The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

Have you ever felt like you and your spouse speak completely different love languages? Maybe you crave words of affirmation while they’re all about acts of service. Or perhaps your need for physical touch feels invisible while they’re busy showing love in ways that don’t resonate with you.In this episode, we dive deep into the reality of opposite love languages in marriage, why they happen, why they can feel frustrating, and most importantly, how they can become a powerful opportunity for emotional and sexual intimacy.We share real-life examples from our own marriage, including moments when one of us was giving love in our language while the other’s needs felt unmet. You’ll hear how small, intentional actions, like noticing chores that need doing, initiating touch, or offering a genuine compliment, can completely transform connection.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How to identify your spouse’s true love language when it’s opposite yoursPractical strategies to speak your spouses's love language even when it feels unnaturalWhy emotional connection comes before sexual intimacy, and how this principle strengthens your marriageHow to avoid resentment when love language differences feel frustratingReal-life examples of couples turning opposite love languages into deeper love, trust, and intimacy Whether your love languages are totally opposite or just slightly different, this episode will give you the tools and perspective to stop feeling disconnected and start feeling deeply understood, desired, and emotionally close. Tune in and discover how opposites really can attract... and thrive in marriage.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into a fun and eye-opening discussion: what counts as bare minimum in marriage, and what truly deserves princess or prince treatment?We go through real-life examples, giving flowers, planning surprise date nights, foot rubs, sending appreciation texts, initiating intimacy, cooking meals just because, and more, and ask each other whether each action is bare minimum or truly going above and beyond. You might be shocked by our answers!This episode isn’t just about fun hypotheticals. It’s a wake-up call for couples to reflect on how they show love, appreciation, and care for their spouse every day. Would your partner agree with your answers? Are you spoiling each other or just coasting along?We also explore the key to transforming your marriage: communication. Openly discussing desires, expectations, and ways to delight one another ensures both partners feel seen, cherished, and loved. Plus, we share practical questions you can ask your spouse to start this conversation, helping you become better teammates, lovers, and spouses.Whether you are newlyweds or married for decades, this episode will give you tools and insight to deepen connection, increase intimacy, and bring fun and romance back into your marriage.🎧 Listen, reflect, and start treating each other like royalty today!👉 Don’t forget to download the Ultimate Intimacy App at ultimateintimacy.com for hundreds of conversation starters, games, and tools to strengthen both emotional and sexual intimacy in your marriage.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into one of the most common struggles couples face: keeping score in marriage.So many couples reach out to us feeling overwhelmed and frustrated because things don’t feel “50/50. in their marriage. One spouse feels like they’re doing more, and resentment begins to creep in. The harder they try to keep score, and keep things equal, the more discouraged and disconnected they become.When you keep score, you are competing agains each other and no one wins.We’ll talk about why keeping score is so damaging to intimacy, how it slowly erodes trust and love, and why the more you strive for perfect equality the more disconnected and resentful you will become. We'll share healthier ways to approach balance, teamwork, and appreciation in marriage.If you’ve ever felt like you’re giving more than your spouse or wondered how to stop the cycle of frustration, this episode is for you. Join us as we uncover how to move away from scorekeeping and toward a marriage filled with gratitude, unity, and joy.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Mathew 6:28 "But I say unto you, That Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in is heart."We have got a ton of people contacting us about this subject so we decided we needed to share our thoughts on this with you.In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into the tough but important topic of lusting after someone other than your spouse. We open up about why wandering eyes can quietly erode trust, intimacy, and connection with your spouse, and the dangerous paths it often leads to if left unchecked. Most importantly, we share practical ways to protect your relationship, and refocus your desires where they belong, which is back on your marriage and your spouse.We should only have our eyes on one person, and that is our spouse.If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with this temptation of lust for someone other than your spouse, and outside of your marriage, this episode is for you.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Emotional safety is the foundation of lasting intimacy and trust in marriage. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into what it really means to feel safe with your spouse, and being able to share thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or rejection.We’ll explore the signs of emotional safety, the common behaviors that destroy it, and practical ways to create a safe space where both spouses feel understood, respected, and supported. From breaking patterns like criticism, stonewalling, or dishonesty, to building habits of empathy, validation, and open communication, this conversation will help you strengthen the bond in your marriage and deepen your connection.If you want more trust, better conflict resolution, and deeper intimacy with your spouse, this episode is for you.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Do You Love Me as Much as the Kids? A Conversation Every Couple Needs One of our friends recently asked his wife, “Do you love me as much as the kids?” and it sparked a powerful conversation about love, priorities, and intimacy in marriage. Many husbands have shared with us, through messages or emails, that sometimes they feel like they come after everything else, especially the kids. And yes, this can go both ways, of course.Instead of quickly answering, “Of course not! Duh!”, take a moment to reflect on your own marriage. Does your spouse feel the need to ask this? Why? It’s not a bad question, it’s deeply important. When discussed in a loving, thoughtful way, it can strengthen connection, clarify needs, and prevent resentment.In this episode, we dive into:Why husbands ask this question and what’s really underneath itHow wives may unintentionally spark this concernHow to balance parenting and marriage without guilt or competitionConversation questions that can transform your connectionPlus 5+ Questions Couples Can Ask Each Other on this episode:When do you feel most loved and prioritized by me?Do you ever feel like the kids come before you, and if so, what does that look like?How can I reassure you that you’re my spouse first, even in busy seasons?What would “balance” between marriage and kids look like in this season?What’s one intentional or fun thing we could do this week to remind each other that our marriage comes first?Tune in for honest, heartfelt advice that will inspire you to keep your marriage at the center of your life. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In this episode, we dive into a topic that’s often whispered about but rarely discussed openly—sexual intimacy aids and the powerful role they can play in relationships. Far from being just “toys,” these tools can help couples communicate better, deepen emotional connection, and reignite passion that may have faded into routine.We explore ten key ways intimacy aids can strengthen partnerships—from boosting confidence and balancing different desire levels, to helping couples explore new sensations together and maintain intimacy as needs change over time. Along the way, we also answer some of the most common (and sometimes awkward) questions couples ask: Are intimacy aids only for couples with problems? How do we bring them up without embarrassment? Do they replace closeness, or can they actually bring us closer?A couple of things that shifted our mindset on intimacy aids were setting two simple boundaries: “Does it bring us closer together?” and “Is it only used together?” Framing it this way helped us see these tools not as replacements for intimacy, but as bridges that deepen connection, playfulness, and trust.Whether you’re in a brand-new relationship or decades into one, this conversation is all about breaking taboos, normalizing pleasure, and reminding couples that intimacy should be fun, evolving, and deeply connecting.Check out our great vibrating ring and lubricant we discussed on this episode HERE.Check out this great article "Can Using Sex Toys (intimacy aids) Really Make Your Marriage Happier?"If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

When most people think about sexual libido, the first thought often goes straight to the physical aspect of things such as “Why doesn’t my spouse have any sex drive?” or “Something must be wrong with them physically.” But what if a spouses desire to be sexual (libido) really isn't physical, but is tied to how they feel emotionally connected?In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into the surprising reality that libido is not just about the physical desire, it’s more about being mentally and emotionally connected. They explore what really influences sexual desire in marriage, the misconceptions couples often have, and why understanding these underlying factors can completely shift the way you approach intimacy with your spouse.You’ll learn:Why libido is is actually tied to how they feel emotionally, or the emotional connection.The mental and emotional factors that play a huge role in desireHow stress, connection, and relationship dynamics can impact intimacyWays to better understand your spouse’s needs and strengthen closenessIf you’ve ever wondered why your sex drive, or your spouse’s sexual desire doesn’t look the way you expect, this episode will give you clarity, encouragement, and practical insights to build a stronger, more connected marriage.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) dive into a common concern we hear from many husbands: “Intimate Time Feels Like a Moving Target!"For some couples, intimacy seems to come with a long checklist such as chores finished, the house spotless, kids taken care of, emotional connection felt, and the right mood set... before intimate time is even an option. While those things can all be important, they can also leave one spouse feeling rejected, frustrated, or like intimacy is always out of reach.We unpack why these expectations often develop, how they impact both spouses differently, and what couples can do to find a healthier balance. You’ll hear honest conversations about:Why the “checklist mentality” can create distance instead of connectionPractical ways to lower unrealistic expectations while still honoring emotional and relational needsHow to create an environment where both spouses feel valued and desiredWhether you’ve felt like intimacy is always “just out of reach” or you’re the one needing certain things in place before feeling ready, this episode will give you insight, encouragement, and tools to bring more connection and fulfillment into your marriage.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

"What We Feed Grows, And What We Starve Dies" - This is one of our favorite quotes from our good friends Greg and Julie Gorman with Married For A Purpose. We love this quote because it is so powerful and true! In marriage, our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes act like seeds, what we feed our thoughts grows stronger (good or bad), what we starve our thoughts dies. Your thoughts truly shape what your marriage will be, what you focus on grows, and what you ignore fades. In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into the powerful idea that your attitude can make or break your relationship.If you constantly tell yourself you don’t like sex or or the things your spouse does, and only focus on the negatives in your marriage, those feelings only grow stronger. But when you starve negative thoughts and intentionally nurture positive ones, your connection, intimacy, and joy can flourish.Tune in to learn how small shifts in your attitude can create big changes in your marriage.. helping you reconnect, laugh more, and build the kind of intimacy that lasts a lifetime.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!