

The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast
Nick and Amy with The Ultimate Intimacy App
Nick and Amy are the creators and owners of the Ultimate Intimacy App and brand. They dive into all the tough topics regarding sexual and emotional intimacy, and discuss the things that most couples deal with regularly in marriage, that are seldom talked about on other podcasts. They are raw, unscripted, personal, and Nick will most likely say things he will regret ;) They have been married over 22 years and have 4 kids, 3 dogs, and share their own life experiences and trials that have helped them transform their own relationship. They are on a mission to help couples not just survive in marriage, but thrive in marriage.Their podcast is focused on helping you find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your relationship both in and out of the bedroom. Also, for a great resource to help transform your relationship, check out the Ultimate Intimacy App at ultimateintimacy.com
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Aug 29, 2025 • 33min
396. - Raw Talk About Mismatched Libidos & Sex Drive in Marriage With Marriage Expert Austin Ellis
This episode is intended for couples in a healthy relationship who are looking to create better sexual balance in their marriage.Sexual intimacy is a very important aspect of a healthy and thriving marriage. However, many if not most couples find themselves in a dynamic where one spouse has a higher sex drive than the other. This is completely normal, as no two people have the exact same libido.The problem arises when (in a healthy marriage) the lower-desire spouse, often unintentionally, takes control over the couple’s sex life by determining "if" and "when" intimacy happens. This imbalance can lead to frustration, resentment, and emotional disconnection. The key to overcoming this challenge is understanding the dynamics at play and working together to find a balance that satisfies both spouses.If this is what it feels like in your marriage, you are not alone!A study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that 80% of couples report having mismatched sex drives at some point in their relationship.According to the Kinsey Institute, 60–80% of married individuals say they wish their spouse wanted sex more often.A survey from the Marriage Foundation discovered that couples who have sex at least once a week are three times more likely to report being “very happy” in their marriage compared to those who have sex less frequently.A report in Archives of Sexual Behavior noted that lack of sexual intimacy is one of the top reasons for marital dissatisfaction and divorce. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we are joined by Austin Ellis, a licensed sex therapist, who addresses one of the most common issues in marriage: finding sexual balance when you and your spouse have completely different sex drives, and how to create a balance that works for both of you.We asked Austin a few questions in this episode:What if a spouse wants it daily and the other spouse wants it monthly?What do you do if you cannot find a balance? Is sex really a need in marriage?What does healthy rejection look like? Join us for this incredible episode, where you’ll not only understand why this happens but, more importantly, learn how to find a balance that you can both be happy with, so you can enjoy a thriving marriage. This might be the most important episode that completely changes your marriage!If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Aug 26, 2025 • 27min
395. How To Flirt, Laugh, And Connect To Have A More Playful And Intimate Marriage” – With Elaine (LMFT) And Abe Romero
One of the most common things we hear from couples is that their marriage isn't fun, flirty or passionate anymore, and that they just feel like roommates. Marriage doesn’t have to be all serious, it CAN be fun, flirty, and full of laughter! In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we explore how playfulness and connection can deepen your intimacy and strengthen your marriage.We’re joined by Elaine (LMFT) and Abe Romero, experts in relationships and marriages, who share practical tips on how to flirt, laugh, and truly connect with your spouse, even in the midst of life’s chaos. From playful communication to reigniting chemistry, this conversation is packed with actionable advice to bring joy, fun, and closeness back into your relationship.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Aug 22, 2025 • 44min
394. You Can Be BOTH Spiritual And Sexual - With Greg & Julie Gorman
Many of us grew up learning about sex through a worldly lens, leaving us with feelings of guilt, shame, or discomfort around sexual intimacy. But the truth is: sex is a beautiful, natural expression of connection. It’s a way for couples to be truly vulnerable with one another, like no other relationship allows.In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into the powerful truth that you can be both spiritual and sexual, and that the two are deeply intertwined. Couples who embrace their sexual connection often experience a profound spiritual bond, creating intimacy that transcends the physical.We’re joined by world-renowned marriage coaches and instructors, Greg and Julie Gorman of Married For A Purpose. Many of you may know them as the incredible facilitators from our Intimacy and Adventure Retreats. Together, we explore how to nurture your sexual and spiritual connection, overcome shame, and create the most fulfilling intimacy of your life.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Aug 19, 2025 • 22min
393. The 6 Mistakes Couples Make After Being Intimate Together
Many couples overlook the importance of what happens after intimacy. Common mistakes can lead to hurt feelings and disconnection. Discover the value of post-intimacy routines, communication, and expressing appreciation to deepen your relationship. The hosts stress how vital it is to replace distractions with genuine bonding activities and open dialogue. Prioritizing these moments can significantly enhance emotional closeness and overall intimacy.

