In this episode, Melinda Wenner Moyer joins me to talk about her book, and a range of topics around bullying, raising kids that aren’t selfish, and how to help our kids develop self esteem. We talk about: [4:40] How Melinda and I met, and an introduction to her book [7:40] The most surprising thing she learned while researching for her book [12:45] Bullying and the parents of kids who bully [13:50] Increasing our kids’ theory of mind skills [17:30] Raising kids that aren’t selfish [19:50] Leaning into conversations with your kids that you don't want to have [22:10] The message we send when we don’t talk about race and gender [33:00] Can your child develop narcissism by bolstering their self-esteem too much? [36:20] How kids are affected by pressure applied by parents [40:35] Why parents care more about hitting milestones than their child’s happiness [44:00] Advice she would give to her younger parent self Melinda Wenner Moyer is a science journalist based in Cold Spring, New York. She's a regular contributor to The New York Times, a contributing editor at Scientific American magazine, and a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Her first book, How To Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, was published in July 2021 and won a gold medal in the 2022 Living Now Book Awards.   Melinda was the recipient of the 2022 Excellence in Science Journalism award from The Society for Personality and Social Psychology, the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology.    Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Connect with Melinda LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melindawennermoyer/  Instagram: www.instagram.com/melindawmoyer  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melindawennermoyer  www.melindawmoyer.substack.com  www.melindawennermoyer.com      Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, we dive into the world of neurodivergent parenting with Jaya and Priya. We explore their backgrounds and the vital work they do in this space, shedding light on the essence of neurodivergence.  They share their motivations behind writing "Parenting at the Intersection" and discuss challenges they face as neurodivergent parents. We also delve into themes like normalizing emotional overwhelm, the link between parenting, supremacy, and capitalism, and empowering individuals to navigate external influences.  Plus, discover hidden wisdom within children's behaviors and practical strategies for tough moments, all while receiving heartfelt advice from our guests to their younger parent selves. We talk about: [3:30] Jaya and Priya’s background and work in this space [5:55] The definition of what we mean when we say neurodivergent [10:25] What made them want to write Parenting at the Intersection  [16:50] Challenges they face parenting while neurodivergent [23:20] Normalizing emotional overwhelm and big emotions [28:10] Big ideas from their book in terms of the correlation between parenting, supremacy and capitalism  [31:30] How to help people tune into their own wisdom when influenced by outside factors, especially when influenced by fear  [35:30] The wisdom or medicine in your child's behaviors [38:25] Specific practices to use when things are particularly challenging [43:30] Advice to their younger parent selves Priya Saaral is a mama, a play therapist, and a parenting coach in the Greater Seattle area. She also identifies as neurodivergent and a first-generation immigrant settler. Her work is centered on helping young people and parents find their voice and their playful spirit amidst personal and structural adversity, seeking to be seen and to belong. Priya herself was in this space too, and her own experiences of strength and hardship motivated her to help all children feel seen and heard as valuable human beings in society, and as agents of change. When she's feeling playful, you may likely find her engrossed in a jigsaw puzzle, on the wrestling mat with her son, or replenishing her cup by exploring South Indian Classical and Jazz music forms. Jaya Ramesh is a cis, immigrant, neurodivergent woman of color, who holds caste, class, and education privileges. She currently resides on the unceded lands of the Duwamish peoples. Jaya's passions revolve around creating liberatory healing and learning spaces while actively working to disentangle from and dismantle systems of oppression. She identifies herself as a truth-teller and facilitator, driven by a deep passion for unlocking the stories waiting to be shared, both within herself and among others. In her private practice, Jaya supports BIPOC and neurodivergent individuals in cultivating more authentic and nourishing relationships. She shares her life with her partner of 18 years, and together they are raising two neurodivergent children and a puppy. Jaya's interests encompass reading novels, practicing vipassana meditations, challenging herself with strenuous hikes, indulging in long naps, passionately singing 80's tunes at karaoke, preparing elaborate dinners, and taking leisurely strolls with her family. Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Parenting at the Intersections: Raising Neurodivergent Children of Color https://amzn.to/3RgeM77   Connect with Priya and Jaya Instagram: www.instagram.com/parent.village  Instagram: www.instagram.com/parenting.at.the.intersections   www.play-it-out.com  www.parentvillage.me  Connect with Jaya LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jayarameshlmhc  Instagram: www.instagram.com/Indigobunting1101  www.parentingattheintersections.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, I sit down for a coaching episode with Jessica, who is a mom of two.  We talk about the morning chaos, which many of us can relate to, especially as we get the hang of new routines and back to school. She also shares about her own triggers, internal stress, and letting go of the fear of disappointing our kids. We talk about: [3:20] Finding it hard to ask for support when stressed or overwhelmed [6:20] Struggles and tips for getting up earlier  [8:45] Strategies to carve out special time [11:30] Jessica's internal way of dealing with stressful mornings [15:50] The natural consequences of being late [18:05] The fear of disappointing our kids [20:35] Jessica's transformation in my membership [27:20] How can you motivate yourself in a more loving way [31:10] Grounding practices to help regulate yourself [34:00] One-month check in  [35:10] Working on our internal stress triggers on being late and setting new routines [42:00] Triggers around being late Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter Membership: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Dr. Devorah Heitner joins me to talk about raising kids in the era of technology, and different tools and strategies to implement, all while continuing to respect their privacy.  