Growth mindset is the antidote to perfectionism and giving up. It’s believing “I can’t do it… YET”   How can we help our children develop a growth mindset?   What are the strategies? What do we do when our kids just want to give up?   This episode is a look into my membership community, and joining us is Sheena Hill, a psychotherapist in private practice as a Responsive Parenting and Holistic Sleep Coach. She is a passionate advocate for children, families, development, attachment, and trauma and has been working with families for almost 20 years.    We go into: [6:45] Best practices when it comes to developing a growth mindset as it relates to parenting [12:20] ‘Inviting’ your mistakes to the dinner table [15:30] Shifting what ‘mistakes’ mean to us [18:45] How to help our kids out of a negative mindset [24:05] Tips for helping our kids when they’re spiraling  [28:40] When to know if something is no longer serving our kids [32:40] What to do when the school environment isn’t supportive or peaceful [39:25] Setting expectations for different stages of our kids’ lives   She holds a masters degrees in Social Work and Education and trainings/certifications in SPACE, Neuroscience, Strengthening Families Program, The Nurturing Parenting Program, Hand in Hand Parenting, child passenger safety, and babyproofing.   After nearly a decade in the non-profit world, she made the shift to private practice in order to begin homeschooling.  Resources mentioned in this episode www.sarahrosenweet.com/newsletter www.sarahrosensweet.com/reset   Connect with Sheena   On Instagram On Facebook Facebook Group https://www.sheenahill.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this coaching call with Seodhna, we talk about the challenges that have popped up with her intense, sensitive, and strong-willed son.    Seodhna is the mom of 3 boys- ages 3, 6, and 8. She asked me for help with her oldest child, who often is quite challenging and  demanding of her and her family.   We spoke on three separate occasions over the course of a year as she went through the process of getting a diagnosis for her son. We also came up with strategies to help them both during those very intense moments.   We go into: [4:20] What it means to be ‘sensory seeking’ [7:55] Exercises Seodhna does with Ronan thanks to occupational therapy [15:30] Introducing laughter and roughhousing to help unpack a full emotional backpack  [25:45] ‘Masking’ as it relates to autism  [37:20] Check in #2: How the initial strategies and recommendations worked for Ronan [40:55] Practicing co-regulation [44:50] Planning for a professional assessment of Ronan [48:30] Check in #3: Life post-assessment and how their family is doing now [52:35] The power in having answers  Resources mentioned in this episode Roughhousing ideas Stop Yelling At Your Kids Course Kristy Forbes resources Petey the Rescue Dog Episode 27: Understanding Autism with Kristy Forbes Kristy’s course about PDA Coke bottle analogy   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this solo episode with me, we talk about how to handle after school meltdowns.   Our kids deal with a lot on a day to day basis, especially as they get readjusted to being back in school. Listen in for tips on how to help your kids navigate those inevitable meltdowns! We go into: [1:15] Why after school meltdowns happen [6:50] How to help your child empty their emotional backpack [8:45] Coke bottle analogy and how it relates to overwhelmed kids Resources mentioned in this episode Laughter ideas  Coke Bottle Effect   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

