
Self-Helpless
Described as "an unfiltered thera-brunch with your best friends" where we can have "light conversations about heavy sh*t," Self-Helpless candidly explores the highs, lows, and in-betweens of personal growth—with a strong emphasis on everyday activism. Featuring a variety of specialists, public figures, and subscribers, the show garners millions of downloads, frequents the top Apple & Spotify charts, and has been featured on Conan and The Tonight Show. If you're interested in conscious consumption, holistic health, creativity, purpose—basically trying to figure out wtf we're all doing here and how to make the most of it, you'll be into Self-Helpless. Past guests include: Tan France, Michael Buble,' Rachel Rodgers, Pete Holmes, Dr. Ramani, Ed Winters, Kati Morton, Preacher Lawson, Kris Carr, Jessamyn Stanley, Freddie Prinze Jr., Rachel Ricketts, Nikki Glaser, Sonya Renee Taylor, Amie McNee, and more.Hosted by Delanie Fischer, Co-Author of MockTales, Creative Activist, and resident homebody, Self-Helpless has 400+ episodes to browse including a hot combo of long-form and minis ("Self-Helpless Snacks")—integrating guests, solo deep-dives, and even life hacks from extra cool and qualified people like Delanie's dad. New episode every Monday!
Latest episodes

Jun 23, 2025 • 12min
Subscriber Stories: Submissions Now Open! (Instructions, Tips, and More)
Be a guest on Self-Helpless! Tune in for all submission instructions for The Subscriber Stories Series. Can't wait to have you on the show!How To ApplySend submission to selfhelplesspodcast@gmail.com by July 14th and include:+ Name+ Email address+ Topic(s)+ Any additional detailsPS topics and perspectives not yet explored on Self-Helpless will be prioritized. You can search keywords from our catalog of 450+ episodes here: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodesDelanie's BookMockTales: 50+ Literary Mocktails Inspired by Classic Works, Banned Books, and More by Delanie Fischer & Lindsey SmithSigned copies and bulk orders: https://www.delaniefischer.com/bookMockTales is available online at most retailers including Barnes & Noble, Target, Powell's, and more—and in select stores.Subscriber Stories Inspo:Lessons Learned From 5 Years of RV Life with Jamie Feinberg: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23bebe71/lessons-learned-from-5-years-of-rv-life-with-jamie-feinbergWhen I Found Out I Had A Brain Tumor with Athena Trombly: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/25e37bb7/when-i-found-out-i-had-a-brain-tumor-with-athena-tromblyThe Power of 1 with Te’Jani: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22447af0/the-power-of-1-with-tejani-the-artist-behind-the-latest-self-helpless-theme-songKeep Choosing Life with Sav Clements: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23fec197/keep-choosing-life-with-sav-clements-depression-self-harm-suicidal-ideation-and-attempts-and-getting-supportMysterious Symptoms (And Finally Getting Answers) with Sharon Okun: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2248a087/mysterious-symptoms-and-finally-getting-answers-with-sharon-okunGet Unstuck And Think Globally: Tips For Living, Working, And Traveling Abroad with Will: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/234d73dc/get-unstuck-and-think-globally-tips-for-living-working-and-traveling-abroad-with-will-mulfordBurnout, A Breakdown, And Beginning Again with Jessica Gemme: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/249fe16a/burnout-a-breakdown-and-beginning-again-with-jessica-gemmeMy Dad Was Diagnosed With Lewy Body Dementia with Erika Martin: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/21b228bf/my-dad-was-diagnosed-with-lewy-body-dementia-with-erika-martinHow A Collage Changed My Life with Tatum Elizabeth: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/245a1122/how-a-collage-changed-my-life-with-tatum-elizabethWhen You're Single At 35 (+ Eldest Daughter Syndrome) with Natalie Katona: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23f054b6/when-youre-single-at-35-eldest-daughter-syndrome-with-natalie-katona"My Life Is Different Because I Feel Different" with Kia (Rehab, Coping Skills, And A New Life): https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2265dd4f/my-life-is-different-because-i-feel-different-with-kia-rehab-coping-skills-and-a-new-lifeIt's Not Too Late To Start with Jared Champion: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23f7190f/its-not-too-late-to-start-with-jared-championWaking Up With Amnesia, Unsolved Mysteries, And Life With Uncertainty with Olly: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23189ad4/waking-up-with-amnesia-unsolved-mysteries-and-life-with-uncertainty-with-olly-doveCompounded Grief: Coping With Multiple Losses At Once with Stephanie Edwards: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/250aef7a/compounded-grief-coping-with-multiple-losses-at-once-with-stephanie-edwardsYou can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 16, 2025 • 2h 18min
Is It Porn Addiction? Inside the Impact, Neuroscience, and Recovery with Steve Moore and Mark Kastleman