Aug 15, 2025 • 25min
392. The 21 AMAZING Facts You Probably Didn't Know About Kissing That Will Make You Want To Kiss More!
Why dedicate an entire episode to kissing? Because this simple, sweet act is packed with incredible benefits for your relationship and your health!Did you know that kissing can burn calories, strengthen your immune system, and even boost your mood by reducing depression? Plus, research shows couples who kiss often tend to enjoy stronger, more connected marriages.In this fun episode, Nick and Amy share fascinating facts you’ve probably never heard before, along with tips for making kissing a more intentional and meaningful part of your relationship.Tune in, because you’ll never look at a kiss the same way again!If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Aug 12, 2025 • 33min
391. Marriage And Parenting Unfiltered... Funny Experiences! Tell Us We Aren't Alone :)
We were sitting on the couch the other night laughing about how much of our daily life as a married couple could sometimes be straight out of a sitcom.No one writes this stuff... it just happens in our house.🤣In this podcast episode we share the funny things that happen in our marriage and with our kids that make us wonder "are we the only ones that do these things?" For example:Do your kids text you from the room next to you?Do you take 60 minutes to pick out a movie to watch together?Does this sound familiar? “Where do you want to go for dinner?”“I don’t care, you pick.” “Okay… do you want to go to [Restaurant #1]?”“Anywhere but there.”“Alright… how about [Restaurant #2]?”“No, not that one either.”These are just a few of the funny things we share. We hope you enjoy this funny episode and also share your experiences for a future episode! Share them at amy@ultimateintimacy.comIf you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Aug 8, 2025 • 26min
390. How An Intimate-less Marriage Negatively Impacts A Wife
We often hear about how a lack of intimacy affects men, but what about the women? What happens when he’s the one with little to no sexual desire? Or if a wife is withholding or doesn't want sexual intimacy? Either scenario, the negative impacts are the same.A man’s healthy sex drive often fuels romance, emotional connection, and the drive to pursue and cherish his wife. But when that is missing, it can leave a woman feeling undesired, disconnected, and confused.In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive deep into the emotional toll and relationship challenges women face when intimacy fades on his side of the marriage bed. You won’t want to miss this raw and powerful conversation that’s rarely talked about, but desperately needs to be.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Aug 5, 2025 • 41min
389. The Major Turn-Offs That You Don't Even Realize You Are Doing In Your Marriage
Let’s be real, marriage comes with a whole lot of love... and a few cringe-worthy things we didn’t sign up for. From open-mouth chewing to chronic nagging to that "Thanks-for-nothing" attitude, sometimes the smallest things can flip the switch from turned on to totally turned off. In this episode, we share "your" poll answers on the things that really turn you off. These are the silent killers of connection, the subtle sabotage moves you probably don't even realize you're making... but totally are. The good news? Awareness is everything. Once you recognize these turn-offs, you can flip the script and build deeper intimacy, appreciation, and that irresistible attraction you’ve been craving. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Aug 1, 2025 • 44min
388. Women Need To "Feel" Loved To Make Love, And Men Need To Make Love To Feel Loved!
You've heard us talk about how different men and women are when it comes to sexual desires, and what puts a husband or wife in the mood. Men can be ready to go at any moments notice, and sex for most men is the way they feel loved, and gives them the validation that they are loved. For women, they need to feel loved before they are going to have the desire for sexual intimacy.For a woman to feel loved, they need to feel valued, listened to, respected, safe and emotionally connected. For men to feel loved, they need to be sexually connected.It is vital for couples to understand what each other needs to feel loved, and the importance of sexual intimacy in the relationship. In this episode we talk about why women need to feel loved to make love, and how to do that, and why men need to make love to feel loved.🔁 Healthy Cycle:Emotional intimacy → physical intimacy → deeper emotional bond → stronger desire → repeat.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Jul 29, 2025 • 40min
387. The Best Conflict Resolution Advice For Married Couples We Have Ever Heard!
Tamara Fackrell, a divorce attorney and PhD in Marriage & Family Relationships, shares her passion for helping couples thrive. She offers transformative conflict resolution strategies that can be easily implemented, emphasizing the naturalness of conflict in relationships. Tamara discusses the ABCDE rule, the importance of regular communication, and introduces tools like the 'talking square' for effective discussions. She highlights the balance between intimacy and independence and stresses the need for boundaries to foster lasting love.