Dr. Heitner is the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World and her book on navigating Privacy and Reputation with kids and teens, Growing Up in Public will be out in 2023 with Penguin Random House. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, and CNN Opinion. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern. She is delighted to be raising her own teenager and she lives with her family in Chicagoland. We talk about: [2:55] Screenwise and Growing Up In Public [9:50] Are there ways to track your kids without using phones [11:50] Tracking kids over the age of 18 [13:00] When and why kids should get a phone [17:25] Her philosophy on mentoring kids vs. monitoring kids  [21:20] How to do this without invading on our kids’ privacy [24:10] Setting screen-free boundaries for kids without killing their social life [28:00] Navigating school devices and wanting to have screen time limits [31:15] Tracking your kids’ grades [36:15] Advice she would give to her younger parent self Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter   Devorah’s Books US: https://devorahheitner.com/growing-up-in-public/ Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Growing-Up-Public-Coming-Digital/dp/0593420969 and: https://www.indigo.ca/en-ca/growing-up-in-public-coming-of-age-in-a-digital-world/9780593420966.html Growing Up in Public: https://amzn.to/3OZNe4o Screenwise: https://amzn.to/3OENSTl  Connect with Devorah Twitter: https://twitter.com/DevorahHeitner  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/devorahheitnerphd/  Website: www.devorahheitner.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Julie Bogart joins me to talk about homeschooling: the positives, the challenges and advice for parents looking to potentially homeschool their children. We also discuss learning in general. You’ll want to listen to this whether you homeschool or send your kids to school! Julie Bogart is the creator and proprietor of Brave Writer, an online writing and language arts program. She holds a deep passion for writing, a genuine affection for children, and a strong appreciation for parents. Julie sees her involvement with these three aspects as a fortuitous and delightful convergence of her affections, which she experiences on a daily basis.  We talk about: [6:20] Parents yearning for cooperation from their kids [7:45] Why kids are craving self-loyalty [13:35] Factors to consider when you're thinking about homeschooling [15:40] My experience as a "failed homeschooler", and why it's ok [19:30] Advice for parents who are homeschooling and feel like they can't get their kids to focus on schoolwork [23:55] Have Julie’s grandkids been homeschooled? [27:20] Why our best work as parents is to ensure happiness and reduce pressure [31:35] Misconceptions about homeschooling  [33:10] Homeschooling vs. unschooling  [35:15] Kids who aren’t meeting the benchmark that the school system has set [41:30] Advice for parents on how to support their child who doesn't like school  [45:55] Advice to her younger parent self In her earlier professional journey, she invested time in the realm of professional writing, engaging in activities such as editing, ghostwriting, and freelancing. However, as her children approached the stage of transitioning from pencil control to self-expressive writing, Julie's inclination shifted towards coaching. This transformation was driven by her recognition that she found the most fulfillment in guiding and facilitating the emergence of original thoughts in others. Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter   Julie’s Books The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool, Learning, and Life Raising Critical Thinkers: A Parent's Guide to Growing Wise Kids in the Digital Age   Connect with Julie Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bravewriter Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/bravewriter/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliebravewriter/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/bravewriter Website: https://bravewriter.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Yael joins me to talk about her new book, as well as how to feel less guilty and overwhelmed in your parenting. Yael Schonbrun is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, and author of Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like too Much). We talk about: [3:30] The background of her book [8:10] Advantages of working parenthood [13:10] Work family conflict vs. work family enrichment & the three different paths [16:15] Parenting guilt and shaming [19:55] The function of guilt and evolution [23:50] Acceptance and commitment therapy [25:35] Unhooking from unhelpful labels [31:35] Reinforcing that all parenting rolls are important [34:45] What is subtracting [40:05] A ‘stop doing’ list [45:00] Advice to her younger parent self Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter https://www.wsj.com/articles/work-life-conflict-cant-be-solvedand-thats-a-good-thing-11593230460  https://www.washingtonpost.com/parenting/2022/11/17/working-parent-conflict-balance-mindset/  https://behavioralscientist.org/doing-less-is-hard-especially-when-were-overwhelmed/  Book: https://amzn.to/45cg2Mv   Connect with Yael Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/offtheclockpsych  Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrYaelSchonbrun  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yaelschonbrun/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yaelschonbrun/  Website: www.workparenthrive.com / www.offtheclockpsych.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, I’m answering a listener's question whose eight year old daughter hates school. As some parts of the country are going back to school now, we are all getting ready to start that season again. Listen in for tips on how to navigate this question and support your kiddo through this challenging moment.   We talk about: [1:25] This episode’s listener question [3:20] Troubleshooting the root cause of ‘I don’t want to go to school’ [6:15] Is the school a good fit for your child? [6:50] Is school too easy? [8:50] What to do if your child needs an evaluation  [10:20] Suggestions for kids that are homebodies  [12:50] Pinpointing anxiety  [14:20] Resources for anxiety Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons: https://amzn.to/3tF6Qj2  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

Today we have a different kind of conversation for you. It’s not an episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast but instead it’s an episode of the Calm the Chaos Podcast hosted by my friend Dayna Abraham.   She will share everything you need to know about surviving challenging behavior from your kids, as well as her four step Ride the Storm Plan that can help you survive the eye of the storm and remain calm during your kids' challenging behavior.    Dayna is the founder of the Calm the Chaos® Framework, best-selling author of The Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Every Day and founder of the popular blog, Lemon Lime Adventures.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Purchase Calm the Chaos: https://amzn.to/3QolM1s Podcast: https://calmthechaospodcast.com/   Connect with Dayna Abraham    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lemonlimeadventures/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LemonLimeAdventures  Website: https://lemonlimeadventures.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call  

In this episode, Sonali Vongchusiri joins me to discuss needs and boundaries for both parents and children. In traditional parenting, we are taught that the needs of our children come after our own needs – but what if they can both co-exist together? Sonali is a parent guide and the founder of the beloved Raising Your Strong-Willed Child series. She possesses a unique style that incorporates her own experiences as a sensitive, high-needs child who later became a parent to a highly sensitive, strong-willed child. Sonali combines heart-centered and empowering parenting approaches to help parents become aware of the underlying challenges causing unrest in their relationships. Her true passion lies in supporting parents to rediscover trust, connection, confidence, and delight in themselves and their bond with their child. We talk about: [4:50] Growing up as a highly sensitive child [8:40] How Sonali supports parents as a parenting coach [9:30] Understanding our needs and core values as parents [12:40] M&M Respect [15:00] Holding two ideas in our minds at the same time [20:00] Acknowledging the ‘whole person’ [27:00] How acknowledging our child changes their response to us [29:50] The ‘no’ game [34:50] Investigating the ‘no’ [41:30] Empowerment through empathy [46:35] Advice to her younger parent self Highly sensitive and intuitive, Sonali finds breaking through barriers to be enjoyable. She believes in the wisdom and presence of both children and parents during their interactions. Originally from the US with Indian origin, Sonali now resides in Bangkok. Her albinism gives her a unique perspective, allowing her to see people in ways they might not see themselves. In her free time, you can find Sonali jogging at the park or attending dance classes. She loves singing loudly while listening to music with her headphones on. Rain holds a special place in her heart, as she finds solace in the sensation of a downpour soaking through her clothes, enabling her to completely let go. Sonali and you will get along well if you share her love for chocolate and her aversion to mixing it with fruit. Most importantly, Sonali is living proof that repairing any fractured relationship with one's child is entirely possible. Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter The Cove: https://www.forwardtogetherparenting.com/the-cove-sign-up   Connect with Sonali Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/forwardtogetherparenting/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisingyourstrongwilledchild/ Website: https://www.forwardtogetherparenting.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php

In this episode, Dr. Alok Kanojia joins me to discuss video games and healthy gaming for our kiddos. Dr. Kanojia is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist specializing in the intersection of technology x mental health. Also known as ”Dr. K” to millions of people on the internet, Dr. Kanojia is the co-founder of Healthy Gamer, a mental health platform that serves the gaming community.  He has inspired millions of people with online content while overseeing the mental health coaching of thousands of young people. He is widely regarded as the foremost expert on video game addiction and most prominent mental health authority for young people. When he’s offline, he’s usually traveling, gardening, or grilling with his family.   We talk about: [3:05] Dr. K’s background in this space [4:45] Video games for enjoyment vs. addiction  [6:15] What is healthy gaming? [7:40] The brain on ‘gaming addiction’ [10:35] Does TV/screen time fulfill the same dopamine hit? [12:25] How screens give the temporary appearance of regulation [13:35] The impulse to check our phones [15:15] Why kids meltdown each time the screen is taken away [22:20] What kids can do instead of screen time [27:10] Approaching conversations about this with your kids [32:00] Guidelines for gaming in a healthy way [37:00] Types of games to avoid [41:25] The problem with multiplayer games  [44:00] Helping promote the balance of friends in life versus online   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse  https://www.healthygamer.gg/about/hg-parent      Connect with Dr. Alok Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healthygamergg/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/dr_alokkanojia Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healthygamer_gg/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/healthy-gamer/  Other: https://wa.me/message/S4EVN3BAM4TXE1  Website: https://www.healthygamer.gg    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php