You Are Not A Frog

Every workplace has a hierarchy. Whether you are a trainee, a colleague, or a boss (or all three!), the hierarchy can influence everything from everyday working practices to relational dynamics. However, sometimes, it can feel much harder communicating upwards than down. Factors like fear and under-confidence can lead you to speak up less and be more hesitant to discuss issues. But building trust, and putting your voice out there will benefit your team as well as you.Today, we have two guests on You are Not a Frog: Dr Claire Edwin and Dr Keerthini Muthuswamy. They talk about their experiences working within a hierarchical system as junior doctors and share what they have found to be essential if you want to build trust and foster good relationships with your seniors, your juniors, and your peers. If you want to know how you can build trust and influence your workplace, and manage upwards and sideways this episode is just for you!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out why a hierarchy can be both a help and a hindrance.Overcome the barriers set down by hierarchies to influence your workplace for the better.Learn how to approach conversations and which questions you can ask to build trust and good relationships with your colleagues.Episode Highlights[04:56] The Impact of a Title[07:08] The Impact of a Hierarchy[09:58] The “I’m Just a Trainee” Mentality[14:46] Build Trust and Influence[18:24] The Real Problem[27:46] Asking and Conversing[36:21] What Creates Good Working Relationships[43:57] Relationships and Influence[46:12] Kit and Claire’s Top Three Tips for Managing Horizontally[48:01] Rachel’s Top Tips for Managing Upwards and SidewaysResourcesBecome a member of the Resilient Team Academy this June. Find a community of leaders and help your team thrive.Check out the Shapes Toolkit for resources that can help you thrive in your workplace.You are Not a Frog Episode 102: Why FAIL is Not a 4-Letter Word.Learn more about Red Whale Lead, Manage, Thrive! CoursesGetting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher, William Ury, Bruce PattonInfluence Without Authority by Allan Cohen and David BradfordLearn more about the Cohen and Bradford Influence ModelKeerthini Muthuswamy: Twitter | email | Faculty of Medical Leadership and ManagementClaire Edwin: Twitter | email | LinkedIn | Faculty of Medical Leadership and ManagementEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Have any questions? LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.

Discover the power of self-coaching and how it can empower you in your life and career. Learn the right questions to ask yourself and how to assess your emotions. Explore solving problems with the 3 R's and staying in your zone of power. Gain insights from a silent coaching exercise and discover resources for self-coaching success.

This week, Steve Pratt joins us to discover the benefits of mindfulness. We talk about how mindfulness is used to be able to live happier and less anxious. We also teach you how you can develop mindfulness practices and incorporate them into your life.ResourcesSign up for the Resilient Team Academy to join a supportive and thriving community of leadersListen to a previous episode on mindfulness with Graham Lee Try out the Headspace app Get the book by Mark Williams Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World [5:46] Steve’s ExperiencesSteve has been a GP appraiser for 35 years, both as a managing partner and now a mentor for other GPs on the fellowship scheme.He spent 25 years teaching evidence-based medicine.[9:34] How To Be Less Stressed And Burnt OutMindfulness is not just about becoming more resilient, although it is part of resilience courses.Tune in to learn more about how to be less stressed or less burnt out in the full episode![17:02] The Skill Of NoticingThe act of noticing the chatter is the work. All you have to do is bring your attention to something specific.Mindfulness is noticing that something is happening but choosing to remain direct.[19:11] Choosing Where To Focus Your AttentionIt’s up to you to choose where to focus your attention.Train yourself to recognize what's going on in your body.[25:59] How Mindfulness Practice Changes Your BehaviourMindfulness gives you the skill to quickly get better information from your body.Eventually, you'll react differently to stressful situations.[35:12] Stress Equals Resources Minus DemandsSteve believes that we should do things that work and have evidence backing them up.Mindfulness practice has strong evidence behind it. It's not "woo-woo".[42:54] Mindfulness Practice In Daily LivingYou can practice mindfulness at any time, such as when brushing your teeth or while driving to work.Instead of taking 20 minutes to scroll through social media, you can spend it in meditation.You can try out other mindfulness skills if you don’t develop a formal practice.Steve recommends doing a formal MBSR course. For now, listen to the full episode to try out a three-part breathing space!Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: http://www.shapestoolkit.comRachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/ Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukMentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.

