Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

Ep 205: Unlocking Inner Safety: Overcoming the Need for Reassurance

Feb 28, 2024

The discussion tackles the impact of past relationships on current insecurities and trust issues. Listeners learn the importance of cultivating an internal sense of security instead of seeking external validation. The conversation emphasizes setting boundaries to nurture personal authenticity. It also highlights the need to shift focus from flaws to abundance, empowering individuals to build stronger connections. Finally, self-awareness is positioned as a vital tool for personal growth and resilience in navigating relationship dynamics.

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Quick takeaways

Developing an internal sense of security is essential for overcoming insecurities related to past relationships and external validation.

Establishing personal boundaries and accountability enhances personal growth, fostering healthier relationship dynamics free from anxiety and excessive reassurance.

Deep dives

Navigating Trust and Past Relationships

The discussion centers on the challenge of comparing oneself to a partner's ex and the anxiety that often arises from previous relationship experiences. Acknowledging that trust issues frequently stem from past betrayals, one speaker emphasizes the need for personal clarity as part of resolving these feelings. They highlight that trust should emerge from within rather than relying on constant external reassurance. This approach allows for the creation of healthier dynamics that recognize the importance of self-sourced emotional security.

Intro

3min

Clarity and Safety in Relationships

10min

Shifting Focus: From Flaws to Abundance in Relationships

4min

Empowerment Through Self-Awareness in Relationships

3min

Empowering Self-Agency in Relationships

3min

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sit down to address two questions submit by listeners with similar “energies.” One listener wants to know how to stop comparing themselves to their partners ex and feeling insecure in their ability to trust due to past relationships. Another listener is looking for clarification differentiating between an anxious attachment versus being a human seeking safety, consistency, and reassurance in a relationship.

Some Takeaways from this Episode:

✨ Safety in Self: Having an internal sense of security and interdependence will help to ease the insecurity of self-comparison, rather than repeatedly seeking outside validation to temporarily make you feel safe and secure

✨ Boundaries Help Personal Growth: Taking personal responsibility to remain authentically true to Self and maintaining personal boundaries to honor that authenticity over a partner’s insecurities

✨ Managing Anxiety: Seeking constant reassurance and validation can create a perception the relationship is unsafe, so take time to actively recognize and appreciate what about the relationship makes you feel good and secure in the attachment

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