The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

In this episode, I’m answering a listener's question whose eight year old daughter hates school. As some parts of the country are going back to school now, we are all getting ready to start that season again. Listen in for tips on how to navigate this question and support your kiddo through this challenging moment.   We talk about: [1:25] This episode’s listener question [3:20] Troubleshooting the root cause of ‘I don’t want to go to school’ [6:15] Is the school a good fit for your child? [6:50] Is school too easy? [8:50] What to do if your child needs an evaluation  [10:20] Suggestions for kids that are homebodies  [12:50] Pinpointing anxiety  [14:20] Resources for anxiety Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons: https://amzn.to/3tF6Qj2  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

Today we have a different kind of conversation for you. It’s not an episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast but instead it’s an episode of the Calm the Chaos Podcast hosted by my friend Dayna Abraham.   She will share everything you need to know about surviving challenging behavior from your kids, as well as her four step Ride the Storm Plan that can help you survive the eye of the storm and remain calm during your kids' challenging behavior.    Dayna is the founder of the Calm the Chaos® Framework, best-selling author of The Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Every Day and founder of the popular blog, Lemon Lime Adventures.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Purchase Calm the Chaos: https://amzn.to/3QolM1s Podcast: https://calmthechaospodcast.com/   Connect with Dayna Abraham    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lemonlimeadventures/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LemonLimeAdventures  Website: https://lemonlimeadventures.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call  

In this episode, Sonali Vongchusiri joins me to discuss needs and boundaries for both parents and children. In traditional parenting, we are taught that the needs of our children come after our own needs – but what if they can both co-exist together? Sonali is a parent guide and the founder of the beloved Raising Your Strong-Willed Child series. She possesses a unique style that incorporates her own experiences as a sensitive, high-needs child who later became a parent to a highly sensitive, strong-willed child. Sonali combines heart-centered and empowering parenting approaches to help parents become aware of the underlying challenges causing unrest in their relationships. Her true passion lies in supporting parents to rediscover trust, connection, confidence, and delight in themselves and their bond with their child. We talk about: [4:50] Growing up as a highly sensitive child [8:40] How Sonali supports parents as a parenting coach [9:30] Understanding our needs and core values as parents [12:40] M&M Respect [15:00] Holding two ideas in our minds at the same time [20:00] Acknowledging the ‘whole person’ [27:00] How acknowledging our child changes their response to us [29:50] The ‘no’ game [34:50] Investigating the ‘no’ [41:30] Empowerment through empathy [46:35] Advice to her younger parent self Highly sensitive and intuitive, Sonali finds breaking through barriers to be enjoyable. She believes in the wisdom and presence of both children and parents during their interactions. Originally from the US with Indian origin, Sonali now resides in Bangkok. Her albinism gives her a unique perspective, allowing her to see people in ways they might not see themselves. In her free time, you can find Sonali jogging at the park or attending dance classes. She loves singing loudly while listening to music with her headphones on. Rain holds a special place in her heart, as she finds solace in the sensation of a downpour soaking through her clothes, enabling her to completely let go. Sonali and you will get along well if you share her love for chocolate and her aversion to mixing it with fruit. Most importantly, Sonali is living proof that repairing any fractured relationship with one's child is entirely possible. Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter The Cove: https://www.forwardtogetherparenting.com/the-cove-sign-up   Connect with Sonali Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/forwardtogetherparenting/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisingyourstrongwilledchild/ Website: https://www.forwardtogetherparenting.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php

