Pillow Talks

You’ve asked us over email, Instagram, YouTube, everything short of a carrier pigeon… How the heck did we get into the sex therapy business? And do we manage working and living together every day as a married couple? The time has come for us to share all the details about our business, from how we started to where we are now.   You’ll hear about it all… Vanessa floundering to figure out her path. Why we moved to Berlin. Xander’s identity crisis. Our most embarrassing moments, and plenty of business “fails.” We get vulnerable about the good, the bad, and the ugly of the journey that took us from corporate hell to living out our dreams together.   And stick around to the end to be the first to hear what’s coming next!   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Get $400 off all mattress orders plus 2 free pillows at BirchLiving.com/pillow   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode66 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The podcast discusses the prevalence of sexual shame and provides a 7-step process to overcome it. They explore common areas of shame such as desires, fantasies, body image, and societal expectations. The hosts share personal experiences and emphasize forgiveness and self-kindness. They also discuss choosing positive beliefs about sex and share their own journey of overcoming shame.

Are you worried you’ve lost the spark in your relationship? We asked our Instagram audience, and the numbers were shocking! A whopping 91% said their relationship has gone through a Roommates Phase, and 46% said they’re in one right now.   So why does it seem like no one is talking about the Roommates Phase?   In this episode we do a deep dive into what the Roommates Phase means, and how to get out of it before it’s too late. Let us help you end the drought and get back that lovin’ feelin’!   (Psst - Xander even sings about it within the first four minutes of this episode…)   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode64 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you ever find yourself feeling kinda… disappointed after intercourse with your partner?   Or worse, faking it just to “get it over with”?   Maybe you’ve tried talking to him about it and telling them you need more, but he got defensive and nothing changed.   This episode has been a long time coming! We hear SO many stories from our audience about how men just don’t prioritize female pleasure as much as they should.   There are a lot of reasons why there’s such a huge orgasm gap in male-female sex, so we break it down into 3 main categories, complete with real-life examples. (Including an example from our own relationship!)   We firmly believe that everyone who wants an orgasm, gets an orgasm. This episode will take you through, step-by-step, exactly to make sure that happens!   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode63 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you sick of fighting about money in your relationship? Maybe you’ve even thought you and your partner are incompatible because of how differently you both think about spending and saving. Trust us, you’re not alone!   This episode is for you if you feel like you need to keep purchases a secret. Or maybe you’re just exasperated by how much money your partner spends. We know how easily that tension and resentment can build.   Today we’ll be addressing money issues within relationships advice column style — with real life stories and questions from our audience. As we help them troubleshoot, we’ll be giving easy to implement tips on approaching money issues in relationships.   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode62 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you struggling to have a great sex life now that you’re a mom?   As women, we wear so many hats and have so many identities. We’re wives, girlfriends, daughters, sisters, friends, and mothers. But what happens when these identities feel like they’re in conflict with one another?   A whopping 91% of our Instagram followers said their sex life got harder after kids. We heard things like, “It’s hard to feel confident in my new body,” “Everyone always needs something, and I’m tired of giving,” and, “I’m just EXHAUSTED!”   In this episode, we’re here to give you practical tips to creating the sex life you deserve!   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode61 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You read all the books, listen to all the podcast episodes, and do all the meditations and affirmations. But your partner won’t even read a dang Instagram caption!   What do you do if you value self-improvement and personal development, but your partner just can’t be bothered - or even flat-out refuses?   In today’s episode, we’re giving you the tips and tools to get your partner invested in becoming the best version of themselves.   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode60 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today’s episode we’re diving into something that 74% of our audience have never done - roleplay!   Most people think that roleplaying feels awkward and uncomfortable. They worry about not knowing who to roleplay, not being able to get or stay in character, and generally embarrassing themselves.   But we think that roleplaying can be a whole lot of fun - and can even be a great way to feel more present in the bedroom!   So in today’s episode, we’re going to give you our step-by-step roadmap for easing into roleplaying, and discovering your confidence!   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode59 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s episode is about one of the most underrated sex acts that you’re probably not doing… mutual masturbation!   Even if your face is already beet red, we’re going to do our best to convince you why masturbation isn’t something you should do alone or in secret.   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode58 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“Should I have to stop hanging out with my ex because my girlfriend said so?”   “Is it my husband’s job to say something to my rude in-laws?”   We’re answering these spicy questions and many more in today’s episode of Pillow Talks!   Most of us get annoyed by things our partner says or does — but is it their problem, or ours? Is it their responsibility to fix, or is it something we need to learn how to live with? Today we’re answering the question, “Is this your shit or mine?”   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode57 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices