The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

In this episode, we’re exploring four big ideas to stop sibling rivalry and fighting.   Sibling fighting is so upsetting for us as parents! Unfortunately, a lot we do to try to make it better actually makes it worse. This episode will help you with the best practices to help siblings get along.    We cover: Four big ideas to help your kids get along  The importance of special time  The benefit of giving ‘long turns’ a try Why and how to  intervene in disagreements if they can’t work it out Resources mentioned in this episode Free Download: Sibling Rivalry Cheat Sheet Siblings without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish Special Time Guide   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, I have the pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Mona Delahooke to talk about her new book, Brain-Body Parenting. We also speak about the connection between our brain and bodies, why our nervous systems get overloaded, and how our kids process their emotions.   Dr. Mona is a mother of three, and a licensed clinical psychologist with more than thirty years of experience caring for children and their families. She is a senior faculty member of the Profectum Foundation and a member of the American Psychological Association.    We go into: What brain-body parenting is What happens in our nervous systems when we sense a threat The connection between our bodies and brains The sensory impact on our nervous systems Top down vs. bottom up behaviors How to co-regulate with our child   Dr. Mona is the author of the award winning book Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children’s Behavioral Challenges, and the upcoming book, Brain-Body Parenting: How to stop managing behaviors and start raising Joyful, Resilient Kids. She is a frequent speaker, trainer, and consultant to parents, organizations, schools, and public agencies. She lives and works in the Los Angeles area.   Resources mentioned in this episode  Join my newsletter Purchase: Brain-Body Parenting by Dr. Mona Delahooke    Connect with Dr. Mona On Instagram On Twitter LinkedIn Facebook www.monadelahooke.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

How do we help kids with their big feelings? Of course we empathize first, but then what? How do we help them calm down? If you need a bit of support in this area, you will love this really wonderful conversation with Janine Halloran about coping strategies for kids   This episode has so many actionable strategies that you can take away and use the next time your child is having a hard time.   Janine Halloran is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who has been working with children, teens, and their families for 20 years. She has been helping children and teens build their coping skills throughout her career in a variety of settings, including schools, mental health clinics and in her private practice.    We go into: When kids need coping strategies  The five types of coping strategies Janine talks about in her work How to use Janine’s coping strategies checklist  What to do when your child doesn’t want to use any of their preferred coping mechanisms The feelings thermometer    Janine is the author of  several books, including the bestselling Coping Skills for Kids Workbook and the Coping Skills for Teens Workbook. Her work has been featured in the Boston Globe, CNN, Huffington Post, and The Skimm® Newsletter. Janine lives in Massachusetts with her husband and two children. Resources mentioned in this episode  Free Coping Skills Printables Free Encourage Play Printables Download: Coping Strategies Checklist and Feelings Thermometer Get 20% off in the Coping Skills for Kids Store    Connect with Janine On Instagram LinkedIn Facebook Calm and Connected Podcast with Janine Halloran​​ www.copingskillsforkids.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

Often on our parenting journey, our kids may do something or act in a way that makes us feel triggered and shut down. Often that means there’s something for us to look at within us that needs attention or healing.   In this coaching call, Georgina joins me to talk about managing her son’s big feelings. She is the mom of six year old Oswald and a five month old baby. Georgina wanted to know how to best support her six year old, who is a really intense little guy with big feelings. Be sure to listen to the end to hear about Georgina’s big breakthrough!   We talk about: How our kids can trigger unhealed traumas from our past  Giving our kids space to process their big feelings and managing ours at the same time Strategies to empty emotional backpacks before coming home from a long day How Georgina was able to connect with her inner child Resources mentioned in this episode www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter  Episode 20: Reparenting Ourselves: Being the Parents We Want To Be with Leslie Priscilla   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

