The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

047: Shame-Proof Parenting with Mercedes Samudio

Apr 27, 2022

30:27

Have you ever either felt shame as a parent and then either had a grown up tantrum OR shamed your kids in those tough moments?

As parents, it is impossible to avoid ever feeling shame. Our kids will act out. People will judge us. We will make bad decisions sometimes despite our best intentions.

Shame-proof parenting is about learning how to support yourself when those hard feelings come up so that we can be the parents we want to be instead of getting caught up in our own embarrassment or overwhelm.

Joining me for this conversation is Mercedes Samudio, LCSW, a licensed psychotherapist, parent coach, speaker, and bestselling author who helps parents and children communicate with each other, manage emotional trauma, navigate social media and technology together, and develop healthy parent-child relationships.

We go into:

[2:20] What shame-proof parenting is and why it’s so important
[7:50] Mercedes’ tips for reducing shame in hard situations
[12:25] How to love yourself as a parent, through the shame you’re experiencing
[14:35] The Parental Identity Development Model
[28:50] Mercedes’ advice for parents who are just starting out

Mercedes is an adjunct professor at Chapman University and Pepperdine University where she teaches psychology, diagnosis of mental illness, and multicultural counseling. She is an accomplished speaker who explores topics such as parenting identity development, multicultural counseling, and developing a clinical identity.

Mercedes started the #EndParentShaming movement as well as coined the term Shame-Proof Parenting – using both to bring awareness to ending parent shame.

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