Pillow Talks

Every day we get DMs from women asking Xander what men REALLY think about everything from pubic hair to emotional intimacy.   We decided we had to devote an entire podcast episode to this topic, so we gathered your most common questions and concerns, and put Xander in the hot seat. We also asked the men in our Instagram audience for their feedback. We’re giving you an invaluable peek inside the hearts and minds of men all over the world.   Topics include: Cellulite How many sexual partners a woman has had Do men compare their partner to others? Vulvas (smell, look, taste) Giving oral sex   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode56 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Love it or hate it, 69 is one of the most infamous sex acts. We just had to give it it’s own episode, especially since today is also 6/9.   We’re sharing how we really feel about 69, plus 6.9 amazing tips for having the most fun in this position. You also do not want to miss the hilarious stories our audience shared with us!   But that’s not all! It’s also the 1 year anniversary of the Pillow Talks Podcast! We asked you for your favorite moments and jokes from the year, and we’re sharing some of your answers. It’s a really fun walk down memory lane!   Links & Resources: Online Courses & Guides   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode55 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this podcast, the hosts answer more personal and popular questions. They discuss what they fight about, sexual boundaries, therapy updates, and what their families think about their work. They also talk about maintaining privacy on social media, challenges of working as a couple, and their experiences with therapy and living in Berlin.

Have you ever read a romance novel or watched a sex scene and felt turned on by reading or seeing something kinda kinky that you’ve never even thought of doing in the bedroom before?   Maybe you like the sex you’re having now, but you’ve heard of some naughty things that make you a little…curious.   This episode is your introduction to kink: what it is, why you might want to experiment with it, and how to actually go about trying it in a safe, healthy way!   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Go to GreenChef.com/60pillow and use code 60pillow to get 60% off plus free shipping.   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode53 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You’re innocently folding the laundry, just minding your own business, when your partner comes up behind you, brushes your hair away from your ear and whispers “I want you. NOW.” They order you to take off your clothes. They push you down onto the bed, and ravage you from head to toe.   We’ve all had this fantasy, right? It’s SO sexy to think about your partner taking control.   But what is it about this control fantasy that’s so appealing?   You might be surprised to find out...   If you’ve ever wanted your (male) partner to take control in the bedroom, this episode is a must-listen!   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode52 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“Why should I have to flirt with my partner? We’ve been together forever!”   A lot of us in long-term relationships feel hesitant to flirt with our partner. It feels awkward, clunky, or just plain unnecessary.   But flirting is an amazing way to ignite that spark you once had and remind you of those exciting early days of your relationship.   Most importantly: flirting can make both of you feel SO good about the way you see each other.   We know it can feel daunting to flirt with your partner, especially if you’re out of practice or don’t consider yourself good at it, so we’re doing a whole episode on exactly how to flirt.   Even if you feel like flirting “isn’t for me” or doesn’t come naturally to you, we promise that this episode will boost your confidence and have you trying out some new techniques ASAP — and don’t blame us if things get a little sweeter (and spicier)! 😉   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode51 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know that thing you really want to tell your partner but you just... don’t know how?   Maybe you’re nervous, you really don’t want to hurt their feelings, or it feels like the time is never right.   Well, you’re not alone!   Our Instagram audience hit us with alllll the things they wish they could tell their partner, and we’re giving them our best advice for how to keep it real while avoiding the dreaded “we need to talk” opener.   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Thanks StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/pillow   Check out the show notes: vmtherapy.com/episode50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dive into the intriguing world of squirting and uncover its myths and realities! Explore why this topic sparks such fascination and the societal pressures surrounding it. Discover the differences between squirting and urination, backed by humor and personal anecdotes. Delve into clitoral anatomy and new stimulation techniques, while emphasizing the importance of communication in intimate relationships. This captivating conversation challenges norms and encourages curiosity about women's sexuality!

Learn how to address and overcome dry spells in relationships with five tips. Explore misconceptions and challenges of initiating sexual intimacy in relationships. Discover strategies to overcome and prevent dry spells, including open communication, building emotional intimacy, and making specific changes in life.

You’re having a steamy makeout session with your partner, things are getting hot and heavy and leading to sex, but your partner just can’t get or stay erect. (Or maybe their erection isn’t the problem, but their orgasm is.)   What does it mean??   For most women, we think the answer lies within ourselves. We’re not hot enough. We’re not experienced enough or lacking technique. Something is wrong with our body, not theirs.   What you THINK these performance issues mean vs. what they REALLY mean are two very different animals, so in today’s episode, we are going there.   Whether your partner has trouble getting and staying hard, orgasming too quickly/taking too long to orgasm, we’re talking about how these issues have affected us in our relationship and giving you all of our best tips for navigating them in (and out) of the moment.   And, spoiler alert, this episode turned into a mini therapy session for us!   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode47 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices