

The Best of You
Dr. Alison Cook
Join therapist and author, Dr. Alison Cook, as she guides you through some of your toughest challenges with wisdom, kindness, and grace. Together with friends and experts we'll unpack the best of psychology from a faith-based perspective. You’ll discover how to break free from painful patterns, mend your past, and discover what brings out the best of you.
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Sep 4, 2025 • 40min
174: TikTok Therapy Trends, Overprotective Parenting, and Raising Resilient Kids with Trey Tucker
In this episode, Dr. Alison is joined by counselor and podcast host Trey Tucker for an honest conversation about the rise of therapy culture online, the pitfalls of over-identifying with a diagnosis, and how parents can help kids build resilience instead of anxiety.
Together, they unpack:
The rise of “TikTok Therapy”—what’s helpful about therapy content online and where it falls short.
Why so many people are tempted to define themselves by a diagnosis—and how that can keep us stuck.
The difference between true boundaries and emotional avoidance.
Parenting without panic: how to model calm presence instead of passing anxiety on to the next generation.
Why resilience, not fragility, is one of the greatest gifts we can offer our kids.
Alison and Trey bring different perspectives with a shared passion for nuance, honesty, and practical hope. It’s a refreshing, thought-provoking dialogue that will encourage you to think differently about therapy, identity, and how we show up in family life.
📚 Learn more about Trey’s work at www.ruggedcounseling.com.
📥For more in-depth listening, check out his podcast, Rugged with Trey Tucker and follow him on Instagram or TikTok @ruggedcounseling.📥 Grab your 3 free Boundaries For Your Soul resources here
📥 Download Alison’s free printable with the five boundary tools when you sign up for her weekly email.
Here are some other episodes you might like :
Episode 41: Boundaries With Fear And Anxiety—How to Calm the Chaos Within and the Joy of Internal Boundaries
Episode 65:Vulnerability, Parenting, and Letting Go of Control—Inside A Guy’s Perspective With Our Friends From Dadville
Episode 66: The Truth About Anxiety & How to Become a Worry Free Parent with Sissy Goff
📖 Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here
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Editing by Giulia Hjort
Sound engineering by Kelly Kramarik
Music by Andy Luiten
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
© 2025 Alison Cook. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Please do not copy or share the contents of this webpage or transcript without permission from the author. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 28, 2025 • 1h 4min
173. From Silence to Safety: Reclaiming Women’s Stories in Faith Spaces with Therapists Christy & Andrew Bauman
What does it take to make the church a safer place for women’s voices?
This week Dr. Alison is joined by husband-and-wife therapists Dr. Christy Bauman and Dr. Andrew Bauman, who are doing groundbreaking work at the intersection of women’s stories, embodiment, and spiritual safety.
Together, they offer both prophetic challenge and practical hope for how we can build healthier faith communities.
In the first half of the episode, Christy takes us into the sacred rites of passage women experience, highlighting women’s voices in the Bible. In the second half, Andrew shares from his extensive research, offering a vision for safe churches where power is shared, voices are honored, and healing is possible.
Together, Christy and Andrew model what’s possible when men and women work side by side for change.
You’ll learn:
The six symbolic rites of passage women experience over a lifetime—and why reclaiming them matters
How Christy helps women see their bodies as sacred places of dignity and spiritual depth
The results of their research with 2,800+ women who work in church settings
A vision for churches where power is shared and women’s voices are truly honored
A note of care: This episode includes sensitive topics such as pornography, domestic violence, and harm related to women’s bodies. Please listen gently and step away if you need to.
Learn more from Christy and Andrew:
📕 Christy Bauman’s Book: Her Rites: Women’s Rites of Passage, A Sacred Journey for Mind, Body, and Soul
📕 Andrew Bauman’s Book: Safe Church: How to Guard Against Sexism and Abuse in the Church
📥Free Resources from Christy:
Body Map PDF
Theology of the Womb Video Course (use code: TOTWcomp)
Learn more about their work at the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health & Trauma
Related episodes you might like:
Episode 48: Loving Your Body as a Spiritual Practice, Why the Flesh Isn't the Body, and 3 Heresies We Kind of Believe
Episode 11: How to Start Loving Your Body with Christy Meeks
Episode 126: Restoring Wonder & Play in Intimacy - Navigating Sexual Brokenness, Safety, and Vulnerability with Therapist Sam Jolman
📖 Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here
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Editing by Giulia Hjort
Sound engineering by Kelly Kramarik
Music by Andy Luiten
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 21, 2025 • 53min
172. Daring Joy: Breaking Free from Fear, Cynicism, and Toxic Positivity with Therapist Nicole Zasowski
Nicole Zasowski, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author, joins the conversation to redefine joy as a courageous practice. She shares her personal journey of embracing joy amidst loss, highlighting how it often feels more challenging than grief. The discussion emphasizes the dangers of toxic positivity, the control offered by cynicism, and practical ways to savor life's joys, even in tough times. Zasowski advocates for gratitude and mindfulness, urging listeners to actively cultivate joy alongside their struggles.

Aug 14, 2025 • 30min
171: Why People Pleasing Actually Makes You Feel More Alone, and 3 Steps to Create Real Connection
This discussion dives into the costly habit of people pleasing and its effects on self-identity and relationships. Listeners share personal stories of breaking free from these patterns. The conversation uncovers the psychological roots of this behavior and how it can lead to feelings of isolation. Practical steps toward fostering genuine connections and embracing one's true self are offered, encouraging a journey of self-love and inner wholeness.

Aug 7, 2025 • 47min
170: The Truth About Venting, Numbing, and Finding Real Relief - Science-Backed Tools to Actually Restore Your Brain and Body
In a thought-provoking conversation, cognitive psychologist Dr. Therese Huston enlightens listeners about the pitfalls of venting and numbing behaviors. She shares that many 'breaks' can actually drain your energy instead of restoring it. Dr. Huston introduces quick brain-reset techniques that take less than five minutes and emphasizes the power of engaging in enjoyable activities for true relaxation. This episode isn't just about managing stress—it's about nurturing your mental and emotional well-being to reclaim your peace and joy.

Jul 31, 2025 • 32min
169: When Caretaking Becomes Compulsive – How to Break Free from the Urge to Help Everyone Except Yourself
Are you tired of holding it all together for everyone else?
In this deeply personal episode, Dr. Alison explores the hidden ache of emotional caretaking—the quiet ways we overfunction, over-give, and overlook our own needs to keep the peace. Whether it started in childhood or has become a way of coping in adult relationships, many of us have learned to survive by tending to others while slowly disappearing ourselves.
Alison shares what she’s learning about her own inner caretaker and gently invites you to reconnect with the parts of you that are tired, weary, and worthy of care. This isn’t about walking away from the people you love—it’s about learning to stay grounded in yourself as you care well for others.
This episode explores:
Why emotional caretaking can feel like love—but quietly wears you down
How childhood dynamics shape your adult urge to fix, help, or rescue
What most people get wrong about “self-care”
The hidden cost of always tending to others while neglecting yourself
A gentle practice to reconnect with your inner caretaker—and what she needs
This episode is a loving reminder: Your needs matter. Your soul deserves care. And you don’t have to carry it all alone.
📥 Grab your 3 free Boundaries For Your Soul resources here:
📥 Download Alison’s free printable with the five boundary tools when you sign up for her weekly email.
Here are some other episodes you might like :
Episode 138: Breaking Free from Overfunctioning –– DIscover the Hidden Costs of Always Being the Responsible One
Episode 151: The Hidden Reason You Feel Overwhelmed –– Understanding the Mental Load with Dr. Morgan Cutlip
Episode 152: The Anxiety Beneath Perfectionism –– Why Trying Harder Won’t Set You Free
📖 Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here
💬 Got a question? Call 307-429-2525 and leave a message for a future episode.
Thanks to our Sponsors!
Go to Quince.com/bestofyou for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
Better sleep starts today! Get a birch mattress and test it out for 100 nights risk-free PLUS a discount for being a listener by visiting birchliving.com/BESTOFYOU.
If you’re looking for a Bible that helps you live the Word, not just read it, then grab this beautiful one I’m currently using at NIVapplicationbible.com.
Reconnect with what truly matters and rediscover a purposeful life you love with Social Media Reset.
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Editing by Giulia Hjort
Sound engineering by Kelly Kramarik
Music by Andy Luiten
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
© 2025 Alison Cook. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Please do not copy or share the contents of this webpage or transcript without permission from the author.
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Jul 24, 2025 • 52min
168: How Do I Trust God After Loss? Navigating Spiritual Disorientation and the Quiet Path Back with Stephanie Duncan Smith
What does it mean to risk love again—after loss, heartbreak, and the disorientating grief that follows?
In this incredibly tender and powerful conversation, I’m joined by Stephanie Duncan Smith, author of Even After Everything, to talk about the kind of spiritual confusion that often follows personal loss.
Stephanie shares how a painful pregnancy loss just before Christmas reshaped her understanding of God. Together, we explore how to stay grounded in God’s love even when your emotions feel muted, your prayers feel flat, or your sense of spiritual connection feels off.
Whether you’ve experienced loss or walked alongside someone who has, this episode is an invitation into honest faith and the sacred practice of hope.
This episode explores:
Why spiritual numbness is a natural response to pain
What it looks like to grieve without having to fake it
How to handle deep pain during seasons that are supposed to be joyful
Why naming your loss honestly can help you heal
How Stephanie processed the grief of pregnancy loss
📘 Get Stephanie’s book: Even After Everything: The Spiritual Practice of Knowing the Risks and Loving Anyway
📥 Grab your 3 free Boundaries For Your Soul resources here:
📥 Download Alison’s free printable with the five boundary tools when you sign up for her weekly email.
Listen to more episodes on grief and healing:
Episode 133: Navigating the 6 Stages of Grief with Renowned Grief Expert David Kessler
Episode 102: How to Name, Frame, and Brave Complicated Emotions About Faith & God
Episode 159: Spiritual Drowning, Honest Questions, and a God Who Doesn’t Let Go with Heather Thompson Day
📖 Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here
💬 Got a question? Call 307-429-2525 and leave a message for a future episode.
Thanks to our Sponsors!
Go to Quince.com/bestofyou for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
Better sleep starts today! Get a birch mattress and test it out for 100 nights risk-free PLUS a discount for being a listener by visiting birchliving.com/BESTOFYOU.
If you’re looking for a Bible that helps you live the Word, not just read it, then grab this beautiful one I’m currently using at NIVapplicationbible.com
Reconnect with what truly matters and rediscover a purposeful life you love with Social Media Reset.
Editing by Giulia Hjort
Sound engineering by Kelly Kramarik
Music by Andy Luiten
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
© 2025 Alison Cook. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Please do not copy or share the contents of this webpage or transcript without permission from the author.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Jul 17, 2025 • 47min
167: Can I Pray the Anxiety Away?
Curtis Chang, a theologian and mental health advocate, shares his journey through anxiety and how it can serve as an invitation to healing. He discusses Jesus' own experience with anxiety, challenging the shame that surrounds mental health. The conversation dives into strategies for parents to support their anxious children and emphasizes the importance of authentic connections over social media's superficiality. Curtis encourages listeners to confront their fears and embrace anxiety as a pathway to self-love and spiritual growth.

