

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Oct 1, 2024 • 21min
Engaged Indifference: The Key to Avoiding Escalation
Episode #882 Ever feel like every disagreement with your wife spirals out of control? It doesn't have to be that way. In this episode, we’ll break down engaged indifference—a game-changing mindset that keeps you from getting sucked into unnecessary conflict. You’ll learn how to avoid falling into "DEER mode" (defend, excuse, explain, react) and stay calm, even when your wife’s in a mood. Plus, I’ll teach you how to help her shift from masculine energy into a more peaceful, feminine space, which is key for better communication. These small adjustments can make a huge difference. Tune in and find out how to build a more connected, peaceful relationship. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 28, 2024 • 21min
From Parenting to Partnership: Embracing the Empty Nest
Episode #881 Ever feel like you're lying next to a stranger, even though you're just inches apart? It’s common for couples, especially as they become empty nesters. But what if you could avoid that growing emotional gap before it’s too late? In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about navigating marriage as an empty nester. I’ll break down why couples tend to drift and share practical steps to rekindle that spark and intimacy. You’ll get tools to figure out where your marriage stands, avoid the mistakes most guys make when their wives pull away, and how to get back to dating your wife again. Whether you’re heading into the empty nest phase or just want a stronger connection, this is for you. Tune in for insights on: - Why emotional distance creeps into long-term marriages - The common traps men fall into when their wives start drifting - How to bring back intimacy, even when it feels like the fire’s gone Don’t miss this chance to strengthen your marriage. Listen now! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 26, 2024 • 23min
The Art of Reconciliation: Dating Your Ex After Separation
Episode #880 Ever catch yourself wondering when it’s the right time to start dating your wife again after a separation or divorce? It’s tough, especially when you’re trying to prove you’ve changed without seeming needy or desperate. In this episode, we tackle a question from a listener about navigating the waters of dating your wife post-separation. We’ll dive into how to ditch “deer mode” (where you’re defending, excusing, explaining, and reacting) and instead step into “wolf mode”—wise, open, loving, and fierce. Plus, we’ll dig into why it’s crucial to address the real issues in your relationship and make sure your own cup is full before you attempt to rekindle the flame. If you’re separated or newly divorced but still see a shot at reconciliation, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you make moves and rebuild from a place of confidence. Tune in to learn how to reconnect with your wife the right way, and why filling your own cup first is the key to becoming the man she truly desires. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 24, 2024 • 20min
From Good to Great: The Blueprint for Becoming the Ideal Man
Episode #879 Ever catch yourself thinking your wife’s the one who needs to change to fix your marriage? What if the real answer is in becoming the man you’re capable of being instead? In this episode, we dive into self-improvement as the key to turning your marriage around and becoming the husband your wife can’t help but respect. You’ll discover how taking action to become your best self is the real catalyst for change in your relationship. We’ll cover the gap between who you are now and the man you want to be, why the journey is everything, and how even the smallest habits can inspire your wife to grow with you. If you’re ready to stop blaming and start leading by example, this one’s for you. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 21, 2024 • 12min
Respect Restored: The Game-Changing Actions Every Man Must Take
Episode #878 Are you feeling like you're losing respect at home—from your wife, your kids, or maybe even from yourself? You spend hours dialing in your financial game, but are you neglecting the relationships that matter most? In this episode, I’m diving into a tough question a lot of men face: where did the respect go, and how are you going to get it back? I’m sharing why it’s just as important to invest in your marriage and relationships as it is to invest in your finances. You’ll hear the story of a guy who spent six months learning to day trade, yet rated his marriage a 6 out of 10. What does that tell us about priorities? Here’s what you’ll learn: Why respect erodes when you avoid action in the key areas of life. The excuses men make when they dodge relationship work. Actionable steps to regain respect in your marriage, family, and life. How investing in relationships can bring more rewards than any financial gain. It’s time to stop talking and start doing—because respect starts with you. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 19, 2024 • 15min
Stop Chasing, Start Leading: How to Shift Your Marriage Energy
Episode #877 Are you constantly seeking your wife’s approval, only to feel her slipping further away? Ever wonder why your best intentions seem to push her even more? In this episode, we're breaking down the common trap men fall into: neediness. That anxious energy repels her, even when you're trying your hardest. We’ll talk about how to stop chasing and start leading as the grounded man she’s naturally drawn to. We’ll dive into the key concept of polarity in relationships and how flipping your approach can reignite the spark between you. Plus, you’ll get clear steps to lead your marriage without having to chase or fix everything. Here's what you’ll discover: Why chasing her isn’t working—and how it’s actually driving her away. The power of polarity and how to restore balance in your relationship. How to stop relying on her for validation and step into your own power. A simple, proven method to turn things around—no endless talks required. It’s time to stop chasing and start leading. Tune in and learn how to transform your marriage from the inside out. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 17, 2024 • 22min
Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes: How TPM Sparks True Change
Episode #876 Feeling stuck, like you’re spinning your wheels and nothing’s moving forward? What if the answer isn’t in fixing everything around you, but in looking inward and finding the strength you’ve always had? In this episode, Justin shares his personal journey from chasing outside validation to tapping into his own power. Through his experience at the Alpha Reset, Justin not only grew as a mentor but discovered powerful lessons from the men he was helping. His story proves that real, lasting change happens when you shift your focus to what's inside. We dive into: Why change starts with you, not with external solutions. The impact of letting go and trusting the process—even when it’s uncomfortable. How taking care of yourself first improves everything, from your marriage to being a better father. Actionable steps to get off the sidelines and start making decisions that truly move the needle. If you’re tired of just coasting through life and ready to make real changes, this episode will show you how focusing on yourself can lead to stronger relationships, more success, and the kind of life you’ve been craving. It’s time to take that first step. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 14, 2024 • 24min
Forever Transformed: Stories of Unending Growth with TPM
Episode #875 In this episode, we share inspiring, real-life stories of men who’ve gone from the brink of losing everything to experiencing massive transformations in their relationships, businesses, and personal lives. These are men who took action, breaking free from the cycles of frustration, disconnection, and stress that had been holding them back. You’ll hear how these men reignited their passion for life, rebuilt their marriages, and rediscovered their purpose. Through the teachings of The Powerful Man, they learned that true transformation is not just about saving a marriage or overcoming a rough patch—it’s about continuous, unending growth. Doug and Tim explain how these men embraced the hard truths about themselves and stepped up as leaders in their homes, businesses, and communities. This episode goes deep into the challenges that married men, especially business owners, face when juggling the demands of work, family, and personal fulfillment. Whether it’s overcoming feelings of inadequacy, reconnecting with a distant spouse, or finding peace amidst the chaos, this conversation provides practical strategies and mindset shifts that can lead to lasting change. Perfect for men feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or on the verge of giving up, this episode serves as a reminder that it’s never too late to take control of your life. The path to unending growth is always available—you just have to take the first step. Listen in, get inspired, and begin your own journey of transformation today. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 12, 2024 • 25min
Turning Life Around: How TPM Changed Everything
Episode #874 In this episode, we hear the inspiring journey of Kelly Disiewich who was on the verge of losing it all—his marriage, his business, and his identity. Feeling disconnected from his wife and overwhelmed by stress, he was stuck in a cycle of frustration, resentment, and hopelessness. Like many men, he thought he was doing everything right, but nothing seemed to work. That’s when he discovered The Powerful Man program, and everything changed. Hear how he transformed his life, reignited the passion in his marriage, and reclaimed his leadership both at home and in his business. We break down the exact steps and mindset shifts that allowed him to go from a man on the brink of collapse to one who now lives with clarity, purpose, and renewed energy. This episode is packed with actionable insights for any man who feels like he’s just “going through the motions,” unsure of how to fix his relationship or regain control over his life. From reigniting intimacy with his wife to reigniting his personal drive and ambition, this episode covers it all. Whether you’re struggling in your marriage, your career, or just feeling lost, this story will show you that change is not only possible—it’s within your control. Join us as we explore the power of stepping up, taking action, and turning your life around. Tune in to hear a story of hope, transformation, and the strength of a man who decided to stop waiting for things to get better and took action to change his life forever. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 10, 2024 • 11min
Avoid Speaking Bad About Your Spouse: Protecting Your Marriage
Episode #873 In this episode, we dive into a critical, yet often overlooked, aspect of a healthy marriage: how you speak about your spouse in public. Doug unpacks the subtle but damaging habit of putting down your partner in front of others, whether it’s during casual conversations or venting frustrations. He shares real-life examples of how these behaviors not only degrade your relationship but also undermine trust and loyalty. Learn the importance of lifting up your spouse, reinforcing loyalty, and setting the right tone in your relationship. Doug offers practical steps to recognize when you're being critical and how to shift towards being a supportive partner. Whether you're dealing with resentment, insecurity, or simply caught in a negative cycle, this episode provides the insights needed to turn things around. If you're serious about protecting your marriage and want to stop the downward spiral of negativity, tune in to this transformative conversation. Take action today and see the positive changes in your relationship. As always, in moments of insight, take massive action! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.