In this episode, Karen Young joins me on the Peaceful Parenting Podcast to talk about co-regulation, anxiety, and aggression that sometimes comes to light within our kiddos.  Karen began her career as a psychologist in private practice. She has worked extensively with children, teens and families, and in educational and organization settings. She has lectured and has a Masters in Gestalt Therapy. It is through her work with children, teens and families, that she learned the power of solid information when it is placed in the solid, loving hands of parents or any important person in the life of a child.  Karen created Hey Sigmund, an internationally popular online resource, as a way to provide contemporary, research-driven information on the art of being human, and being with humans.   We talk about: [2:55] How she became an anxiety specialist [5:10] Where to begin when it comes to anxiety and aggression [8:25] Using recognition as a first step [10:00] Regulating your own nervous system [10:50] Using co-regulation  [17:00] Is repair most effective done immediately? [19:20] How ‘soothing’ changes as kids get older  [20:25] Validating ‘anger’ as an emotion  [23:05] How kids learn what a threat is and isn’t [27:30] Strategies for compassion when there's a meltdown [31:05] Helping kids understand where their big emotions come from [37:00] Tips for when kids refuse to use the strategies you've worked on them with [43:50] Advice to her younger parent self   She is the author of four books, including the bestselling ‘Hey Warrior’ and ‘Hey Awesome’, which creatively assist children to understand and manage anxiety. The books have been translated into a number of languages and have sold more than 180,000 copies worldwide.  Karen lives in Australia and has two children and two stepchildren. Experience has taught her that people can do amazing things with the right information, psychology has something for everyone, jargon doesn’t, everyone has a story to tell, short bios are the longest to write, nobody has it all figured out and the best people to be around are the ones who already know this.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting    Connect with Karen Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karenyoungheysigmund Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/heysigmund001 Twitter: https://twitter.com/hey_sigmund Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenyoung_heysigmund Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/KarenYoungHeySigmund Website: https://www.heysigmund.com/ Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

I’m popping onto your podcast feed today to let you know I am hosting a *free* workshop on Thursday, July 27 at 8pm EST.   It’s called Peaceful Discipline: How to Get Your Kids to Cooperate Without Using Punishments and I would love for you to join me.    You can go and sign up for free at www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop.    If you can't make it live, I will have a replay available for you that you can watch later. If you’re there live, I will be answering all of your questions about discipline and how to get your kids to listen to you without using yelling, threats, bribes, punishment, all of those things that we don't want to use in peaceful parenting!   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, I take you through the eight pitfalls of peaceful parenting that I have learned through my coaching and parenting years.   If you’re feeling overwhelmed or lost in your own peaceful parenting journey, these pitfalls may be helpful in helping you reframe your mindset, find community, and validation in your feelings.   We talk about: [3:25] Getting caught up in the 'shoulds' [6:20] Not thinking long term [9:25] The firmness of kind, firm limits [12:10] Feeling ignored and getting frustrated [14:45] Not having a community and feeling alone [16:25] Not being intentional about limits [19:45] Setting a limit as a punishment in disguise [23:40] Being too hard on ourselves   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Free workshop: www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop  Membership waitlist: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Seth Perler joins me to unpack executive function, what to be on the lookout for, and how to help parents become more aware of hidden red flags.   Seth Perler is an educational coach and advocate for students with executive functioning challenges, such as ADHD and learning disabilities. He offers coaching, resources, and strategies to help students improve their organization, time management, and study skills.   We talk about: [3:55] Seth’s journey into this work [6:55] What is executive function [14:25] Potential red flags when it comes to executive function that parents should be on the lookout for [17:15] Creating the scaffolding to get out of being our children's executive function [22:10] ‘Can’t vs. Won’t when it comes to motivation and changing behavior [29:45] Remembering that kids want to do well [31:30] Unpacking attachment theory [32:30] Understanding classroom behavior – why kids want to be seen and heard [34:35] Being shamed at school [39:00] Seth’ framework: Systems, Mindsets, and Habits & Routines [42:25] Helping a kid who is meeting you with resistance [49:40] One thing Seth wishes all parents knew   As you can read on his website, Seth Perler struggled with his own executive functioning challenges throughout his academic journey. He experienced difficulties with organization, focus, and productivity, which led to academic setbacks. However, he eventually developed strategies and techniques that helped him overcome these challenges and achieve success.   Seth Perler now shares his insights and expertise through his website, blog, coaching sessions, and online courses. His goal is to support students, parents, and educators in understanding and addressing executive functioning difficulties to unlock their full potential.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting    Connect with Seth Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ShineOnEducation Executive Function Summit: https://executivefunctionsummit.com/ Website: https://sethperler.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Emma Nadler joins me to talk about building compassionate relationships and community, especially as parents.   Emma Nadler is an author, speaker, and psychotherapist. In her private practice, she helps people better understand and tolerate emotions, build deeper relationships, and find meaning in life's challenges. She is passionate about transforming her own experiences as a parent of a child with disabilities into empathy, compassion, humor, and stories.    Her memoir, The Unlikely Village of Eden, is about learning to adapt and accept when life doesn’t go to plan, redefining community, and creating your own imperfect path.    We talk about: [4:35] What her book is about [5:40] Bucking cultural norms [9:50] Feeling of perfection and the expectations we have of parenthood [13:10] Advice for parents that feel like they're a failure [14:45] Listening to each other with compassion [17:30] Saying yes to people who are wanting to give connection [22:00] Advice for parents who feel they do not have a community [24:30] Building and using community [30:30] Her own personal grief journey [34:00] What helps Emma in the moments of being hard on herself for not being "perfect" [38:00] Advice to her younger self   PLEASE NOTE: Listening to this podcast in no way creates a client/therapist relationship with Emma Nadler. This is educational in nature. No legal, counseling, or other professional services are being rendered and nothing is intended to provide such services or advice of any kind. If you are having a mental health emergency, please contact 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also text or call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.   Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Book: https://amzn.to/3Js1BLt    Connect with Emma Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmanadlerwrites/ Website: www.EmmaNadler.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Linda Murphy joins me to discuss how to develop better communication between kids and parents. Linda is a speech language pathologist and RDI® Consultant. She co-founded Peer Projects Therapy From the Heart, a clinic in Beverly, MA dedicated to helping kids and families by using a positive, thoughtful communication style that emphasizes understanding, patience, respect, and kindness. Linda has been working with individuals with social learning differences for over 25 years.  We talk about: [3:15] How Linda got into this work [4:40] What is declarative language [10:40] What happens when a person is given a command [14:55] Different strategies for kids who are rigid thinkers [18:35] Giving kids processing time [20:50] The balance between alternative thinking vs. giving kids notice of things changing [25:30] Acknowledging the ‘communication dance’ [28:40] Strategies for modeling ‘black and white thinking’  [32:05] Voicing your moments of flexibility to help your kids [34:00] What we can do as parents to help our kids to not be afraid of making mistakes [38:55] Examples of declarative language vs. imperative language [45:00] Advice to her younger parent self   She leads trainings on the topic of social learning, has authored Declarative Language Handbook, Co-Regulation Handbook, numerous articles, and co-authored the book Social Thinking and Me with Michelle Garcia Winner. Linda lives north of Boston with her husband and their two busy lovable boys.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Parent Workshops: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/8-week-workshops  Trainings for educators: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/trainings-for-professionals    Connect with Linda Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/declarativelanguage/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057683280110  Blog: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/sunday-snippets-of-support  Website: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Beth joins me to talk about transforming our mindset around blame, removing the shame of parenting responses, and wanting a more peaceful home.   Beth is the mom of three kids, and her third child, Sophie, is one of our kids that we call “more” or “extra”.   Beth is relatively new to Peaceful Parenting, and is a member of my Peaceful Parenting membership. She wanted some more help with making sure that she was on the right track with Sophie, and we worked together to find solutions and tools to the challenges she was facing.   We talk about: [4:10] About Beth and her three kids [6:30] Sophie’s background and wanting a more peaceful home for her family [10:15] Why rewards don't work [12:55] What co-regulating is and why it’s important  [19:45] Being an intense person and peaceful parenting [24:20] Meeting your child where they are [35:10] What systems can you have in place for a child who loses things? [37:30] Gardener and Carpenter metaphor [38:45] Wanting to help your kids, but at what cost to the relationship? [41:10] Four-week update [45:25] The challenges around not wanting to help our kids “too much” [47:20] Sensory triggers while getting dressed [49:35] Shifting our mindset around ‘blame’ [52:20] How to be more patient when wanting quicker results   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Jonathon Reed joins me to talk about ‘the man box.’ The man box is the way we limit boys and men - and our relationships with them- with a rigid view about masculinityWe also discuss how as parents we can support our boys, help them tap into their emotions and help them to develop emotional health and intimacy.   Jonathon is Youth Program Manager with a nonprofit organization called Next Gen Men, which means he does workshops and presentations at schools, trainings for teachers, a Discord server and a summer camp program all about supporting boys’ wellbeing and challenging gender-based violence.   We talk about: [4:05] How Jonathan got into this work, and why [6:50] The lack of emotional intimacy boys grow up feeling they can't have with each other [7:30] What's the man box [11:20] Why it’s so hard to be outside of the man box [15:55] How lack of emotional safety impacts boys and men [19:45] The good and bad environments that sports offer boys [22:50] Exposure to violence at a young age [26:20] Why it’s hard for boys and men to ask for help [28:45] What parents can do to keep their sons from being stuck in the man box [32:55] Grounding in curiosity [35:30] Encouraging boys to cry [43:00] One thing Jonathan wishes all parents knew about toxic masculinity   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein Wilderness-based summer rite of passage trips in Ontario and Alberta: https://nextgenmen.ca/expeditions  Online course on boys and masculinity for parents and educators: https://nextgenmen.ca/courses  Discord server for boys and masculine-exploring youth in Grades 7-9: https://nextgenmen.ca/club  Breaking the Boy Code podcast on the inner lives of boys: https://breakingtheboycode.com    Connect with Jonathan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nextgenmen/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boypodcast  Twitter: https://twitter.com/nextgenmen Twitter:  https://twitter.com/boypodcast Facebook: http://facebook.com/nextgenmen  Podcast: https://breakingtheboycode.com/  Website: https://nextgenmen.ca    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Domari Dickinson shares her journey from traditional parenting to peaceful (or conscious) parenting. We explore the challenges and complexities of this transformative process, discussing practical strategies for repairing relationships and implementing conscious parenting principles in larger families.   We also talk about decolonizing the family's microsystem, and how to create a nurturing and inclusive environment for children. Domari also discusses her experience with unschooling.   Domari Dickinson is a parenting coach and mom of four who helps moms identify and break toxic parenting patterns. After working as an educator and instructional coach for over 15 years, Domari decided to use her teaching and curriculum design skills to create programs that provide parents with clear, easy-to-implement techniques to become more positive, purposeful, and effective parents.   We talk about: [3:30] Conscious parenting vs. Peaceful parenting and how Domari got into this work [6:10] The tricky part of shifting from traditional parenting to conscious parenting  [8:35] What gave Domari the confidence to trust peaceful parenting  [12:00] Advice for parents who are also on their peaceful parenting journey [14:10] Acknowledging that we will mess up, and gain the tools to repair  [16:35] Conscious parenting in bigger families  [20:45] Carving out special time with each child  [23:10] Using scripts when dealing with difficult situations  [28:40] Helping parents navigate when they feel like what their child is upset about isn’t important  [30:45] Decolonizing the microsystem of the family [33:10] How and why Domari started unschooling  [37:10] Advice for her younger parent self   Through her parenting programs, workshops, online challenges, and 1-on-1 coaching, Domari has helped countless parents across the United States navigate the everyday challenges of life with kids using proven, research-based strategies. She is passionate about building a community of women who are committed to challenging popular parenting norms as they groom their kids for success in a loving, peaceful, and respectful home environment.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Positive and Purposeful Parenting Tips: https://positive-purposeful-parenting.ck.page/43118fd9eb   Connect with Domari Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/domaridickinson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/domaridickinson?lang=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@domaridickinson Website: http://domaridickinson.com/collective/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Corey and I discuss our best tips for traveling with kids.   We know that traveling with our kids can be challenging, and there are tips and mindset hacks you can adopt and use in your own travel journeys. We cover meltdowns, setting expectations, routines, emotional backpacks, and more.   We talk about: [2:25] Acknowledging that traveling with children is really difficult  [4:05] Important mindset tips for traveling with kids  [8:10] Planning your trip and keeping your schedule loose [10:10] Letting your kids know what to expect and setting expectations [11:15] Expecting meltdowns  [13:40] How to make traveling with your kids more pleasant [23:50] Handling kids being out of their routine  [26:55] Helping them empty their emotional backpacks   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php