The Poly (Pod)Cast Anxiety in Non-Monogamy feat. Lola Phoenix
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Jun 26, 2023 Join Lola Phoenix, author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy" and advice columnist, as they delve into the intersection of anxiety and non-monogamous relationships. Lola shares how societal expectations can heighten anxiety, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and clear boundaries. They discuss creative strategies for navigating emotional landscapes and the role of conflict in personal growth. With practical insights, Lola advocates for embracing difficult feelings and fostering resilience in the fluid dynamics of love.
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Societal Pressure and Non-Monogamy
- Societal conditioning reinforces monogamy as the norm, creating anxiety around non-monogamy.
- This anxiety is amplified by the lack of social scripts and the perceived risk of deviating from established norms.
Jealousy vs. Insecurity
- Lola Phoenix explains that her jealousy in polyamory differed from her jealousy in other areas.
- She realized that her anxiety stemmed from a lack of self-faith, not the situation itself.
The Root of Anxiety
- Anxiety is not about the perceived threat but a lack of faith in one's ability to handle it.
- Recognizing this can help manage anxiety in polyamorous relationships.
