We Can Do Hard Things

1. What we are really fighting about when we’re fighting about the dishwasher.2. We can stop asking whether what’s missing is a “want” or a “need” – and the question to ask instead. 3. How to use what most frustrates you about your partner to bring you closer.4. How to start thinking of our partnerships as our own mini political systems.5. What to do if your partner won’t go to therapy, or if you’re feeling invisible in your relationship.About Dr. Guralnik:Dr. Orna Guralnik is a psychoanalyst and writer, who serves on the faculty of NYU PostDoc, National Institute for the Psychotherapies, the Stephen Mitchel Center, and the editorial boards of Psychoanalytic Dialogues and Studies in Gender & Sexuality. Her writing centers on the intersection of psychoanalysis, dissociation, and cultural studies. She has completed the filming of four seasons of the Docu-series Couples Therapy, airing on Showtime.TW: @DrGuralnikIG: @ornaguralnik

1. Alex’s four most effective healing techniques that you can start today. 2. How it affects us to grow up never seeing our mothers have joy. 3. Why – if you think you don’t have any self-soothing strategies – you actually just have unhealthy self-soothing strategies. 4. Childhood wounds that surface in adulthood, and the path to intergenerational healing. 5. Where to begin when you never receive the apology and closure you deserve.About Alex:Alex Elle is an author, certified breathwork coach, podcast host, and Restorative Writing teacher. Alex’s writing came into her life by way of therapy and the exploration of healing through journaling and mindfulness. Her most recent book, HOW WE HEAL, is available now.TW: @alex_elleIG: @alex

By popular demand, Jessica Yellin, founder of News Not Noise, returns to update us on the top takeaways from the midterm election yesterday. About Jessica: Jessica Yellin is the founder of News Not Noise, a Webby Award winning independent digital media brand dedicated to giving the audience information, not a panic attack. She is the former chief White House correspondent for CNN and an Emmy, Peabody and Gracie Award winning political correspondent for ABC, MSNBC and CNN. Her first novel, SAVAGE NEWS is available from HarperCollins. You can find the News Not Noise Letter on Bulletin and the News Not Noise podcast wherever you get your podcasts. TW: @JessicaYellinIG: @jessicayellin

Make this podcast part of your VOTING PLAN TODAY! A clear, digestible explanation of what this Election means for you – and why your vote matters: 1. What is most likely to happen today;2. Who will control Congress, and what they’ll do with that control; 3. What will happen with abortion and reproductive justice; 4. Why the polls could be all wrong; and 5. A reason to be hopeful.Referenced resources: BallotpediaUSAFacts Midterm Map About Jessica: Jessica Yellin is the founder of News Not Noise, a Webby Award winning independent digital media brand dedicated to giving the audience information, not a panic attack. She is the former chief White House correspondent for CNN and an Emmy, Peabody and Gracie Award winning political correspondent for ABC, MSNBC and CNN. Her first novel, SAVAGE NEWS is available from HarperCollins. Follow her on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @JessicaYellin. You can find the News Not Noise Letter on Bulletin and the News Not Noise podcast wherever you get your podcasts. TW: @JessicaYellinIG: @jessicayellin

In this behind-the-scenes episode, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda react immediately after dramatically ending an interview because the guest was disrespectful to a member of their team.

In this deeply intimate collaboration with beloved therapist Esther Perel, she dives deep in a couples therapy session with a Ukrainian couple torn apart by the war.The wife is compelled to leave the country for the sake of her youngest son; the husband and older son are compelled to stay in the warzone for the sake of their country.Miraculously, even amid unthinkable loss – and maybe especially amid unthinkable loss – love and connection are unrelenting.Love does impossible things.(Ukrainian and English language transcripts available at http://wecandohardthingspodcast.com)

1. The politeness curse – and how it almost killed Geena.  2. Geena’s brilliant “Oops…” strategy to get folks to act decent.  3. Abby thanks Geena for the monumental impact of A League of Their Own on her life.4. The story behind the iconic ending of Thelma and Louise.5. The hilarious story of why Geena’s mom chose her name – setting her on an unlikely feminist path.  CW: Brief mention of sexual assaultAbout Geena: Geena Davis is a two-time Academy Award winning actor and has appeared in roles that became cultural landmarks including Muriel Pritchett in The Accidental Tourist, Thelma in Thelma & Louise, and Dottie Hinson in A League of Their Own. She is also a world-class athlete, a member of the genius society Mensa, and is now recognized for her advocacy for women and girls as Founder and Chair of the Emmy-winning non-profit Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media, which engages film and television creators to dramatically increase the percentage of female characters, and reduce gender stereotyping, in media made for children. Her memoir, DYING OF POLITENESS, is available now. TW: @GeenaDavisOrgIG: @geenadavisorg

No digging deep.No paradigm shifts to be found.Welcome to Easy Fridays.P.S. Thanks to @ohnochels & @dmc1138 for the haunted house laughs.

1. The top (surprising) signs that tell you it’s time to set a boundary.2. Paying attention to “energy leakage” – when you’re giving out more than you’re getting back.3. How to set the specific boundaries you need with in-laws, friends, and romantic partners.4. Scripts for Melissa’s green, yellow, and red system of clear, kind communication in boundary setting.5. Rethinking boundaries – not as not a response to someone else’s behavior – but as giving voice to your worth and health.CW: brief mention of sexual abuseAbout Melissa:Melissa Urban is a six-time New York Times bestselling author, and her highly anticipated book, The Book of Boundaries, is available now. She is the host of the Do the Thing podcast – building community, health, and entrepreneurship, and the co-founder and CEO of Whole30. She lives in Salt Lake City, UT.TW: @melissa_urbanIG: @melissau

1. The Mother of Codependence shares the difference between healthy and unhealthy helping. 2. The daily practice that helps Melody stop controlling others and “Let Life Happen.”3. Why no one is able to gaslight you more than you. 4. The one area of life where Codependence is necessary.5. All four of us surrender to the truth that we will never be Codependent No More.About Melody:A pioneering voice in self-help literature, Melody Beattie is the author of many bestselling books, including Codependent No More – a #1 New York Times bestseller, which has sold over 7 million copies – as well as The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, and Beyond Codependency. An updated edition of the bestselling, modern classic, Codependent No More, is available now. Melody lives in Southern California.TW: @MelodyBeattieIG: @authormelodybeattie