Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy, the Podcast, we talk about the history, the why, and the way forward surrounding the societal norm for women to tear one another down. We talk about using this practice as a point of entry to examine and excavate our inner misogyny and begin to heal our inherited sister wound.Some Big Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Support not Competition: Patriarchal foundations have created societal norms that condition women to view one another as competition, rather than form secure attachments and create community✨Inner Healing is Collective Healing: Going inward and examining our own insecurities and limiting beliefs is imperative to coming together in safety and community 🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyIf you want to go deeper into these types of conversations, to get in there, roll up your sleeves, and discover the parts of yourself that have been relegated to the basement of your psyche along with the “why” behind your conditioning to live small and to not rock the boat - you should consider joining us January 18-21 for:The Return of the Sovereign Feminine where we will be supporting you in:✨ Cultivating tangible tools for the development of a strong sense of Self✨ Understanding how we live our lives from an authentic place of clarity, aliveness, and unapologetic execution of the life we want to embody✨ Developing a set of actionable steps to take home with you and daily practices to maintain the skills you learn during this time✨ Communing in the sacred space of fellowship and sisterhood in a way that awakens the intuitive wisdom that has been lying dormant within each of us for far too longPayment plans are also available - email Sondra@vanessabennett.com for details.*ONLY 3 SPOTS LEFT!*If you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Alexandra Ballensweig to discuss modern dating, the importance of approaching dating with awareness and slowness, and the drawbacks of online dating and dating apps. Alexandra Ballensweig is the founder of HumHum (short for human to human) a dating experience for people seeking meaningful and authentic connection with others, while simultaneously discovering themselves. Alexandra is a certified Kundalini Yoga teacher, Reiki Master Teacher, and practitioner trained in the Usui Method, and a Vipassana practitioner. She holds an M.S. of Industrial Design from Art Center College of Design and is currently enrolled in the Dedicated Practitioner’s Program at Spirit Rock Meditation Center.🌟  Some Big Takeaways from this Episode: Slow Down: Bringing stillness to dating in order to not only find authentic connection in relationship with another person, but authentic connection in relationship with Self, too  Be a Human: People are not meant to exist in a 2D online dating snapshot, and should be in person, authentically connecting with others face to face about what lights our souls on fire Kick the Addiction: Recognizing that dating apps are created to not only create an addiction around constantly searching for the “next best thing,” but an addiction around “being chosen” and seeking external validation rather than validation from Self 🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyConnect with Alexandra:WebsiteInstagramIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we coach one of our listeners through a topic or question. In this coaching session, we sat down with “Jane” to discuss moving forward with ending a 12 year relationship stuck in an unhealthy cycle, while attempting to co-parent a child together. If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here. 🌟  Some Big Takeaways from this Episode: Breaking the Cycle: Recognizing that every time we say we’re ending the relationship but stay we trust yourself a little less, plus some strategies to begin rebuilding that trust in self Sit in the Discomfort: Learning how to put down someone else’s emotional work and be okay being uncomfortable with where that leaves us, like breaking the cycle and finally ending the relationship Stop Self-Abandoning: When we, whether consciously or subconsciously, put ourselves in a place to be abandoned by another person we are self-abandoning and recreating a childhood abandonment wound. We can reclaim our power by taking ownership and ending that cycle and pattern 🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Laura Anderson, PhD. is a psychotherapist, trauma resolution coach and consultant, writer and educator specializing in complex and developmental trauma, dynamics of power and control and religious trauma. In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Dr. Anderson to discuss all things spirituality and religious trauma, and about her book “When Religion Hurts You.”🌟 What You’ll Gain from this Episode: Religion vs Spirituality: Addressing the role of religion and/or religious trauma in your upbringing is a personal spiritual journey that doesn’t have to create anti-religious rhetoric in your life, but helps find a way to feed your soul in a safe and fulfilling way Patriarchy within The Church: Recognizing that at the root of most religions is the same intention and message, and the patriarchy’s need for control, power, and certainty are what create religious trauma, and that finding safety within religion and spirituality is possible Finding Internal Safety: A lot of the work done to heal from religious trauma includes learning how to find safety within yourself for the first time, rather than looking to an external source like your parents or The Church 🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyConnect with Dr. Laura Anderson, PhD.:WebsiteInstagramIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down for an IG LIVE to talk about reclaiming the feminine aspects within ourselves, as well as why this is the basis of so much of the relational work that we feel so strongly about as therapists.🌟  Some Big Takeaways from this Episode: Alone Not Lonely: What to do when you know your longing to be in a relationship is rooted in feelings of loneliness  Disconnected Partnership: How to navigate whether to stay in a relationship or go when a partner is regularly numbing with weed and social media Support in Relationships: Why it’s a natural desire to be in a relationship with a partner who chooses your side and still has your back whenever a conflict arises Shadow Work and Healing: What it looks like to accept and integrate the shadow parts of ourselves and throw away the notion that we will ever be fully “healed” If you’re called to go deeper into your practice of self understanding and relationships we are gathering for an immersive long weekend in Malibu, CA January 18-21. Come join us in exploring the origin points of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back, understanding how to begin to step onto the path of trusting ourselves, crafting a vision of what you want your life to look like and practices that can support you in being the creator of this reality. Therapeutic workshops, delicious home cooked meals, and a group of like minded seekers. The perfect way to start off 2024.We hope to see you at Reclaiming the Sovereign Feminine.