In this episode, Tosha Schore joins me to talk about what to do when your child is aggressive.   Most of us have been there – kids fighting over toys, hitting, sibling rivalry, or anger that seems to come out of nowhere. How do you handle it? Is there an effective way to deal with it?   Tosha is mom to three boys and an advocate for boys and their families. She is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time by supporting you to care for yourself, connect with your boy deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly!    She brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems.   Through her online community and courses, Tosha helps break the isolation of modern parenting and lifts your confidence so you’re better equipped to face the challenges of raising young boys.   We talk about: [4:30] How Tosha got into this work [5:50] Why kids get aggressive [9:10] Meeting your child where they’re at [13:00] How to stop your child’s aggression [16:40] Common mistakes parents make when trying to end aggressive behavior [23:15] What to do when the aggression seems to be impulsive  [32:00] How to handle being fearful of your child hitting or hurting you [40:45] Sibling rivalry and aggression between siblings [48:35] Lashing out after breaking toys [51:15] How to know if you’re handling these situations correctly  [53:35] Figuring out our triggers  [57:25] When aggression comes out of nowhere [59:25] What Tosha would tell her younger parent self   Tosha is the creator of all things Parenting Boys Peacefully, including “Parenting Boys Peacefully: A 10-Day Reconnect,” an online group experience shared by over 15,000 parents worldwide. She is also a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges.” Tosha is also a frequent guest expert on podcasts and online and in-person conferences.   Oh! And if it makes you feel better, Tosha’s got some letters after her name…She holds a BA in Women’s Studies & Language Studies from UCSC, an MA in Applied Linguistics and a certificate in TESOL from UCLA, and is a certified trainer of instructors in Hand in Hand Parenting.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Membership: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership    Connect with Tosha Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toshaschoreyourpartnerinparentingboys YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ToshaSchoreYourPartnerInParenting Website: https://parentingboyspeacefully.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, we’re answering how to handle when your child says ‘I hate you’.   Of course, when we’re on the receiving end of this, it can feel painful to hear, so how do we navigate it and what can we do about it?   This episode is inspired by my daughter, Maxine, who suggested I do this topic and share it with you. In fact, she joins me in the second half of the episode to share her perspective and what she wants parents to know.   We talk about: [1:30] Responding with ‘calm’ [2:40] Reminding yourself what you're seeing is the "fight" [4:30] How to respond to the feeling that's driving the behavior [8:00] What to do when this is a trigger for you [11:20] Knowing that you're not alone [12:35] What my daughter Maxine thinks parents should know about this [15:20] The kind of reaction parents should have [17:10] How to not take offense    Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Sarah Moore joins me on the podcast to talk about what story teaching is, and why it’s important to focus on ‘play’.   We also touch on consequences, and natural consequences, when it comes to peaceful discipline.    We are also giving away a copy of Sarah’s new book. From March 22, 2023 to March 28, 2023, share a screenshot to your social media of you listening to this episode, tag me on either Facebook or Instagram, and be automatically entered to win.   Sarah R. Moore is the author of Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior and founder of Dandelion Seeds Positive Parenting.    As a Master Trainer in conscious parenting and Board Member for the American Society for the Positive Care of Children, she’s also a public speaker, armchair neuroscientist, and most importantly, a Mama.    We talk about: [3:15] Sarah’s new book, Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior  [5:00] How trying improv can help parents [6:50] How natural consequences play out in the real world  [9:10] Our limbic system reactions  [16:50] Why kids are wired to play, and how that’s actually okay [25:35] What to do if you don’t ‘have time’ to be playful [27:50] How to use Story Teaching in peaceful parenting  [34:40] Can kids really learn without consequences? [40:50] Debunking the myth that peaceful parenting has no consequences  [44:00] What Sarah would tell her younger parent self   With training in child development, trauma recovery, interpersonal neurobiology, improv comedy and play, her work supports parents and caregivers around the globe.    Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Book: Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior by Sarah Moore    Connect with Sarah Moore Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dandelionseedspositiveliving/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DandelionSeedsPositiveParenting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DandelionSeeds5 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/dandelionseeds5/ Website: https://dandelion-seeds.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode is a coaching call with Kate, the mom of 11-year-old James.   