The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

Are you tired of arguments that spiral out of control, or do you find yourself having the same arguments over and over again? Do you wish there was a better way to navigate conflict in your marriage without resentment, frustration, or toxicity? In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy share the transformative advice they wish they had known earlier in their own marriage with insights that can change the way you have conflict/disagreements, communicate, and reconnect with your spouse.This episode will give you ideas and tools to fight fair, deepen your intimacy, and strengthen your bond for the long haul.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In our last episode, we sat down with Monica Tanner to explore the bad marriage advice many of us have been given, advice that can quietly undermine even the strongest relationships. This week, Nick and Amy dive deeper into the topic in The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, sharing more examples of the misguided guidance that couples often hear and the real impact it can have on a marriage.Tune in as Nick and Amy break down the myths, the mistakes, and the bad advice we’ve all encountered, so you can build a stronger, more authentic connection with your spouse.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive deep into the often overlooked and sometimes misguided world of marriage advice with Monica Tanner, the brilliant mind behind the eye-opening new book, Bad Marriage Advice. Monica pulls back the curtain on the most common pieces of advice we’ve all heard, and sometimes blindly followed, and she explains why these “tips” could actually be hurting your marriage.We explore the advice we think is helpful but is secretly harmful, the myths that keep couples stuck in cycles of frustration, and the surprising truths that can transform how you connect with your spouse. Monica’s insights are honest, practical, and even funny, making this episode as enlightening as it is entertaining.Whether you’re newly married, decades in, or just curious about what really makes relationships thrive, this episode is packed with revelations that could change the way you think, communicate, and love. Tune in and discover whether some of the things you’ve been doing to “improve” your marriage might actually be making it worse—and what to do instead.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Have you ever felt like you and your spouse speak completely different love languages? Maybe you crave words of affirmation while they’re all about acts of service. Or perhaps your need for physical touch feels invisible while they’re busy showing love in ways that don’t resonate with you.In this episode, we dive deep into the reality of opposite love languages in marriage, why they happen, why they can feel frustrating, and most importantly, how they can become a powerful opportunity for emotional and sexual intimacy.We share real-life examples from our own marriage, including moments when one of us was giving love in our language while the other’s needs felt unmet. You’ll hear how small, intentional actions, like noticing chores that need doing, initiating touch, or offering a genuine compliment, can completely transform connection.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How to identify your spouse’s true love language when it’s opposite yoursPractical strategies to speak your spouses's love language even when it feels unnaturalWhy emotional connection comes before sexual intimacy, and how this principle strengthens your marriageHow to avoid resentment when love language differences feel frustratingReal-life examples of couples turning opposite love languages into deeper love, trust, and intimacy Whether your love languages are totally opposite or just slightly different, this episode will give you the tools and perspective to stop feeling disconnected and start feeling deeply understood, desired, and emotionally close. Tune in and discover how opposites really can attract... and thrive in marriage.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into a fun and eye-opening discussion: what counts as bare minimum in marriage, and what truly deserves princess or prince treatment?We go through real-life examples, giving flowers, planning surprise date nights, foot rubs, sending appreciation texts, initiating intimacy, cooking meals just because, and more, and ask each other whether each action is bare minimum or truly going above and beyond. You might be shocked by our answers!This episode isn’t just about fun hypotheticals. It’s a wake-up call for couples to reflect on how they show love, appreciation, and care for their spouse every day. Would your partner agree with your answers? Are you spoiling each other or just coasting along?We also explore the key to transforming your marriage: communication. Openly discussing desires, expectations, and ways to delight one another ensures both partners feel seen, cherished, and loved. Plus, we share practical questions you can ask your spouse to start this conversation, helping you become better teammates, lovers, and spouses.Whether you are newlyweds or married for decades, this episode will give you tools and insight to deepen connection, increase intimacy, and bring fun and romance back into your marriage.🎧 Listen, reflect, and start treating each other like royalty today!👉 Don’t forget to download the Ultimate Intimacy App at ultimateintimacy.com for hundreds of conversation starters, games, and tools to strengthen both emotional and sexual intimacy in your marriage.