LOVERS by shan

This episode felt like a poon and the peen throwback.. If you know, you know! In this episode I sat down with my friend Ricky Shucks and we answered some of your best sex questions.  Am I ruining sex by overthinking? Is squirting actually pee?  Are we monogamous if I am still engaging in threesomes? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Fab Fit FunIf you join FabFitFun as a NEW seasonal member right now you’ll also get 20% off your membership so your 1st box is only $47.99 - for up to a $300 value box each season.Join today:http://www.fabfitfun.com/loversZoc DocFind a top rated doctor for your needs today: http://www.zocdoc.com/loversHoney Love Treat yourself to the best shapewear and supportwear on the market plus save 20% off by visiting: http://www.honeylove.com/loversHello Fresh Try America’s # 1 meal kit for yourself: http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50 Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Rickyhttps://www.instagram.com/rickyshucks/?hl=enhttps://www.goodiebrand.com/https://www.instagram.com/nochasergang/?hl=enSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hello lovers and friends. This week’s episode is a little different and it’s because I had a lot to say on some trending pop culture news. To start things off, Keke Palmer‘s partner Darius Jackson was trending for all the wrong reasons. In this episode we talk about the tweet seen across the globe. “It's the outfit tho.. you a mom.” Next, we break down if Jonah Hill was out of line with his boundaries. A year after his split with ex girlfriend, Sarah Brady, Brady alleges that Hill emotionally abused her and she had the receipts to back up her claim. SHe posted screenshots of their exchange to her Instagram story that prompted widespread internet discourse about boundaries and whether Hill misused “therapy speak.”Lastly, to catch you up on the Adam22 and the Lena the Plug “drama”, the OnlyFans creator did her first scene with a male performer other than her husband. Lena’s husband, No Jumper founder Adam “Adam 22” Grandmaison, has said he was fine and encouraging of the scene.Thanks to the sponsor of this episode Better Help!Try therapy yourself and get 10% off your first month by going to:https://www.betterhelp.com/loversFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comArticles:https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/leylamohammed/keke-palmer-shamed-boyfriend-darius-jackson-outfit-momhttps://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-moms/news/keke-palmer-feels-powerful-as-a-mom-amid-darius-jackson-drama/https://www.forbes.com/sites/conormurray/2023/07/10/what-to-know-about-jonah-hills-emotional-abuse-allegatiohttps://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/jonah-hill-texts-ex-sarah-brady-expose-therapy-speak-dangers-rcna93748https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/693883-lena-the-plug-adam22-simp-claims-responsehttps://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12283131/Adam22s-wife-says-theyve-sex-filmed-porn-scene-man.htmlSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

According to the PEW research center about 41% of people between the ages of 18 to 29 are single. For people aged 30 to 49 that number drops dramatically to 23% and then it raises back up a scotch to 28% for those between 50 to 64, before increasing again to 36% for the 65+ crowd. So what does this tell us? My interpretation? On one hand, it tells the story of millennials' decline in divorce rates and on the other the fact that  it showcases our increase in being consciously single for a lot longer than previous generations and in some cases, for the long haul. So can you still enjoy dating even if none of the dates go anywhere? In this episode, I sit down with Qimmah Russo, an influencer, model and athlete and she shares her perspective on this. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Get 55% off your Babbel subscription- by going to: https://www.babbel.com/loversTry America’s #1 Meal Kit and get 50% off plus free shipping by going to:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50Try Ritual for yourself and get 20% off your first month by going to: https://ritual.com/loversFollow the guests on this episode:https://www.instagram.com/qimmahrussohttps://www.instagram.com/workoutsbyqimmah/Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

According to the Singles in America study 55% of people reported that they’ve had a friends with benefits, which is a relationship where two people agree to have a sexual relationship based on convenience and a social relationship without a romantic commitment.And of the people in the study who said they’d had a friend with benefits, about 40% them said that their casual connection eventually turned into a longterm love affair.So is that number along with the guests of this episode and my personal experience enough to convince you that frequent fucking first and figuring the rest out later is the way to go? In this episode, we are joined by Siffat Haider  and Nish Samantray the founders of Arrae- a natural supplement company, who’s passion is to help people optimize their health and wellness. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. HoneyLove Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://www.honeylove.com/lovers  #honeylovepodBetterHelp Find more balance with BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow the guests on this episode: Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSiffat: https://www.instagram.com/siffhaiderNish: https://www.instagram.com/plentyofnish_Check out Arrae: https://www.arrae.comKrista: https://www.instagram.com/itskristaKrizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In 2021, Harvard Health did a giant gratitude study and found that couple who show gratitude for their partner, and who express that gratitude regularly, are more satisfied with their relationship. University of California Berkeley's research team referred to gratitude as the quiet difference maker in relationship formation.  