Jul 10, 2025 • 39min
166: When Your Emotions Are at War – Here’s How to Set Boundaries Inside Your Own Soul
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions or stuck in patterns of self-criticism, this episode offers a practical path forward rooted in both psychology and spiritual wisdom.
In this powerful re-air of a foundational episode, Dr. Alison Cook introduces the transformative approach behind Boundaries for Your Soul. Drawing from Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Christian faith, Alison shares how to lead your inner life with clarity, kindness, and strength.
Instead of pushing away difficult emotions, you’ll learn how to create space for them—with healthy boundaries that bring healing and peace.
This episode explores:
A step-by-step framework to navigate emotional overwhelm
The 3 internal roles we all carry—and how to listen to each one with care
Why spiritual growth requires emotional awareness
How Jesus modeled soul-level boundaries
An effective way to approach anxiety, anger, or fear without shame
Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or deep in the work of personal transformation, this episode will give you tools to understand yourself better and lead from a place of wholeness.
📥 Get your 3 free Boundaries For Your Soul resources here:
📚 Explore Alison’s books:
Boundaries for Your Soul: https://a.co/d/fwOjZde
The Best of You: https://a.co/d/fjkMhoc
I Shouldn’t Feel This Way: https://a.co/d/5x1cgie
📥 Get the Alison’s free printable with the five boundary tools mentioned in last week’s episode when you sign up for her weekly email.
For more on internal boundaries, check out:
Episode 40: 5 Steps to Healing Painful Emotions
Episode 41: Boundaries With Fear And Anxiety
Episode 42: How to Honor Sadness & Set Boundaries with Loneliness
Episode 43: How to Tame Your Inner Critic
Episode 44: Why Anger is a Surprising Friend
📖 Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here
💬 Got a question? Call 307-429-2525 and leave a message for a future episode.
Thanks to our Sponsors!
Go to Quince.com/bestofyou for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
Better sleep starts today! Get a birch mattress and test it out for 100 nights risk-free PLUS a discount for being a listener by visiting birchliving.com/BESTOFYOU.
If you’re looking for a Bible that helps you live the Word, not just read it, then grab this beautiful one I’m currently using at NIVapplicationbible.com.
Give online therapy a try and see how it can help you become more present, more aware, and more connected to the life you want to live. Visit BetterHelp.com/BESTOFYOU.
Visit FayNutrition.com/BESTOFYOU to see if you qualify to work with a dietitian for as little as $0.
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Editing by Giulia Hjort
Sound engineering by Kelly Kramarik
Music by Andy Luiten
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
© 2025 Alison Cook. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Please do not copy or share the contents of this webpage or transcript without permission from the author.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Jul 3, 2025 • 25min
165: Reboot Your Boundaries — A Practical Guide to Help you Reset, Protect Your Peace and Create Space for What Matters Most
Summer can leave you feeling frazzled, so setting healthy boundaries is crucial. Discover how these boundaries protect your brain and relationships. Learn about different boundary levels, from simple resets to firm protections. The guide provides practical scripts for immediate implementation. Plus, explore the power of self-compassion and why the toughest boundaries are often with yourself. By the end, you'll feel empowered to create more peace and joy in your life!