You Are Not A Frog

In this episode of You Are Not a Frog, Annie Hanekom guides you through how to say no and deal with the inevitable pushback. She shares the importance of language — are you using pain language or power language? We’ll also be discussing how to employ power language to set boundaries and how to use your values to get over the pain of saying no.If you also struggle with saying no and dealing with pushback, tune in to this episode to know how you can set boundaries, enforce them and make your work life happier!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand why saying ‘no’ is a kindness — even if people are put out by it.Discover the difference between pain and power language.Learn how to set your boundaries and deal with pushback.Episode Highlights[06:02] The Universal Challenge of Saying No[09:52] Benefits of Saying No [11:24] Why We Struggle with Saying No[16:24] Using the Pause[23:47] Practical Prioritisation[31:59] The Power of Language[40:00] How to Deal with Pushback[48:58] Top Tips on How to Say NoResourcesSign up for our FREE webinar about how to prioritise powerfully, say no and deal with pushback.Resilient Team Academy Connect with Annie: LinkedIn | EmailEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Change can definitely be scary. However, it doesn’t always have to be a difficult and terrifying experience. Dr Claire Kaye is back on the podcast to talk about change. Whether you dislike change or thrive on it, her insights and enlightening tips will help you make the most of the changes in your life.Are you undergoing a difficult change right now? Learn more about how to change when change is absolutely scary in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out why your approach to change, whether you hate it or love it, can define your experiences.Discover opportunities and gifts from experiencing change.Learn how you can persevere through and embrace changes in your life, no matter how impossible it seems.Episode Highlights[06:00] How to Approach Change[07:42] Enforced VS Created Change[10:45] How to Face Barriers in Change[14:03] The Process of How to Change[19:16] Going Through the Five Stages[22:13] Leading Change[26:32] Coping With Change: Finding Opportunities[28:50] The Consequences of Staying Still[32:25] How to Change: The Starting Line[47:13] Claire’s Top Tips on How to Change[49:24] Making Space for ChangesResourcesSign up for our free Video training series about how to say no and set boundariesSign up for our free Webinar about how to prioritise powerfully, say no and deal with pushback 117: The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do It Well)Ep 107: Define Your Own Success In LifeEp 71: Create a Career You’ll LoveEp 123: How to Live with No RegretsRegrets of the Dying: book and podcast by Georgina ScullStages of GriefPositive Intelligence (PQ)The Iceberg is Melting by John KotterEssentialism and Effortless by Greg McKeownConnect with Dr Claire Kaye: Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | Website | EmailSelf-coaching toolkitEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Do you truly know what it means to live a life without regrets? Too often, we get stuck chasing dreams that aren't even our own or don't take action to improve our lives because we're hoping for something better.If you only had a year left to live, would you really be spending it at the office?Georgina Scull joins us in this episode to talk about what she learned from writing the book, Regrets of the Dying: Stories and Wisdom That Remind Us How to Live. She shares the three common regrets of people dying: not being able to make other people happy, living up to other people’s expectations, and trying to rewrite history. We walk you through practical steps you can use to reflect on your inner desires and live a meaningful life.If you want to know how to live a life without regrets, stay tuned to this episode.Episode Highlights[05:30] The Story Behind Regrets of the Dying[10:04] How Georgina Changed Herself[15:33] The Need for Change [17:31] Learning from Others [22:28] Three Common Regrets [28:03] Living for Yourself[30:55] Sorting Out Priorities[40:04] You’re in Charge[46:57] Three Lessons from the Book [50:42] Getting Out of a RutResources:CSign up here for our FREE new mini video series for healthcare professionals about prioritising, raising confidence and falling in love with what they do.Connect with Georgina: LinkedIn | TwitterRegrets of the Dying by Georgina ScullWant to have a taste of the book before purchasing it? Listen to Georgina’s podcast, Regrets of the Dying.THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoy This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: http://www.shapestoolkit.comRachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/ Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukMentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Joining us to talk about finding happiness in your workplace is Sarah Metcalfe. The founder of Happiness Coffee Consulting shares the importance of being happy at work to reduce workplace stress and perform better. She gives her top tips on simple things you can do to pursue happiness and share it with others. In a high-stress job like medicine, choose happiness and spread it.If you want to learn more about how and why we should be happy at work, tune in to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Get to know the positive effects of happiness and positivity in the workplace.Learn how results and relationships can help you be happy at work.Find out how you can be a leader who leads your team with happiness.Episode Highlights[05:18] Happiness in Purpose[08:16] Searching for Happiness at Work[13:49] The Difference Between Well-being and Happiness[16:39] Finding Happy Times[23:00] The Happiness Effect[29:41] Reflecting Happiness[35:43] Leading With Happiness[42:58] Choosing to Be Happy[49:53] Toxic Bosses[51:58] Sarah’s Top Three Tips for Happiness in the WorkplaceResourcesSign up here for our FREE new mini video series for healthcare professionals about prioritizing, raising confidence and falling in love with what they do.More about Shawn AchorProfessor Jochen Menges Ted Talk on overwork and burnoutAdam Grant's Ted Talk on languishingNHS Trust Study on Happiness and Health OutcomesBroaden and Build Theory of Barbara FredricksonThe (Un)Happy Planet Index by Nic MarksGrab a copy of Sarah’s Happiness at Work Cheat Sheet to create a happier and more successful organisation.Contact Sarah on LinkedIn | email Learn more about Happy Coffee Consulting on their websiteSign up and get the You Are Not a Frog downloadable CPD reflection formEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