Do you ever find yourself questioning whether you’re on the right path? Or maybe you’re struggling to find meaning in what you do? So many of us feel like we are stuck in a neverending climb in our careers. Whenever you get to a point like this, it may be time to re-assess and reprioritise your life. When faced with unwanted events, go back to your ‘why’ to discover how you can change your circumstance or perspective.Dr Maddy Du Mont joins us in this episode to discuss how her COVID-19 experience changed her life away from clinical practice. Although difficult at first, her reprioritisation made her feel free and at peace. She shares questions that will help you find clarity on your priorities. Change doesn’t require a life-changing event, nor does it have to turn your life upside down. It be can just simply changing your mindset and feeling at peace with your decisions.If you want to know how to find peace and happiness in your life, stay tuned to this episode.ResourcesConnect with Maddy: WebsiteGet in touch and book a slot with us for live program courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Autumn 2022, with only a few slots left for Spring 2022Learn Brooke Castillo’s Self Coaching Model. You can also learn more by listening to her podcast, The Life Coach School. Take these free assessments over at Values in Action. You can also profile your personality with 16 Personalities.You can find Brene Brown’s various books here.   THRIVE Weekly PlannerEpisode Highlights[04:17] How Maddy Coaches People[06:53] How COVID-19 Affected Maddy[12:37] How Weakness and Illnesses are Connected[18:04] We Need to Be Honest With Ourselves[23:13] What Drives You? [28:56] How to Prioritise[32:29] How Priorities Guide Decisions [36:54] Finding the Truth in Your Story[38:11] Change Doesn’t Always Require Difficult Events [42:00] Change Doesn’t Need to be Drastic[43:35] Maddy’s TipsEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: http://www.shapestoolkit.comRachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/ Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukMentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.

Doctors and healthcare professionals are so busy that they would rather do other things than spend hours working on their appraisals. However, appraisals are a vital part of your medical career. This process allows you to reflect on your past experiences and figure out how to move forward. Dr Susi Caesar joins us to talk about how you can elevate and enjoy your professional life with annual appraisals. She shares the purpose of appraisals and how they can help you choose the best way forward in your career and personal life. Dr Susi also gives her top tips on what you can do to make this process more meaningful.If you want to know more about appraisals and how you can benefit from them, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the purpose of appraisals and why you need to take part in it.Get tips on how you can make a good appraisal.Find out how your appraiser can help you identify problems, solve them and plan for the future.ResourcesGet a FREE CPD Reflection Form when you sign up!Are you a doctor who enjoys teaching, training and coaching? Send a message to hello@youarenotafrog.com to join our team of doctors for our resilience program.Find more about appraisals and revalidation with the GMC and NHSRegister for the RCGP Conference 2022Research by Sarah Marwick in 2017 about red flags of doctors in need of supportTime to Think by Nancy KleinTop Tips to Make the Most Out of Your Appraisal by Dr Susi CaesarContact Dr Susi Caesar via email or on LinkedInEpisode Highlights [05:55] About Appraisals[11:45] The Misunderstanding About Appraisals [14:25] How to be a Critical Friend[19:46] The Importance of Communication Skills[24:49] Efficient Documentation [33:57] Catching Red Flags[39:52] Burnout Among Doctors[42:51] Dr Susi’s Tips for a Good Appraisal[48:55] Choosing Your Appraiser[51:24] Dr Susi’s Final Tips for the EpisodeEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: http://www.shapestoolkit.comRachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/ Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukMentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.

Dr Ed Pooley joins us in this episode to discuss what we should do when we see inappropriate behaviour like badmouthing. He shares how we can manage difficult conversations with the intent of helping others. We also discuss the importance of recognising triggers through the SCARF model.ResourcesGet in touch and book a slot with us for live program courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Autumn 2022, with only a few openings left for Spring 2022Learn more about Dr Ed Pooley on the Ten Minute Medicine website and Facebook.Join the FB Group about difficult conversations in medicine.David Bradford and Carole Robin wrote the book https://connectandrelate.com/, inspired by their legendary Stanford Business School course Interpersonal Dynamics. Dive deeper into the SCARF model with The Handbook of NeuroLeadership by Dr David RockHero on a Mission by Donald Miller.  Looking for advice on a dilemma? Email us at hello@you'renotafrog.com.THRIVE Weekly PlannerEpisode Highlights[04:16] Why Tough Conversations are ToughEven if you know what the right thing to do is, it’s often still difficult to manage a tough conversation. We often already know what to do but don't know how to do it.Reporting these behaviours is inappropriate and rooted in your sense of right or wrong.[11:41] How to Confront Difficult Conversations We make excuses to avoid addressing issues and difficult conversations.There’s always a reason for people’s behaviour.Remember that it’s not about being right or wrong.[19:16] Helping Others and Assume Good Intentions Assuming the reasons behind people's actions can push them further away.Instead of judging people, learn to ask if they’re struggling.When you confront someone, don’t assume that their actions are done with ill intent.[23:41] Recognising the Chimp StateIt’s hard to have difficult conversations when people are in their chimp state.Recognise your own responses so you can see them in others too.Your actions may trigger other people’s chimp states. The SCARF model explains triggers, and stands for status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness. [31:49] Value People’s AutonomyAutonomy is related to people’s control over their environment or position. Frame your intentions into a request.Be neutral, clear, and non-confrontational. [37:03] Be FairFind out whether your feeling of unfairness is grounded in reality. Don't fall into over-generalisation of beliefs. Give others autonomy by asking how the situation can be made fairer instead. [42:25] Dr Ed’s Tips Start with connection, then information, and lastly, action. Having challenging conversations will make you a better communicator.Leadership success is based more on emotional intelligence. Be aware of triggers.Mentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.

