The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

What if one simple weekly habit could transform your marriage? It certainly has for us!In this important episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) dive into the power of the weekly marriage meeting, and why thriving couples don’t just hope intimacy and connection happen… they really do plan for it.From aligning busy schedules and tackling real-life stressors to creating space for emotional and physical intimacy, this conversation is practical, honest, and surprisingly fun. We share why intentional check-ins build trust, reduce conflict, and keep passion alive, without making your relationship feel like a business meeting. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, overwhelmed, or like life keeps getting in the way of your marriage, this episode will flip the script.Download the Marriage Meeting PDF on the ultimate intimacy app under the resources section, and then coupon and printables! If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

We recently received a heartfelt message from a listener whose spouse had an affair. They shared a question many couples face after betrayal: Is it truly possible to forgive? While their spouse has expressed deep remorse and appears sincere, the pain, broken trust, and emotional weight feel overwhelming. They want to move forward, but don’t know how, or even if forgiveness is possible.Betrayal in marriage comes in many forms, from seemingly small breaches of trust like a financial mistake, to deeply traumatic experiences like infidelity. No matter the size, betrayal can cause significant short- and long-term damage to intimacy, safety, and connection in a relationship.In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we welcome back our good friend Austin Ellis to have an honest and compassionate conversation about healing after betrayal. Together, we explore what forgiveness really means (and what it doesn’t), why moving on isn’t a linear process, and how couples can begin rebuilding trust, whether reconciliation feels possible right now or not.If you or your spouse are navigating the aftermath of betrayal in any form, this episode offers hope, clarity, and practical insight for taking the next step forward to finding Ultimate Intimacy again in your relationship.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Practical tips for sparking more passion through small, consistent actions. Ideas include initiating more often, scheduling intimate time, and using simple signals to show desire. Suggestions cover phone-free moments, showering together, and reviving meaningful kisses to rebuild connection. Emphasis on picking one or two easy changes and building momentum with baby steps.

In this episode, we have Austin Ellis back with us to dive into what it really means and what it looks like to be a better wife in marriage. You are going to absolutely love this conversation. We have already talked about what it means to be a good, loving husband, but as we all know, marriage takes two. A healthy, thriving, and passionate marriage requires both spouses intentionally pouring into the relationship.In this episode, we explore what that looks like specifically for wives and how small, intentional choices can make a big impact on connection. Expert Austin Ellis, LMFT, shares practical insights, tools, and strategies couples can use to reconnect and strengthen their marriage. He dives into how spouses can move beyond simply getting their needs met and instead build a relationship where both spouses genuinely want to engage, feel emotionally connected, and rediscover passion together.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

A while back, we shared a video on social media about the importance of making time for intimacy, dating, and connection in marriage. One man responded strongly, explaining that he, and many other husbands, simply did not have the “time” and felt we did not understand the realities of busy life.What followed was a conversation that went back and forth for nearly three hours, centered on his belief that there was truly no time available to connect with his wife. At one point, Amy gently pointed out that while he felt he had no time for his marriage, he had found several hours to engage in the discussion and remain active on social media. The conversation ended shortly after, but the point remained clear.We hear this often. Couples talk about being too busy for date nights, postponing vacations, putting off intimacy, or avoiding deeper emotional connection. Yet we live in a world where convenience surrounds us. Food arrives in minutes, answers are instant, and entertainment is available at the push of a button.Still, many couples feel they do not have time for the most important relationship in their lives, their marriage.The truth is not that time is unavailable, but that it is often unintentionally allocated elsewhere. Screens, distractions, and endless obligations slowly take priority while marriage gets pushed to the margins. When couples begin to look honestly at how time is spent, even small shifts can create space for meaningful connection. Prioritizing marriage is rarely about finding more time, it is about choosing where our time goes.In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we talk about why “too busy” is the ultimate relationship killer and the simple things you can do to reclaim your time, your connection, and your love, even in the middle of life’s chaos. If you’ve been putting your relationship on the back burner, this episode is your wake-up call.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Ever wonder if your marriage can be fixed and repaired… or if it's too late? You’re not alone. The great news is... it's never too late, and repairing your marriage is much easier than you think by implementing the right tools and strategies. Tons of couples, and even just the spouses reach out to us asking how to repair and improve their relationships. That’s why we brought in Austin Ellis, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to provide "the gold" on how to mend a relationship, even if you’re the only one trying.Nick is flying solo again in this episode (don’t worry, Amy hasn’t gone off the grid, she’ll be back soon). Tune in for insights, and some real talk about how to build stronger, healthier, and yes… slightly less chaotic relationships.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Curiosity might just be the secret sauce for lasting intimacy in marriage. The hosts explore how staying curious about your partner prevents emotional stagnation and enhances both emotional and sexual connection. They share practical tips for sparking meaningful conversations and engaging in shared activities that keep the relationship fresh. From exploring new hobbies to playful date nights and honest bedroom discussions, curiosity fosters safety, strengthens communication, and ignites passion. Dive into a marriage that grows and excites!

Austin Ellis, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, discusses the keys to becoming a better man, husband, and father. He emphasizes the importance of relational safety and how men's emotional withdrawal can harm marriages. Austin provides actionable advice like the 90-second return technique to foster calm responses. He highlights that true intimacy comes from a man's presence and ownership, encouraging husbands to reconnect with their identity and actively seek feedback from their wives to create a safe environment.

We talk about this all the time on the Ultimate Intimacy podcast — emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy go hand in hand. You can’t expect a strong sex life if you’re not emotionally connected first.For most people, especially many women desire doesn’t start in the bedroom. It starts with feeling heard, valued, and emotionally safe. If that connection is missing, sexual intimacy often disappears right along with it.That’s why when couples say, “Our intimacy isn’t where we want it to be,” we usually ask them how the emotional connection is, and most the time it isn't connected either.When you focus on listening, showing appreciation, spending intentional time together, and connecting without pressure, walls come down and desire naturally begins to return.And here’s the exciting part... when emotional intimacy improves, sexual intimacy often comes back stronger than ever. Couples become more open, playful, and connected, and intimacy turns into something you both look forward to again.So if you want a better intimate life, don’t skip the foundation.Build emotional closeness first, and watch every part of your marriage thrive.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

One of the fastest ways intimacy erodes in marriage is through assumption.We assume our spouse knows what we need.We assume they understand how we feel.We assume love means they should just “get it.”But marriage doesn’t work on mind-reading as we have talked about before, it works on communication.When we assume things, we stop asking questions. And when we stop asking questions, we stop truly knowing our spouse. Over time, those assumptions turn into unmet expectations, and unmet expectations almost always lead to frustration, resentment, or emotional distance.Dr. John Gottman, one of the leading marriage researchers, talks about “bids for connection” the small moments where one spouse reaches out for attention, affection, or understanding. When those bids are ignored, often because of assumptions, couples slowly drift apart. Assumptions also damage sexual intimacy. When one spouse assumes rejection, disinterest, or “now’s not a good time,” desire goes unspoken. Silence replaces vulnerability. And eventually, intimacy feels awkward or distant, not because love is gone, but because communication is.In this episode, Nick and Amy talk about how making assumptions or assuming things in marriage can crate a lot of disconnect and conflict.Healthy marriages don’t assume. They ask.They clarify.They check in.They choose conversation over silence.Because love isn’t proven by how well you guess, it’s proven by how well you listen.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!