

Self-Helpless
Crossover Media Group
Described as "an unfiltered thera-brunch with your best friends" where we can have "light conversations about heavy sh*t," Self-Helpless candidly explores the highs, lows, and in-betweens of personal growth—with a strong emphasis on everyday activism. Featuring a variety of specialists, public figures, and subscribers, the show garners millions of downloads, frequents the top Apple & Spotify charts, and has been featured on Conan and The Tonight Show. If you're interested in conscious consumption, holistic health, creativity, purpose—basically trying to figure out wtf we're all doing here and how to make the most of it, you'll be into Self-Helpless. Past guests include: Tan France, Michael Buble,' Rachel Rodgers, Pete Holmes, Dr. Ramani, Ed Winters, Kati Morton, Preacher Lawson, Kris Carr, Jessamyn Stanley, Freddie Prinze Jr., Rachel Ricketts, Nikki Glaser, Sonya Renee Taylor, Amie McNee, and more.Hosted by Delanie Fischer, Co-Author of MockTales, Creative Activist, and resident homebody, Self-Helpless has 400+ episodes to browse including a hot combo of long-form and minis ("Self-Helpless Snacks")—integrating guests, solo deep-dives, and even life hacks from extra cool and qualified people like Delanie's dad. New episode every Monday!
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May 19, 2025 • 49min
10 Fascinating Tricks For More Wins And Improved Well-Being with Janice Kaplan
Delanie Fischer is joined by New York Times Bestselling Author, Janice Kaplan, to discuss the fascinating findings mentioned in her new book, What Your Body Knows About Happiness: How To Use Your Body To Change Your Mind. Did you know that whether you're holding a hot or cold drink impacts your perception of the people around you? Or how the weather can influence college applications? Also, why a heavy clipboard and a hard chair might be vital for your next meeting? Learn about all of these thought-provoking discoveries, and so much more, in today's episode.Plus:+ Why "Blowing Off Steam" Is Making Things Worse For You+ Your Brain is Not Like A Computer (Despite What You've Heard)+ Why These 2 Colors Should Be Added To Your Environment ASAPMore episodes related to this topic:Need a Strong Dose of Optimism? 5 Tips for an Instant Perspective Shift with Bill Burke: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/255fd6bc/need-a-strong-dose-of-optimism-5-tips-for-an-instant-perspective-shift-with-bill-burkeThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24c6ce57/the-body-keeps-the-score-by-bessel-van-der-kolk30 Life Hacks We Love with Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/3b361850/30-life-hacks-we-love-with-delanie-fischer-and-kelsey-cookSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 12, 2025 • 56min
Making World History with Cattle Rancher Turned Sanctuary Founder, Renee King-Sonnen
Delanie Fischer is joined by Founder of Rowdy Girl Sanctuary and The Rancher Advocacy Program, subject of the documentary, Rowdy Girl, and hilarious force of nature, Renee King-Sonnen. 10 years ago, former cattle ranchers, Renee and her husband, Tommy, made history as the first-ever cattle ranch in the world to transition into an animal sanctuary. Renee shares the moments that led to this change of heart, the epic standoff on the ranch, and the everyday miracles that came with each small step forward. If you're outgrowing an old belief system, amidst a 180 in your life or business, or you don't quite fit in with your family, friends, or community—Renee's story will change your life.Plus:+ What Renee Wishes She Knew Before Starting—Pure Gold+ How 1 Person And 1 Internet Search Can Start A Movement+ The Simplicity (And Power) of Finding Your Community TodayRowdy Girl Sanctuary: https://rowdygirlsanctuary.org/Rancher Advocacy Program: https://rancheradvocacy.org/Support the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 5, 2025 • 55min
Exposing False Choices, Narratives, and Pulling Wisdom From Wounds with Dr. Thema Bryant
Delanie Fischer is joined by renowned psychologist, author, professor, and minister, Dr. Thema Bryant, to discuss the concepts in her book, Matters of the Heart—including healing traumas and building healthy relationships, reclaiming an old version of yourself vs. creating a new one, why we hold onto toxicity, busyness isn't just what we're paid for, and what we can do when people around us feel judged by our growth.Plus:+ Do You Keep Yourself Perpetually Busy But Can't Stop?+ How To Determine If You're In Love With Potential vs. Reality+ Try This 1 Thing Next If You Consistently Get "The Ick"More episodes related to this topic:Craving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibsonGuilt Trips, Criticism, Lies, And Healing From The Narcissistic Family System with Katie McKenna and Helen Villiers: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2219cf6e/guilt-trips-criticism-lies-and-healing-from-the-narcissistic-family-system-with-psychotherapists-katie-mckenna-and-helen-villiersHow To Un-F*ck Your Relationships: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22c987e4/how-to-un-fck-your-relationshipsOur Favorite Tips For More Self-Love: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23ad5280/our-favorite-tips-for-more-self-loveSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 28, 2025 • 48min
