
I Have ADHD Podcast
The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Listen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can begin to overcome your symptoms by accepting who you are, flaws and all. Host Kristen Carder is a dually certified coach who has supported thousands of of people with ADHD worldwide. Kristen's extensive experience working with ADHDers began in 2012, and she now leads a global community of adults with ADHD in her coaching program, FOCUSED. ****OBVIOUSLY the content in this podcast is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Kristen Carder is not a medical professional.
Latest episodes

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Jun 3, 2025 • 48min
318 The Real Reason You Can’t Get Organized (And What To Do About It)
Feeling overwhelmed by clutter? You’re not alone! Discover that it's not laziness but executive dysfunction causing the chaos. Learn how emotional regulation can be your secret weapon for organizing. Unpack the ties between trauma and clutter, and find out what Marie Kondo got right—and wrong. Explore an ADHD-friendly 3-pile system that works, tackle decision fatigue, and redefine what 'organized enough' really means. Say goodbye to guilt and hello to practical strategies that empower. Embrace the mess; it’s part of your journey!

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May 27, 2025 • 1h 3min
317 From Barely Coping to High-Functioning: 10 ADHD Game-Changers
Feeling overwhelmed? Discover what it means to function at different levels with ADHD and embrace your journey. Explore essential self-care strategies like hydration, sleep, and exercise, which can significantly enhance your brain function. Dive into the importance of emotional regulation and building supportive relationships. Learn how to break free from people-pleasing and design a life that suits you. Plus, uncover the power of therapy and persistence in overcoming setbacks. It's a loving nudge towards thriving, not just surviving!

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May 20, 2025 • 58min
316 Productivity, People-Pleasing, and ADHD: What We Need to Unlearn with Dr. Ari Tuckman
Dr. Ari Tuckman, a psychologist and ADHD thought leader, dives into the intricate relationship between productivity and ADHD. He explores how early experiences shape adult behaviors, contributing to people-pleasing and unrealistic expectations. Tuckman advocates for redefining productivity in alignment with personal values, rather than societal pressures. The conversation emphasizes the emotional labor of ADHD, the importance of self-compassion, and open communication in relationships, urging listeners to accept their evolving selves.

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May 13, 2025 • 56min
315 Why ADHD Feels So Shameful (and How to Fight Back)
Explore the vulnerability of those with ADHD to toxic shame and understand why it often thrives in secrecy. Discover how feelings of guilt are linked to everyday tasks and the impact of generational shame. Learn practical strategies for resilience through empathy and self-compassion. Unpack the complexities of hyperfixation in relationships while emphasizing the importance of diverse sources of fulfillment. Finally, embrace your humanity and recognize that worth isn't tied to productivity.

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May 6, 2025 • 1h 1min
314 Two Things Can Be True (and Also… I’m Apparently Racist Against White Men?)
Dive into the world of emotional flexibility and the power of the phrase 'two things can be true.' Explore how this mindset can transform your relationships and emotional intelligence. Discover a handy app designed especially for those with ADHD. Hear a spicy critique of a controversial New York Times article on ADHD and a heartfelt message for those navigating late diagnoses. Plus, get a candid take on accusations of racism and sexism, sparking thoughtful discussion on differing perspectives—it's a rollercoaster of honesty and humor!

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Apr 29, 2025 • 51min
313 Rejection Sensitivity Is Real (But I Reject RSD)
Rejection hurts—especially when you have ADHD. For years, the term Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) has helped many of us put language to that experience. But in this episode, I explain why I’m no longer using that term—and what I’m saying instead.We’ll cover:What rejection sensitivity actually isWhy it makes total sense (and it's not a disorder)What’s problematic about the term RSD...in my opinionWhat the research really says about rejection and ADHDHow trauma, therapy, coaching, and yes—medication—can all helpThis episode is validating, spicy, and rooted in both lived experience and science. Let’s talk about rejection sensitivity in a way that empowers us to heal.Resources Mentioned:Journal of Pediatric Psychology study on ADHD and peer rejectionDr. Dodson’s updated Additude article on RSDWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensCozy Earth

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Apr 22, 2025 • 1h 10min
312 Autism, ADHD and AuDHD: Understanding the Overlap with Dr. Robert Naseef
In this episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, I have the absolute pleasure of sitting down with autism expert and clinician Dr. Robert Naseef to explore the deeply personal and complex relationship between autism and ADHD. Together, we reflect on the key differences between these two neurodivergent identities while celebrating the importance of self-acceptance and understanding.We also touch on AuDHD, the experience of having both ADHD and autism—a dual diagnosis that is more common than many people realize. We explore what it looks like in real life, how it can be misunderstood, and why recognition of this intersection is so important.Dr. Naseef shares his powerful journey as a father of a child with autism, and we talk about what it really means to support parents who are walking a similar path.Our conversation touches on the primary traits of autism, the unique social experiences of autistic adults, and why embracing neurodiversity is so essential.This episode is heartfelt, hopeful, and full of validation. Whether you're parenting a neurodivergent child or navigating your own neurodivergence, I hope you walk away feeling more connected, more informed, and more empowered.My non-speaking autistic son and "Rainman"Tariq NaseefA Humanistic Perspective on AutismDon't Mourn for UsUniquely Human PodcastWe are All On the Same SideIf My Son Could SpeakDon't Divide the Autism SpectrumReal Boys CryWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensCozy Earth

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Apr 15, 2025 • 49min
311 10 Things I Wish Everyone Knew About ADHD
Discover ten surprising truths about ADHD that challenge common misconceptions. Learn why this condition is highly treatable and how support systems can transform lives. The host shares insights on the impact of messed-up sleep on symptoms and the emotional toll of rejection. Forget the cliché advice of 'just get organized'; it's more nuanced. Plus, find out why ADHD can sometimes be seen as a superpower and hear about A-list celebrities who share this experience. This is a must-listen for anyone seeking clarity and understanding about ADHD.

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Apr 8, 2025 • 48min
310 ADHD & Friendships, Part 2: The ADHD Friendship Mistakes No One Talks About
Making friends as an adult with ADHD can feel like a rollercoaster ride. The discussion focuses on the common pitfall of speeding through friendships and the importance of pacing yourself. Practical skills like active listening and assessing boundaries are shared to help create more fulfilling connections. Listeners learn how slowing down can deepen trust and enhance relationships. The conversation emphasizes that meaningful friendships don’t have to be chaotic and can flourish with patience and genuine interaction.

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Apr 1, 2025 • 44min
309 ADHD & Friendship, Part 1: Red Flags, Green Flags, and How to Make Real Connections
Navigating adult friendships can be especially tough for those with ADHD. The discussion reveals red and green flags to look for in relationships, helping listeners identify what to avoid and what nurtures genuine connections. Practical strategies are shared to make new friends without feeling overwhelmed, emphasizing the importance of patience and reciprocity. Personal anecdotes illustrate how to create safe, supportive friendships that energize rather than drain. Tune in for insights on building meaningful relationships that you truly deserve.