In this episode, Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to discuss the common struggles of working parents and the things we need to unlearn. She shares how to take radical responsibility as a parent and delegate responsibilities from housework to emotional load. We also teach you how to stay in your zone of genius and accept help when you need it. It’s time to live a life you love and enjoy, even amidst all your responsibilities!If you’re struggling to balance work and parenting, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn how to let go of unhealthy thoughts and behaviours like parenting guilt, rescuer tendencies, and gender normative expectations.Discover the importance of delegating housework and the family’s emotional load.Understand how staying in your zone of genius can make you happier.Episode Highlights[04:55] Introducing Corrina[07:54] Struggles of Working Parents[13:04] Differences in Becoming a Parent[16:03] How to Manage Parenting Guilt[19:04] Balancing Responsibilities[26:28] Delegating at Home[30:42] The Dangers of Being a Rescuer[35:30] Why You Need to Have a Coach Mindset[38:35] How to Have an Easier Life as a Working Parent[40:35] Why It’s Important to Stay in Your Zone of Genius[45:37] Corrina’s Top 3 TipsResourcesTake part in our survey all about saying no.Connect with Corrina: Website | Instagram | ​Twitter | LinkedInWant to learn more from Corrina? Listen to these previous You’re Not a Frog Podcast episodes: Episode 104: How to Cope with Nightmare Relatives and Colleagues Without Losing the Plot Episode 89: Should I Stay or Should I Go?Episode 32: How to Take Control of Your Thoughts    The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Are you sick of spending all day in front of your screen? While it is convenient to conduct online meetings, it can also feel tiring not meeting people face to face. But love them or hate them, online meetings are here to stay. We need to find ways to make them work.John Monks joins us to discuss designing better online meetings and interactions. We discuss how to create online meetings that energise and infuse rather than demotivate. We also teach you why simple exercises on limits and boundaries in these interactions can improve problem solving and creativity.If you want to know how to make the most out of online meetings, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn tips for engaging people in online meetings.Discover tips and exercises for making every minute of online workshops valuable.Understand the future of work meetings.Episode Highlights[06:24] Online Meetings as a Norm[09:06] How John Began Improving Virtual Meetings[13:19] Recalibrating Curve’s Course about Facilitating Online[16:14] Different Forms of Online Meetings[20:19] Tips on Engaging People in Online Meetings[25:38] The Difficulty in Achieving Equal Participation[28:29] Making Every Minute Valuable[31:35] Setting Constraints[35:41] Failsafe Exercises for Engaging Interactions[38:27] Exercises for Solving Problems and Issues[41:46] Meeting Approach and Format[47:55] Making the Most Out of Breakout Rooms[52:11] Online versus In-Person[56:52] Diversity and Inclusivity in an Online Work Setup[59:53] John's Top Three Tips for Getting Better Online InteractionsResources.PCNs and other organisations can get a special discounted rate at the Resilient Team Academy! Find out more about the Resilient Team Academy for your organisation.CurveCloser Apart by John Monks and Lizzie ShupakSlackWhatsAppSocial Physics by Alex PentlandDownload a FREE COPY of Curve’s Remote Workshop Planning Canvas here!TED Talk: David Grady: How to save the world (or at least yourself) from bad meetingsLearn more about Karim Benammar’s works hereMiroMURALHarvard Business Review PodcastConnect with John: LinkedInTHRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

What do you tend to do when you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts or stress? Most of us want to "fix" negative emotions – but this approach usually makes it worse! Dealing with negative emotions isn't always about fixing them; sometimes, acknowledging and recognising them is enough. Handling your mental health matters isn't always a long, drawn-out process. Our guest for this episode shares how you can start managing negative thoughts and feelings — in as little as 10 minutes!Dr Lee David joins us to discuss practical tools for managing our negative emotions healthily. She shares the GROW model, which anyone can perform in just 10 minutes. We also talk about how labelling your experience through words and images can help organise your thoughts. Lee also shares how to be actively compassionate towards ourselves. Your mental health matters; working on your mental and emotional health for a few minutes daily can do wonders. If you want to know how to manage and address your mental health matters, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn why trying to fix negative emotions is counterproductive.Discover how to manage your mental health matters in as little as 10 minutes.Understand the importance of self-compassion and taking action-based compassion.Episode Highlights[05:15] Introducing Dr Lee’s Book  [08:32] How Does Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Work? [10:49] How to Deal with Negative Thoughts[15:23] Why You Can’t Fix Negative Thoughts[21:21] Observe and Label Experiences [28:04] Recognising Your Wise Self[35:41] How to