

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Mar 27, 2025 • 39min
The Courage to Transform: An Inside Look at the Alpha Reset
Episode #958 What happens when two of our top coaches stop coaching—and step into the Alpha Reset as participants? That's exactly what Mike and Neil did. In this episode, they open up about the resistance that came up before the Reset, what it took to drop the ego, and what it really means to lead from the front—not just for others, but for themselves. Mike shares the moment he FaceTimed his wife right after it ended. She just stared at him, smiling. "You look different," she said. "I like this Mike." That moment? That was the result. Right there. Neil's story is quieter—but just as powerful. He didn't come home and give a big speech. He didn't have to. His son just felt it. The calm. The shift. The safety. No words needed. In this episode, you'll hear: What it looks like when high-level coaches stop leading and start doing the deeper work Why emotional safety is a game-changer—for your marriage and your kids The real reason so many men blame their wives (hint: it's not about her) How showing up differently creates a ripple effect across your entire home This isn't about theory. It's about doing the work—especially when no one's watching. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 25, 2025 • 25min
Life-Changing Insights: Truths from the Alpha Reset Graduates
Episode #967 What happens when a man hits his limit... and decides not to fold? In this episode, I sit down with Eric and Weston—two guys who went through the Alpha Reset and came out the other side different men. Now? They're giving back and helping other men do the same. We get into what brought them to The Powerful Man, how their marriages shifted, and what they really discovered about themselves along the way. Weston opens up about how hard it was to actually connect with his wife—even though the love was there. And Eric? He was ready to walk away from 25 years of marriage, hoping a new car or a bigger paycheck would fix the emptiness. (Spoiler: it didn't.) Here's what you'll hear in this one: What finally got these guys to stop pretending everything was fine The internal tug-of-war a lot of Christian men feel in marriage Why being truly seen by other men changes everything What it's like to walk into a Reset one guy... and leave someone else entirely How volunteering after the Reset brought even more clarity and growth Truth is, most men are silently struggling, thinking they're alone. They're not. This episode dives into what happens when you drop the guilt, shame, and anger—and finally lead from a place of honesty and strength. You'll see why so many men say the Alpha Reset was the turning point. Not just for them, but for everything. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 22, 2025 • 1h 6min
Demystifying Mental Health: A Journey from Hopelessness to Hope
Episode #956 Why do so many men struggle in silence when it comes to mental health? And more importantly, what can we do about it? In this episode, I sit down with Sean Stiller, a psychotherapist with over 16 years of experience, to tackle the tough conversations around suicide, depression, and hopelessness—topics that impact more men than we often realize. Sean breaks down the common misconceptions surrounding mental health, the warning signs to watch for, and, most importantly, how to shift from feeling hopeless to finding real hope. We also dive into: ✔️ Why high-achieving men often struggle with depression ✔️ How our beliefs and identity can unknowingly trap us in pain ✔️ The subtle (but powerful) mindset shift that changes everything ✔️ Practical steps to help yourself—or someone you love—through dark times If you've ever felt stuck, lost, or like you're carrying the weight of the world alone, this episode is for you. You're not alone, and there is a way forward. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 20, 2025 • 26min
Navigating Relationship Challenges: Tips for Men
Episode #955 Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells in your marriage? You want your wife to feel emotionally safe, but you also don't want to lose yourself in the process. So, how do you strike the right balance? In this episode, we're breaking down what emotional safety really means for women and how you can create it without becoming someone you're not. We'll talk about how to clear the past so old arguments stop coming up, how to communicate in a way that actually lands, and how to stay grounded when things get tough. We're also tackling a big question: how do you lead at home, at work, and with friends without feeling completely drained? If you've ever struggled to set boundaries or find time for yourself, this one's for you. And for the guys looking to keep date nights fresh, we've got some creative ideas to keep things fun and connected. If you've been feeling stuck in your marriage—or just want to step up as a stronger, more confident leader—this episode will give you real, actionable steps to make an immediate impact. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 18, 2025 • 29min
Unlocking Emotional Intimacy: Conversations on Male Vulnerability
