Date Yourself Instead

It's easy to get attached to someone we've just met...because they're nice. Because they're attractive and treat us right. But how soon is too soon to get attached? Often times I'd become so fixated on one person early on, only to realize it was all smoke and mirrors. This person was not at all who I thought they were. So here's an episode talking about that experience, and how to avoid getting attached too fast. If you loved this episode, dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead and share it with a friend. Xoxo.

The first half of this episode talks about self worth, valuing yourself and to avoid jumping into a new relationship before you've processed a breakup. The second half of this episode talks about love bombing and a story time of a guy I dated super briefly that was fucking obsessed with me for a hot minute and then put me in a really uncomfortable situation, and THEN vanished off the face of the earth. If you liked or could relate to this episode, follow me and dm me on instagram @lyss and stay updated on the podcast account @dateyourselfinstead. Xoxo.

I definitely have had my moments in relationships where I felt like I smothered my partner with desperate energy. I was needy and insecure because I didn't love or value myself enough to know who I truly was. I didn't know my worth, so I would project my insecurities often onto my boyfriends in hopes that would make them want to be with me more, but instead it often backfired and became messy. I also mention this amazing book, The Mastery of Love, in the beginning of this episode which has helped me through my healing process and has helped the relationship I have with myself. If you are loving the podcast, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.

In this episode, I dive into a storytime about a guy I was taking on dates around New York City. I was putting in an unreasonable amount of effort…and for what? When someone isn’t your boyfriend, you shouldn’t be the only one making concrete plans.

Being alone can be a scary experience at first, especially after a breakup. In this episode, I dive into my advice about being by myself and what I’ve learned from being my own company.

Psyliocybin. Magic mushrooms. Tulum. This experience changed my life and my perception of everything in the world. I was going through one of the worst depressions, and I met a Spirit Guide in Mexico who altered the course of my life permanently. She guided me through a magic mushroom trip that would ultimately lead me to creating the podcast, and free me from a great deal of trauma I had carried with me over the course of my life. In this episode I dive into the lessons this experience taught me and I hope this experience can help some of you.

What happens when you're the problem? Forgiving yourself when you've made a mistake can be challenging. We all go through periods of time in our live where we're bound to make mistakes, but those mistakes can turn into valuable learning lessons. In this episode, I give various examples of how we can f*ck up and how it can be helpful to just own up to those mistakes and be honest with who you are. Don't beat yourself up too much, you're still human. PS - if you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to send me a DM on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.

Not everyone is going to like you or accept you - that's just how life is. The most important thing is that YOU like you. In this episode, I talk about my personal experiences with how people treated me poorly for no apparent reason at all - and what those experiences taught me. If you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.

Being with the wrong person can feel heavy on your heart and on your mind. It could feel like you're constantly trying to change for someone else or try to compromise your needs for someone else. In this episode, I dive into what it feels like to be in the wrong relationship, or in a relationship that needs some work. I also dive into what it feels like to be in a good and healthy relationship with a partner. I hope it can help guide you and make you feel less alone if you're currently in this type of situation. Always feel free to DM me as well on instagram @dateyourselfinstead or @lyss if you enjoyed this episode. Sign up for the exclusive hoodie waitlist HERE: https://www.dateyourselfinstead.co Shop the Peter Thomas Roth moisturizer HERE: Potent-C Brightening Vitamin C Moisturizer

Sign up ⁠HERE ⁠for my limited edition, exclusive hoodies: ⁠http://www.dateyourselfinstead.co⁠ They are dropping SO soon and there are only 100 hoodies available, so sign up for the waitlist to snag one before they sell out. Going through a breakup? Today I'm talking to you as your best friend. You deserve the world. You deserve to be happy. Remember that you have the power to create the life you want, and that you deserve to be surrounded by people who appreciate and value you. Let's chat! DM and follow me on instagram @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode. Tiktok: @dateyourselfinstead