The Poly (Pod)Cast

WARNING: We briefly discuss coercion, manipulation and abuse in this episode. Today we're talking all about mixed orientation relationships which can be shorted to our favourite acronym to date, MORE. We chat mainly about mono/poly dynamics, how they work and times when they might not. We incorporate some research from Dr. Elisabeth Sheff and chat about our own experiences of dating (or not) as part of our polyamorous relationship. To start, we talk about some poly-friendly US suburbs and to finish we discuss one of our fave shows for another edition of Poly Pop Culture/ Poppyamory. Check out Dr. Elisabeth Sheff's article that we read from.Check out Siobhan's article on her fluidly of orientation for Residence 11.Check out Siobhan's latest article for Salty. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Want to get into swinging, but don't know how? Curious what 'The Lifestyle' is all about, but not sure where to start? Well, look no further! We're joined by Kiley aka 'Sexyswingerchic' from The Pineapple Express Podcast where we chat about the swinging community, progressive swinging and the outdated stigma attached to it. But first, Rich and Siobhan discuss some recent news articles about the so-called 'polyamory capital' of England. We're so grateful for Kiley for joining us on the show. You can find The Pineapple Express Podcast on Apple Podcasts and wherever else you listen to your favourite shows. She's also on Tiktok and Twitter. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Today we're joined by Emily, Dedeker and Jase from the Multiamory Podcast. We discuss conflict, how to be better at it and tools to help everyone in a relationship feel understood after an argument. We also put some non-monogamous conflict scenarios to Multiamory and get their take on how to navigate them.First, Rich and Siobhan unpack some questions sent in by a listener about their goals for their relationships outside each other. A huge thank you to Jase, Dedecker and Emily for joining us on the show. Their podcast, Multiamory has a catalog of hundreds and hundreds of episodes. Their book Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships was released this year. You can also find more things Multiamory at their website. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

In this episode we're joined by relationship coach Ro Moëd of 'Unapolygetically' fame. We talk about toxic monogamy, not because we think all monogamy is toxic, but because some ideas in monogamy can easily become toxic when not evaluated or practiced properly. We delve into when monogamy isn't consensual and how toxic relationships have become normalised in western societies. First up, Rich and Siobhan discuss the controversial Riverdale series finale. Plus, Poly Quest makes a return at the episode's conclusion. A massive thank you to Ro for sharing their thoughts and experiences with us during the episode. You can find them on Instagram and Twitter. Information on their coaching services can be found at their website. Ro is currently looking for someone to publish their book which is a philosophical/psychological deconstruction of toxic relationship norms, helping readers to question monogamy-by-default so they can create autonomous and fulfilling relationships. You can contact Serendipity Literary Agency for details on that. We were lucky enough to be guests on two other non-monogamy podcasts. We chatted with Ellecia Paine on Nope! We're Not Monogamous and with Kiley on The Pineapple Express Podcast. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

For today's episode, we're joined by author of The Polyamory Workbook Sara Youngblood Gregory. We discuss how freedom-based relationships are different from free-for-alls and why we should avoid focussing on quantity over quality in non-monogamy. Plus, we look at how concepts like capitalism and 'The Bootstrap Mentality' are connected to our relationships. But first, Rich shares some results from a recent Poly Poll, a former romantic interest slides back into Siobhan's life and to conclude, Poly Quest returns. A huge thanks to Sara for joining us on the show. You can find her at her website and on Instagram and Twitter. You can also order The Polyamory Workbook. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

When someone says they are 'just looking for something casual', what do they mean? How do you work it out? Is 'casual' a red flag? In today's episode, we dive into the world of casual dating. We discuss some research about casual dating and the sex divide in casual relationships between people raised as women and those raised as men. Plus, we explore the assumed, but not always accurate, associations between non-monogamy and casual relationship styles. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

We're joined by psychotherapist, coach & author Jessica Fern to discuss the impact of microaggressions when you're in a non-monogamous relationship. We dive into the benefits of understanding your reactions to microaggressions, plus we get Jessica to respond to some questions we've been asked as a non-monogamous couple and her responses are game changers!First, Rich and Siobhan discuss an interesting advert they've seen around London and a Polyam-themed news story out of Scotland. A huge thank you to Jessica Fern for sharing her wisdom and expertise with us. You can find Jessica's practice, books and offerings at her website. Her new book Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships is available for pre-order now. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

How can you have the best sex of your life? With today's guest, sex, love and relationship coach Ellecia Paine, we discuss the difference between romance and sex, the problem with 'body counts' and how to use sex to connect with yourself and others. Plus, Ellecia lifts the lid how she went from a monogamous marriage to being non-monogamous and thriving. First, Siobhan and Rich discuss accidentally becoming kitten foster parents and the beauty and joy of Pride season. We also play a brand new game with Ellecia. A massive thank you to Ellecia for joining us on the show. You can follow her on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube. You can listen to her podcast Nope! We're Not Monogamous wherever you get your fave shows. Ellecia's website is elleciapaine.com where you can get info on all of her offerings, including her course on Group Sex Choreography. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Join Lola Phoenix, author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy" and advice columnist, as they delve into the intersection of anxiety and non-monogamous relationships. Lola shares how societal expectations can heighten anxiety, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and clear boundaries. They discuss creative strategies for navigating emotional landscapes and the role of conflict in personal growth. With practical insights, Lola advocates for embracing difficult feelings and fostering resilience in the fluid dynamics of love.

Today we welcome our very first guest to the show, Roy Graff! We talk about the importance of vocabulary and how non-monogamous people are often defined what they aren't. We chat about Roy's answer to this problem with his concept 'Multigamy' and query why we add the qualifiers 'ethical' and/or 'consensual' to the term non-monogamy. Plus, Question Of The Week returns where we ask Roy a question he gets asked a lot as someone who's Solo Poly. But before all that, Rich and Siobhan talk about howPolyam people connect in the wild, and the idea of exploring group sex with your mates. A big thanks to Roy for coming on the show. You can follow him @openrelating on Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, Youtube and Facebook and you can find him at his website openrelating.love. He's also put together an extensive glossary of terms available here. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.