Episode #954 Why is it so hard for men to express their emotions in relationships? In this episode, I sit down with Chris to tackle the challenge of male vulnerability and emotional connection. We dive into real questions from men struggling to open up, rebuild trust, and navigate past mistakes without losing their sense of masculinity. We explore why society conditions men to suppress their emotions and how to break free from that pattern. You'll hear about a powerful way to reconnect with your emotions that doesn't make you feel weak. We also get into what it really takes to rebuild trust after hurting your partner, and how leading emotionally can actually make you more attractive in your marriage. If you've ever felt stuck when it comes to emotional connection, this episode is for you. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 15, 2025 • 33min
Revisit: It's Not Just About Your Marriage
Episode #953 Most men don't even realize they're living in quiet desperation—until they finally break free. When your marriage feels off, your business is harder, your energy is lower, and you're just grinding through the motions, it's easy to think this is just "normal." But what if it's not? In this revisit episode, Doug Holt and Brad Holt dive deep into why so many high-achieving men struggle—not just in marriage, but in life. They reveal how the same tools that restore relationships also transform businesses, health, and personal fulfillment. You'll discover: Why anxiety quietly erodes your business and decision-making. How regaining confidence in your marriage spills over into every area of life. The hidden habits keeping you stuck—and how to break free. What successful men do differently to create lasting change. If you've ever felt like you're just "getting by" instead of thriving, this episode is for you. Take action—because this is about more than your marriage. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 13, 2025 • 60min
Revisit: Triumphs from the Trenches: Men Who Made It
Episode #952 What happens when men truly support each other—without ego, without judgment, and with real accountability? In this revisit episode, Doug Holt sits down with Chris Hartig and Matt, two men who've walked the path of transformation through The Powerful Man movement. They share their raw experiences of growth, blind spots, and the power of having a brotherhood that pushes you to be better. Whether it's business, marriage, or personal leadership, this conversation will challenge you to ask: Who's in your corner? Take a moment to reflect—are you leading, or just getting by? __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 11, 2025 • 17min
Curiosity in Marriage: Bridging Emotional Distances
Episode #951 When was the last time you got truly curious about your wife? Not just about what she's doing, but who she's becoming? In this episode, Doug Holt and TPM advisor Chris tackle a common challenge: emotional distance in marriage. Many men unknowingly stop seeing their wives as evolving individuals, leading to stagnation in communication and intimacy. We answer real questions from TPM listeners, including: How to give your wife space without triggering her fear of abandonment Simple ways to break through emotional walls and spark meaningful conversations The importance of reinforcing emotional safety (hint: you need to say it more than once) Easy, actionable strategies to keep curiosity alive in your marriage If your relationship feels a little off, this episode is for you. Tune in and start reconnecting today. 👉 Listen now and take action. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 8, 2025 • 10min
Revisit: How To Become A Leader Without Being Considered Controlling?
Episode #950 We're revisiting one of the most important topics for married businessmen—how to lead in your marriage without slipping into controlling behavior. Many men struggle with finding the balance between taking charge and being overbearing. In this episode, Doug Holt breaks down: The key difference between leadership and control How to be the "lighthouse" in your marriage and inspire your wife to follow your lead Why controlling behavior often comes from fear—and how to shift out of it Practical ways to take charge without pushing your wife away If you want to step up as a leader in your marriage without micromanaging or dictating, this is an episode worth revisiting. Tune in now! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

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Mar 6, 2025 • 22min
Revisit: Ready to Throw in the Towel? Reconsidering Your Marriage
Episode #949 We're bringing back this powerful episode because it's one of the most important conversations we've had about marriage. Ever felt like you and your wife are growing apart? Maybe she's pulling away, and you're wondering if you even care anymore. You might even be asking yourself, Did I marry the wrong woman? In this revisit, we break down a common pattern that leads men to disconnect emotionally—and how to shift it. We'll explore: Why uncertainty in your marriage creates distance and what to do about it How your energy impacts her response (and why she might be pulling away) The 30-day challenge that can transform your marriage The key mindset shift that separates men who lead from those who drift This isn't about waiting for her to change. It's about you stepping up, consistently. If your marriage feels stuck, this episode is your wake-up call. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.