*link here. Payment plans available*🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyRemember, we’re therapists, but we’re not your therapists. These coaching sessions, and other episodes, are meant for entertainment purposes only, and are not meant to replace your therapy practice. If you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy, we sit down with “Veronica” to discuss how much sharing is too much in friendships and romantic relationships, especially in the early stages. How do you bond and create authentic connections through vulnerability when your past feels like it’s too heavy for others?If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here.🌟  What You’ll Gain from this Episode: You Are Not What’s Happened to You: It’s easy to fall into the mindset that the things that have happened to you mean something about you and what it means to have a relationship with you, but you have the power to decide who is safe enough to see the vulnerability in your heart and what authenticity looks like for yourself  We Attract What We Believe to be True: Remember that you attract into your life what you put out, so having that radical self-acceptance and unconditional love for your full Self will attract others with the same energetic capacity to hold space for the authentic you  Fear is not Vulnerability: Be sure you’re motivated by true, authentic, radical self-acceptance, rather than moving from a place of fear where your ego is working overtime to defend you, inadvertently proving your fears to be true by pushing away authentic connections 🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyRemember, we’re therapists, but we’re not your therapists. These coaching sessions, and other episodes, are meant for entertainment purposes only, and are not meant to replace your therapy practice. If you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community This episode brought to you by Astrology HubUse Promo Code Therapy15Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This Cheaper than Therapy episode is part of a series where we coach one of our listeners through a topic or question. In this coaching session, we sat down with “Spencer” to talk about conquering codependency within romantic relationships, and finding self-worth and sourcing validation from within, rather than external relationships. If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here.🌟  Some Takeaways from this Episode: Proving Your Worth: Recognizing that you may begin the dating process by going above and beyond in a subconscious effort to find validation and self-worth from this person Overcoming Fears: It’s normal to harbor a fear of being truly seen for who you are, but vulnerability leads to the most authentic and comfortable relationships Release Attachments: Remember that all relationships are temporary, and let that guide your authenticity so you remain honest and open  Feeling the Feelings: Learn how to sit in your feelings in a healthy way, so you’re able to validate and express your needs within relationships 🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyRemember, we’re therapists, but we’re not your therapists. These coaching sessions, and other episodes, are meant for entertainment purposes only, and are not meant to replace your therapy practice. If you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community This episode brought to you by Astrology HubUse Promo Code Therapy15Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are cis/hetero men biologically programmed to experience a type of “post-sex clarity,” or have both men and women fallen victim to the societal norm of objectifying one another and dealing (or not dealing) with the repercussions later? In this Cheaper than Therapy episode, we discuss a recent episode on Vanessa’s partner, John’s, podcast discussing whether or not men have a biological predisposition that makes them interested in dating a specific woman until immediately after having sex with her. 🌟 Some Takeaways from this Episode: Clarity or Shame: Sitting with yourself to ask the hard question, “Is it really ‘post-sex clarity’ helping you realize you aren’t actually attracted to this person and/or have no emotional connection with them, or is it unconscious shame being brought to the surface because we’ve been conditioned by the societal norm to objectify one another?” Admitting Accountability: Accepting that there may be a subconscious level of manipulating a slightly fabricated connection with the intention of sleeping with a woman, rather than communicating clear intentions throughout  If you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community This episode brought to you by Astrology HubUse Promo Code Therapy15Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this Q&A episode of “Cheaper than Therapy,” a listener finds themself ready to begin dating after a long post-divorce hiatus, but finds themself overwhelmed with worry about choosing “wrong.” We discuss getting vulnerable to find the real information you need when dating, and get real about expectations in relationships.🌟 Big Takeaways from this Episode: Silence the Noise: Sometimes we have too much information and rely on our rational mind to protect ourselves from heartbreak, forgetting that true connection requires authentic vulnerability Knowledge is Power: Remember that how you feel physically and emotionally when you’re with a person or activated by a person may sometimes provide more reliable information about compatibility in dating. How are you putting your “book” smarts into practice within these relationships? People Process Information Differently: Speaking hetero-normatively, men and women face separate societal expectations, and usually process vulnerable conversations and experiences differently. Approaching dating with an open mind and grace for one another will help you remember you can’t get it “wrong,” and help you on your journey to authenticity.  If you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @dene.logan ------------------------------ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do you do when you find yourself craving a secure and trusting monogamous relationship but don’t want to contribute to the societal expectations, rooted in patriarchy, that traditionally influence the foundation of relationships? In this Q&A episode of “Cheaper than Therapy,” a male listener writes in, asking, “Where do I go from here?”🌟 What You’ll Gain from this Episode: Collective Shifts: An in-depth discussion about society’s new desires within relationships and what we want in a partner, as well as the generational societal norms that we are moving away from as a collective Loneliness is Human: Validation that it’s necessary to give yourself grace and hold space for feelings of loneliness and sadness, while staying true to Self and not settling back in to patriarchy-based societal expectations, simply to be in relationship Fulfillment from Self: A loving reminder that searching for partnership as a means to fulfillment will not work, and you must fully lean into creating the best life for your authentic Self, to truly find that security Quotable moment: “I think the fact that we are alone is always an illusion, really, anyway. We are connected to one another, that is the larger truth, even when we are sitting by ourselves. We are still all one with the universal energy that vibrates and emanates through and as us.” - Dené LoganIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, for an even deeper dive, check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené: Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @dene.logan ------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.