Emotionally Uncomfortable

I'm a giver to a fault. I would give my shoes to someone in need. So when the holiday season comes around I'm always curious how I can be of service to others while still maintaining my sanity. In this episode I talk about How my grandmother inspired this podcast. How the woman at the hair solon gave me a great idea to make a difference. And the power of community and starting where you're at. What are you doing this holiday season? How are you giving back? Let me know heather@heatherchauvin.com

Discipline is a very personal choice and something a lot of parents are confused about which approach to take. My personal choice is to do no harm. This isn't easy when my 'go to' place is anger and rage. So what can YOU do when it comes to taking a new approach to discipline in your home? POINT: Understand where your kids are coming from. How are they feeling in that situation? Was there something else going on that has nothing to do with you? Maybe they are upset and acting out because of a previous situation. What they might need in a hug instead of a lecture. POINT: Talk to them the same way you would want someone to talk to you. This is my go to question when I want to yell and scream. Would I respect it if someone else talked to me this way? Ask yourself this next time you want to punch a hole in the wall. You children will thank you. POINT: Be proactive instead of reactive. What can you do to avoid these conversations? Are there systems or alternative solutions that can be taken care of so yelling doesn't occur? Example: Late for school? Get up earlier, make sure everything is ready the night before. Do your morning routine so you are grounded and focused before taking care of the kids. Like the FB page. Have a personal question? Email me heather@heatherchauvin.com

Have you ever wondered how two people can be in the exact same shitty situation and yet one is thriving? Me too. It's not their life that sucks. It's their thoughts. Their perspective of the whole situation. ACTION STEP: Journal. Ask yourself these questions. What is one action I say take right now that will shift my energy and attention? What do I really want to feel? How can I make it happen? Ready to transform your life? Join us at the Sun & Soul retreat this February in California. www.triptribe.com/sunandsoul

What happens when you feel disrespected by your children? How do you get out of the mental loop of yelling, screaming, door slamming, guilt, shame -- and the cycle continues. POINT 1: You can go in solving a problem with the same mindset that created it. Point 2: What do you kids think about the situation? Point 3: How are you treating yourself? Resources covered in this episode. Bryon Katie. The work. Have a question or feedback, feel free to personally email me: heather@heatherchauvin.com or find me on Facebook

Self care is essential to growth, happiness and kick ass awesomeness. But have you ever experienced a Self Care Tantrum? You know the experience when you DON'T WANT TO DO IT! You can't. You want to avoid it like the plague, run away and hide. Why does this happen? Listen and find out. Have a personal topic, you would like me to cover: email heather@heatherchauvin.com If you like the episode, please share.

Point: FINE is not ok. It's just. Stop trying to justify it. You were created for more. Stop avoiding your soul's signs that something needs to change. Point: Stop hitting your inner snooze alarm. Use activation energy to get yourself moving. You're going to need to do it eventually so why not now? Point: Your brain has two sides: auto pilot & emergency break. Learn how to use them. Listen and learn how to find the sweet spot. The middle ground where you THRIVE. ACTION STEP: Use the 5 second rule. Listen to the impulse and take action on it quickly. Or write it down. How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over. Mel Robbins Ted Talk. Have a personal question, just ask. heather@heatherchauvin.com

POINT: Go where you feel GOOD (where you feel ALIVE). If you don't feel welcome somewhere, leave and don't return. Find the people that make you feel good and find more of them. We all have our people. Where are yours? It's a deep rooted human need to be in connection with others. POINT: Create what you want to be a part of. If it's not out their and you want it. Create it. That's what I did and do to this day. POINT: Take action. Create it now!! Change won't happen unless someone takes action. You can be the next leader, trailblazer, game changer. It's up to you. ACTION STEP: Journal. What tribe do you want to be a part of? Where are these people? Join a tribe. Paid or not paid. Join a meet up. Create your own. RESOURCES: Deconstructing Parenthood: The Conscious Way. Dr. Shefali book: The Conscious Way Abundant Yogi. Teach Your Kid To Meditate Program

Point: Don’t settle for good, achieve greatness. Happiness comes when we are diving into our soul desires. Good is average, greatness is becoming who you were born to become. Point: Become what you most desire your children to be. We can not expect anything from others, if we are not willing to do it ourselves. Period. Point: Have hard conversations. This is where the magic happens. This is when connection and growth occur. ACTION STEP: Journal. Where are you settling? What is one uncomfortable conversation you need to have. RESOURCES: Lewis Howes Podcast Questions? Interested in coaching: support@heatherchauvin.com Facebook group. Join the newsletter: www.heatherchauvin.com

We wear makes daily. So what's the difference? Often times we are wearing masks we don't want to wear, Just because we think we have to. We've listened to someone else and have forgotten about what it is WE really want. Mother's don't do that. Or do they? ACTION STEP: Ask yourself what mask you've been hiding under. Take one small step to feel more in control of how you want to show up everyday. Have a personal question, send your email to: support@heatherchauvin.com Subscribe on iTunes. Leave a kind review. Join the FB community. CLICK HERE TO JOIN.

Today is a very special topic. As a coach and former Social Worker I've seen and witnessed many miracles happen with women and families all around the world. But their is one trend that I've started to notice. Change doesn't happen unless you believe it's possible and change won't happen unless you think you're worthy of change. This is a big problem because for so many who are struggling to make change in their lives, they are missing the point of WHY change isn't coming. Not feeling worthy is a STORY you've told yourself over the years. It's not the true essence of who you really are. TODAY'S ACTION STEP: Ask yourself if you believe change is possible. Ask yourself if you think you're worthy of change. Don't forget Sun & Soul Retreat 2016. February 17-21 www.triptribe.com/sunandsoul Have questions, send us an email support@heatherchauvin.com