LOVERS by shan

Sincere Show, best known as Jason Derulo's DJ and a former castmate of Love and Hip Hop, came to this podcast to discuss non-monogamy and why his life of abundance has informed his decision to seek out an open relationship. However, the interview went much deeper and wider covering topics like fear of abandonment, sexual trauma, power dynamics and harmful tropes.  This episode poses thought starters such as: What does it look like to be healed? Can you know what you want without knowing yourself without the baggage of trauma? How much space should we make for hurt people who hurt people? When are boundaries unhelpful brick walls? Should we prioritize or drive for sex or safety? Thank you to the sponsor of this episode HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers65 and use code lovers65 for 65% off plus free shipping! Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody http://shanboodram.com loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode  www.instagram.com/sincereshow tiktok.com/sincereshow www.twitter.com/sincereshow

Shan Boodram delves into the taboo and hot topic that is cheating: are there ways to predict if your partner will cheat? Are there early warning signs? Recently two huge celebrity cheating scandals broke out- Adam Levine’s alleged affair and Nia Long’s fiancee, Ime Udoka’s affair. Often when we think of someone being cheated on, we cast an archetype - But in this case the people who’ve been cheated on don’t fit the script at all! On this episode, Shan talks to Estefania Pessoa better know as Tefi on Tiktok, who provided an unexpected take on cheating. Tefi breaks down how  your code shapes your decisions, character, morals and therefore if you're likely going to be a cheater.  But there was another take on how to spot a cheater, that I found very fascinating. Estefania Pessoa better known as Tefi on TikTok spoke about code. Tefi explained how code is your character, your morals, and how this code will impact the decisions you make. Decisions that will not only affect you, but those that you love.  Shan also sits down with  Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist who enlightens us on what to look out for to get a leg up on those who can’t keep their legs closed.  Promo Codes: Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Apostrophe: Visit Apostrophe.com/Lovers for your first visit for only 5$ Thank you Better Help and Apostrophe for sponsoring this episode.  Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode:  Tefi  https://www.tiktok.com/@hellotefi https://www.instagram.com/hellotefi Dr. Barry Goldstein  http://realityshrink.net/

Is my dick too small? Do they notice my man boobs? Does she think I just want sex? Are my legs too skinny? Am I strong enough to do any position she desires? Is this a safe space for my trauma? These are things that the men in this episode have said and I really hope you take the time to listen. Mike Johnson, an Air Force Vet and certified sex coach,  best known for being on ABC's The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise, opens up about his struggle with performance anxiety. Performance anxiety happens when you feel stress about your body image or your ability to please your partner. And sex coach Alex Grendi talks about what men really need to get and stay hard PLUS the importance of men being vulnerable.   What should someone say when their partner can’t get hard? What are men most insecure about? Let’s discuss Thank you Better Help for sponsoring this episode.    Promo Code:  Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode:  Mike Johnson https://www.instagram.com/Mike_Johnson http://www.feelingseen.com Alex Grendi https://www.instagram.com/Alex.grendi https://www.superiorlovers.com https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL

Nick Canon's third baby mama Abby De La Rosa says she is happy with Nick as her primary partner in their very open relationship. Do you believe her? Let's examine why or why not..."Believe women" is an American political slogan arising out of the #MeToo movement that refers to accepting women's allegations of sexual harassment or sexual assault at face value. BUT does it have limitations? Do we also believe women when they say that they're happy in romantic relationships...even if they're involved in dynamics that we don't think would work for us? Abby challenges us to see beyond our biases AND hold both of her contrasting truths about her love life. Also in this episode LMFT Mayana Geathers shares her professional opinion on believing women claiming to be happy in unbelievable arrangements. Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode:  Abby De La Rosa https://www.instagram.com/hiabbydelarosa http://onlyfans.com/hiabbydelarosa Mayana Geathers https://www.instagram.com/mayanageathers/ https://www.mayanageathers.com/ Kenya Alexander https://www.instagram.com/kenyaonhair/?hl=en https://www.kenyaonhair.com/

And despite my husband not being there, it was an incredible experience that taught me so much. In this episode I share my top three epiphanies, the reason why the father not being there was the best choice for our family and what this all means for this podcast going forward.   Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com    

In todays Episode Jared takes over the podcast because Shan is full term and needs a break. Jared opens up about the struggles of living with a pregnant woman. It gets raw, real and unfiltered. If you have been pregnant before or lived with a pregnant women before can you relate!  Note from Shan: This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!     Follow Shan    http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode    Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/  Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mikegdnss/ Byron: https://www.instagram.com/lordbyronb/

I'm 38 weeks pregnant and terrified that I still feel so negatively about my current life and the idea of life with two babies under two...so in this episode I unpack these very ugly feelings with some beautiful souls: actor Shanola Hampton (mother of two) and performance coach Lauren Morrison (mother of two). With them I ask the million dollar questions: what happens when the way you know you're supposed to feel, has little resemblance to your reality? And more frighteningly... What if that never changes?   This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!   Follow Shan    http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode    Shanola Hampton http://instagram.com/shanolahampton   Lauren Morrison http://maketheshiftcoach.com http://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still... Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode    Tee Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/himynamestee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/himynamesteee/ Music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5cdrxr9s52oZCf78xOLa4R   Here is the exercise Tee and I did together:   Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should go Section Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life: 1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness? 2) Who are you, at your current best?    3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost?   4) What is your vision for your future? 5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality?   Section Three - answering the hard questions 1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be? 2) Is this a familiar pattern? 3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel?  4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner?  5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner? 6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner? 7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today 8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship? 9) Should it be this much work? 10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now? 11) How will my life change without this person? 12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it? 13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship? 14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have? 15) If this is all there is, will it be enough?  16) How often do you fight with your partner? 18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else?   Section Four I pulled those prompts from this research article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550617722834 You can also find a table of the prompts here in this article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201708/how-do-we-decide-whether-or-not-break  

Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends?   According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning.    You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds.   This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.     Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note   ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com       Follow the guests on this episode      Ezee    https://www.instagram.com/ezee   https://www.youtube.com/c/youngezee   https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie     Natalie https://www.instagram.com/natalie.odell/   https://www.youtube.com/c/NatalieOdellXo   https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie     Nineteen85   https://www.instagram.com/nineteen85_   https://www.instagram.com/dvsn   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9xq-hVeC-OJHvWOxGydo9g    

Let’s get right into this week’s episode: do many straight men utilize sex education, outside of watching mainstream porn, in order to ensure they’re really putting it down? In my opinion…no… as both a sex educator and as someone who’s had sex with straight men, I gotta say The ego that I’ve been met with from straight men has been toxic at times and really sad at others. And to me ego is both the biggest turnoff and biggest, for lack of a better term, cock blocker to actual great sex.   In this episode I get a group of straight men, a male sex coach and Tim Chantarangsu to shed light on why men are often too proud to engage in sex education.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note   ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com   Follow the guests on this episode    Starring Guest Tim Chantarangsu:  http://instagram.com/timchantarangsu Podcast: No Chasers  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-chaser-with-timothy-chantarangsu/id1454272724   Male Sex Coach Alex Grendi is a male sex coach that specializes in helping men with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. He also helps men integrate what they've learned about becoming superior sexual lovers into all areas of their life. http://Superiorlovers.com https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL   Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248 Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts