LOVERS by shan

Steelo Brim shares how the culture of toxic masculinity where men are encouraged not to go deep with themselves, almost destroyed his chances at real love both with himself and with women. He also talks about how he and his longtime girlfriend alahna jade chose to break out of the monogamy-one-size-fits-all box in order to create a healthy relationship on their terms and Steelo shares why his last relationship with fiance Conna Walker did not work.  Sterling Brim better known as Steelo is a comedian, podcast host, actor, TV host, producer and musician. You may recognize him from hosting MTV’s show titled Ridiculousness.  Steelo is a host on his weekly podcast called “Wine and Weed” where he and his co host- unpack current events and pop culture. Steelo unpacks what he needed to let go of and lean into in order to create the love he needed in his life. Follow Steelo http://instagram.com/SteeloBrim  http://youtube.com/@wineandweed Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance No medical exams and no health questionnaire required.  Just go to the website for a free quote. http://GerberLifeFamily.com BetterHelp As the world’s largest therapy service, BetterHelp has matched 3 million people with professionally licensed and vetted therapists available 100% online.  Save 10% off your first month at  http://BetterHelp.com/lovers. 

 In this episode, I sit down with my lover, my partner, my baby daddy, my everything,  Jared. This conversation gets really real. We love our kids but do we still like our life? Do we still like each other? This time in Colombia with my family has sprung up a lot of 'aha' moments: some good and others not so good.  Life after kids is unpredictable and it can sometimes feel like that spark is lost. Which takes me to asking him an important question that to be honest made me nervous.  "Are you happy?" It gets raw, real and made me realize what I need to do more of.. HUGE thank you to the sponsor of this episode, Hello Fresh. There’s a reason why it’s America’s #1 Meal Kit. Fresh and delicious food delivered right to your door with perfectly proportioned ingredients.  Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers65  Use code LOVERS65 for 65% off!  Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Jared: Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/ 

When was the last time your significant other gave you an ultimatum? When was the last time you gave them an ultimatum? In this episode, Shan sits down with Comedian, Actor, and Filmmaker, David So. He breaks down what led him to this breaking point and ultimately how this ultimatum impacted their relationship.... for better or worse? Thanks to the sponsor of this episode ZocDoc. ZocDoc is a FREE app that shows you doctors who are patient-reviewed, take your insurance and are available when you need them. With ZocDoc, you can see real, verified patient reviews to help you find the right doctor in your network and your neighborhood. Go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself! It is as easy as search, find and book an appointment, in person or remotely, that works for your schedule. Again, go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself! Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Apostrophe. Post pregnancy, my melasma was a real struggle. A few weeks ago it was visible in the middle of my forehead, above my eyebrows and my fav, above my lip but last week my MUA was getting me ready, he actually said the melasma was fading. Thanks to the Apostrophe team, I  found a safe treatment for me plus a sunscreen for prevention. It came in a cute box with easy instructions and bonus, some funky stickers. Try it out! http://Apostrophe.com/Lovers First visit for only $5.00 at http://Apostrophe.com/Lovers Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/c/shannontboodram https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Follow David:  https://www.instagram.com/davidsocomedy/?hl=en https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCt8OnQ7ztuLrPrehlj8ZuuQ

How many times have you romanticized your life and where you THOUGHT you’d be by a certain age. For many of us, by 30 we imagine ourselves to be wifed up and thriving in a career.  In this episode, I sit down with Kamie Crawford, the host of MTV’s Catfish and former Miss Teen USA. Kamie is also the host of her very own Podcast called Relationshit. Kamie is the epitome of 30, flirty and thriving!  Last time Kamie was on the podcast, we broke down the lows and hell nos that led to her breakup and now, we are breaking down what she is leaving behind in her 20s and what she is welcoming in her 30s, including... a new love.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Better Help! For 10% off go to http://betterhelp.com/lovers  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Gerber Life Guaranteed.  Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting http://GerberLifeFamily.com  Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Kamie  http://instagram.com/kamiecrawford http://instagram.com/relationshit