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into one of the most common struggles couples face: keeping score in marriage.So many couples reach out to us feeling overwhelmed and frustrated because things don’t feel “50/50. in their marriage. One spouse feels like they’re doing more, and resentment begins to creep in. The harder they try to keep score, and keep things equal, the more discouraged and disconnected they become.When you keep score, you are competing agains each other and no one wins.We’ll talk about why keeping score is so damaging to intimacy, how it slowly erodes trust and love, and why the more you strive for perfect equality the more disconnected and resentful you will become. We'll share healthier ways to approach balance, teamwork, and appreciation in marriage.If you’ve ever felt like you’re giving more than your spouse or wondered how to stop the cycle of frustration, this episode is for you. Join us as we uncover how to move away from scorekeeping and toward a marriage filled with gratitude, unity, and joy.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Mathew 6:28 "But I say unto you, That Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in is heart."We have got a ton of people contacting us about this subject so we decided we needed to share our thoughts on this with you.In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into the tough but important topic of lusting after someone other than your spouse. We open up about why wandering eyes can quietly erode trust, intimacy, and connection with your spouse, and the dangerous paths it often leads to if left unchecked. Most importantly, we share practical ways to protect your relationship, and refocus your desires where they belong, which is back on your marriage and your spouse.We should only have our eyes on one person, and that is our spouse.If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with this temptation of lust for someone other than your spouse, and outside of your marriage, this episode is for you.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Emotional safety is the foundation of lasting intimacy and trust in marriage. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into what it really means to feel safe with your spouse, and being able to share thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or rejection.We’ll explore the signs of emotional safety, the common behaviors that destroy it, and practical ways to create a safe space where both spouses feel understood, respected, and supported. From breaking patterns like criticism, stonewalling, or dishonesty, to building habits of empathy, validation, and open communication, this conversation will help you strengthen the bond in your marriage and deepen your connection.If you want more trust, better conflict resolution, and deeper intimacy with your spouse, this episode is for you.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Do You Love Me as Much as the Kids? A Conversation Every Couple Needs One of our friends recently asked his wife, “Do you love me as much as the kids?” and it sparked a powerful conversation about love, priorities, and intimacy in marriage. Many husbands have shared with us, through messages or emails, that sometimes they feel like they come after everything else, especially the kids. And yes, this can go both ways, of course.Instead of quickly answering, “Of course not! Duh!”, take a moment to reflect on your own marriage. Does your spouse feel the need to ask this? Why? It’s not a bad question, it’s deeply important. When discussed in a loving, thoughtful way, it can strengthen connection, clarify needs, and prevent resentment.In this episode, we dive into:Why husbands ask this question and what’s really underneath itHow wives may unintentionally spark this concernHow to balance parenting and marriage without guilt or competitionConversation questions that can transform your connectionPlus 5+ Questions Couples Can Ask Each Other on this episode:When do you feel most loved and prioritized by me?Do you ever feel like the kids come before you, and if so, what does that look like?How can I reassure you that you’re my spouse first, even in busy seasons?What would “balance” between marriage and kids look like in this season?What’s one intentional or fun thing we could do this week to remind each other that our marriage comes first?Tune in for honest, heartfelt advice that will inspire you to keep your marriage at the center of your life. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

In this episode, we dive into a topic that’s often whispered about but rarely discussed openly—sexual intimacy aids and the powerful role they can play in relationships. Far from being just “toys,” these tools can help couples communicate better, deepen emotional connection, and reignite passion that may have faded into routine.We explore ten key ways intimacy aids can strengthen partnerships—from boosting confidence and balancing different desire levels, to helping couples explore new sensations together and maintain intimacy as needs change over time. Along the way, we also answer some of the most common (and sometimes awkward) questions couples ask: Are intimacy aids only for couples with problems? How do we bring them up without embarrassment? Do they replace closeness, or can they actually bring us closer?A couple of things that shifted our mindset on intimacy aids were setting two simple boundaries: “Does it bring us closer together?” and “Is it only used together?” Framing it this way helped us see these tools not as replacements for intimacy, but as bridges that deepen connection, playfulness, and trust.Whether you’re in a brand-new relationship or decades into one, this conversation is all about breaking taboos, normalizing pleasure, and reminding couples that intimacy should be fun, evolving, and deeply connecting.Check out our great vibrating ring and lubricant we discussed on this episode HERE.Check out this great article "Can Using Sex Toys (intimacy aids) Really Make Your Marriage Happier?"If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!