
LOVERS by shan
Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right.
Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.
When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.
Latest episodes

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Sep 14, 2022 • 1h 2min
Do We Believe Her? ft. Abby De La Rosa + Submissive Women Episode Response
Nick Canon's third baby mama Abby De La Rosa says she is happy with Nick as her primary partner in their very open relationship. Do you believe her? Let's examine why or why not..."Believe women" is an American political slogan arising out of the #MeToo movement that refers to accepting women's allegations of sexual harassment or sexual assault at face value. BUT does it have limitations? Do we also believe women when they say that they're happy in romantic relationships...even if they're involved in dynamics that we don't think would work for us?
Abby challenges us to see beyond our biases AND hold both of her contrasting truths about her love life. Also in this episode LMFT Mayana Geathers shares her professional opinion on believing women claiming to be happy in unbelievable arrangements.
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Abby De La Rosa
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Mayana Geathers
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Kenya Alexander
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Aug 23, 2022 • 22min
Giving Birth, Saying Bye to My Husband and Discovering Who TF I Am
And despite my husband not being there, it was an incredible experience that taught me so much. In this episode I share my top three epiphanies, the reason why the father not being there was the best choice for our family and what this all means for this podcast going forward.
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Aug 2, 2022 • 35min
My Nightmare Living With A Pregnant Woman - Jared Brady Takeover!
In todays Episode Jared takes over the podcast because Shan is full term and needs a break. Jared opens up about the struggles of living with a pregnant woman. It gets raw, real and unfiltered. If you have been pregnant before or lived with a pregnant women before can you relate!
Note from Shan: This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!
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Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mikegdnss/
Byron: https://www.instagram.com/lordbyronb/

Jul 27, 2022 • 59min
I'm Ready to Give Birth and I'm Still Not...Excited. What Now? feat. Shanola Hampton
I'm 38 weeks pregnant and terrified that I still feel so negatively about my current life and the idea of life with two babies under two...so in this episode I unpack these very ugly feelings with some beautiful souls: actor Shanola Hampton (mother of two) and performance coach Lauren Morrison (mother of two). With them I ask the million dollar questions: what happens when the way you know you're supposed to feel, has little resemblance to your reality? And more frighteningly... What if that never changes?
This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!
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Jul 20, 2022 • 43min
Help! Should I Leave Him or Double Down on Loving Him? feat. Tee
Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still...
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Tee
Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/himynamestee
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/himynamesteee/
Music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5cdrxr9s52oZCf78xOLa4R
Here is the exercise Tee and I did together:
Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should go
Section Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life:
1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness?
2) Who are you, at your current best?
3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost?
4) What is your vision for your future?
5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality?
Section Three - answering the hard questions
1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be?
2) Is this a familiar pattern?
3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel?
4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner?
5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner?
6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner?
7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today
8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship?
9) Should it be this much work?
10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now?
11) How will my life change without this person?
12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it?
13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship?
14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have?
15) If this is all there is, will it be enough?
16) How often do you fight with your partner?
18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else?
Section Four
I pulled those prompts from this research article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550617722834
You can also find a table of the prompts here in this article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201708/how-do-we-decide-whether-or-not-break

Jul 12, 2022 • 52min
Soul Mates or Settling? The Friends to Lovers Story feat. Ezee and Natalie
Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends?
According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning.
You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds.
This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.
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Natalie
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Nineteen85
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Jul 6, 2022 • 53min
Men's Ego: The Real Cock Blocker for Great Sex feat. Tim Chantarangsu
Let’s get right into this week’s episode: do many straight men utilize sex education, outside of watching mainstream porn, in order to ensure they’re really putting it down?
In my opinion…no… as both a sex educator and as someone who’s had sex with straight men, I gotta say The ego that I’ve been met with from straight men has been toxic at times and really sad at others. And to me ego is both the biggest turnoff and biggest, for lack of a better term, cock blocker to actual great sex.
In this episode I get a group of straight men, a male sex coach and Tim Chantarangsu to shed light on why men are often too proud to engage in sex education.
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Tim Chantarangsu:
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Podcast: No Chasers
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Male Sex Coach
Alex Grendi is a male sex coach that specializes in helping men with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. He also helps men integrate what they've learned about becoming superior sexual lovers into all areas of their life.
http://Superiorlovers.com
https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL
Jared Brady
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Jun 28, 2022 • 58min
I Baby My Man and It Works For Us feat. Jasmin "Watch Jazzy" Brown
To submit to someone else is defined as accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the authority or will of another. So, how does that play out in romantic partnerships? Actor, comedian and bestie in your head Jasmin Brown shares why she joyfully submits to her man unconditionally. Jasmin also sheds light on the power split, sexual dynamic, as well as the roles and responsibilities that often come with identifying as a submissive woman to an alpha partner.
Has the art of submission in love and dating been lost? At the end of the episode I discuss this with a panel of my lovers and friends: Jared Brady, Lauren Morrison and Chris Morrison
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Lauren Morrison
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What I am committed to doing in a post Roe vs Wade America
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Jun 22, 2022 • 40min
Blowjobs: Everything You Didn’t Know You Needed to Know feat. Rayna Greenberg GGE
If you give head, blow jobs, top, and/or oral sex on a penis…why not be the best of it? I brought together research from top experts, a medical penis expert, a self-proclaimed grade A head giver and a group of men to weigh in on the do's, don’ts and maybes that will make you a master at sucking dick.
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Rayna’s hit podcast: girlsgottaeatpodcast.com
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Dr Rena Malik (urologist)
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Resources for better oral sex on penis’ mentioned in this episode
https://beducated.com/f/couples/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=bg2206-boody&coupon_code=boody
https://www.popsugar.com/love/how-to-give-an-amazing-blow-job-47239810

Jun 8, 2022 • 42min
Toxic Self Love feat. Nina Parker
What's the relationship between toxic self-love and a toxic life? This is the question that Nina Parker was forced to answer when she turned 40. Her journey to discovering and then correcting what she found when she looked at her life honestly led her to the happiest time in her life!
In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Emmy nominated Television host and Fashion Designer Nina Parker shares how she got through her darkest time during the pandemic. Now, she’s gotten her life together in ways she never expected. As Nina put it, it's a rom-com … WITHOUT a partner. ENJOY!
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