The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

In this episode, Ed Center shares his personal journey as a queer Brown dad, raising his children with a different approach from the cultural norms he grew up with.  We discuss the challenges of parenting in a way that goes against the grain, the importance of healing and self-forgiveness, and the need for support and community.  Throughout our conversation, we emphasize the significance of creating space for understanding and connection with our children, as well as fostering relationships that allow for growth and change. We talk about: [3:15] Ed's background becoming a parent [6:20] Elements of his culture he wanted to pass down to his kids and parts he did not want to [7:30] His son's mental health crisis during the pandemic [11:30] Research as a trauma response and noticing the last of coaches of color in the parenting space [13:30] His creation of The Village Well [15:20] Trying to parent differently than how we were raised [24:35] Creating trust with the parents we work with [27:45] Showing grace and processing our own trauma [33:50] How to not repeat toxic styles  [37:20] Dealing with disapproval of family members [43:55] Strategies for self control and triggers Ed Center was a child with big feelings and impulsive behaviors. He drove his mom and teachers crazy. Now he helps grown-ups to understand and support these kids.  During the height of the pandemic, Ed’s son suffered an acute mental health crisis. Searching for support, Ed discovered the field of positive parenting and learned strategies and tools to strengthen his connection with his son, leading to healing for the whole family. However, Ed was frustrated with the lack of attention to diverse cultures and traditions.  He founded The Village Well to bring more connection, joy, and healing to families of color. Ed and his husband raise two boys and three cats in San Francisco.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Free first Fridays and $1 Coaching   Connect with Ed Instagram: www.instagram.com/villagewellparenting LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/village-well-parenting/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@queerbrowndad  https://www.villagewellparenting.com/ Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Corey and I explore a wide range of topics and challenges that parents frequently encounter on their journey towards becoming Peaceful Parents. Sometimes parents find that peaceful parenting doesn’t “work” like they think it’s “supposed to” work and then they feel like they’re doing it wrong or worry that peaceful parenting isn’t for them. This is probably because they have a kiddo who is more complex than the typical kiddo-- and it’s why we are on a mission to reimagine peaceful parenting.  We talk about the nuances from parent to parent, and kid to kid, when it comes to peaceful parenting strategies and techniques. For example, we talk about the differences in special time, connecting with our kids in different ways as well as finding different tools and strategies to help them to process their emotions. Ultimately, we want you and your child to be on the same team. To help even more with this, we’re putting on a Summit to help you and your kids flourish.   We talk about: [1:20] When you feel like you’re doing Peaceful Parenting “wrong” [3:00] What you will gain from our upcoming Summit [4:20] How ‘Special Time’ looks different between each parent and child relationship, and what to do about it [7:20] Connecting with your child aside from special time [11:55] How to help our kids process emotions, aside from emptying the emotional backpack [15:55] Connecting with your child when they’re being defiant [18:25] Making sure you and your child are on the same team [20:00] Feeding and division of responsibility  [28:50] Our upcoming rebrand [34:30] Opening the doors to our membership Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Summit: www.sarahrosensweet.com/summit    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, we have a coaching episode with Stephanie. Stephanie is the mom of two kids, Felix, who's 18 months, and Thomas, who's nine.  Stephanie shared with me before we recorded that Thomas is an amazing, curious, strong willed, more extra 2E kid. She explains how he watches her and also triggers her, which invites her to work hard on her own self regulation and self compassion (as we dive into in our conversation). We talk about: [1:20] You don’t want to miss this summit [4:35] When to start transitioning to letting your kids have more say over what they do and not forcing them or having to distract them to get things done [7:20] How others' emotions can affect us, and especially children  [10:45] When kids struggle to take medications  [14:35] When a habit of making snarky comments can make kids feel bad [20:00] Her sons relationship with his dad [23:05] What to do when it feels overwhelming to get things done with him [24:40] Implementing collaborative proactive solutions [29:20] Emptying his emotional backpack  [30:20] What her connection is like with her son [36:20] Helping her son learn how to communicate his feelings [38:00] Finding forgiveness for yourself [41:10] Dealing with her parent’s disapproval for how she’s raising her kids [45:50] One month check in [49:30] The progress she has seen [1:01:25] Managing our relationship to stress and time Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Summit: www.sarahrosensweet.com/summit    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Rachel Harrington and Jessica Hill join me to talk about all things sensory processing disorder. Rachel, COTA/L, AC and Jessica, COTA/L are two passionate Certified Occupational Therapy Assistants and the hosts of the popular podcast, All Things Sensory. Their podcast, digital courses, YouTube, and blog on Harkla.co covers topics related to sensory processing disorder, special needs, parenting, and topics related to child development and health. We talk about: [4:00] Who Rachel and Jessica are [6:15] What is sensory processing disorder? [8:15] Our 3 hidden senses [11:20] Sensory challenges that come with going to the bathroom [13:35] Triggers with taking a bath  [16:11] Common triggers you may not know are sensory challenges [17:45] Oral seeking [19:15] Picky eating [26:30] Sensory integration and OT evaluation [29:30] Adopting a sensory diet [34:20] Noticing what your child needs [37:30] Tips for parents who struggle getting kids dressed [41:50] Knowing this isn’t a choice your kids are making [45:05] Advice to their younger parent selves With over 9 years of clinical experience, Rachel and Jessica are on a mission to help parents, educators, and therapists raise strong and confident children, no matter their abilities. They are passionate about taking clinical topics (such as Sensory Processing Disorder, primitive reflexes, sensory diets, and more) and breaking them down in a way that is actionable for anyone to benefit from.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Summit: www.sarahrosensweet.com/summit  Connect with Rachel and Jessica Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/harklaproducts/  Instagram: www.instagram.com/allthingssensorypodcast Instagram: www.instagram.com/harkla_family  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melindawennermoyer  https://harkla.co/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Melinda Wenner Moyer joins me to talk about her book, and a range of topics around bullying, raising kids that aren’t selfish, and how to help our kids develop self esteem. We talk about: [4:40] How Melinda and I met, and an introduction to her book [7:40] The most surprising thing she learned while researching for her book [12:45] Bullying and the parents of kids who bully [13:50] Increasing our kids’ theory of mind skills [17:30] Raising kids that aren’t selfish [19:50] Leaning into conversations with your kids that you don't want to have [22:10] The message we send when we don’t talk about race and gender [33:00] Can your child develop narcissism by bolstering their self-esteem too much? [36:20] How kids are affected by pressure applied by parents [40:35] Why parents care more about hitting milestones than their child’s happiness [44:00] Advice she would give to her younger parent self Melinda Wenner Moyer is a science journalist based in Cold Spring, New York. She's a regular contributor to The New York Times, a contributing editor at Scientific American magazine, and a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Her first book, How To Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, was published in July 2021 and won a gold medal in the 2022 Living Now Book Awards.   Melinda was the recipient of the 2022 Excellence in Science Journalism award from The Society for Personality and Social Psychology, the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology.    Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Connect with Melinda LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melindawennermoyer/  Instagram: www.instagram.com/melindawmoyer  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melindawennermoyer  www.melindawmoyer.substack.com  www.melindawennermoyer.com      Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, we dive into the world of neurodivergent parenting with Jaya and Priya. We explore their backgrounds and the vital work they do in this space, shedding light on the essence of neurodivergence.  They share their motivations behind writing "Parenting at the Intersection" and discuss challenges they face as neurodivergent parents. We also delve into themes like normalizing emotional overwhelm, the link between parenting, supremacy, and capitalism, and empowering individuals to navigate external influences.  