

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Nov 23, 2024 • 26min
Redefining Manhood: The Emotional Evolution
Episode #905 Why do so many men feel like their efforts at home go unnoticed? In this episode, we dive deep into the challenges men face when their relationships feel stuck. Joined by Coach Chris, we explore how cultural ideas of manhood often miss the mark when it comes to emotional connection. Chris shares his transformative journey from feeling trapped in repeating patterns to unlocking a new understanding of himself—and his marriage. You’ll learn: Why being a provider and protector isn’t enough. The role of emotional safety in a thriving relationship. How taking ownership of your own growth can transform your marriage. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t she just accept me for who I am?” this episode will challenge you to see things differently. Take the first step toward the relationship—and life—you really want. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 21, 2024 • 51min
Breaking Free from Validation: The Power of Self-Acceptance
Episode #904 Do you find yourself constantly looking for approval from your wife, partner, or even co-workers? How does this impact your confidence and your relationships? In this episode, Doug and Mark break down the deeply ingrained habits many men have around seeking validation—especially from women. They explore the reasons behind this behavior, including childhood influences, societal conditioning, and the lack of true self-awareness. You’ll learn actionable steps to: Build inner confidence and self-validation. Create emotional safety in your relationships. Understand the transformative power of grounded masculinity. Develop practices that connect you to your authentic self. Mark also shares personal stories and expert coaching tips to help you stop looking outward for affirmation and start building a foundation of self-trust and inner strength. Listen now to discover how to show up powerfully for yourself—and as the man your family and partner need. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 19, 2024 • 12min
Revisit: Beyond The Material: Making Your Woman Feel Seen, Heard, And Desired
Episode #903 What does it really mean to make your wife feel seen, heard, and desired? And why is it the most powerful gift you can give her—on any day of the year? In this episode, we explore how understanding and connecting with your wife on a deeper level transforms not only your marriage but your entire household's energy. You'll learn practical ways to ensure she feels appreciated, understood, and desired in your daily interactions. Doug shares personal stories, actionable tips (like using tools to stay in tune with her world), and a proven three-step formula to help your wife feel valued and fulfilled. Plus, you'll discover how this practice creates a cycle of love, intimacy, and connection that benefits you both. Whether it’s for Mother’s Day, her birthday, or just an ordinary Tuesday—this approach will elevate your relationship. Listen now to start showing up for your wife in ways that matter most. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 16, 2024 • 31min
Growing Together: The Art of Relationship Accountability
Episode #902 Do you struggle to communicate your needs in your relationship? In this episode, we dive into the art of creating clear agreements and holding each other accountable in a way that strengthens your relationship instead of causing conflict. You’ll learn: Why getting clear on your needs is the first step to better communication. How to navigate tough conversations with your wife without triggering defensiveness. Tips for making accountability feel supportive rather than controlling. Why mutual growth is essential for a thriving relationship. We also share personal stories, actionable insights, and strategies you can start using today to improve connection and create a deeper, more intentional relationship. Listen in and discover how small changes in clarity and communication can transform the way you show up in your marriage. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 14, 2024 • 24min
Beyond the Ceiling: Understanding and Overcoming Upper Limits
Episode #901 Ever find yourself stuck at a certain level in your career, fitness, or relationships, no matter how hard you try? In this episode, Tim and his guests dive into the concept of "upper limits"—the mental and emotional barriers that often keep us from achieving our potential. Together, they discuss why we sometimes sabotage our own success, fall back into bad habits, or resist progress even when we want it. You’ll learn about: The power of self-imposed labels and how they create mental "ceilings" Why hitting a plateau is often more about your mindset than your skills The role of nervous system conditioning in keeping you from moving forward Actionable steps to break through personal limits, including building a support system and refocusing on what really drives you Whether it’s in business, fitness, or relationships, this conversation will help you uncover what's holding you back and what you can do to keep reaching new heights. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 12, 2024 • 16min
Revisit: Grow Together By Growing Apart: Personal Development As The Key To Saving Your Marriage