In this episode, Dr. Alok Kanojia joins me to discuss video games and healthy gaming for our kiddos. Dr. Kanojia is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist specializing in the intersection of technology x mental health. Also known as ”Dr. K” to millions of people on the internet, Dr. Kanojia is the co-founder of Healthy Gamer, a mental health platform that serves the gaming community.  He has inspired millions of people with online content while overseeing the mental health coaching of thousands of young people. He is widely regarded as the foremost expert on video game addiction and most prominent mental health authority for young people. When he’s offline, he’s usually traveling, gardening, or grilling with his family.   We talk about: [3:05] Dr. K’s background in this space [4:45] Video games for enjoyment vs. addiction  [6:15] What is healthy gaming? [7:40] The brain on ‘gaming addiction’ [10:35] Does TV/screen time fulfill the same dopamine hit? [12:25] How screens give the temporary appearance of regulation [13:35] The impulse to check our phones [15:15] Why kids meltdown each time the screen is taken away [22:20] What kids can do instead of screen time [27:10] Approaching conversations about this with your kids [32:00] Guidelines for gaming in a healthy way [37:00] Types of games to avoid [41:25] The problem with multiplayer games  [44:00] Helping promote the balance of friends in life versus online   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse  https://www.healthygamer.gg/about/hg-parent      Connect with Dr. Alok Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healthygamergg/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/dr_alokkanojia Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healthygamer_gg/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/healthy-gamer/  Other: https://wa.me/message/S4EVN3BAM4TXE1  Website: https://www.healthygamer.gg    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Karen Young joins me on the Peaceful Parenting Podcast to talk about co-regulation, anxiety, and aggression that sometimes comes to light within our kiddos.  Karen began her career as a psychologist in private practice. She has worked extensively with children, teens and families, and in educational and organization settings. She has lectured and has a Masters in Gestalt Therapy. It is through her work with children, teens and families, that she learned the power of solid information when it is placed in the solid, loving hands of parents or any important person in the life of a child.  Karen created Hey Sigmund, an internationally popular online resource, as a way to provide contemporary, research-driven information on the art of being human, and being with humans.   We talk about: [2:55] How she became an anxiety specialist [5:10] Where to begin when it comes to anxiety and aggression [8:25] Using recognition as a first step [10:00] Regulating your own nervous system [10:50] Using co-regulation  [17:00] Is repair most effective done immediately? [19:20] How ‘soothing’ changes as kids get older  [20:25] Validating ‘anger’ as an emotion  [23:05] How kids learn what a threat is and isn’t [27:30] Strategies for compassion when there's a meltdown [31:05] Helping kids understand where their big emotions come from [37:00] Tips for when kids refuse to use the strategies you've worked on them with [43:50] Advice to her younger parent self   She is the author of four books, including the bestselling ‘Hey Warrior’ and ‘Hey Awesome’, which creatively assist children to understand and manage anxiety. The books have been translated into a number of languages and have sold more than 180,000 copies worldwide.  Karen lives in Australia and has two children and two stepchildren. Experience has taught her that people can do amazing things with the right information, psychology has something for everyone, jargon doesn’t, everyone has a story to tell, short bios are the longest to write, nobody has it all figured out and the best people to be around are the ones who already know this.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting    Connect with Karen Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karenyoungheysigmund Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/heysigmund001 Twitter: https://twitter.com/hey_sigmund Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenyoung_heysigmund Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/KarenYoungHeySigmund Website: https://www.heysigmund.com/ Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