Rethinking Intuition, Belief, and The Nature of Reality with Vincent Genna
Delanie Fischer is joined by Psychic Therapist and author of The Secret That's Holding You Back, Vincent Genna, to discuss a fresh approach to intuition, unlearning unconscious beliefs, and what truly shapes our collective (and individual) reality.Plus:+ Debunking The Myths of "Positive Thinking" & "Tapping Into" Intuition+ Why Your Ego Is Not Your Enemy (And How You'd Feel Without It)+ The 2 Core Beliefs That Keep Us Stuck In Survival ModeMore episodes related to this topic:Was it Gut Instinct or Self-Sabotage? with Delanie Fischer and Em Schulz: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/238ed6e8/was-it-gut-instinct-or-self-sabotage-with-delanie-fischer-and-em-schulzSpiritual Experiences (Coincidence or Woo-Woo?): https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24707c31/spiritual-experiences-coincidence-or-woo-wooA Step-By-Step Manifestation Exercise with Intuitive Consultant, Jennifer Wai: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/224cee0c/a-step-by-step-manifestation-exercise-with-intuitive-consultant-jennifer-waiThe Importance of Your Dreams (Literally) with Claudia Barfoot: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2078ac9f/the-importance-of-your-dreams-literally-with-claudia-barfootPractical Spirituality with Pete Holmes: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/ed300b16/practical-spirituality-with-pete-holmesSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 21, 2025 • 14min
Self-Helpless Snack: Rewriting Your "Food (& Drink) Story" with Elise Museles
Today's "Snack" (mini episode) is a snippet from Delanie Fischer's appearance on Elise Museles' podcast, Once Upon A Food Story, where the two discuss fun, simple, and imperfect steps towards health, mindfulness, and sustainability around what we consume, habit-building, and more.Full episode with Delanie and Elise on Once Upon A Food Story here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/make-self-improvement-fun-imperfect-and-doable/id1448917116?i=1000699848628Delanie's new book, MockTales: 50+ Literary Mocktails Inspired by Classic Works, Banned Books, and More, is now available online most places where books are sold including Barnes & Noble, Target, Amazon, and more—and in-store at select retailers: https://www.delaniefischer.com/You can support The Self-Helpless Podcast, vote on topics, and more here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 14, 2025 • 58min
Does "The American Dream" Feel Like a Nightmare? Rethinking Lifestyle, Financial Planning, and Retirement with Dr. Jay Zigmont
Delanie Fischer is joined by Certified Financial Planner and Childfree Wealth Specialist, Dr. Jay Zigmont, to discuss how vital it is to rethink traditional systems around wealth, financial planning, and retirement—because they don't work for many of us. Through the lens of a child-free lifestyle, Dr. Jay shares how to ensure that our current life, and retirement plan, actually reflects our values and goals—including the most important question to ask your financial planner to avoid an enormous conflict of interest. Whether you have kids or not, this episode will forever change the way you approach the systems we live in.Plus:+ Is The "Die With Zero" Concept Actually a Better Fit For You Than Traditional Advice?+ FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) vs. FILE (Financial Independence, Live Early)+ Do You Want To Opt Out of Home Ownership And Pursue Something Else?More episodes related to this topic:Creating a Life Brief and Getting "Fuzzy Clear with Bonnie Wan: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/251bf5df/creating-a-life-brief-and-getting-fuzzy-clear-with-bonnie-wanMaking Less And Living More with Creator of Lore and Lust Karla Nikole: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24656068/making-less-and-living-more-with-creator-of-lore-and-lust-karla-nikoleDo We Want Kids? with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/3bde4f0a/do-we-want-kids-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischerLessons Learned From 5 Years of RV Life with Jamie Feinberg: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23bebe71/lessons-learned-from-5-years-of-rv-life-with-jamie-feinbergLet's Define What Enough Means To YOU: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/20310cb2/lets-define-what-enough-means-to-youSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 7, 2025 • 13min
Self-Helpless Snack: Are You Clinging, Withholding, Fixing, or Controlling? with Heidi Rain
