention to the ones closest to us. Yes, your business and career need attention. Yes, your friends and relatives need attention. Yes, your hobbies need attention. Those are all good things! The issue is when those things take up the majority of your attention, time, and energy...while your partner and your kids get the leftovers. These relationships, no matter how solid, will erode over time if not nurtured and taken care of. They have to feel like they're the utmost priority and importance, even when they can't have your time. How do we do this? By making our actions speak louder than our words in support of backing up what we say about how much we care about them. We can't get by with "they know how I feel about them" because it takes daily intentional effort. Better men communicate and then act on those words.  If you want to support the podcast - https://anchor.fm/becomingabetterman/support