How do we talk to our kids about sex? For some parents, this topic can be very uncomfortable, but it doesn’t have to be. In fact, our kids need to learn about sex, their bodies, and how it all works – it’s so important! Joining me for this conversation is Amy Lang, MA, who has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. With her lively, engaging, and down-to-earth style, she helps parents become their kid’s go-to ‘birds and bees’ source. Amy’s books, online solutions center and podcast, Just Say This! show parents that talking about sexuality doesn’t need to be totally uncomfortable and really can be fun.   We go into: When to start talking to your kids about sex Why talking to kids about sex is really important to keep them safe Why we need to use the proper words and terminology when it comes to consent and body parts What makes people so afraid of teenagers having sex How to start talking about sex when you don’t know where to start   Amy also provides childhood sexual development and sexual abuse prevention training for early childhood and youth serving organizations. Amy is still married to her first husband and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle WA and you can learn more about her work at BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com   Resources mentioned in this episode  Girls & Sex Peggy Orenstein  Boys & Sex Peggy Orenstein  It’s Perfectly Normal by Robie Harris and Michael Emberley  What’s Happening to Me? by Peter Mayle The Every Body Book by Rachel Simon  Amy’s Recommended Books and Resources Birds & Bees Solutions Center: one-stop-shop for sex talking  BARK monitoring and parental controls RAINN.org for support for abuse survivors  Consent is like tea video   Connect with Amy On Instagram Facebook www.birdsandbeesandkids.com  Amy Lang’s ‘Just Say THIS’ Podcast   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we’re exploring why kids whine and what we can do about it.    I go into detail about all the reasons kids whine. Whining is a signal to us that our kids need our help and support. They are doing the best they can!    We cover: Why our kids whine The first steps to take when our kid is whining Handling whining without shaming our kids How to approach whining with empathy and why it matters for our kids   Resources mentioned in this episode Join my newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter  Parenting Quiz: www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingquiz    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

This episode is with Julie Lythcott-Haims and we talk about her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, which is about how to be a good person and have a good life. We also talked about how to raise kids so that they don't need a book to learn how to be an adult. Julie also shared some really great tips about truly seeing our children.  Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism.    We go into: How Julie’s new book is changing the narrative around the heaviness of living in today’s society What fending is and how can you best prepare your kids for when they do get to the fending stage The four step method to teaching any kid any skill How to parent our kids the way they need us to parent them Unpacking privilege in gentle parenting   She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces.  Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women’s Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Julie’s Books How to Raise an Adult  Real American: A Memoir Your Turn: How to Be An Adult    Connect with Julie On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://jlythcotthaims.bulletin.com/ https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

As parents, of course we want our kids to be best friends as they’re growing up. But what happens when that’s not necessarily the case? Or when there is so much sibling rivalry, frustration and upset? It can be hard to know where to turn or how to navigate it.   This episode is a coaching call with Maryke, a mom of three strong-willed kids, Kira who is 3, Christie who is five, and Ewan who is seven.    Maryke shares about the struggles she has been facing with her kids; arguing and not listening.   We talk about: How to navigate when older siblings physically fight Tips and things to say to help our kids regulate their emotions How to help guide our kids to their ‘calm down zone’ Tips to encourage our kids to listen Is it okay for our kids to see us upset with them? Resources mentioned in this episode www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse  Episode 22: Understanding ADHD with Dr. Sharon Saline    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

How do we inoculate our kids against anxiety? What can we do to support their mental health as they grow?  Lynn Lyons joins me for this episode to talk about the three skills that our kids need to have if we want them to have good mental health and avoid mental health challenges.   We go into: Three big ideas as it relates to raising anxious kids  How to talk to our kids about flexibility  How to use a Flexibility Wall The challenge of ensuring everything always goes according to plan The effects on kids of being raised in an anxious environment How to teach your kids to check in with themselves and assess dangerous situations on their own The power in avoiding “why” questions with your kids Lynn is a psychotherapist, author and speaker in Concord, New Hampshire. She has been in private practice for 28 years, and specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders in adults and children. She travels globally as a speaker and trainer on the subject of anxiety, its role in families, and the need for a preventative approach at home and in schools. Resources mentioned in this episode Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons Sign up for my Peaceful Discipline Workshop   Connect with Lynn On Instagram On Twitter On YouTube Facebook https://www.lynnlyons.com    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

How do we navigate moving away from punitive parenting to peaceful parenting if we have only ever known that one parenting style?   My guest is Iris Chen, the founder of the Untigering movement and author of "Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent."    We talk about how to undo the shame and negative thoughts that can come with transitioning from punitive parenting to peaceful parenting, giving ourselves grace, and repairing the relationship with our kids.   We go into: The definition of Tiger Parenting Iris’ transition from Tiger Parenting when she realized it wasn’t working with her kids How Iris was able to find and give herself genuine compassion for how she parented before discovering peaceful parenting The three big ideas around Adultism  Why family meetings are important and best practices for incorporating this into your own family team As a peaceful parenting advocate, unschooler, and deconstructing tiger mom, her mission is to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities. She spent 16 years living overseas in China (land of the tiger parent!) but now resides in her native California with her husband and two sons.   Resources mentioned in this episode Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen   Connect with Iris On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://untigering.com/     Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe