The Poly (Pod)Cast

We are joined by the talented and inspiring Dr. Lily Lamboy. She's the co-founder and managing director of the Modern Family Institute and a director at the Organisation for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN). We chat about things poly people should consider when coming out at work and how employers can support their workers' family and relationship structures. We also discuss the constant conflation between sex and non-monogamy and the need for all family and relationship structures to be protected in law. But first, Rich and Siobhan discuss sexism, jealously, discrimination and other fun stuff!A huge thanks to Lily for joining us on the show. Check out the Modern Family Institute and OPEN's Open Workplaces Initiative. Visit OPEN's website and you can join OPEN's Discord. Rachel Lark's song is here. Read The Guardian article on polyamory that we discuss. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

In this episode, we're joined by Jon Simons, a certified life coach who works with people within the gender, sexual, and romantic minority communities. Their dad also came out as poly when they were 11-years-old. Jon shares their personal experiences of growing up with a poly parent, what it was like knowing non-monogamy was an option at such a young age and how this impacted their understanding of their own sexuality and orientation. We also discuss BDSM relationships and the limitations of seeing the end of a relationship as a 'failure'. To round out, we play Poly Quest with Jon. But first up, Rich and Siobhan discuss some exciting poly news out of California. A massive thanks to Jon for coming on the show. You can find them and their offerings at their website. If you'd like to get involved in OPEN's work in Berkley and Oakland you can at this link. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Today we are joined by award-winning author and certified sex & relationships psychotherapist Gigi Engle. We talk about how shame can manifest around sex and sexuality, why it can be so hard to overcome and some strategies to beat it. We also discuss stigmas, stereotypes and hypersexualistion that are often applied to non-monog folk, plus we delve into the power of masturbation. First, Rich and Siobhan discuss some recent news stories around non-monogamy and the possible economic benefits of being poly! A huge thanks to Gigi for joining us on the show. You can find Gigi and her offerings at her website. She works at The Therapy Yard and is on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter. Her book is 'All The F*cking Mistakes'. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com

It's a longy, but a goody. Today we are joined by actor, producer and writer Nicole Pacent to talk about everything from jealousy, to commitment, to starting new relationships and transitioning in others. For the first time, Nicole talks about uncoupling from a long-term partner who is a parent to her son and the difficulty navigating this when there is no social script. We also talk about the risks of being out as Poly, the power of radical honesty and myths around Poly people and feeling jealous. This is a raw, honest and funny episode and we are so excited to share it with you. We can't thank Nicole enough for her openness and vulnerability in sharing her story with us. You can find Nicole on Instagram and check out Coming Out Pod. You can find out more about As Love Goes here. If you'd like to continue to support the show, please leave us a review, a five-star rating and share this episode with someone in your network. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com

To ring in the new year, we dive into the topic of relationship hierarchy. We discuss the arguments for and against hierarchical non-monogamy, ethical considerations when structuring your relationships and if there is a difference between structural hierarchy and emotional hierarchy. We also chat about if it's possible to practice non-heirarchical non-monogamy when you're married and how we see our future marriage looking. If you'd like to continue to support the show, please leave us a review, a five-star rating and share this episode with someone in your network. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com

It's our final episode of the year! Rich and Siobhan recap some of the major non-monogamous news of 2023. They also discuss some key pop culture moments and Siobhan shares some of the titles on her inaugural The Poly (Pod)Cast Reading List. Finally, Rich and Siobhan share their reflections on the year that was and round out with some highlights that were sent in by you, our listeners. Thanks so much for listening to The Poly (Pod)Cast this year and we'll see you back here in 2024.You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

The holidays are upon us and that often means spending more time with friends and family members. It can also mean being asked about more personal aspects of your life. In today's episode, certified sex therapist, speaker, writer and relationship expert Susan Wenzel shares some advice about how to navigate these conversations. We discuss how to talk about non-monogamy with others, whether you are telling them for the first time, or revisiting the topic. We also chat about setting boundaries and how to broach the topic with children. But first, Siobhan shares a tip for coming out as Non-Monog that she's recently found useful, and Question of the Week returns at the end of the show for the final time this year. A huge thanks to Susan for joining us on the show. You can find her at her website and on Instagram, Twitter, YouTube and Facebook. Her book is ‘A Happy Life in an Open Relationship. The Essential Guide to a healthy and fulfilling non-monogamous love life.’ You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

We chat to Dr. Heath Schechinger about the need for research into non-monogamy and how the current lack of insight into the non-monogamous experience impacts our families, workplaces and health care. Luckily, Heath is working alongside individuals and groups that are dedicated to researching alternative family structures and relationships and he shares with us some incredibly interesting and insightful data. But first, Siobhan and Rich discuss an exciting breaking news story and to finish, Question Of The Week makes a come back. We can't thank Dr. Heath enough for coming on the show. You can find him and his offerings at his website. He's a Co-Founder of the Modern Family Institute and is currently fundraising to establish a unique institute at UC Berkeley dedicated to the study of family and relationship diversity. If you're interested in helping with fundraising efforts, you can contact Heath at this form. Dr. Heath's also involved in many different organisations including The Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition (PLAC), American Psychological Association Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) and Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. He's an Affiliate Faculty member at the Kinsey Institute and an Advisor to the Kinsey Institute's Haslam Collection on Polyamory. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains extensive discussion of abuse, coercion, control, alcoholism and drug abuse that might be distressing for some listeners. If these topics could be difficult for you to listen to, maybe consider skipping is week's show. Today we are joined by the founder of the non-monogamy resource Poly Pages Claire Travers. We discuss how abuse can manifest itself in non-monogamous relationships and how we can be aware of this to keep ourselves and others safe. Claire also highlights the need for a community-level understanding of what abuse looks like in non-monogamy and non-monogamy-specific resources around this topic. But first, Rich and Siobhan talk about coming out at work and joining Lauren Flans on Coming Out Pod. A huge thanks to Claire for joining us to discuss this important topic. You can find Poly Pages on Tiktok, Instagram, Twitter and Threads. At their website you can find their Podcast and all their resources including the PolyPages' List of Red Flags and PolyPages' Model for Polyamorous Abuse: The Duluth Wheel. For resources on vetting visit Kynk 101. Other websites Claired mentioned at the end of the episode are listed below. These are specific to the UK and the US. We encourage you to seek out similar resources in your own country if you need them. USA ResourcesThe Network/LA Red 800-832-1901Partner Abuse in Poly Communities Safety PlanningUK ResourcesRefuge 0808 2000 247

It's all about the importance of activism in the non-monogamy space for this episode, and who better to chat to about this than the Co-Founder of the Organisation for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy, Brett Chamberlin. We talk all about the work OPEN does, why it's vital non-monogamy becomes a protected characteristic in law across the globe and how the principles of non-monogamy can help the world at large. First up, Rich and Siobhan discuss the problems with Meta's new AI dating coach and what you can do to make it more inclusive. A huge thanks to Brett for joining us to talk about his work. You can find the Organisation for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN) at their website, on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Discord. You can also read their Media Guide and get in touch with OPEN at info@open-love.org. Sign OPEN's letter to Meta about the AI dating advice chat bot. Check out Siobhan's latest article for Salty. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.