Why do partners struggle with peaceful parenting?    How can we help our male partners become open and receptive to this type of parenting? Why are there negative connotations associated with it to begin with?   Joining me for this conversation is DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson. DJ is a husband, father, author, mentor, coach, counselor, and sports statistician. He grew up in the Indiana foster care system and yet despite that, has gone on to lead a successful, and fulfilling life.    We go into: [3:05] Why DJ wanted to raise his son in a peaceful way [12:50] How to help dads with peaceful parenting [23:10] The fear behind buying into peaceful parenting  [31:35] Why we can’t expect kids to listen to us right away [38:10] Advice for parents whose partners are not on board [44:50] What DJ would say to his younger father self   Before spending nine years in the foster care system, DJ suffered child abuse, domestic abuse, and emotional trauma. At one point, he wanted to end his life, but he realized that he was on this earth for a purpose. DJ fulfills that purpose by using his experiences to not only help establish relationships with the students he serves, but he helps parents better connect with their teenagers. DJ specializes in helping parents bridge the communication gap between them and their child to ensure that their child has room to be the best version of themself. Resources mentioned in this episode Ask Sarah your questions: www.speakpipe.com/peacefulparentingpodcast Connect with DJ Johnson On Instagram On Twitter On Facebook www.djinspires.com   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this coaching call with Liz, we talk about what to do when kids have trouble falling and staying asleep.   Liz is the mom of a four year old boy and a one year old girl. She asked for some support because her four year old was having a lot of trouble staying asleep by himself.   We came up with some ideas to help her and the rest of her family get more sleep, as well as some strategies to help him with his fears around going to sleep.   We go into: [5:00] Why exhaustion and burnout is normal with little kids [8:30] Current bedtime routine since weaning off nursing [12:55] How Liz currently navigates her son waking up in the middle of the night [16:10] How to address the ‘worry brain’ with your kids [22:10] Strategies to help kids fall and stay asleep [31:40] Check in after a few months Resources mentioned in this episode Episode 35: Three Skills to Protect Our Kids’ Mental Health with Lynn Lyons Episode 45: Membership Q&A – How to Help Anxious Kids in Real Life Scenarios with Lynn Lyons Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons  Blog post for worry brain    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this solo episode with me, we talk about what to do when saying goodbye is hard.    Whether it’s school drop-offs or leaving our kids with a babysitter, I’m sharing my strategies for making this transition much easier on both you and your kids. We go into: [2:00] Three ways to problem solve why saying goodbye is hard for kids [4:55] Considering who does the drop off [7:15] Coming up with a goodbye ritual [9:30] How to make the goodbye easier [13:00] Best practices when it comes to saying goodbye [15:30] Talking to children about the moment of goodbye Resources mentioned in this episode www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling Anxiety strategies Deborah MacNamara handout Owl Babies by Martin Waddell Episode 35: Three Skills to Protect Our Kids’ Mental Health with Lynn Lyons Episode 45: Membership Q&A – How to Help Anxious Kids in Real Life Scenarios with Lynn Lyons   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

What are the three components of self compassion?    We all need to extend ourselves a bit more compassion which is why this conversation is particularly important. Joining me is *the* thought leader in the self-compassion space, Dr. Kristin Neff.   Dr. Neff is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion nearly twenty years ago. She has been recognized as one of the most influential researchers in psychology worldwide.    We go into: [3:00] How Dr. Neff’s story intertwines with her work in self compassion [6:45] Secondary traumatic stress and secondary self-compassion  [8:20] How to find self compassion in hard situations  [9:15] Dr. Neff’s definition of self compassion [12:30] Why gratitude isn’t always enough [16:30] The two types of self compassion [20:30] Dr. Neff’s self compassion meditation [27:00] How to believe in yourself and that you aren’t a bad person [29:45] What advice Dr. Neff would give to her younger parent self Resources mentioned in this episode Ask your question: www.speakpipe.com/peacefulparentingpodcast Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive by Dr. Kristin Neff   Connect with Dr. Kristin Neff On Instagram On Twitter www.facebook.com/selfcompassion www.self-compassion.org Guided Meditations   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode I sit down with Daniel, father to two girls, ages 9 and 15. Daniel has been following peaceful parenting practices in recent years and finds it a struggle that his wife isn’t onboard.   We go into: [4:36] How ending the yelling and power struggles has changed Daniel’s relationship with his daughters  [9:30] Why we can force our partners to be aligned with peaceful parenting [10:10] Tips to navigate your relationship with your partner when it comes to peaceful parenting  [17:05] Daniel’s update after a few weeks Resources mentioned in this episode www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop  Episode 19: When Your Partner Is Not On Board with Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, I’m sharing three reasons why you don’t have to be a perfect parent.    There is a lot of pressure when it comes to parenting. Often we feel like people are judging us for what we do, say and act with our kids. The truth is, no one is judging us as harshly as we’re judging ourselves.    Listen in to learn why you are a better parent if you don’t hold yourself to an impossible standard of perfection! We go into: [4:40] Why being a perfect parent is unrealistic  [7:45] Helping our kids develop resilience  [9:35] Why perfectionism makes us worse parents  Resources mentioned in this episode www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

I’m popping onto your Podcast feed today to let you know I am hosting a workshop on Monday, August 8th at 8:00 PM EST and Thursday, August 11th at 12pm EST.   It’s called Peaceful Discipline: How to Get Your Kids to Cooperate Without Using Threats, Yelling or Punishment and I would love for you to join me.   You can go and sign up for free at www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop.    If you can't make it live, I will have a replay available for you that you can watch later. If you can make it live, I will be answering all of your questions about discipline and how to get your kids to listen to you without using yelling, threats, bribes, punishment, all of those things that we don't want to use in peaceful parenting.   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call