I’m popping onto your podcast feed today to let you know I am hosting a *free* workshop on Thursday, July 27 at 8pm EST.   It’s called Peaceful Discipline: How to Get Your Kids to Cooperate Without Using Punishments and I would love for you to join me.    You can go and sign up for free at www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop.    If you can't make it live, I will have a replay available for you that you can watch later. If you’re there live, I will be answering all of your questions about discipline and how to get your kids to listen to you without using yelling, threats, bribes, punishment, all of those things that we don't want to use in peaceful parenting!   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, I take you through the eight pitfalls of peaceful parenting that I have learned through my coaching and parenting years.   If you’re feeling overwhelmed or lost in your own peaceful parenting journey, these pitfalls may be helpful in helping you reframe your mindset, find community, and validation in your feelings.   We talk about: [3:25] Getting caught up in the 'shoulds' [6:20] Not thinking long term [9:25] The firmness of kind, firm limits [12:10] Feeling ignored and getting frustrated [14:45] Not having a community and feeling alone [16:25] Not being intentional about limits [19:45] Setting a limit as a punishment in disguise [23:40] Being too hard on ourselves   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Free workshop: www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop  Membership waitlist: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Seth Perler joins me to unpack executive function, what to be on the lookout for, and how to help parents become more aware of hidden red flags.   Seth Perler is an educational coach and advocate for students with executive functioning challenges, such as ADHD and learning disabilities. He offers coaching, resources, and strategies to help students improve their organization, time management, and study skills.   We talk about: [3:55] Seth’s journey into this work [6:55] What is executive function [14:25] Potential red flags when it comes to executive function that parents should be on the lookout for [17:15] Creating the scaffolding to get out of being our children's executive function [22:10] ‘Can’t vs. Won’t when it comes to motivation and changing behavior [29:45] Remembering that kids want to do well [31:30] Unpacking attachment theory [32:30] Understanding classroom behavior – why kids want to be seen and heard [34:35] Being shamed at school [39:00] Seth’ framework: Systems, Mindsets, and Habits & Routines [42:25] Helping a kid who is meeting you with resistance [49:40] One thing Seth wishes all parents knew   As you can read on his website, Seth Perler struggled with his own executive functioning challenges throughout his academic journey. He experienced difficulties with organization, focus, and productivity, which led to academic setbacks. However, he eventually developed strategies and techniques that helped him overcome these challenges and achieve success.   Seth Perler now shares his insights and expertise through his website, blog, coaching sessions, and online courses. His goal is to support students, parents, and educators in understanding and addressing executive functioning difficulties to unlock their full potential.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting    Connect with Seth Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ShineOnEducation Executive Function Summit: https://executivefunctionsummit.com/ Website: https://sethperler.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Emma Nadler joins me to talk about building compassionate relationships and community, especially as parents.   Emma Nadler is an author, speaker, and psychotherapist. In her private practice, she helps people better understand and tolerate emotions, build deeper relationships, and find meaning in life's challenges. She is passionate about transforming her own experiences as a parent of a child with disabilities into empathy, compassion, humor, and stories.    Her memoir, The Unlikely Village of Eden, is about learning to adapt and accept when life doesn’t go to plan, redefining community, and creating your own imperfect path.    We talk about: [4:35] What her book is about [5:40] Bucking cultural norms [9:50] Feeling of perfection and the expectations we have of parenthood [13:10] Advice for parents that feel like they're a failure [14:45] Listening to each other with compassion [17:30] Saying yes to people who are wanting to give connection [22:00] Advice for parents who feel they do not have a community [24:30] Building and using community [30:30] Her own personal grief journey [34:00] What helps Emma in the moments of being hard on herself for not being "perfect" [38:00] Advice to her younger self   PLEASE NOTE: Listening to this podcast in no way creates a client/therapist relationship with Emma Nadler. This is educational in nature. No legal, counseling, or other professional services are being rendered and nothing is intended to provide such services or advice of any kind. If you are having a mental health emergency, please contact 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also text or call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.   Resources mentioned in this episode:   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Book: https://amzn.to/3Js1BLt    Connect with Emma Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmanadlerwrites/ Website: www.EmmaNadler.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode, Linda Murphy joins me to discuss how to develop better communication between kids and parents. Linda is a speech language pathologist and RDI® Consultant. She co-founded Peer Projects Therapy From the Heart, a clinic in Beverly, MA dedicated to helping kids and families by using a positive, thoughtful communication style that emphasizes understanding, patience, respect, and kindness. Linda has been working with individuals with social learning differences for over 25 years.  We talk about: [3:15] How Linda got into this work [4:40] What is declarative language [10:40] What happens when a person is given a command [14:55] Different strategies for kids who are rigid thinkers [18:35] Giving kids processing time [20:50] The balance between alternative thinking vs. giving kids notice of things changing [25:30] Acknowledging the ‘communication dance’ [28:40] Strategies for modeling ‘black and white thinking’  [32:05] Voicing your moments of flexibility to help your kids [34:00] What we can do as parents to help our kids to not be afraid of making mistakes [38:55] Examples of declarative language vs. imperative language [45:00] Advice to her younger parent self   She leads trainings on the topic of social learning, has authored Declarative Language Handbook, Co-Regulation Handbook, numerous articles, and co-authored the book Social Thinking and Me with Michelle Garcia Winner. Linda lives north of Boston with her husband and their two busy lovable boys.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Parent Workshops: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/8-week-workshops  Trainings for educators: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/trainings-for-professionals    Connect with Linda Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/declarativelanguage/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057683280110  Blog: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/sunday-snippets-of-support  Website: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php