The journal of social and personal relationships reported that individuals who feel appreciated by their partners have better-functioning relationships that are less likely to be impacted by ineffective arguing and even financial stress. All that to say, a little gratitude goes a long way. In this episode, I talk to Dante Jones, (one half of the duo THEY) all about gratitude. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Zocdochttps://www.zocdoc.com/loversHello Fresh:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16Blissy https://www.blissy.com/loversCaraway Homehttps://www.carawayhome.com/lovers Article sited:https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happierFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Dante https://www.instagram.com/tefromtheyhttps://www.unofficialthey.com/tourFollow Dr. Sophia Godkinhttps://www.thehappinessdoctor.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the hit podcast Sex with Emily.  Emily has been dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of a new generation” and has helped millions of people navigate the world of sex and relationships. In her new book Smart Sex, she condenses all she’s learned as a doctor of human sexuality and offers a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex and pleasure. In her new book you’ll uncover. ·  A new sexual intelligence that will allow you to connect deeply with your body, your desires, and the psychological and physical blocks that are keeping you from experiencing the pleasure that is your birthright.·  Communication hacks to talk to your partner about topics ranging from oral sex to open relationships and everything in between.·  The truth about orgasms and how to start having more plentiful, powerful, and satisfying orgasms.· Everything you need to know to be a good lover, from collaboration to technique. (Hint: it's not what you think.)·   And so much moreFIVE PILLARS OF YOUR SEXUALITY:Pillar #1: EmbodimentPillar #2: Health Pillar #3: CollaborationPillar #4: Self- knowledge Pillar #5:  Self acceptance Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Babbel:www.babbel.com/Lovers for 55% off your subscription. Betterhelp: www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month  Hungryroot:  www.hungryroot.com/lovers for 30% off your first delivery and free  veggies. Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Emily: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemilyGet Emily's new book:https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1686695143&refinements=p_27%3AEmily+Morse&s=books&sr=1-1See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’re a podcast listener, you already know that there’s a whole lot of discussions about what people don’t do in relationships, what they need to be doing, and insight on what romantic partners want from others.And I guess it’s all well and good to have standards, but it’s even better to:Be aware of which standards are based on what we actually need to have a quality romantic partnership vs which standards are based on discriminatory, outdated values that hurt others AND our chances at forming healthy partnerships.Be clear about what standards people can hold you to. In short, what exactly are you bringing to the romantic relationship table and furthermore what are you admitting that you won’t be carrying? In this episode, I am discussing this in a hilarious and honest conversation with the ladies of Cocktales. We also have THE Matchmaking Duo here to share the secret to finding a compatible long term partner. Here is your conversation starter pack: What are you enthusiastically bringing to a romantic relationship today?What are you interested in getting better at bringing?What do you know you can’t and probably won’t carry?How do you want your romantic partner to respond to you when you’re not meeting their standards?How do you plan to respond when they inevitably, don’t meet all of yours?Which are your deal breakers and where considering your answers to the top questions can you stand to do a lil bending?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Ritual: Visit ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 10$ off your first 3 months. HelloFresh: Go to Hellofresh.com/lovers16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping! Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the ladies of Cocktales: https://www.instagram.com/kikisaidso/https://www.instagram.com/cocktalespodcast/https://www.instagram.com/coffeebeandean/Follow the Matchmaking Duo:https://www.instagram.com/thematchmakingduo/Follow Krizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What Is Your Love Story? Not the one that you’re in per se, but the one that subconsciously, you’ll move mountains or reality, to live inside? Psychologists have identified 26 kinds of stories that people commit to BEFORE committing to their romantic partner so, which one is yours?Our starring guest Raven Ross who you can recall from Netlfix’s reality series, Love is Blind Season 3. She is also a pilates instructor nearly a 2 million followers on social media. Raven went through one of the messiest Tik Tok cheating scandals last year with her ex-fiancee. Now, she’s ready to love out loud again plus wants to share with you how, why, and maybe even who.. A love story is a frame of reference for how you believe love works or should work. Kind of like how your political beliefs describe how you think a group of people should be governed. Now, as I mentioned off the top, in my fav book, the new psychology of love, there are 26 different common stories that people can subscribe to. Addiction - we have an intense first connection and from then on we need each other and create a dynamic based around the fear of parting waysAudition - you gotta win the part and keep proving you love me and if you forget the lines or go too far off scriptArt - my partner looks good and they make me look good because I own something beautifulBusiness - our union is designed to give us more money, power and respect from othersCookbook - love has a recipe and instruction list, if we forget ingredients or steps our love won’t be as goodFantasy - save me, marry me, and happily ever after me. Game - love is a sport with a winner and a loser or if we’re on the same team there’s still a captain and a bench playerGardening - love is something that has to grow and it takes time, awareness of the environment, plus continuous tending to in order to flourish. For more on this, see my episode where I explain the difference between a fruit and a fruit treeHistory - in our relationship you are who you were, there’s only past you and future you. Think of it like the difference between “I’ll believe it when I see it” and “let’s just see!”Horror - relationships are scary and the scarier it is, the more real it isHumor - love is a joke, some people get the joke early, some later, but sooner or later everyone gets humbledMystery - you don’t need to know everything about each other because maintaining the mystery is more important than discovering yourselves through uncovering one anotherPolice - you gotta place rules and boundaries on your partner because people are only as good as you’ll allow them to beReligion - love is in service of the LordSacrifice - love is just as much about what you give as what you’re willing to give up to demonstrate devotion to the otherScience - love can be studied and explained through scientific theory just like anything elseWar - love is a power struggle ruled by The other ones are: recover, science fiction, sewing, theater, travel, war, student-teacher, and a few more.Conversation starter packWhat story of love are you currently subscribing to?Which ones are you aspiring to?What narratives are you trying to stay clear of and why?What love story was modeled for you growing up?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS for 30% off your first delivery and your free veggies. http://www.carawayhome.com/lovers for 10% offwww.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month www.zocdoc.com to download the free appFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Raven: https://www.instagram.com/pilatesbodyravenwww.pilatesbodyraven.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@pilatesbodyravenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We often talk about how men have an easier life, but I think at this point we can also agree that maintaining the identity of “a real man” is extremely hard. Masculinity is what I would call a wet fish identity - because like catching a fish with your bear hands - It’s hard to do, even harder to hold onto and incredibly easy to lose a grip on. And one of the fastest ways to call your capability of holding onto a wet fish into question, is to add more slick to the situation by crying.It’s one thing for a man to reveal his hurt, pain and insecurities - which you might recall we already discussed in episod 4 of Lovers and Friends, do we really want vulnerable men starring Aba n Preach.So what comes up for us when we see a man cry? And how do we deconstruct those feelings without tearing down the man or his masculinity in the process? These are all questions I wanted to pontificate with, with the man himself, Dominic Gabriel- a personality and mental health advocate best known from his appearances on Netflix's Perfect Match and The Mole. You may also recognize him from his viral Tik Toks OR from his brand new podcast Dom Meets World. Conversation starter pack from this episode:What is masculinity? Is it something you have? Or something you have to earn and maintain?Is it a turnoff to see a man cry?Is it a turnon?Aren’t both of those responses equally as strange? What’s the healthier alternative?Is crying a useful expression regardless of gender? Should we all attempt to control it because it can be likened to losing your temper?How do we create an environment where people tasked with proving their masculinity, don’t feel like they have to keep up the audition in front of us?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Storyworth https://www.storyworth.com/lovers to save $10 on your first purchase!Blissy https://www.blissy.com/loversGet better sleep now with Blissy and use LOVERS to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/LOVERSBetter Help https://www.betterhelp.com/LOVERS for 10%off your first order Hello Fresh https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16Use code Lovers16 for 16 free meals Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow Dom: https://www.instagram.com/dontcalldomFollow the guys of ENJOY: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyhttps://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavishttps://www.instagram.com/datboykrayhttps://www.instagra.com/blamelosSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Did you know that every 7 seconds, a man thinks about sex?That's more than 500 times an hour and more than 12,000 times a day… And even though that sounds crazy, I’m sure it sounds familiar because this stat has circulated for decades. Now, myth-buster there is no scientific evidence to back this up, and studies that HAVE been done site that men think about sex an average of 19 times a day with the highest number of the study being around 380 thoughts a day and the lowest being once per day (which of course if you’re told to record how much you think about sex you’re gonna think about sex more and at the very least ONCE to note that your only thought about having sex that day was that you never thought about having sex… Point being, in a society that’s conditioned us to believe that all day men dream about sex, what do we do when the man we’re with doesn’t want to have sex with us? That’s where we’re going on this episode featuring Drew Love. the lead singer of the popular R&B group THEY who just released their album Nu Moon, which is streaming everywhere now. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Hello Fresh:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 use code lovers16 for your free meals and free shipping!Dame:https://www.dameproducts.com/LoversEnter code Lovers for 15% off Lomi:Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi. Use the codeLOVERS to save $50 https://www.lomi.com/loversSkims:Get free shipping on all orders over $75https://www.skims.comFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow THEY: https://www.instagram.com/theyFollow Drew Love:https://www.instagram.com/drewlove See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.