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Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Feb 1, 2025 • 24min
Revisit: When Will She Finally Realize Your Greatness?
Episode #935 This powerful episode struck a chord with so many of you, so we’re bringing it back for another listen. How long does it take for someone to truly believe you’ve changed? In this revisited episode, Doug unpacks the story of a man determined to rebuild his marriage after years of emotional distance. Despite his efforts, his wife remains cautious—why is trust so hard to regain, and how do you earn it back? Doug revisits the critical lessons about consistency, vulnerability, and showing up as your authentic self. Discover why even small missteps can trigger old fears, and learn how calling out your own imperfections can pave the way to deeper connection and trust. Whether you’re rebuilding a relationship or striving to be the best version of yourself, this timeless episode is packed with actionable advice to help you lead with confidence and authenticity. 🎧 Tune in for a second look at this game-changing conversation. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jan 30, 2025 • 30min
Revisit: Woman's POV: Choosing Sides-Navigating the Parent-Child Bond in Marriage
Episode #934 We’re revisiting an episode that hit home for so many listeners: what happens when your marriage starts feeling off balance because one partner seems more focused on the kids than the relationship? Doug and Erin Holt tackle this all-too-common dynamic with fresh insights and timeless advice. They explore why this happens—unmet emotional needs, the identity shifts of parenthood, and societal pressures—and, more importantly, how to fix it. If your relationship feels strained, this episode will remind you why protecting your marriage is vital—not just for you and your partner, but for your kids too. Rediscover actionable strategies, from creating intentional time together to setting healthy boundaries, and learn how to reconnect in ways that strengthen your bond and set a powerful example for your family. Let this episode inspire you to prioritize what truly matters. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jan 28, 2025 • 32min
Surrounding Yourself with Success: Relationships and Growth
Episode #933 Have you ever considered how much your environment impacts your growth? In this episode, we dive deep into the power of surrounding yourself with the right people and how it influences your relationships, career, and personal growth. Doug and Coach Chris discuss why men often prioritize material purchases over investing in themselves and their relationships—and the hidden cost of that mindset. You’ll hear about: Why your environment shapes your habits and future. How to audit your time, money, and energy for maximum ROI. The key to building emotional safety in your marriage. A game-changing perspective on self-investment and growth. If you’ve ever felt stuck in your personal life or marriage, this episode will give you the clarity to break free and take action. Listen now to discover how the people around you and the choices you make today can shape your future. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

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Jan 25, 2025 • 15min
Revisit: One Game-Changing Tactic to Reconnect with Your Overwhelmed Wife
Episode #932 Sometimes the simplest shifts make the biggest difference. In this episode, we revisit the powerful concept of "diffused awareness" and how understanding it can help you reconnect with your wife, especially when she's feeling overwhelmed. Rediscover practical, effective ways to create a calm, supportive environment, help her decompress, and reignite the spark in your relationship. Whether it’s addressing small daily stressors or building deeper emotional intimacy, these strategies can bring back connection, fun, and balance to your marriage. Take a moment to reflect and take action—this is a game-changer worth revisiting. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

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Jan 23, 2025 • 14min
Revisit: No More Mr. Nice Guy: Mastering the Art of Saying No
Tired of feeling disrespected? This discussion dives into the art of setting firm boundaries without guilt. Discover the biggest pitfalls men face when saying no and how to balance assertiveness with respect. Learn practical steps to enforce your limits and communicate effectively, transforming frustration into confidence. Understand why boundaries are crucial for self-respect and emotional health, and get ready to take control of your relationships with strength and clarity.

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Jan 21, 2025 • 29min
Revisit: Woman's POV: Change She Can't Believe-Decoding Distrust in Transformation
Episode #930 When one partner starts to change, even for the better, it can shake the foundation of a relationship. In this revisited episode, Doug and Erin Holt dive into the common struggle of earning back trust when your growth feels like it’s not enough for her to believe in. We’ll explore why she’s skeptical, how emotional safety plays a huge role, and why consistency is your biggest ally. This is about more than just proving yourself—it’s about creating a lasting shift that both you and your partner can trust. If you’ve ever felt stuck wondering why your efforts aren’t landing, this episode is for you. Let’s revisit the path to rebuilding trust and strengthening your relationship. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jan 18, 2025 • 29min
Revisit: When All Else Fails: Navigating Divorce and the Chance for Reconciliation
Episode #929 If your marriage is on the brink of divorce, you’re probably wondering if there’s anything left to do—or if it’s time to throw in the towel. In this revisit episode, I’m bringing back a powerful conversation about what to focus on when your relationship feels like it’s slipping away. I cover why it’s crucial to do the work for yourself, not just for your marriage, and how becoming a better version of you can change everything—whether your wife notices or not. You’ll hear: How to handle emotional "tests" from your wife without reacting Why you must raise your own “stock” before expecting your marriage to improve What to do if you’re already holding divorce papers in your hand How to avoid repeating the same mistakes in your next relationship This conversation is raw, direct, and actionable. If you’ve ever thought, What’s the point in trying anymore? — this episode is for you. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

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Jan 16, 2025 • 31min
Revisit: Unlocking True Intimacy: Why Her Trust and Safety Are the Keys
Explore why trust and emotional safety are vital for intimacy in relationships. Learn how your consistent presence can help your partner feel secure. Discover the dangers of erratic behavior and how it can damage trust. Shift from reactive patterns to a more loving and open mindset. Gain actionable steps to rebuild trust, leading to a deeper connection and the passionate intimacy you both desire. This conversation is a roadmap for making meaningful changes in your marriage.

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Jan 14, 2025 • 17min
Saving Your Marriage: Strategies for Rekindling Connection
Episode #927 Feeling more like roommates than lovers with your wife? Wondering how to ask her out again or reignite the spark in your marriage? You're not alone. In this episode, I tackle real questions from men just like you. From rebuilding trust after growing apart to reigniting passionate sex, we cover it all. You'll learn actionable steps to plan fun date nights, rebuild emotional safety, and reconnect with your wife without feeling needy or desperate. Discover practical strategies like the Clean Slate Method, the Yes-No-Maybe List, and how to avoid the dreaded “roommates with rings” dynamic. Plus, I dive into how to handle tricky situations—like when it’s time to walk away versus when to keep fighting for your marriage. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to start dating your wife again, even if the trust is broken Ways to make sex fun, connected, and spontaneous Why emotional safety is key to reigniting passion How to know when it’s time to call it quits And simple ways to avoid coming across as "needy" Grab the free guide mentioned in this episode and start creating memorable date nights now. Don’t just listen—take action! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jan 11, 2025 • 15min
Revisit: Calculating Your Losses: What Inaction Really Costs
Episode #926 In this powerful revisit episode, we’re diving into a timeless truth: inaction comes at a cost—and it’s often higher than you realize. Doug explores how hesitation can silently wreck your relationships, health, and business. You’ll learn how to calculate the hidden financial and emotional toll of doing nothing and why taking massive action now is the only way to avoid future regrets. If you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to make a change, consider this your nudge to stop waiting and start moving. Reclaim your power and start living the life you want today! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.