Delanie Fischer is joined by Steve Moore (Certified: Sex Addiction Therapist, Partner Trauma Therapist, Multiple Addictions Therapist) and Mark Kastleman (Board-Certified: Clinical Chaplain and Pastoral Counselor), co-hosts of The PBSE Podcast (Porn, Betrayal, Sex, and the Experts), to share their personal experiences with pornography and sexual addiction—including root causes, signs and symptoms, raw inner dialogue around the behaviors, their recovery process and its impact on their marriages, and how they help others heal. The research suggests—you, or someone you know, is likely struggling with this. Parents, partners, and porn consumers—don't miss this episode.Plus:+ A Shocking Stat About Porn and Divorce+ How Addictive Is This Porn Thing, Really?+ 3 Key Warning Signs You Shouldn't IgnoreMore episodes related to this topic:Sex and Love Addiction with Sex Addiction Therapist, Alex Katehakis: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/316e9795/sex-and-love-addiction-with-sex-addiction-therapist-alex-katehakis7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rainThe Psychological Impact of Gaslighting with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2a31527c/the-psychological-impact-of-gaslighting-with-dr-stephanie-sarkisSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com* In this episode, we explore the mental health impacts of porn addiction and the path to recovery.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 9, 2025 • 48min
Flip the Script on Aging: Strength, Vitality, and Purpose with 74 Year-Old Icon Babette Davis
What if the most common things we've been told about aging aren't true? Delanie Fischer is joined by health and fitness icon, author, and owner of the restaurant Stuff I Eat, Chef Babette Davis, to explore her insights on aging with health, strength, vitality, purpose, and impact. Chef Babette opens up about the trauma she's experienced, what sparked her transformation, and the practices she swears by—including what she eats and why, the only supplement she takes, her sleep habits, skincare routine, and the beliefs and mindset behind her resilience, gratitude, and joy. Get ready for a no-fluff jolt of inspiration—and a serious dose of hope for your future.Plus:+ The Moment That Pulled Babette Out of Addiction+ How To Run A Successful Business (With Integrity)+ 10 of Chef Babette's Favorite Holistic Health TipsMore episodes related to this topic:20+ Years Thriving With Stage IV Cancer with Kris Carr: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22f2b084/20-years-thriving-with-stage-iv-cancer-with-kris-carrMaking World History with Cattle Rancher Turned Sanctuary Founder, Renee King-Sonnen: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23a747f0/making-world-history-with-cattle-rancher-turned-sanctuary-founder-renee-king-sonnenDebunking Nutrition Myths with Registered Dietician, Dr. Pamela Fergusson: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2af06551/debunking-nutrition-myths-with-registered-dietician-dr-pamela-fergussonPractical Spirituality with Pete Holmes: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/ed300b16/practical-spirituality-with-pete-holmesOvercoming the Fear of Death with Kelvin Chin: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/20d70e6d/overcoming-the-fear-of-death-with-kelvin-chinSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 2, 2025 • 1h 4min
Evolving in Public with Almost 30's Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik
Delanie Fischer is joined by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, hosts of The Almost 30 Podcast, to explore insights from their new book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond. They discuss some of their most powerful takeaways from years of podcasting with a diverse range of guests, how they've grown both personally and professionally, and the unique challenges and rewards of navigating life transitions publicly—while evolving together as friends and business partners.Plus:+ A Crash Course in Saturn Return+ Krista’s Favorite Therapeutic Modality+ An Exchange That Left a Mark on LindseyAbout the book: https://almost30.com/bookMore episodes related to this topic:Are You Having A Quarter-Life Crisis?: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/20a07394/are-you-having-a-quarter-life-crisisTips For Dating In Your 30s (On And Off The Apps): https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/31372374/tips-for-dating-in-your-30s-on-and-off-the-appsHow Priorities Change in Your 20s vs. 30s: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/235c5435/how-priorities-change-in-your-20s-vs-30sSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 28, 2025 • 22min
Self-Helpless Snack: "How Do You Give Yourself Breaks?" (12 Easy Tips For Creators & Entrepreneurs)
Delanie Fischer answers the question from a patron, "How do you prevent burnout, relieve pressure, and give yourself breaks as a content creator?" She's sharing the mindset that helps her stay consistent and inspired, as well as 10+ practical tips for creating in fun, simple ways when you need more breathing room, or clean breaks. Want your question answered on the next mini episode? Submit it here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 19, 2025 • 49min
10 Fascinating Tricks For More Wins And Improved Well-Being with Janice Kaplan
Delanie Fischer is joined by New York Times Bestselling Author, Janice Kaplan, to discuss the fascinating findings mentioned in her new book, What Your Body Knows About Happiness: How To Use Your Body To Change Your Mind. Did you know that whether you're holding a hot or cold drink impacts your perception of the people around you? Or how the weather can influence college applications? Also, why a heavy clipboard and a hard chair might be vital for your next meeting? Learn about all of these thought-provoking discoveries, and so much more, in today's episode.Plus:+ Why "Blowing Off Steam" Is Making Things Worse For You+ Your Brain is Not Like A Computer (Despite What You've Heard)+ Why These 2 Colors Should Be Added To Your Environment ASAPMore episodes related to this topic:Need a Strong Dose of Optimism? 5 Tips for an Instant Perspective Shift with Bill Burke: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/255fd6bc/need-a-strong-dose-of-optimism-5-tips-for-an-instant-perspective-shift-with-bill-burkeThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24c6ce57/the-body-keeps-the-score-by-bessel-van-der-kolk30 Life Hacks We Love with Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/3b361850/30-life-hacks-we-love-with-delanie-fischer-and-kelsey-cookSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 12, 2025 • 56min
Making World History with Cattle Rancher Turned Sanctuary Founder, Renee King-Sonnen
Delanie Fischer is joined by Founder of Rowdy Girl Sanctuary and The Rancher Advocacy Program, subject of the documentary, Rowdy Girl, and hilarious force of nature, Renee King-Sonnen. 10 years ago, former cattle ranchers, Renee and her husband, Tommy, made history as the first-ever cattle ranch in the world to transition into an animal sanctuary. Renee shares the moments that led to this change of heart, the epic standoff on the ranch, and the everyday miracles that came with each small step forward. If you're outgrowing an old belief system, amidst a 180 in your life or business, or you don't quite fit in with your family, friends, or community—Renee's story will change your life.Plus:+ What Renee Wishes She Knew Before Starting—Pure Gold+ How 1 Person And 1 Internet Search Can Start A Movement+ The Simplicity (And Power) of Finding Your Community TodayRowdy Girl Sanctuary: https://rowdygirlsanctuary.org/Rancher Advocacy Program: https://rancheradvocacy.org/Support the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 5, 2025 • 55min
Exposing False Choices, Narratives, and Pulling Wisdom From Wounds with Dr. Thema Bryant
Delanie Fischer is joined by renowned psychologist, author, professor, and minister, Dr. Thema Bryant, to discuss the concepts in her book, Matters of the Heart—including healing traumas and building healthy relationships, reclaiming an old version of yourself vs. creating a new one, why we hold onto toxicity, busyness isn't just what we're paid for, and what we can do when people around us feel judged by our growth.Plus:+ Do You Keep Yourself Perpetually Busy But Can't Stop?+ How To Determine If You're In Love With Potential vs. Reality+ Try This 1 Thing Next If You Consistently Get "The Ick"More episodes related to this topic:Craving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibsonGuilt Trips, Criticism, Lies, And Healing From The Narcissistic Family System with Katie McKenna and Helen Villiers: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2219cf6e/guilt-trips-criticism-lies-and-healing-from-the-narcissistic-family-system-with-psychotherapists-katie-mckenna-and-helen-villiersHow To Un-F*ck Your Relationships: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22c987e4/how-to-un-fck-your-relationshipsOur Favorite Tips For More Self-Love: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23ad5280/our-favorite-tips-for-more-self-loveSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 28, 2025 • 48min
Rethinking Intuition, Belief, and The Nature of Reality with Vincent Genna
Delanie Fischer is joined by Psychic Therapist and author of The Secret That's Holding You Back, Vincent Genna, to discuss a fresh approach to intuition, unlearning unconscious beliefs, and what truly shapes our collective (and individual) reality.Plus:+ Debunking The Myths of "Positive Thinking" & "Tapping Into" Intuition+ Why Your Ego Is Not Your Enemy (And How You'd Feel Without It)+ The 2 Core Beliefs That Keep Us Stuck In Survival ModeMore episodes related to this topic:Was it Gut Instinct or Self-Sabotage? with Delanie Fischer and Em Schulz: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/238ed6e8/was-it-gut-instinct-or-self-sabotage-with-delanie-fischer-and-em-schulzSpiritual Experiences (Coincidence or Woo-Woo?): https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24707c31/spiritual-experiences-coincidence-or-woo-wooA Step-By-Step Manifestation Exercise with Intuitive Consultant, Jennifer Wai: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/224cee0c/a-step-by-step-manifestation-exercise-with-intuitive-consultant-jennifer-waiThe Importance of Your Dreams (Literally) with Claudia Barfoot: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2078ac9f/the-importance-of-your-dreams-literally-with-claudia-barfootPractical Spirituality with Pete Holmes: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/ed300b16/practical-spirituality-with-pete-holmesSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 21, 2025 • 14min
Self-Helpless Snack: Rewriting Your "Food (& Drink) Story" with Elise Museles
Today's "Snack" (mini episode) is a snippet from Delanie Fischer's appearance on Elise Museles' podcast, Once Upon A Food Story, where the two discuss fun, simple, and imperfect steps towards health, mindfulness, and sustainability around what we consume, habit-building, and more.Full episode with Delanie and Elise on Once Upon A Food Story here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/make-self-improvement-fun-imperfect-and-doable/id1448917116?i=1000699848628Delanie's new book, MockTales: 50+ Literary Mocktails Inspired by Classic Works, Banned Books, and More, is now available online most places where books are sold including Barnes & Noble, Target, Amazon, and more—and in-store at select retailers: https://www.delaniefischer.com/You can support The Self-Helpless Podcast, vote on topics, and more here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.