She initially reached out wanting some coaching around James’ tendency to be a bit socially anxious. As you’ll hear in our conversation, he was hesitant to talk to people in new situations and hesitant to speak out in class.   I coached Kate on some strategies that she could use to help James. When we have kids who are a little bit anxious or anxious at all, we as parents are the ones who are best situated to help them.   Be sure to stay until the end, as we check in with Kate two months later and hear how the strategies and suggestions went for her and James.   We talk about: [3:40] The challenges James is facing when interacting with others [6:30] Explaining the ‘worry brain’ [7:45] Getting your way into the worry brain [8:50] Strategies to help kids understand the worry brain [13:00] Our anti-anxiety phrase and recognizing the signs of anxiety  [17:45] How to get ‘buy-in’ from our kids [19:00] Two-month check in [20:20] How James is coping today   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Record a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/peacefulparentingpodcast Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

After school can be a very difficult time! Our kids have full emotional backpacks, they’re hungry and cranky- hello, meltdowns!   How can we set ourselves up for success so that this overwhelming time of day can feel a bit easier? Corey and I give our best tips and strategies to navigate after school routines with ease!   We talk about the important role mindset plays, tips for ‘transition times’, homework, and much more.   We talk about: [3:00] Getting yourself into the right mindset [6:25] The best roughhousing solutions when you’re in a pinch [9:05] Developing an emergency exit plan [11:00] Transitioning to dinner time when kids may not be hungry [15:35] Tips for making ‘walking out the door’ easier [18:50] Thoughts on screen time after school [25:20] How to fit homework into your after school routine [29:00] One big tip to be that calmer parent during your after school routine   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Record a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/peacefulparentingpodcast Taking the Stress Out of Morning Routines: www.sarahrosensweet.com/episode77  Bedtime Best Practices: www.sarahrosensweet.com/episode86  Grab our cheat sheet: www.sarahrosensweet.com/afterschool  Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud (PhD) and Ned Johnson       Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call  

In this episode, Rosalia Rivera joins me to talk about teaching children about body safety, boundaries and consent. One of the key takeaways from our conversation is the importance of empowering children with knowledge and tools to recognize and communicate boundaries. Parents can help their children understand the difference between safe and unsafe touch, and good touch/bad touch.  When it comes to teaching children about consent, Rosalia suggests starting with modeling consent in everyday life. This can include asking for permission before giving a hug or sharing personal information. Additionally, parents can teach children about body literacy and the foundational blocks of sex ed in developmentally appropriate ways. Balancing a child's natural curiosity with their safety is a delicate balance. Rosalia shares some strategies that can help parents strike this balance effectively. She also talks about the importance of reinforcing 'stranger danger' and building strong relationships with children. Rosalia Rivera is a consent educator and child sexual abuse prevention specialist, sexual literacy advocate, TEDx speaker, Chair of SAGE (Survivor Advocates Globally Empowered) representing the BRAVE Movement, and the founder of CONSENTparenting™, the host of the AboutCONSENT™ podcast and creatrix of CONSENTwear™. She is also a CSA (child sexual abuse) survivor, turned thriver. She helps busy parents go from fearful and anxious to confident and empowered, about teaching their kids about body safety, boundaries, and consent to prevent sexual abuse.    We talk about: [3:10] How Rosalia helps parents teach their kids about body safety boundaries  [4:15] The greater risk for survivor parents when it comes to this work and having hard conversations with their kids [7:25] Where to start when it comes to teaching about consent [12:10] Teaching kids about body literacy and the foundational blocks of sex ed [12:50] The difference between safe and unsafe touch, and good touch/bad touch [16:05] Helping kids learn that they should never say yes to something that doesn't feel good for them [20:00] How to balance letting your child explore with also teaching concepts to keep them safe [21:30] The opportunity to reinforce 'stranger danger' [24:30] 'Grooming' signs and red flags  [29:55] Why kids with challenging relationships to their parents can often be easily targeted  [32:10] When would you explain what grooming is and what to be aware of [35:55] Rosalia's advice to her younger parent self   As a CSA survivor and parent, from a family of survivors, she discovered how triggering it was to learn about abuse prevention when it was time to educate her own kids once she became a mother. Determined to break the intergenerational cycle of abuse, Rosalia dedicated herself to her healing so she could overcome the anxiety and triggers that kept coming up when learning about abuse prevention so she could teach her kids.    Rosalia is certified in the Canadian Centre for Child Protection® COMMIT TO KIDS® Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Training Program and is a Certified Facilitator of the Stewards Of Children® Training by Darkness to Light, as well as OnWatch™.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Private Part Safety Workshop: https://www.consentparenting.com/getting-started   Connect with Rosalia On Instagram On Facebook On Twitter On LinkedIn https://aboutconsent.com/  https://www.consentparenting.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call  