Author of "Codependent Attachment Personality Patterns," Heidi Rain, shares how unmet needs in childhood show up in adult relationships, what these behaviors can actually look like, and how to break a cycle you're tired of feeling stuck in. Plus, an awesome template for healthy relationships.Full episode with Heidi Rain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rainYou can support the podcast, vote on topics, and more here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 31, 2025 • 29min
Self-Helpless Snack: "Mind-Reading," Feeling Suffocated, And Other Problematic Relationship Dynamics with Dr. Kate Balestrieri
Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri, describes insidious relationship patterns, their origins (and their impact) including: the pressure to mind-read, feeling engulfed or suffocated, oversharing mature information, tasks that aren't age-appropriate, living vicariously or "best friends" parent-child dynamics, and more. Plus, how to give yourself grace if you're caught in any of these cycles, and steps you can take to create new behaviors.Full episode with Dr. Kate Balestrieri: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/316bfe5c/how-enmeshment-trauma-impacts-every-relationship-you-have-with-dr-kate-balestrieriYou can support the podcast, vote on topics, and more here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 24, 2025 • 1h 5min
We Need Your F*cking Art! For Health, Community, and More with Amie McNee
Delanie Fischer is joined by Amie McNee, Author of We Need Your Art: Stop Messing Around And Make Something, to discuss the importance of creativity for our health, communities, and more. They chat about the challenges and rewards of being a multidisciplinary artist and multi-hypenate, offer insights into their own rituals and approach to work, as well as share practical tips and mindset shifts for overcoming perfectionism, rejecting burnout culture, and thriving in your unique creative practice.Plus:+ Why Creativity Is The Missing Link In Health & Wellness Narratives+ How To Choose Yourself (and Your Art) vs. Waiting on Gatekeepers+ The Illusion of Scarcity and Competition in the Creative SpaceMore episodes related to this topic:Publishing, Podcasting, and Creative Entrepreneurship with Lindsey Smith and Delanie Fischer: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23bfb9d7/qanda-publishing-podcasting-and-creative-entrepreneurship-with-literary-agent-lindsey-smith-and-podcaster-delanie-fischer10 Powerful Journal Prompts with Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/f034e4d1/10-powerful-journal-prompts-with-delanie-fischer-and-kelsey-cookWhy We Love The Artist's Way By Julia Cameron with Delanie, Taylor, and Kelsey: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/21aa97b2/why-we-love-the-artists-way-by-julia-cameronThe Power of 1 with Te’Jani, The Artist Behind The Latest Self-Helpless Theme Song: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22447af0/the-power-of-1-with-tejani-the-artist-behind-the-latest-self-helpless-theme-songExploring Perfectionism with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/d69d8eee/exploring-perfectionism-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischerHow A Collage Changed My Life with Tatum Elizabeth: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/245a1122/how-a-collage-changed-my-life-with-tatum-elizabethSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 17, 2025 • 11min
Self-Helpless Snack: "What's Your Favorite Documentary?" (20 Documentaries To Watch This Year)
Delanie Fischer answers the question from a patron, "What's Your Favorite Documentary?" and shares a bit about 20 documentaries that have been discussed, or mentioned, on Self-Helpless through the years by guests and hosts alike.Want your question answered on the next mini episode? Submit it here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com20 Documentaries To Watch Stink! https://www.instagram.com/stinkmovie/?hl=enEarthlings: https://www.nationearth.com/They're Trying to Kills Us: https://www.theyretryingtokillus.com/Minimalists: https://www.theminimalists.com/films/The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224Pignorant: https://pignorantfilm.com/watchForks Over Knives: https://www.forksoverknives.com/the-film/Fake Famous: https://www.amazon.com/Fake-Famous-Chris-Bailey/dp/B08VGXB8C2Cowspiracy: https://www.netflix.com/title/80033772The Failed Experiment: https://www.amazon.com/The-Failed-Experiment/dp/B0CQ5GYHCMWhat The Health: https://www.netflix.com/title/80174177Christpiracy: https://christspiracy.com/The Smell of Money: https://www.amazon.com/Smell-Money-Elsie-Herring/dp/B0CNRGFYQSGamechangers: https://gamechangersmovie.com/the-film/where-to-watch/Dominion: https://www.dominionmovement.com/watchTake Your Pills: https://www.netflix.com/title/80117831Blackfish: https://www.netflix.com/title/70267802Seaspiracy: https://www.netflix.com/title/81014008Tidying Up with Marie Kondo: https://www.netflix.com/title/80209379Chimp Crazy: https://www.amazon.com/Chimp-Crazy-Season-1/dp/B0D6DR2MXVSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.