Everyone’s experienced self-doubt at some point. However, downplaying our accomplishments and skills might lead to negative self-talk. That's not to say questioning yourself is completely bad — sometimes it can spur you to improve!ResourcesSign up for the Resilient Team Academy to join a supportive and thriving community of leaders.Listen to Episode 67: Bringing Your Best Self to Work with Dr Sarah GouldingRead about Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome by Ruchika Tulshyan  and Jodi-Ann BureyKnow more about Brené BrownConnect with Corrina Gordon-BarnesGrab a copy of The 6-Minute Success JournalCheck out Sarah’s websiteFollow Sarah on Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Linkedin.Episode Highlights[03:46] The Imposter SyndromeMany people today use the phrase 'imposter syndrome' without much thought. Impostor syndrome can make you feel like a fraud.[08:37] Take a Break Professionals who work in high-stress environments are more likely to be harsh on themselves.[11:03] Imposter Syndrome and Gaslighting Find out why someone supposedly has imposter syndrome — it may be a more significant problem than you expect.The problem may be systemic.Telling someone that they may be experiencing imposter syndrome can be a form of gaslighting. [13:47] How Self-Doubt Can Help YouSelf-doubt is healthy when you associate it with a growth mindset. We are human — expect mistakes. We can, however, grow and change.[21:14] Spotting Unhelpful ThoughtsNo one has everything figured out.Examine your thoughts and decide to be kinder to yourself.It's crucial to share your thoughts with others and reflect.[24:59] Leadership and Vulnerability It's helpful for leaders to reveal their vulnerabilities. Leave a job when your unique abilities and talents aren't a good fit.[31:36] The Need For Supervision Medical professionals have access to many coaching programs, but rarely use them. Coaching programs do not tell you what to do; they encourage you to determine what is most important to you.[35:45] Self-Compassion Imagine yourself speaking to a loved one. Consider what you would say to them if they were in a similar situation.You are worthy of self-compassion.[39:39] Change The Way You ThinkConsider the higher purpose of what you're doing instead of thinking you're not good enough.Everyone is capable of improving themselves through training.Success also means celebrating small wins. [44:38] Sarah’s Top Three Tips Examine the source of your self-doubt.Share your thoughts with others. Practice self-compassion.Mentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.

Do you find yourself stuck in a pattern of aggressive conversations in certain situations? Do you ever wonder why those conversations trigger you? It can be hard to understand what's happening when we're feeling in what he calls a ‘red state’. Identifying the feeling is the first step in mindfulness practice; we need to recognise our red emotional states to move away from them.Graham Lee joins us in this episode to discuss our emotional states and apply simple mindfulness techniques to get out of a red state and into a green one. Most conflicts are rooted in unmet needs. When we admit those needs, we can instantly change relationship dynamics! Graham also shares insights on what to do during stressful situations where your emotions cloud your judgement and thinking.If you want to use mindfulness practice to be more aware of your emotions even during difficult situations, then stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how we can categorise our emotional states to be more effective in our conversations without triggers. Learn how to shift from a red state to a green state through mindfulness practices.Understand how our secondary and primary emotions relate to unmet needs.ResourcesConnect with Graham: LinkedIn I The Awareness Partnership Looking for relationship therapy? Check out books by Harville Hendrix Breakthrough Conversations for Coaches, Consultants, and Leaders by Graham LeeHelp your team cope better to feel calmer and work happier with https://www.shapestoolkit.com/. We are now open for Summer 2022 and Autumn 2022 bookings! We also have a few slots left for Spring 2022.THRIVE Weekly PlannerEpisode Highlights[05:22] Introducing Graham[10:08] How Can Emotional Awareness Change Conversations[15:15] Mindfulness Practices Even During Stress[23:45] How to View Emotions and Our Needs[29:14] The Importance of Acknowledgement [32:53] Practical Techniques [36:03] Be the Observer[39:11] Observe First Before Anything Else[44:42] Graham’s Tips [52:37] What to Do When Someone Else is RedEnjoy This Podcast?Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, do not hesitate to write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and submit them for your appraisal. You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group, where we chat about hot topics and regularly post interesting articles.Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our training here. Here’s to surviving and thriving inside and outside our work!RachelMentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.