In this episode, Mark and Kanae, parents of two sons, aged five and three, join me to talk about the challenges they face together as partners in their relationship.   I first met Mark through my Transform Your Family Life Online Course (www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse), which is now open for enrollment and starts on Wednesday, March 1st. If you are listening to this episode after that, you can always get on the waitlist to be notified the next time it opens.    Learn how to transform your communication and your family life in this conversation with Mark and Kanae.   We go into: [5:30] The big transformation Peaceful Parenting brought Mark and Kanae  [11:15] The challenges Mark and Kanae are facing parenting as partners [13:30] Having a hard time being on the same page [18:15] Empathy and shame and how they go hand in hand [19:20] Challenging each other on not empathizing enough [25:30] Projecting our own fears and insecurities onto our parenting [28:50] Why being hard on your kids won't make them not do that "bad" behavior again [34:20] Breaking down old communication patterns in relationships [43:15] Knowing and understanding that your partner is always worthy and loveable [45:00] Acknowledging criticism and how partners should be supporting each other [50:30] Mark and Kanae’s check in [52:40] How diving into past stories and bringing them to the surface has transformed their parenting today Resources mentioned in this episode FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Book coaching or a free consult: www.sarahrosensweet.com/coaching  Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Transform Your Family Life Online Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse  The Gardener and The Carpenter by Alison Gopnik: https://amzn.to/3YFnRXW   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

I’m popping onto your podcast feed today to let you know I am hosting a *free* workshop on Wednesday, February 22 at 8pm EST -OR-  Friday, February 24 at 12pm EST.   It’s called Peaceful Discipline: How to Get Your Kids to Cooperate Without Using Punishments and I would love for you to join me.    You can go and sign up for free at www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop.    If you can't make it live, I will have a replay available for you that you can watch later. If you’re there live, I will be answering all of your questions about discipline and how to get your kids to listen to you without using yelling, threats, bribes, punishment, all of those things that we don't want to use in peaceful parenting!   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, I answer 3 listener questions.    How do you stay calm when you were raised with hitting, yelling and punishing?    What do you say when your child has a negative attitude, even after a fun activity?   How do you stop a toddler from throwing food off the high chair?    So, grab a cup of tea, get comfortable, and join me as we navigate the ups and downs of parenting and your most pressing questions.   We talk about: [2:20] Changing our mindset around hitting and punishment when growing up in a heated household [5:25] Feeling unworthy because how we were raised  [11:20] What to do if your kid has a negative outlook towards life [15:00] How to help a dysregulated, tired child [18:10] How to get your toddler to stop throwing food from the highchair    Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Record a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/peacefulparentingpodcast Self-Compassion break: https://peacefulparents.kartra.com/page/self_compassion_break   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, Celeste and Jen join me on the podcast to talk about supporting LGBTQ kids, specifically if you’re part of a religion or way of living that does not affirm them.   Celeste is the executive director of Mama Dragons, which was created by Gina Crivello. Gina gathered a small group of Latter-Day Saints (Mormon) mothers together as they navigated supporting their LGBTQ children in a culture that was not affirming.    Since then, Mama Dragons has grown to become a leader in affirming parent education and offers support to more than 9,000 members worldwide.   We talk about: [6:50] What is Mama Dragons [11:50] How Jen found out her son was gay, and what she did to navigate it [15:20] The physical effects of coming out of 'fight, flight of freeze' mode [19:10] The difference affirming parents make, and how you can affirm a child [22:10] Parenting practices to adopt  [24:30] What Jen wishes she knew about raising a gay son [26:30] What Jen has learned working with Mama Dragons  [29:10] The impact of growing up in a religious setting [31:50] The importance of doing your own research and not getting caught up in misinformation [33:10] Why people so threatened by the idea of LGBTQ people [38:35] Advice both Celeste and Jen would give to their younger parent self   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Learning program Parachute - https://parachute.mamadragons.org/  Get free Parachute courses using the code PEACEFULPARENTING   Connect with Mama Dragons On Instagram On Facebook On Twitter On YouTube https://www.mamadragons.org/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call