Episode #900 Has your marriage hit a rut again? Feeling like you’re both just coasting? Sometimes the answer isn’t in fixing the relationship directly but in reigniting your own spark. In this revisited episode, we’re going back to the basics of personal growth as the hidden key to a thriving marriage. When you work on becoming a better version of yourself—whether through new hobbies, health goals, or simply shaking up your routine—you bring fresh energy to your relationship. And trust me, your partner will notice. Join us as we dive into practical ways to invest in yourself so you can reignite that connection with your wife. If you’re ready to shake things up, this episode is for you. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 9, 2024 • 25min
Woman's POV: What To Do When Your Wife Says She Needs Space
Episode #899 Ever feel like you’re walking on eggshells when your wife says she needs space? Should you pull her in closer or let her go? In this episode, Doug and his wife, Erin, dive into what’s really going on when women say they need space and the kind of response that makes a difference. Erin shares her perspective as a coach working with married women and offers insights on what women often actually want in these moments. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “I need space” can mean different things depending on the situation The balance between respecting her boundaries and showing her she’s loved How to read your wife’s emotional cues (and when to pull her in close) The power of showing up with a calm, grounded presence in difficult moments Doug and Erin’s conversation is a straightforward guide to navigating those sensitive situations with empathy, humor, and confidence. If you’re ready to better understand your wife and take real action, this episode is for you. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 7, 2024 • 26min
Woman's POV: What To Do When Your Wife Doesn't Notice The Changes You're Making
Episode #898 Are you putting in the work to improve yourself, only to feel like your wife doesn’t notice the changes? You’re not alone. Many men experience this frustration, wondering why their efforts to be better partners go unacknowledged. In this episode, Doug and Erin Holt dive into the reasons behind this disconnect. Erin shares insights from a woman’s perspective, highlighting the importance of communication, consistency, and focusing on what truly impacts your relationship. You’ll learn how to recognize if your efforts are coming across clearly—or if you’re missing the mark. Erin also reveals why your wife might feel skeptical or even fearful when you start showing up differently and how you can reassure her through openness and consistency. Tune in for practical steps you can take to make sure your partner feels your commitment. It's about showing up fully and keeping your energy, focus, and intentions clear. In this episode, we cover: Why your wife might feel hesitant about your changes The importance of communicating your “why” behind personal growth How to avoid common pitfalls when trying to win back trust Practical ways to prove your commitment for the long term __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 5, 2024 • 28min
Woman's POV: How To Unlock The Next Level of Passion with Your Wife
Episode #897 Are you and your partner feeling a disconnect in the bedroom? Many couples experience this, often without fully understanding why. In this episode, Erin joins me to dive into the deep differences in emotional and physical needs between men and women. We explore how these needs shape intimacy and connection in relationships and, most importantly, how recognizing and honoring those differences can bring you closer. In this episode, you'll learn: Why men often feel connected through sex, while women generally seek connection before intimacy How cultural narratives can create misunderstandings about male sexuality The importance of emotional safety in a relationship and why it directly impacts your sex life Practical ways to "break the cycle" of trading needs for needs and start meeting each other's needs out of genuine love and respect How a supportive environment at home can foster more passion and deeper connection in the bedroom Join us as we break down the real-life strategies for cultivating a fulfilling, intimate connection in marriage, and start seeing your relationship in a whole new light. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 2, 2024 • 29min
Revisit Mask Off Defeating Imposter Syndrome and Embracing Your True Potential
Episode #896 Remember the last time we talked about imposter syndrome? Let’s dive back in for a deeper look. In this revisited episode, we reconnect on the powerful topic of imposter syndrome, sharing new insights, stories, and tools to help you tackle self-doubt and start living as your true self. Even the most accomplished men deal with feeling “not good enough,” but these feelings don’t have to keep you from reaching your full potential. We’ll discuss why imposter syndrome often returns at each new level of success and how having a community of supportive, like-minded men can make all the difference. In this episode, we cover: Real ways imposter syndrome impacts success, family, and fulfillment Simple tools to track your “wins” and reclaim self-confidence Why a strong support network of men helps you stay grounded Actionable steps to quiet self-doubt and focus on progress __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.