Does finding the kind of relationship you want mean conforming to an ideal of what a romantic partner is “supposed to be”? What if you don’t want to conform? Does this mean you’re not cut out for love? To explore further, Shan sits down with both Mandii, from the “See, The Thing Is” and “WHOREible Decisions” Podcasts and Khleo Thomas from Disney’s “Holes”; two successful and fascinating individuals who have come to believe that they are undateable. Not because of any toxic traits, but because their version of life-long happiness is not in line with what society feeds us. Listen in on this conversation as Shan helps these guests figure out what’s broken.   Follow Shan Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Buy Shan’s Book “The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want” wherever you buy your books or audiobooks   Follow Mandii B on Instagram: www.instagram.com/fullcourtpumps Listen to Mandii’s podcasts “Whoreible Decisions” and “So The Thing Is” wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Khleo on Instagram: www.instagram.com/khleothomas Check out Khleo on Twitch: www.twitch.tv/khleothomas

Are you familiar with the term “gaslighting?” Shan’s guest, Melissa Rivers, was a victim of it in her previous relationship - and she didn’t hesitate to share her experiences. In this episode, we learn about Melissa and Shan’s gaslighting experiences and the toxic impact it has had on them. Shan also brings in Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist, therapist, and consultant to reality-based production shows such as “Make Up or Break Up.” Dr. Barry provides clinical knowledge about gaslighting and tools to not only identify it; but challenge it as well.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Melissa Rivers on Instagram: www.instagram.com/melissariversofficial Buy Melissa’s Latest Book: “Lies My Mother Told Me: Tall Tales from a Short Woman” Listen to the #GroupText Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Visit Dr. Barry Goldstein’s Website to learn more about his services: www.realityshrink.net

Let’s talk about dating and why so many people are lost in the gap between what they’re getting and what they want out of love. To get up close and personal about it, Shan welcomes Harry Jowsey to the podcast, who you might recognize as the Australian heartthrob from the 2020 season of Netflix's "Too Hot to Handle". So how is it that a 6'5", successful, wealthy, gorgeous, and emotionally available man is having trouble finding "the one"? The answer surprised him, and may even surprise you too.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody    Get your copy of Shan's Book "The Game of Desire" on Amazon   Follow Harry Jowsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/harryjowsey    Listen to "Tap in with Harry Jowsey" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos    Listen to Los and his 2 co-hosts every week on "Enjoy the Podcast" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Chelsea on Instagram: www.instagram.com/chealseaprobably

How important is humor in love and dating? In that same vein how harmful can humor in the wrong way at the wrong time be in a romantic connection? To explore this question, Shan sits with the hilarious Hannah Berner of Giggly Squad and Berning in Hell podcasts and Bravo’s Summer House, and Hannah reveals all the fun parts of being in love with a comedian…and what happens when the joke goes too far. Shan also gets some expert insight from Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD, and finally, find out why Shan’s husband Jared never laughs at her jokes. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan and casting calls for Lovers and Friends:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Hannah Berner on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/beingbernz Listen to the “Giggly Squad” and “Berning in Hell” podcasts wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Listen to Jared and his co-hosts week on “Enjoy the Podcast” wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

In this very intimate and vulnerable episode, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared, to discuss the real fears they have about the future of their marriage and intimacy now that baby #2 is on the way. Being in new territory, Shan tries to learn as much as she can about how others have navigated similar challenges including her audience, her mother, her sister, and Erica Dickerson and Milah Mapp from the podcast Good Moms, Bad Choices.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan and upcoming Lovers and Friends casting calls: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow “Good Moms, Bad Choices” on Instagram: www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices Listen to their podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia

Let’s talk about sex! Specifically why are so many straight men so closed-minded and unadventurous when it comes to sex? And why aren’t we talking about this more? To cover this, Shan collects a wide variety of male perspectives from legendary sex educator, Dan Savage, the hosts of the Hard or Soft Podcast, and as a special treat, Shan’s husband, Jared, gets together with the closest men in his life to get their honest reflections on why straight men are more concerned with dominance and masculinity than pleasure and self expression in the bedroom.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with casting and more from Shan: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow the Hard or Soft Podcast on Instagram: www.instagram.com/hardorsoftpod Listen to Hard or Soft Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Dan Savage on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dansavage Listen to the Savage Love Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Enjoy the Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Kray Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/datboikray

When you've gone through a break-up, it's time for a pity party, right? But what if we celebrated the newly single instead? And maybe even aspired to be more like them? In this episode, Shan breaks down the highs and the lows of breakups with Kamie Crawford, host of the podcast Relationsh*t and MTV's Catfish. Kamie reveals what went on behind the scenes of her public break-up, and how she’s moving forward. Then, YouTuber and social activist Amber Lee Whittington reflects on how her heartbreaks have resulted in…well, you have to listen to find out. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan’s mailing list to stay up to date with casting calls and Shan Boody updates:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Kami Crawford on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford  Listen to Kami’s podcast Relationsh*t on the very same platform you are listening to this podcast Follow Amber on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/amberscloset  Subscribe to Amber’s YouTube Channel:  www.youtube.com/amberscloset

Does dating in your twenties have to be trash? Or are people in their twenties just trash? In this episode, Shan brings on Andrea Desiree Lewis, her ex-business partner from the early “Those Girls Are Wild” YouTube days. Shan and Andrea dish on their worst moments from dating in their 20s and how it actually made them better partners today. Then, find out why Shan finds talking to her 23-year-old brother-in-law therapeutic for her 20-year-old self. Don't forget to leave a rating and review for this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Andrea Lewis on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/andrealewis  Watch "Black Actress" and "Beyond Complicated" on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/andrealewischannel

Is letting others love you naked a prerequisite to loving your body? In this episode, Shan talks with Sarah Landry — who is notoriously naked online despite getting horrendous comments on her body — about how to choose and love your nakedness in your own everyday, all day. Shan then brings on Jazzmyne Jay to explore how body positivity shows up in same-sex relationships and how fat-phobia has it’s roots in racism?     Don’t forget to leave your rating on this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up with Shan by joining her mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Sarah Landry:  www.instagram.com/thebirdspapaya Listen to Sarah’s podcast “The Papaya Podcast” on the same platform you're listening to this podcast! Follow Jazzmyne Jay:  www.instagram.com/jazzmynejay

What do you do if you’re in a place where you’re madly in love with your partner, your career, your life...BUT you've also decided to put your sex life on the backburner…or maybe more accurately, in the fridge? Rachel Lindsey, the first African-American Bachelorette, sits down with Shan to unapologetically talk about her loving marriage and how it's far removed from the Fantasy Suite. Then, Shan gets Jared’s take on their current sex life...or lack thereof. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan’s mailing list: www.shanboodram.join Follow Rachel Lindsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/therachlindsay Buy Rachel’s new book “Miss Me With That” wherever you buy your books or audio books Follow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Listen to Enjoy the Podcast on the same platform you are listening to this podcast