Dr Karen Forshaw and Chrissie Mowbray join us to discuss how our core beliefs shape the way we respond to situations. When taken too far, empathy and helping people can be a big cause of stress. In addition, we also talk about we can learn to reframe and reassess their core beliefs. If you want to know how to help people without absorbing their emotions, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the connection between people-pleasing and stress triggers. Discover how to care less about what others think, so you can do a better job and feel fulfilled. Learn techniques like shadow work and develop a beginner’s mind for a happier life. ResourcesConnect with Dr Karen: LinkedIn I Twitter  Connect with Chrissie: LinkedIn I Bell Lane Physiotherapy Develop resilience with Resilient Practice! You can also follow them on Facebook and Twitter.    How to Rise: A Complete Resilience Manual by Dr Karen Forshaw and Chrissie Mowbray Episode 10: What We're Talking About When We Talk About Compassion Fatigue With Rachel Otzelberger Registration for Summer 2022 is now open at the Shapes Toolkit. There are also a few slots left for Spring 2022. Get your free THRIVE Weekly Planner!Episode Highlights[05:29] What’s Happening in the Healthcare Industry? [07:42] How Core Beliefs Affect Us[09:34] What Really Causes Stress [12:34] How We Develop People Pleasing [15:42] How to Respond to Complaints [19:33] Stop Absorbing People’s Emotions[25:36] How to Turn Empathy to Compassion[29:24] Link Between Triggers and Shadow Work [31:57] How to Know What You Need to Work on [33:54] Develop a Beginner’s Mind[36:02] How to be Free from Triggers [42:27] How to Do Inner Work [45:29] Chrissie and Karen’s TipsEnjoy This Podcast?Post a review and share it! For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles.Mentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.

When was the last time you had fun at work? Dr Kathryn Owler joins us in this episode to discuss the importance of having a fun mindset at work. She shares her fascinating research on the characteristics and traits of people who enjoy their current jobs. We dissect the common themes these people have in finding success in their careers.If you want to start adopting the mindset people who have fun at work have, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn what it means to have fun at work.Discover the mindset and the things people who have fun at work do.Find out how you can attain a ‘lighthearted sense of enjoyment’ in your work life.Episode Highlights[05:07] Kathryn’s early work experience[06:55] Feeling Stuck and Unhappy[08:51] On Having Fun at Work[15:14] Taking Fun into Any Workplace[17:27] Secrets to Having Fun at Work[20:00] Taking Action [22:55] Kathryn’s Definition of Fun[24:52] Being in the Flow[27:28] The Notions of ‘Joy’ and ‘Fun’[29:36] Connection and Fun at Work [35:31] Being Successful While Enjoying Yourself[38:31] Changing Your Mindset and Taking Action[44:11] Kathryn’s Coaching Experience[46:52] Kathryn’s Top Three TipsResourcesGet in touch and book a slot with us for live programme courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Summer and Autumn 2022, with only a few slots left for Spring 2022. Connect with Dr Kathryn Owler: LinkedIn | The Happiness at Work CoachGet a FREE copy of The Happiness at Work Coach’s The Three Simple Steps to Enjoying Any Job here!Get access to the THRIVE Weekly Planner! Enjoy This Podcast?Learn the fun mindset to master your destiny and thrive even in the most difficult situations. If you enjoyed today's episode of You Are Not a Frog Podcast, then hit subscribe now!Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write a review and share this with your friends.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and submit for your appraisal. You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group, where we chat about hot topics and regularly post interesting articles.Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:Escape the Urgency Trap masterclass A 90-minute training for doctors and other busy professionals working in high-stress, high-stakes jobs like healthcare.