Apply the GROW Model[41:58] How to Help Children[48:26] How to Be Kind to Yourself[52:19] Lee’s Top TipsResourcesWe’re opening our Resilient Team Academy this June. Register here to support your teams for resilience, well-being, and productivity without burning themselves out.PCNs and other organisations can get a special discounted rate at the Resilient Team Academy! Find out more here.10 Minutes to Better Mental Health by Lee David and Debbie BrewinThe Chimp Paradox by Dr Steve PetersDare to Lead Podcast with Brené BrownThe Gifts of Imperfection by Brené BrownConnect with Dr Lee: Website | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn | Email (lee.david@10minutecbt.co.uk)    THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Every workplace has a hierarchy. Whether you are a trainee, a colleague, or a boss (or all three!), the hierarchy can influence everything from everyday working practices to relational dynamics. However, sometimes, it can feel much harder communicating upwards than down. Factors like fear and under-confidence can lead you to speak up less and be more hesitant to discuss issues. But building trust, and putting your voice out there will benefit your team as well as you.Today, we have two guests on You are Not a Frog: Dr Claire Edwin and Dr Keerthini Muthuswamy. They talk about their experiences working within a hierarchical system as junior doctors and share what they have found to be essential if you want to build trust and foster good relationships with your seniors, your juniors, and your peers. If you want to know how you can build trust and influence your workplace, and manage upwards and sideways this episode is just for you!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out why a hierarchy can be both a help and a hindrance.Overcome the barriers set down by hierarchies to influence your workplace for the better.Learn how to approach conversations and which questions you can ask to build trust and good relationships with your colleagues.Episode Highlights[04:56] The Impact of a Title[07:08] The Impact of a Hierarchy[09:58] The “I’m Just a Trainee” Mentality[14:46] Build Trust and Influence[18:24] The Real Problem[27:46] Asking and Conversing[36:21] What Creates Good Working Relationships[43:57] Relationships and Influence[46:12] Kit and Claire’s Top Three Tips for Managing Horizontally[48:01] Rachel’s Top Tips for Managing Upwards and SidewaysResourcesBecome a member of the Resilient Team Academy this June. Find a community of leaders and help your team thrive.Check out the Shapes Toolkit for resources that can help you thrive in your workplace.You are Not a Frog Episode 102: Why FAIL is Not a 4-Letter Word.Learn more about Red Whale Lead, Manage, Thrive! CoursesGetting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher, William Ury, Bruce PattonInfluence Without Authority by Allan Cohen and David BradfordLearn more about the Cohen and Bradford Influence ModelKeerthini Muthuswamy: Twitter | email | Faculty of Medical Leadership and ManagementClaire Edwin: Twitter | email | LinkedIn | Faculty of Medical Leadership and ManagementEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Have any questions? LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukFind out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Discover the power of self-coaching and how it can empower you in your life and career. Learn the right questions to ask yourself and how to assess your emotions. Explore solving problems with the 3 R's and staying in your zone of power. Gain insights from a silent coaching exercise and discover resources for self-coaching success.

This week, Steve Pratt joins us to discover the benefits of mindfulness. We talk about how mindfulness is used to be able to live happier and less anxious. We also teach you how you can develop mindfulness practices and incorporate them into your life.ResourcesSign up for the Resilient Team Academy to join a supportive and thriving community of leadersListen to a previous episode on mindfulness with Graham Lee Try out the Headspace app Get the book by Mark Williams Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World [5:46] Steve’s ExperiencesSteve has been a GP appraiser for 35 years, both as a managing partner and now a mentor for other GPs on the fellowship scheme.He spent 25 years teaching evidence-based medicine.[9:34] How To Be Less Stressed And Burnt OutMindfulness is not just about becoming more resilient, although it is part of resilience courses.Tune in to learn more about how to be less stressed or less burnt out in the full episode![17:02] The Skill Of NoticingThe act of noticing the chatter is the work. All you have to do is bring your attention to something specific.Mindfulness is noticing that something is happening but choosing to remain direct.[19:11] Choosing Where To Focus Your AttentionIt’s up to you to choose where to focus your attention.Train yourself to recognize what's going on in your body.[25:59] How Mindfulness Practice Changes Your BehaviourMindfulness gives you the skill to quickly get better information from your body.Eventually, you'll react differently to stressful situations.[35:12] Stress Equals Resources Minus DemandsSteve believes that we should do things that work and have evidence backing them up.Mindfulness practice has strong evidence behind it. It's not "woo-woo".[42:54] Mindfulness Practice In Daily LivingYou can practice mindfulness at any time, such as when brushing your teeth or while driving to work.Instead of taking 20 minutes to scroll through social media, you can spend it in meditation.You can try out other mindfulness skills if you don’t develop a formal practice.Steve recommends doing a formal MBSR course. For now, listen to the full episode to try out a three-part breathing space!Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: http://www.shapestoolkit.comRachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/ Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: rachel@wildmonday.co.ukMentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.