The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

How do we talk to our kids about sex? For some parents, this topic can be very uncomfortable, but it doesn’t have to be. In fact, our kids need to learn about sex, their bodies, and how it all works – it’s so important! Joining me for this conversation is Amy Lang, MA, who has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. With her lively, engaging, and down-to-earth style, she helps parents become their kid’s go-to ‘birds and bees’ source. Amy’s books, online solutions center and podcast, Just Say This! show parents that talking about sexuality doesn’t need to be totally uncomfortable and really can be fun.   We go into: When to start talking to your kids about sex Why talking to kids about sex is really important to keep them safe Why we need to use the proper words and terminology when it comes to consent and body parts What makes people so afraid of teenagers having sex How to start talking about sex when you don’t know where to start   Amy also provides childhood sexual development and sexual abuse prevention training for early childhood and youth serving organizations. Amy is still married to her first husband and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle WA and you can learn more about her work at BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com   Resources mentioned in this episode  Girls & Sex Peggy Orenstein  Boys & Sex Peggy Orenstein  It’s Perfectly Normal by Robie Harris and Michael Emberley  What’s Happening to Me? by Peter Mayle The Every Body Book by Rachel Simon  Amy’s Recommended Books and Resources Birds & Bees Solutions Center: one-stop-shop for sex talking  BARK monitoring and parental controls RAINN.org for support for abuse survivors  Consent is like tea video   Connect with Amy On Instagram Facebook www.birdsandbeesandkids.com  Amy Lang’s ‘Just Say THIS’ Podcast   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, we’re exploring why kids whine and what we can do about it.    I go into detail about all the reasons kids whine. Whining is a signal to us that our kids need our help and support. They are doing the best they can!    We cover: Why our kids whine The first steps to take when our kid is whining Handling whining without shaming our kids How to approach whining with empathy and why it matters for our kids   Resources mentioned in this episode Join my newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter  Parenting Quiz: www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingquiz    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

This episode is with Julie Lythcott-Haims and we talk about her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, which is about how to be a good person and have a good life. We also talked about how to raise kids so that they don't need a book to learn how to be an adult. Julie also shared some really great tips about truly seeing our children.  Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism.    We go into: How Julie’s new book is changing the narrative around the heaviness of living in today’s society What fending is and how can you best prepare your kids for when they do get to the fending stage The four step method to teaching any kid any skill How to parent our kids the way they need us to parent them Unpacking privilege in gentle parenting   She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces.  Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women’s Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Julie’s Books How to Raise an Adult  Real American: A Memoir Your Turn: How to Be An Adult    Connect with Julie On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://jlythcotthaims.bulletin.com/ https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

As parents, of course we want our kids to be best friends as they’re growing up. But what happens when that’s not necessarily the case? Or when there is so much sibling rivalry, frustration and upset? It can be hard to know where to turn or how to navigate it.   This episode is a coaching call with Maryke, a mom of three strong-willed kids, Kira who is 3, Christie who is five, and Ewan who is seven.    Maryke shares about the struggles she has been facing with her kids; arguing and not listening.   We talk about: How to navigate when older siblings physically fight Tips and things to say to help our kids regulate their emotions How to help guide our kids to their ‘calm down zone’ Tips to encourage our kids to listen Is it okay for our kids to see us upset with them? Resources mentioned in this episode www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse  Episode 22: Understanding ADHD with Dr. Sharon Saline    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

How do we inoculate our kids against anxiety? What can we do to support their mental health as they grow?  Lynn Lyons joins me for this episode to talk about the three skills that our kids need to have if we want them to have good mental health and avoid mental health challenges.   We go into: Three big ideas as it relates to raising anxious kids  How to talk to our kids about flexibility  How to use a Flexibility Wall The challenge of ensuring everything always goes according to plan The effects on kids of being raised in an anxious environment How to teach your kids to check in with themselves and assess dangerous situations on their own The power in avoiding “why” questions with your kids Lynn is a psychotherapist, author and speaker in Concord, New Hampshire. She has been in private practice for 28 years, and specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders in adults and children. She travels globally as a speaker and trainer on the subject of anxiety, its role in families, and the need for a preventative approach at home and in schools. Resources mentioned in this episode Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons Sign up for my Peaceful Discipline Workshop   Connect with Lynn On Instagram On Twitter On YouTube Facebook https://www.lynnlyons.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

How do we navigate moving away from punitive parenting to peaceful parenting if we have only ever known that one parenting style?   My guest is Iris Chen, the founder of the Untigering movement and author of "Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent."    We talk about how to undo the shame and negative thoughts that can come with transitioning from punitive parenting to peaceful parenting, giving ourselves grace, and repairing the relationship with our kids.   We go into: The definition of Tiger Parenting Iris’ transition from Tiger Parenting when she realized it wasn’t working with her kids How Iris was able to find and give herself genuine compassion for how she parented before discovering peaceful parenting The three big ideas around Adultism  Why family meetings are important and best practices for incorporating this into your own family team As a peaceful parenting advocate, unschooler, and deconstructing tiger mom, her mission is to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities. She spent 16 years living overseas in China (land of the tiger parent!) but now resides in her native California with her husband and two sons.   Resources mentioned in this episode Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen   Connect with Iris On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://untigering.com/     Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, we’re exploring why kids lie and what to do about it. This is something that I know concerns a lot of parents. I hear about it from folks in my membership, private coaching and in my Facebook group.   What do we do when kids lie? And why do they lie?    We cover:   Some research about child development and lying The four main reasons why little kids lie   Why leading with empathy helps your child not lie  How to ask questions in a way that won’t get a lie as an answer  The reasons why bigger kids lie Tips to build strong relationships with our kids so they feel safe telling us the truth   Resources mentioned in this episode Join my newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter  The problems with punishment: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/the-problems-with-punishment    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call  

What do we do when our toddler wants our undivided attention but we have to take care of the baby? How do we make sure they know how special and loved they are without spreading ourselves too thin?    This conversation is for all the parents or caregivers who are currently navigating this. Let me firstly remind you that you’re doing a great job!   I speak with Sarah, mom of two young girls, L. who is two and a half, and A. who is four and a half months old. We dove deep into: My tips for regulating our own emotions in moments of sensory-overload Ways to connect with our kids that don’t involve being 1x1 Strategies to help our toddlers and babies connect How to reframe when we’re being hard on ourselves Resources mentioned in this episode Research about secure attachment: http://www.cdd.unm.edu/ecln/hvt/common/pdfs/2011_7.pdf More on the sibling transition: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/having-another-baby/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

What is play-based learning? What are the benefits of play-based learning and how can it help our kids become more independent as they grow older?    In this episode, I sat down with Teacher Tom to speak about the benefits of play-based learning.    Listen in as we talk about:   What play-based learning is   Why letting your kids play when it comes to learning is more than enough The dangers of not letting kids play Why bickering is necessary when playing Teacher Tom’s perspective on how much play kids really need   Tom "Teacher Tom'' Hobson is an early childhood educator, international speaker, education consultant, teacher of teachers, parent educator, and author. He is best known for his namesake "Teacher Tom's Blog," where he has posted daily for over a decade, chronicling the life and times of his preschool.    For nearly two decades he was the sole employee of the Woodland Park Cooperative School, a parent-owned and operated school, knit together by Teacher Tom's democratic, progressive, play-based pedagogy. He has authored two bestselling books, consults with organizations about his "Family Schools program,” and inspires early years audiences around the world at major ECE conferences, both virtually and in-person.   Resources mentioned in this episode Register for Teacher Tom’s Course: The Technology Of Speaking with Children So They Can Think   Connect with Teacher Tom    On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook Blog www.teachertomsworld.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

Unicorn space. It’s not self-care. It’s not time with friends. It’s the space where you get to do what lights you up and makes you interesting. It’s what makes you YOU! And if we don’t find, make or take that time, we’re in danger of losing our light.    In this episode, I’m thrilled to chat with best selling author Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) and its highly anticipated follow-up, Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World available on December 28.    Eve is a Harvard-trained lawyer and former foundational manager at J.P. Morgan, and combines her experience in organizational management and family mediation with the science connecting creativity with improved mental and physical health.    Her step-by-step approach in Fair Play, which helps partners rebalance their domestic workload, has been recognized by Reese’s Book Club, Good Morning America, Today, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, Fast Company, and other outlets.    Listen in as we talk about:   The critical moment that sparked Eve’s identity crisis and led to the creation of her first book Why women or caretakers are conditioned to de-prioritize their own time and put everyone else first    The definition of Unicorn Space and how it works in real life The notion of ‘space’ and why women or caretakers rarely have any The secret formula to finding more time Why it’s so important as moms, parents and caretakers to prioritize ourselves   Resources mentioned in this episode Purchase: Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky  Purchase: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky  Sarah’s appearance on Martha Stewart The Big Rock Theory    Connect with Eve   On Instagram   On Twitter On LinkedIn On Facebook Blog www.fairplaylife.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com