Plus, discover hidden wisdom within children's behaviors and practical strategies for tough moments, all while receiving heartfelt advice from our guests to their younger parent selves. We talk about: [3:30] Jaya and Priya’s background and work in this space [5:55] The definition of what we mean when we say neurodivergent [10:25] What made them want to write Parenting at the Intersection  [16:50] Challenges they face parenting while neurodivergent [23:20] Normalizing emotional overwhelm and big emotions [28:10] Big ideas from their book in terms of the correlation between parenting, supremacy and capitalism  [31:30] How to help people tune into their own wisdom when influenced by outside factors, especially when influenced by fear  [35:30] The wisdom or medicine in your child's behaviors [38:25] Specific practices to use when things are particularly challenging [43:30] Advice to their younger parent selves Priya Saaral is a mama, a play therapist, and a parenting coach in the Greater Seattle area. She also identifies as neurodivergent and a first-generation immigrant settler. Her work is centered on helping young people and parents find their voice and their playful spirit amidst personal and structural adversity, seeking to be seen and to belong. Priya herself was in this space too, and her own experiences of strength and hardship motivated her to help all children feel seen and heard as valuable human beings in society, and as agents of change. When she's feeling playful, you may likely find her engrossed in a jigsaw puzzle, on the wrestling mat with her son, or replenishing her cup by exploring South Indian Classical and Jazz music forms. Jaya Ramesh is a cis, immigrant, neurodivergent woman of color, who holds caste, class, and education privileges. She currently resides on the unceded lands of the Duwamish peoples. Jaya's passions revolve around creating liberatory healing and learning spaces while actively working to disentangle from and dismantle systems of oppression. She identifies herself as a truth-teller and facilitator, driven by a deep passion for unlocking the stories waiting to be shared, both within herself and among others. In her private practice, Jaya supports BIPOC and neurodivergent individuals in cultivating more authentic and nourishing relationships. She shares her life with her partner of 18 years, and together they are raising two neurodivergent children and a puppy. Jaya's interests encompass reading novels, practicing vipassana meditations, challenging herself with strenuous hikes, indulging in long naps, passionately singing 80's tunes at karaoke, preparing elaborate dinners, and taking leisurely strolls with her family. Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Parenting at the Intersections: Raising Neurodivergent Children of Color https://amzn.to/3RgeM77   Connect with Priya and Jaya Instagram: www.instagram.com/parent.village  Instagram: www.instagram.com/parenting.at.the.intersections   www.play-it-out.com  www.parentvillage.me  Connect with Jaya LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jayarameshlmhc  Instagram: www.instagram.com/Indigobunting1101  www.parentingattheintersections.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, I sit down for a coaching episode with Jessica, who is a mom of two.  We talk about the morning chaos, which many of us can relate to, especially as we get the hang of new routines and back to school. She also shares about her own triggers, internal stress, and letting go of the fear of disappointing our kids. We talk about: [3:20] Finding it hard to ask for support when stressed or overwhelmed [6:20] Struggles and tips for getting up earlier  [8:45] Strategies to carve out special time [11:30] Jessica's internal way of dealing with stressful mornings [15:50] The natural consequences of being late [18:05] The fear of disappointing our kids [20:35] Jessica's transformation in my membership [27:20] How can you motivate yourself in a more loving way [31:10] Grounding practices to help regulate yourself [34:00] One-month check in  [35:10] Working on our internal stress triggers on being late and setting new routines [42:00] Triggers around being late Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Membership: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Dr. Devorah Heitner joins me to talk about raising kids in the era of technology, and different tools and strategies to implement, all while continuing to respect their privacy.  Dr. Heitner is the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World and her book on navigating Privacy and Reputation with kids and teens, Growing Up in Public will be out in 2023 with Penguin Random House. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, and CNN Opinion. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern. She is delighted to be raising her own teenager and she lives with her family in Chicagoland. We talk about: [2:55] Screenwise and Growing Up In Public [9:50] Are there ways to track your kids without using phones [11:50] Tracking kids over the age of 18 [13:00] When and why kids should get a phone [17:25] Her philosophy on mentoring kids vs. monitoring kids  [21:20] How to do this without invading on our kids’ privacy [24:10] Setting screen-free boundaries for kids without killing their social life [28:00] Navigating school devices and wanting to have screen time limits [31:15] Tracking your kids’ grades [36:15] Advice she would give to her younger parent self Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter   Devorah’s Books US: https://devorahheitner.com/growing-up-in-public/ Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Growing-Up-Public-Coming-Digital/dp/0593420969 and: https://www.indigo.ca/en-ca/growing-up-in-public-coming-of-age-in-a-digital-world/9780593420966.html Growing Up in Public: https://amzn.to/3OZNe4o Screenwise: https://amzn.to/3OENSTl  Connect with Devorah Twitter: https://twitter.com/DevorahHeitner  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/devorahheitnerphd/  Website: www.devorahheitner.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Julie Bogart joins me to talk about homeschooling: the positives, the challenges and advice for parents looking to potentially homeschool their children. We also discuss learning in general. You’ll want to listen to this whether you homeschool or send your kids to school! Julie Bogart is the creator and proprietor of Brave Writer, an online writing and language arts program. She holds a deep passion for writing, a genuine affection for children, and a strong appreciation for parents. Julie sees her involvement with these three aspects as a fortuitous and delightful convergence of her affections, which she experiences on a daily basis.  We talk about: [6:20] Parents yearning for cooperation from their kids [7:45] Why kids are craving self-loyalty [13:35] Factors to consider when you're thinking about homeschooling [15:40] My experience as a "failed homeschooler", and why it's ok [19:30] Advice for parents who are homeschooling and feel like they can't get their kids to focus on schoolwork [23:55] Have Julie’s grandkids been homeschooled? [27:20] Why our best work as parents is to ensure happiness and reduce pressure [31:35] Misconceptions about homeschooling  [33:10] Homeschooling vs. unschooling  [35:15] Kids who aren’t meeting the benchmark that the school system has set [41:30] Advice for parents on how to support their child who doesn't like school  [45:55] Advice to her younger parent self In her earlier professional journey, she invested time in the realm of professional writing, engaging in activities such as editing, ghostwriting, and freelancing. However, as her children approached the stage of transitioning from pencil control to self-expressive writing, Julie's inclination shifted towards coaching. This transformation was driven by her recognition that she found the most fulfillment in guiding and facilitating the emergence of original thoughts in others. Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter   Julie’s Books The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool, Learning, and Life Raising Critical Thinkers: A Parent's Guide to Growing Wise Kids in the Digital Age   Connect with Julie Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bravewriter Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/bravewriter/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliebravewriter/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/bravewriter Website: https://bravewriter.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Yael joins me to talk about her new book, as well as how to feel less guilty and overwhelmed in your parenting. Yael Schonbrun is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, and author of Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like too Much). We talk about: [3:30] The background of her book [8:10] Advantages of working parenthood [13:10] Work family conflict vs. work family enrichment & the three different paths [16:15] Parenting guilt and shaming [19:55] The function of guilt and evolution [23:50] Acceptance and commitment therapy [25:35] Unhooking from unhelpful labels [31:35] Reinforcing that all parenting rolls are important [34:45] What is subtracting [40:05] A ‘stop doing’ list [45:00] Advice to her younger parent self Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter https://www.wsj.com/articles/work-life-conflict-cant-be-solvedand-thats-a-good-thing-11593230460  https://www.washingtonpost.com/parenting/2022/11/17/working-parent-conflict-balance-mindset/  https://behavioralscientist.org/doing-less-is-hard-especially-when-were-overwhelmed/  Book: https://amzn.to/45cg2Mv   Connect with Yael Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/offtheclockpsych  Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrYaelSchonbrun  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yaelschonbrun/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yaelschonbrun/  Website: www.workparenthrive.com / www.offtheclockpsych.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php