Does sex HAVE to get less passionate as time goes on in a relationship? Is it possible to keep that “can’t keep your hands off each other” feeling in a marriage? In this episode we explore these questions and share the depressing/ hopeful truth about the secret to good sex in a long relationship.  DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN ALSO WATCH FULL EPISODES OF LOVERS AND FRIENDS? CLICK HERE TO SEE OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Fun fact, falling in love is stressful on the body, but being in love is healthy for the body. When we are falling in love we experience an increase in cortisol, the stress hormone, but studies show that when we develop an attachment to someone oxytocin can actually work to inhibit cortisol production and stress response. That’s why researchers say that true love probably begins when the hormonal cocktail stops working.  So long story short maybe the loss of passion in our sex life as we know it, is not such a bad thing Meet the guests of this episode!!! Kevin Fredericks aka KevOn Stage is an actor, stand-up comedian, entrepreneur, podcast developer and host and filmmaker. Kevin is part of a generation of comedians who gained fame online and has accumulated hundreds of millions of views on social media. He is currently on his 3rd SOLD OUT national comedy tour and he is a New York Times bestselling author with his book Marriage Be Hard that he co-authored with his wife Melissa Fredericks who you might know on the internets as Mrs Kevon Stage. Melissa hosts The Love Hour podcast and is best known for her betterment campaigns and advocacy for self-love.  Together, Kevin and Melissa provide a hilarious and fresh master class on what it takes to build and maintain a healthy and lasting relationship. Follow KevOnStage: http://instagram.com/kevonstage http://youtube.com/kevonstage http://kevonstage.com Follow Kev’s streaming service:  Kevon Stage Studios Follow Melissa aka Mrs.KevOnStage http://instagram.com/mrskevonstage http://youtube.com/mrskevonstage https://www.mrskevonstage.com/ Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Dating in your 20s is a lot like being given free range with paint as a toddler. Things can be fun but can get messy really quick. But the beauty is, you're young and have time to clean the mess up. In this episode, that is exactly what we are getting into.   Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati - two on again off again, mid twenties, love birds in the midst of what we just described. Harry, Georgia and myself all met on the Netflix show that I’ve worked on as a sex expert for several seasons, Too Hot to Handle. Harry was a retreat attendee on season one and Georgia, on season three. They met because Harry asked Georgia to be a guest on his podcast, Tap in with Harry Jowsey. Harry and Georgia share a lot of the same things in common: background, career aspirations, sense of humor and the desire for real love in their 20s. They start hanging out, yada yada yada, they fall in love, have a few incredible rom-com-esque months together before things got a little TOO real… too heavy for Harry who then decides to call things off. But in classic-twenty-something-style our boy Harry made another big call a few weeks after that. And that’s where they are today… And if you’re not really clear where that “at” is, don’t worry, neither are they… and that’s kinda the beauty of trying to do the love thing in your twenties…right?  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! ZocDoc Go to ZocDoc.com/LOVERS to start your search for a top rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.  That’z ZocDoc.com/LOVERS.  Gerber Life Family GerberLifeFamily.com Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting GerberLifeFamily.com Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody http://shanboodram.com loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Harry- @HarryJowsey http://instagram.com/harryjowsey http://youtube.com/harryjowsey http://tiktok.com/harryjowsey Follow Georgia: @GeorgiaHassarati http://instagram.com/georgiahassarati http://youtube.com/GeorgiaHassarati1 http://tiktok.comGeorgiaHassarati

Shan sits down with artist Tanerelle to explore all about sacred sexuality and intimacy.  Sacred sexuality is an entirely different way to connect with your partner. It involves delicacy, hugs, caresses and even at times no touching while holding space for meditation.  All this deep work, leads to deep release which can include more powerful orgasms to longer-lasting, non-ejaculatory, and multiple orgasms for men and numerous types of orgasms for women. Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, Apostrophe! We have a special deal for our audience: Get your first visit for only five dollars at http://Apostrophe.com/LOVERS when you use our code:LOVERS. That’s a savings of fifteen dollars! This code is only available to our listeners.  To get started, just go to http://Apostrophe.com/LOVERSand click Begin Visit,  then use our code LOVERS at sign up and you’ll get your first visit for only five dollars! Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Sincere Show, best known as Jason Derulo's DJ and a former castmate of Love and Hip Hop, came to this podcast to discuss non-monogamy and why his life of abundance has informed his decision to seek out an open relationship. However, the interview went much deeper and wider covering topics like fear of abandonment, sexual trauma, power dynamics and harmful tropes.  This episode poses thought starters such as: What does it look like to be healed? Can you know what you want without knowing yourself without the baggage of trauma? How much space should we make for hurt people who hurt people? When are boundaries unhelpful brick walls? Should we prioritize or drive for sex or safety? Thank you to the sponsor of this episode HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers65 and use code lovers65 for 65% off plus free shipping! Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody http://shanboodram.com loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode  www.instagram.com/sincereshow tiktok.com/sincereshow www.twitter.com/sincereshow

Shan Boodram delves into the taboo and hot topic that is cheating: are there ways to predict if your partner will cheat? Are there early warning signs? Recently two huge celebrity cheating scandals broke out- Adam Levine’s alleged affair and Nia Long’s fiancee, Ime Udoka’s affair. Often when we think of someone being cheated on, we cast an archetype - But in this case the people who’ve been cheated on don’t fit the script at all! On this episode, Shan talks to Estefania Pessoa better know as Tefi on Tiktok, who provided an unexpected take on cheating. Tefi breaks down how  your code shapes your decisions, character, morals and therefore if you're likely going to be a cheater.  But there was another take on how to spot a cheater, that I found very fascinating. Estefania Pessoa better known as Tefi on TikTok spoke about code. Tefi explained how code is your character, your morals, and how this code will impact the decisions you make. Decisions that will not only affect you, but those that you love.  Shan also sits down with  Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist who enlightens us on what to look out for to get a leg up on those who can’t keep their legs closed.  Promo Codes: Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Apostrophe: Visit Apostrophe.com/Lovers for your first visit for only 5$ Thank you Better Help and Apostrophe for sponsoring this episode.  Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode:  Tefi  https://www.tiktok.com/@hellotefi https://www.instagram.com/hellotefi Dr. Barry Goldstein  http://realityshrink.net/

Is my dick too small? Do they notice my man boobs? Does she think I just want sex? Are my legs too skinny? Am I strong enough to do any position she desires? Is this a safe space for my trauma? These are things that the men in this episode have said and I really hope you take the time to listen. Mike Johnson, an Air Force Vet and certified sex coach,  best known for being on ABC's The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise, opens up about his struggle with performance anxiety. Performance anxiety happens when you feel stress about your body image or your ability to please your partner. And sex coach Alex Grendi talks about what men really need to get and stay hard PLUS the importance of men being vulnerable.   What should someone say when their partner can’t get hard? What are men most insecure about? Let’s discuss Thank you Better Help for sponsoring this episode.    Promo Code:  Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode:  Mike Johnson https://www.instagram.com/Mike_Johnson http://www.feelingseen.com Alex Grendi https://www.instagram.com/Alex.grendi https://www.superiorlovers.com https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL