Emotionally Uncomfortable 032: The new way to discipline. No one ends up in tears.
Discipline is a very personal choice and something a lot of parents are confused about which approach to take.
My personal choice is to do no harm. This isn't easy when my 'go to' place is anger and rage.
So what can YOU do when it comes to taking a new approach to discipline in your home?
POINT: Understand where your kids are coming from.
How are they feeling in that situation? Was there something else going on that has nothing to do with you? Maybe they are upset and acting out because of a previous situation. What they might need in a hug instead of a lecture.
POINT: Talk to them the same way you would want someone to talk to you.
This is my go to question when I want to yell and scream. Would I respect it if someone else talked to me this way? Ask yourself this next time you want to punch a hole in the wall. You children will thank you.
POINT: Be proactive instead of reactive.
What can you do to avoid these conversations? Are there systems or alternative solutions that can be taken care of so yelling doesn't occur?
Example: Late for school? Get up earlier, make sure everything is ready the night before. Do your morning routine so you are grounded and focused before taking care of the kids.
Have a personal question? Email me heather@heatherchauvin.com